Am i the only person who thinks this?

[PinkiePoo]

Hello all...

My partner and I are trying for a baby and in our first month of trying. AF is due on Sat, fingers crossed i don't get to see it.

But i cant help but think this is going to be a difficult ride....I have never thought the prospect of having children ever be a difficult one but now i have started trying, I am now wondering if i am going to find it hard to conceive.

Am i the only one who thinks this? Or am i not the only paranoid being on Mumsnet??

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Hi ladies! I'm good thanks Lucy just trying to not fixate on my charting too much but that's easier said than done! We're off on holiday to Miami in 2 weeks time so I'm trying to think positive about our missed opportunity this month and appreciate that I can enjoy cocktails on the beach and miami nightlife before coming back and really committing to ttc.

Your new hair-do sounds great MrsWajs, I wish I had the confidence to try something new. I've had mid-length brown hair with layers for about 8 years now! Oh and thanks for the advice about my ov situation. Just to answer your earlier questions, we're not ttc as of yet but I actually fell pregnant over Christmas, while being sloppy in taking my pill, but sadly miscarried. Anyway now we are starting to plan to ttc and I'm ready to start now but my OH is determined to give himself until June to quit smoking. He took the MC really bad and I think he blames the fact that we were both drinking and he was smoking when I fell pregnant, even though we weren't ttc, so this time he wants to get things right. I'm hoping when we're on holiday I can talk him into bringing things forward. I know I should look at the fact I got pregnant while being on the pill as a good sign for my fertility but as Pinkie said at the beginning of the thread I can't help being paranoid and just wanting to know that everything will be alright.

Hi Pinkie, the ov situation is a real minefield we'll struggle through and suss it out together. I really think charting will help to get an understanding of your own cycle and make you feel a bit more in control or at least aware of what your body is doing because we are all so different.

Welcome HappyGirl I'm with you on the fact that 3 months ago I knew nothing about cycles and ovulation and now I feel like I could almost go on Mastermind with this as my specialist subject! It really says a lot about how useful the sex education we all had at school was!

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Welcome HappyGirl......sorry to hear about your MC but great for being positive, and hopefully you will get some great news soon.
ccbloom VERY jealous about your holiday......Love Miami!! Went to vegas last year and just love it in the states!

MrsWajs haircuts make everything better, i need mine done soon, a few highlights and a little sweeping fringe i think.

lucy thank you for the advice, i am not the brightest park at times, and should most definitely be naturally blonde, no offence to all those lovely blondies here, but i do find some of this OV thing confusing.

Well day 15 for me, and no OV test was a BFN. OH has asked for me to not do them next month, as he says i then stress and worry everytime it is a NEG. My problem is i can get anxiety over something i cannot control, so i think he is right, its no good for me, and makes me worry even more. But i have told him i am not giving up mums net as its like therapy, ha ha! He does think i am becoming a little crazy

One last quick obsessive question for good measure though; If in the past, as in like a few months ago, i get the cervical mucus stretchy stuff.....that means i do ovulate right? Cause i do get it, or have done, just not every month, so is this a good sign or not necessarily?

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lucy Plans for today include a visit to the solicitors re: DP's contact with his DS (long story, DP's ex is being a mare!)Then collect stepDS from horrible ex for the weekend! Then I'm meeting some friends for dinner, so hopefully this will keep me occupied for today and then tomorrow we'll have shopping etc to do and DS to entertain so that'll keep us busy tomorrow. And then it'll be D-Day!! And hopefully no AF!!
What have you got planned for the weekend??

Pinkie Haircuts DO make everything better don't they!! I sympathise with you on the OH situation, we stopped using OPK's for a while as my DP thought it was stressing me out! Like you I don't like things I can't control! This week I think DP wants to practically ban me from MN as he thinks it's turning me crazy! Probably not wrong! But I would persist with the OPK's at least for this month til you find Ov, remember it could be as late as CD17/18!

CCBloom Sorry I didn't realise you had m/c'd over christmas But yeah I suppose if you fell pg on the pill then you might not have too many difficulties when you are ttc for real! I would try not to blame yourselves too much about your lifestyle and the m/c, I've had friends who have been smoking and drinking and fallen pregnant and not realised and they have all been fine, so that wasn't necessarily the cause.
Very excited for you and your holiday tho!! Miami - wow! I've only ever been to New York, which I loved and me and my group of friends are saving up for a 30th birthday holiday and hoping to go to Vegas! Hope you have a fab time!! DP and I are going to Cyprus in June and I cannot wait

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Oooh I love Brighton, my friend used to live there so used to love going down for the weekend! Sadly she now lives in Australia so not as easy just to jump on a plane to go visit!! Hope you have a fab time whatever you end up doing. During easter hold DP and I are starting the garden - deep joy! Lot's of work to do and want to get decking put down and have it all sorted for the summer - bring on the bbq's! Muchos jealous of heading to Barcelona and Paris tho - never been to either, my parents have a holiday home in France but it's in the middle of no-where and nobody speak ANY english plus it's mid-renovation so think I'll be giving that a miss til next year!

Well I will finish then not use them for a while. Brighton..i used to live there!! Love it there, the OH still works there and commutes from home!

mrswajs going through a similar problem. the OH is still married and divorcing in April.....been separated for 2 years. They both have a DD, who is 2 years old, which sometimes makes it harder for me, TTC when he has been there and done it very easily too!!

I am having horrible thick white discharge.....not the kind i hoped for!! And quite possibly have put you all off your lunch, sorry for that!

FR this morning - BFN

Oh......sooorry mrswajs

NEXT time!!!!

If its any concellation, CD 17 and still no ovulation

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Oooooh lucybarnes you have not had your AF yet? or is this mrswajs?? Very true, still early days, so could be a false negative....fingers crossed!

lucybarnes My cycle length varies....last month it was 35, month before was 28. This is my 2nd cycle.

did an OV test again this morning and NOTHING!! And have no more tests now, so guessing this month is a BIG FAT NO FOR ME!!

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This is the first month for really checking, but doc did say i may not ovulate every month due to irregular periods.

I have decided to take a few little chill pills....sit back and let mother nature take its course. If of course, it decides that she is being a lazy little so and so, then off to the docs i will go next year....really hope it does not get to that. The OH and I were starting to feel the strain with my obsession, so not worth it, and we both decided for both our sanity's to just see what happens.

Oh sorry i thought you were trying lucy

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Afternoon!

Still no AF, so keeping fingers crossed for a false negative!?! If no AF will test again on Wednesday. Sorry short post as have few bits and pieces to do this avo. Will check back tonight and post more.x

mrswajs i have everything crossed for you!! we need some good news on this thread!!!!

Hi ladies sorry I have been AWOL for a few days but I've been trying to put my energy and thoughts into some other things. I'm really strongly considering doing a PGCE. It's something I have been putting off for years and now I just want to take the leap and do it. I've completed my application today and will send it off in a little while. This obviously has implications for ttc but I keep thinking that if I just get this under my belt now it sets me up better for the future for being off on school holidays and actually having a career that motivates me. I think it would be best to do the studying side of things before having children although I realise things don't always go to plan!!! Anyway we will see what happens. I have a sneaky feeling if I throw my energy into something else I might get a pleasant surprise and I could always defer the PGCE!! Like you both Lucy and Pinkie I don't like not being in control of a situation and it feels like this is something that is in my power to deal with!

Pinkie it sounds like you're going through the mill this month with the whole ovulation situation. I actually ovulated on day 18 of my cycle and I was fed up of waiting by then! I think Lucy is right you need to throw away the sticks and just have some fun every 2-3 days with your OH. It will happen for you although I know the waiting is hard.

MrsWajs I'm hoping for the best for you this month too!!

Excuse my ignorance CC but what is a PGCE?? I'm guessing at a post-grad something but stumped at the rest! Good plan though, something to distract you from crazy baby lady thoughts!! Might take one up myself, whatever it is!!

Pinkie Sory to hear still no ov! Bloody eggs, nuisance they are!! But I agree with everyone else just go at it every second day and it's bound to come good sooner or later!! This is my new plan anyway. Either that or might give the Deanna plan a bash although DP isn't overly keen on the lack of BD'ing in between Ov and CD8 of following cycle!!

Lucy For some reason I thought you were trying too?!?!?! I am obviously not paying enough attention!!

Well still no AF here! Dunno if this is good or bad? On the plus side, I guess it's good if it means I'm pg, but on the other hand it's bad if I'm not cus it means I'm having an extraordinarily long cycle!!!
Just have to wait and see I guess (my favourite game - )will probably re-test again Wednesday or Thursday if still no AF.

cc what a great idea.....throw yourself into something. That way we can fool our OH into thinking we are cool and breezy about the whole situation, but deep down we know we are still completely obsessive and out of control, ha ha!
What would you like to teach? I am a dance teacher, and LOVE it.

mrswajs I am trying to not get TOO excited for you, but we are all on counting on you. I really hope AF has done a runner for a good 9 months or so for you ;)

Well yep, no OV this month....or so i think. Actually feeling quite liberated without those sticks! and like cc i am trying to think of all the positives of not being pg right now....work, sisters wedding in aug (need to fit into my bridesmaid dress) and of course the freedom to do whatever i choose...however, we all know totally kidding myself and would much prefer to be up the 'duff'!

Hi ladies, the PGCE is a postgraduate certificate in education and I would be looking to study to become a primary school teacher. Maybe having my own class of children would satisfy my urge for children!! Like Pinkie said even though the course is my strategy for moving forward nothing would make me happier than finding out I was pregnant.

Anyway on to you ladies. MrsWajs do you have any updates for us today? We're all living through you at the moment.

Lucy and Pinkie what exciting things are you up to keep yourselves distracted at the moment? Hope you all have exciting Easter holiday plans.

Not much to say here, CD36 now and still no AF but still no BFP either - done 2 tests now and both negative so I'm baffled.

Think I might have had delayed ovulation due to being unwell a few weeks ago, Been to Drs today to discuss it but didn't get much from them - if still no AF next wek have to go back and see them again.

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Lucy It seems to be normal practice around my neck of the wood that if you haven't been trying for at least a year they won't touch you with a barge pole! My friend is testament to this as she has been TTC#2 for almost 4 years now and doesn't seem to be getting anywhere!

Someone mentioned on another thread a day21 blood test but not sure exactly what that entails think I may need AF to show first though? I did think they might have done a blood preg test but no. Have to re-test at home in a week and if still BFN then make another appointment. She did however say that she has known women to test negative for up to 4 weeks late and still be preggers so fingers crossed that might be me, although to be honest I don't feel very pg (not that I would know how it feels!) but no obvious symptoms anyway.

How are things with you luvvy??x

Pinkie are you still with us?? Hope you haven't abandoned the thread along with the opk's!!?? x