To TTC or not to TTC, that is one of the many questions...

[YorkshireTeaDrinker]

Ok fellow ditherers, as we have filled up one thread (and still not made too many firm decisions) here's another one for us to continue to procrastinate and worry on.

Here's to more monitoring of relative green and redness, mutual support and occassional chivving, discussion of everything baby or not baby related, and perhaps even our first BFP...?

Just a quick twopenn'th from me LST - firstly HURRAH for more eggs, and I'm sending all my best wishes and good vibes for a successful op and some really good eggs among the ones they collect. Will be thinking of you - let us know when you're through. Can I ask what happens next?

Since you asked.... In your position I probably wouldn't tell my parents right now. The chance of anything going awry is vanishingly small - and if anything did go wrong, I don't think the fact that they didn't know their son/daughter was going for an operation would be top of a parent's worries. Maybe best to tell them, as you say, when you have some more definite news.

LST I'd be tempted to tell your parents. What Suerock says is totally right - the chances of anything going wrong are tiny and, in the unlikely event of the worst happening, I don't think they'll be most worried about the fact that you didn't tell them. However, I think it might be better for them to know you are going for IVF and risk being disappointed, then not know at all. Obviously, you know best what they can cope with, but I am worrying that you are relatively unsupported. If their disappointment would be another burden for you to bear, then leave things as they are (safe in the knowledge that you will come round from the GA unscathed) but maybe it might be beneficial to share what you are going through with them?

However, fabulous news on the folicle development. Hopefully they'll be able to gather a reasonable cluster of eggs from this little lot and you're well on the way to getting baby LST.

Still writing report, am bored and want to finish asap!

Forgive brevity....

LST, great news about the 100% increase in follicles! Please, please dont give any thought-space to the idea of anything bad happening tomorrow, it just wont. My, er, friend wasn't even knocked out - it was twilight sleep or something. Tell your parents only if you want to, if you want their support. I know what you mean about the pressure though, added to what you are feeling it may be overwhelming.

C - OMG, someone tried to break into your house?!? The northern in me rears its head in these situations...whack 'em, and whack 'em hard. Hope they catch the evil little toerags asap and throw the book at them.

Hi All,
Couldn't post last night as we had a friend of DH's here.

Thanks for you support re the attempted burglary. While I could not give two shits about things like the telly being nicked the idea of someone in the house does fill me with horror. It seemed far more horrid in the middle of the night too, and more like a rubbish attempt at burglary in the day time. My neighbour thinks they'll come back in 6 weeks when the insurance has paid out. I am not sure, but we now have extra locks on the windows and a man from the police has come to check the security. He has added a thing over the letterbox so they cannot get anything through, fitted a spy hole in the front door and fitted a new massive lock. DH has also put wood strips on the top of the sash window's so the window's cannot be pushed up even if the locks did give way, which is very unlikely. Also, we have secondary glazing which would be a massive inconvenience to getting in too, even in the unlikely event of them getting through the locks etc.

As for wacking them - I laid in bed after the event thinking of what I could chuck at them from the upstairs window. Bleach was a hot contender, and my neighbour was having similar scenarios in his head involving boling oil!

Onto more important things, LST. Sorry I have not read the recent posts and managed to reply before you've gone in for the egg op. I really hope it goes well and am so pleased for you about the follicle increase. If anyone deserves a BFP it's you, matey!

As for telling you parents about the IVF / GA (though bit late to give my two penneth about the GA) I'd not tell them about the GA as the risk is practically zero. However, as for the IVF in general, I guess it depends on your relationship with them - would they really show their disapointment if it, god forbid, didn't work out? I think, if that was the case, it's the last thing you need. But, if they didn know, would they actually be a fantastic support at a tricky time? If that is the case it may well be worth letting them know.

Lastly, if they are worriers I think I'd keep quiet for now due to the situation with your dad - how's he doing, by the way?

Hope you're back home and feeling okay now, and your DH is tending to your every whim! Hopefully hear from you soon.

HP good luck with the report and hope it's finished soon!

YTD did you have your scan yesterday? Am dying to know how it all went!

Hi folks,

Well, egg collection over.

I didn't tell my parents in the end - thanks for all your wise words on that score. And all the support. I'm really touched by your concern, YTD but I do feel well supported (not least by you all [wipes away tear]) - I've talked to my sisters and DH is being very good in general, especially given his own position. I also thought a) that the risk was small enough that it would be like calling them before I crossed the road (encouraged by our resident scientists to put that one in perspective!), and b) they've got enough on their plate at the moment. My dad is ok, confused, but was in this week for a pre-op health check before more investigation in May, my mother had a big meeting with an eye specialist today about her failing sight, and my grandmother, whom they are looking after from a distance [though I do help a bit, I hasten to add] is in hospital after a 'small' coronary (which is anything but at her age).

There was good news and bad news today for me - 6 eggs, so really not too bad given the way things have been. On the downside, that's likely to be borderline for trying blastocyst (growing the embryos outside the womb for longer), which has the best result of success. (This is all assuming any have fertilized when I ring tomorrow.) So it may be just bunging one back in on Sunday and hoping for the best... I know I should be pleased that I got any at all, but was a bit disappointed that it's still a poorish result (though don't know what I was expecting, for heaven's sake [gives self a stern look].

So (Suerock) - either embryo transfer on Sunday, or blastocyst transfer (hopefully) on Wednesday. If science works its magic (that's what science is, right?!) tonight...

Hope all that extra security makes you feel a bit better about the whole thing, confused. Sounds like you'll be safe as houses, so to speak, with all of that. (Makes me wonder about our draughty doors and windows, and my blithe habit of leaving a key under a conspicuous flowerpot in the front garden - should probably think about the 'burgle me' messages we're sending.)

How are you feeling, YTD? Did the sickness depart for good? And do let us know if there is any scan news. Hope you're feeling full of energy now (though realize that's probably a bit of a myth?). How's the kitchen?

Drop in again, Agent hp, when your secret report is finished and you're back to saving humanity in the lab by day, and on the mean streets by night...

PS. The procedure itself was a breeze - sheepishly so glad I went for a general! Most restful thing I've done all week!

Glad to hear you're ok - not that I ever thought you wouldn't be!

Bit drunk so will be brief.

Glad it went well - GOOD LUKC

back tomorrow xxxx

Hurrah for LST and her six eggs! Im so glad the procedure was ok in the end, there was never any doubt in my mind, and fingers are now double double crossed for fertilisation and some good strong growers. I like to think of it as those six represent the creme de la creme, the healthiest and fittest double yolkers. Dont forget to take it easy and look after yourself, or better yet, get Mr LST to look after you.

(And of course science is magic, in days of yore SueRock and I would have been called witches and burned at the stake!)

YTD - any news, petal?

Right, Im off too bed soon, its been a long week. Make sure you are all locked up, C, and if all else fails, my mam used to keep a meat tenderiser (sp?) under her pillow. Just for info, of course, Im not for a moment suggesting you use it on scumbags and toerags....

Fuckin ell.
Text from S re that John Lewis ad. He said the words ring true.

More wine, vicar?

ROFL at Drunky Drunkerson over there are her cross post with mine....GOOD LUKC?? Feffing brilliant! You are a total star, C.

xx

I'd like to thinjk so, HP SP ;-)

Oooo, what are we reading into the text from S??? Anything?? Nothing?? Tell me!

Nowt really. However, now listening to the words.

Weird.

Back shortly, post analysing....

Jesus.

What, this....

She can kill with a smile
She can wound with her eyes
She can ruin your faith with her casual lies
And she only reveals what she wants you to see
She hides like a child,
But she's always a woman to me

She can lead you to love
She can take you or leave you
She can ask for the truth
But she'll never believe you
And she'll take what you give her, as long as it's free
Yeah, she steals like a thief
But she's always a woman to me

Quite.

Oh dear me!

[sad}

I mean

Girl, you is pissed!!

I do hope so!

Feel like I've been hit over the head with a sand filled sock

and thanks for the cuddle!

Pub then?!!

Any time.

Right, I really have to go to bed, early start tomorrow for a shopping spree! Put all sand filled socks away, unless its to whack aforementioned toerags.

Night. xxx

Night