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Am i the only person who thinks this?

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PinkiePoo · 24/02/2010 07:52

Hello all...

My partner and I are trying for a baby and in our first month of trying. AF is due on Sat, fingers crossed i don't get to see it.

But i cant help but think this is going to be a difficult ride....I have never thought the prospect of having children ever be a difficult one but now i have started trying, I am now wondering if i am going to find it hard to conceive.

Am i the only one who thinks this? Or am i not the only paranoid being on Mumsnet??

x

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PinkiePoo · 05/03/2010 17:23

Yes, I tested on Weds, and a BFN! I am probably having one of my many irregular AF's, so more than likely be this weekend, as i have all the tell-tale signs still, cramping!! Why can't it just be simple!!!

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lucybarnes · 05/03/2010 18:06

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PinkiePoo · 05/03/2010 18:21

Thank you. Will keep you posted, but don't hold your breath for too long......;-) x

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lucybarnes · 05/03/2010 18:58

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PinkiePoo · 06/03/2010 08:24

Just after i posted last night, went up to bed, had my 'before bed pee' and there it was........AF!!!!!

Grrrrr........oh well, at least it is here now and can just try and be positive for this month.

Gonna pop to the hospital later to get the bloods taken as it is day 2 of my cycle!! Wish me luck!

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CCBloom · 06/03/2010 18:57

Hope your trip to the hospital went ok Pinkiepoo and so sorry that AF arrived. I was rooting for you giving us some good news, it will happen though!

Would love to work some magic on my OH but he's quite a stubborn one. The more I try to talk him around the more he digs his heels in. I'm thinking of giving him 1 month to have a go at quitting smoking and then we have a holiday in Miami at the beginning of next month so he may be more receptive and open to discussion then, at least that's what I'm hoping. He does say that he wants to try but I think after the MC he wants to make sure we give ourselves the best chance next time around. It's really frustrating for me though.

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PinkiePoo · 07/03/2010 18:49

I bet that is frustrating...but i am sure you know it, he will say yes and you will have a BFP!!

Keep us informed CCBloom.

Couldn't go to get bloods taken as it was a sat, so seeing if it is too late for tomorrow as it will be CD4 ......so might have missed the boat, grrrr, very annoying as that means i will have to wait to next AF.

I will keep in touch fellow friends :-)

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PinkiePoo · 08/03/2010 14:31

Just to keep you all in the loop...i had my blood test done today to test for my hormone levels and PCOS....find out this week!!! Fingers crossed x

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PinkiePoo · 11/03/2010 08:53

My blood tests were normal.....wahoo!

back to SWI again!!

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lucybarnes · 11/03/2010 09:04

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CCBloom · 11/03/2010 09:11

Great news about your bloodtests PinkiePoo that must feel like a great relief for you!

Thanks for the encouraging words Lucybarnes, I'm on some other threads too but I like this one since it's a bit smaller and easier to keep track with people individually. I agree we need solidarity in numbers so I'm cheering you both on this month while continuing to try and get my OH on board to start SWI ourselves soon!!

lucybarnes · 11/03/2010 10:55

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PinkiePoo · 11/03/2010 12:23

I agree, i like this thread, nice and cosy!

CCBloom I think a bit of OH blackmail wouldn't go a miss or bribe with massages etc.....kick him into touch girl .

lucybarnes it is hard, my oh and i have been so tired, that i was a little glad to have a breather with the arrival of AF. This month we will calm the SWI down a bit. went a bit crazy last month with no success.

I really hope it happens for all of us and soon. Would be great, but for time being nothing like a bit of womanly support!!!

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Picklepants · 11/03/2010 14:38

Hello everyone,

PinkiePoo Good news on the blood tests, really pleased for you!

Hello lucybarnes good luck SWI - we struggle to find the time too, I also wonder how we'll ever manage to fit in looking after a baby!

CCBloom I just wanted to say, my DH has only just given up smoking - he's not smoked for about 2 and a half months now, since we started actively TTC. I've been nagging him to stop for 10 years and it's never made a blind bit of difference - but his dad died of cancer (not smoking related) five years ago when he was 25, and I think the thought (which I may or may not have put into his head ) that continuing to smoke might one day deprive his own kids of their father was much more persuasive than any of the 'do it for your health' arguments. He started by cutting down, and reading the Allen Carr book, then went onto patches. He's just ditched the patches, and says he feels much better for stopping. Good luck persuading your OH, and you have my sympathy during the nicotine-withdrawal stage when it comes - just keep reminding yourself that it's totally worthwhile!

I hope no-one minds that I kind of just dip into the thread every now and then, but I'm always reading your updates and keeping my fingers crossed for everyone!

lucybarnes · 12/03/2010 09:13

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CCBloom · 12/03/2010 12:15

You're right lucybarnes it is really hard to take a step back. I started charting this month just so I could feel like I was moving in the right direction. Anyway now I know I must just be about to ovulate so I'm having to hold myself back from leaping on my OH and trying to make him forget about the condoms!! I never was a patient girl once I set my mind on something. I was saying to my OH the other day that the waiting until June and giving him time to quit smoking is a bit like someone putting a pile of presents in front of me and saying I can't open them for 3 months - it's torture!!!

Anyway good luck to you girls. Hope you all have lovely weekends and let's keep popping in to say hello.

lucybarnes · 12/03/2010 19:03

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CCBloom · 14/03/2010 23:47

You're right Lucy the charting is empowering but also highly addictive. I can't believe how little I knew about my own body and cycle before I started down this road.

Anyway at the risk of sharing too much, my OH and I went to an engagement party on Friday, got very drunk, had some lovely drunken conversations about wanting to have a baby and then came home and had some unprotected action on the living room floor. I was 13 days into my cycle so hopefully there is a smidgen of a chance this month for me. Not sure if this spontaneous act means that he has changed his thinking on waiting until June but it has made me feel so much happier about his willingness to move in the right direction slowly but surely and to hear from him about how much he wants a baby too.

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PinkiePoo · 15/03/2010 07:31

ccbloom ha ha that is GREAT news....i have a good feeling for you. sometimes the spontaneous acts, are the ones that work. FINGERS CROSSED. PLLLEAAASSEEEE let us know!!

Me and the OH have slowed down a little bit, think we went a little bit too crazy last month. But not giving up, no way. Did my OV test this morn and nothing....grrrrr!!! I am on day 11, but i am guessing where i am a little irregular, then i have no idea when i could ovulate!!

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lucybarnes · 15/03/2010 09:50

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PinkiePoo · 15/03/2010 10:42

thank you lucybarnes i really hope so.

But some friends have given me the advice to just relax, so your all right. just enjoy the fun in practising!!

Any sign of symptoms yet?

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lucybarnes · 15/03/2010 13:39

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CCBloom · 15/03/2010 14:13

Lucy and Pinkie thanks for your enthusiastic responses to my update, I knew it was the right place to come and share my excitement. I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much about a positive result this month but at least we've taken a step in the right direction. Don't get me wrong I would be beyond delighted if we got a BFP in the near future!!

My OH works nightshift so we have that working against us and I can sympathisise with you Lucy on finding the right time when you both have the energy and the charting only makes us more focused on knowing when we should be getting busy! It sounds like you have a good attitude and approach to your situation anyway and I'm sure a nice little surprise will come your way soon.

Pinkie we know that relaxing is the best thing to do but it's easier said than done isn't it? Because I was on a big drunken night out with my OH on Friday I thought that there was no way any talk of babies would be on the agenda but as soon as we relaxed and had fun together he brought the subject over to babies and even started talking about names. I couldn't believe the transformation in him!!!

lucybarnes · 15/03/2010 14:30

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CCBloom · 15/03/2010 15:32

Thanks for the really lovely and thoughtful message Lucy it's topped off a positive 3 days for me! So pleased that I have the compassion and understanding of you wonderful ladies to get me through the harder days but happy that we share the good times too.