I agree.
Hamas doesn't care if civilians die. In fact you could argue that it actually welcomes it.
Right wing parts of Israeli administration also don't care if Gazan civilians die.
The difference is that Netanyahu etc are a democratically elected government and can / hopefully will be removed next year.
There's currently no way of removing Hamas, I think we can all agree on this after the last 16 months of carnage.
Nothing can move forward until both parties are gone.
Western nations should be advocating for the release of all remaining hostages and the permanent removal of Hamas. There's got to be space for moderate community leaders to rise to power.
Getting rid of Hamas would be the absolute best thing for Gaza. I know it's easier said than done, but that's where it starts.