To TTC or not to TTC, that is one of the many questions...

[YorkshireTeaDrinker]

Ok fellow ditherers, as we have filled up one thread (and still not made too many firm decisions) here's another one for us to continue to procrastinate and worry on.

Here's to more monitoring of relative green and redness, mutual support and occassional chivving, discussion of everything baby or not baby related, and perhaps even our first BFP...?

Exactly! It's pretty much all or nothing. No middle ground.

So are you in hiding now? I dare you to wrap a big bandage around your head and totter downstairs, whilst asking if everyone can see the pretty dancing fairies.....

Stoppit! You'll give me the giggles!

No, they have gone out to get a takeaway and for a pint on the way. Am home alone with my animals and loving it.

In a guilty kind of way...

HP if there was a middle ground, we'd only dither over whether we should go the whole hog, the part hog or nothing but the hog instead. Least this way there are only two options!

Its true, many options do scare me. Maybe we could time share a baby

I guess the food and in-laws are back now? Gird your loins, not long to go (just out of interest, if there was a baby, do you think they would visit more frequently? Something to consider....)

They are back. Am now sat in darkened room with cold compress on my, er, bedside table.

Curry ordered and wine being drunk - would LOVE a glass but instead have water.

That is a good point about them possibly visiting more of there was a baby but am pretty sure the answer would be no, not of their own accord. When DH had his son they apparetly never popped in and instead made sure he had at least a few days notice as they worried about getting in the way etc etc. DH told me this as he got pissed off with his girlfriend at the time's parents coming round all the time - he was saying how good it was that his wouldn't as they'd be 'worried about interfering.'

However, I think DH would want them to be around much more, especially as they are getting on a bit (77 and 76). Also, as we'd be living in Hebden my mum would be very close by and I think he'd want to ensure that she wasn't like the only grandparent.

Oh, they're nice enough (she says as feels guilty) but just not my kind of people. They don't mean any harm but the endless fretting and fussing, plus the fact that they are SO small minded and naive, makes for hard work.

However, what makes for even harder work is that DH acts so differently when he's with them (whereas I don't, hence the boozing comment.)

You probaby shouldn't have alcohol after such a nasty knock to the head

Do they still manage to potter around by themselves? My Nanna is in her late seventies and while she does really well, she doesn't drive or walk huge distances any more. At least they seem sensitive to not dropping in unannounced, which is a Good Thing. Saying that, we are so far away from our families that I would love for someone to be close enough to drop by. Within reason.

It is tough when family members are hard work. My motto is 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'. May I suggest the following conversation starters:

'I've been thinking about our new house. I'm concerned that molten lava from the Icelandic volcano will drop onto it. What do you think?'

'So DH is thinking of getting a motorbike. I don't want him too, any thoughts?'

'Apparently swine flu has mutated and has become megainfectious and makes your eyes fall out and head explode. Crazy, huh?'

You've made me laugh out loud! This is not good as I have a headache, don't you know.

Reply properly now - you've reminded me of something...

Yes, they potter around by themselves all the time. His mum is quite doddery but a lot of that is her fussy fretty nature (DH said she has always been like that) and the fact that her hearing is crap. His dad is rather more robust but loves to talk about very dull things - like routes to places or traffic hotspots.

The swine flu thing reminded me of when they popped in on the way back from holiday in Cornwall. They had intially intended to go to London for the nigth as they wanted to see the roof covering at Wimbledon. However, they then decided against it as, and this is a real quote, 'people from Mexico could have stayed in the Travelodge before us and we didn't want to get swine flu.'

Oh, and MIL once asked PIL to take his baseball cap off as she was worried the neighbours would think he was a paedophile.

Bloody sickos wearing baseball caps, that's definitely how you recognise a wrong un.

And don't even get me started on swine flu transmission from Mexico....

Well, I hope you get something to eat and don't have to pretend endure the headache for too much longer!

Better go and dry my hair and go to bed! Night!

DH offered to bring me up some curry but I went down and had some instead. There is only so far I want to push this really, and didn't realise it would have quite the response it has had when I first lied fell over.

DH is 'worried about me' as I am upstairs on my own and when I dismissed this as a storm in a teacup said 'people die after smaller bumps than yours!' It was at this point I thought I better go downstairs for food rather than take his offer of bringing some up.

MIL reads the Daily Mail which I think has a lot to answer for in terms of being scared of the world. She doesn't share this view, she thinks that they wouldn't be allowed to print stuff if it wasn't true

Night!

Oooh, HP - forgot to say, I like the idea of a baby share! We could fit it in quite nicely with the cattery.

Fleeting post before work (where I can't get onto Mumsnet - bah!).

Haven't caught up with everything, will do that tonight. Just wanted to arrive late at teh party and say LST I am thrilled and delighted about your BFP!!

You are going to have lots of worries over the next few weeks (dithering can continue post BFP) so please make sure you share with us.

Re your DH, mine (who was always on board with the baby idea) was terrified to start off with and didn't really show any signs of enthusiasm until the scan - where he was even more terrified. Having this little bump (everything fine now - got another scan at the EPU - baby was bounding around and waving) was the first time i realised that DH was actually as bothered about this baby as I am.

And pregnancy really is just for girls. Blokes are never going to feel as thrilled or as connected. I am finding the whole process pretty amazing. I'm knackered and sick as a dog, but also in awe of how my body is just getting on with everything without instructions. Nature has dealt women the upper hand, it may hurt, but we get to do the really wonderful stuff.

Right, best get to work - catch up properly tonight. xx

Taken the plunge and created another thread.

Good to hear from you YTD and, I have to say (and maybe this was your intention, hmm...?) it made me have a flash of green. Just a flash, mind, but it was green all the same. As did the nice thread about the postive things about pregnancy.

An around this evening (and in-law's are going this morning - hurrah!) if anyone else is...?

Ok, will be joining you on the new thread shortly (and popping back occassionally to shepherd any lost souls who haven't spotted the new one - we don't want to lose any of our ditherers in the transfer).

Thanks for shepherding! See you soon!