I am so sorry, this is appalling and heartbreaking for you and your family.
Unfortunately your experiences are similar to those of Jewish friends, colleagues, acquaintances. Its a desperate situation and the general sense of people turning away denying, minimising, is shameful and frightening. Not to mention the horrible lack of empathy.
I know Jewish people who have lost work and friends, particularly in the arts which is the area I work in. I know Jewish allies who have lost friends and probably (but can't be sure) work. I have tried to give work to 2 freelancers. They have ignored my communications, when previously tgey were keen to work for me, I later find they are vociferously anti-Israel and I can only guess its because they know I support Israel. I know someone in a Jewish organisation that has been trying to re ruit staff. Good jobs, good salaries. Hardly any applicants in an area where you would expect many enquiries, and nearly all the applicants are Jewish.
Then the self censorship. I know Jewish people that no longer feel safe going to professional events such as training and conferences because everyone thinks they have to make a statement in completely unrelated contexts tjat are nothing to do with Israel ('silence is complcity').