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To TTC or not to TTC, that is one of the many questions...

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 16/02/2010 10:56

Ok fellow ditherers, as we have filled up one thread (and still not made too many firm decisions) here's another one for us to continue to procrastinate and worry on.

Here's to more monitoring of relative green and redness, mutual support and occassional chivving, discussion of everything baby or not baby related, and perhaps even our first BFP...?

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confuseddoiordonti · 26/04/2010 22:44

ytd thanks for the book fodder. I have actually considered some aspects I have gleaned from this thread as possible book fodder, but need to get current book sorted and written first. The progress, of which, would have been considerably better if I had not discovered MN!

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 26/04/2010 22:45

Oh my goodness Confused - how fab is that hotel?

My last work's trip was three days in a travel lodge in Barrow in Furness.

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 26/04/2010 22:47

But on the upside, Vanessa Feltz never turned up at the Travel Lodge in Barrow in Furnness.

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AmandaCooper · 26/04/2010 22:48

Goodnight HP! Lol @ YTD - go and nail up your letterbox now, or move house!

confuseddoiordonti · 26/04/2010 22:55
Grin
YorkshireTeaDrinker · 26/04/2010 22:58

I'm not scared! (much).

Just read the last bit of the Observer review. I am drawing some comfort from it (and I have checked out my Amazon basket - I have to do this, so I may as well be informed ):

"Enright offers some catchy words of encouragement to new mothers. 'Life in here on the other side is just the same - only much better, and more difficult,' she says."

On that note, I'm off to bed. it's way past my bed time and I have to let the builders in at 7.00am tomorrow.

Night all.

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AmandaCooper · 26/04/2010 23:00

Wolf reaches positive conclusions and goes on to have another child, so it's not all bad.

confuseddoiordonti · 26/04/2010 23:05

I think that surely the better bits must weigh out the bad bits. Otherwise, we're (as in the human race) are insane.

Also, couples rarely have just one baby, no through choice anyway.

Still fucking scary though, it has to be said!

AmandaCooper · 26/04/2010 23:10

Let's not have any (except LQ and YTD, obviously)!

confuseddoiordonti · 26/04/2010 23:17

Tempting.

Think it may be more so after reading the book I've just ordered! Then again, maybe not - and, as Shakespeare kind of said, therein lies the rub...

LeviStubbsTears · 27/04/2010 04:12

Was in full grip of 3.50am despair, but having read your posts am feeling much cheered.

And after description of the Naomi Woolf birth experience (even second-hand) shallowly rather comforted (sorry YTD and lq) by the thought that if it doesn't work out, at least I will never go through those unenviable experiences! Rachel Cusk's A Life's Work is also a good cold shower in this respect - has anyone read that? Ultimately it's not saying don't have kids (and I find her a tad annoying - her life sounds unbelievably privileged and for the most part pleasant and she does sound ever so slightly as though she's whingeing (sp?)) but she does write exceptionally well about how it can be pretty hard.

OK, am going to take another shot at sleep. I am also going to write properly in response to others' news when it's not the middle of the night. (Realized reading back through old posts that I'd misread - I think - a post by Suerock thinking you were talking about a specific job rather than just the general dilemma - sorry about that!) But just a huge thank you to everyone for your support. That's exceptionally nice of you hp to offer RL support (if that's what you were doing). That's really nice to know. Also thanks very much for the stats, Seagreen - they were very comforting.

Right am feeling most incoherent ? back to bed ? but thanks, ladies, for being a lifeline. And the most brilliant distraction from the inside of my head! (It's Manolos, Manolos... mutters off to bed...)

BroodyRhi · 27/04/2010 12:27

Thanks Ladies

I would pass the broodiness on if i felt sure it would stay away but it keeps coming back! have started my own thread to see who might also be feeling like me and have looked at the "waiting to TTC part 2" page.

Enjoy the sunshine and thanks again

confuseddoiordonti · 27/04/2010 21:35

Just been trying to log on for bloody ages. Was only really logging on to say I feel sick as a dog (although not my dog, she's actually rather perky) for some reason (like when you've been on a roundabout) so not up for chatting tonight.

However, before I do go, wanted to say to you, LST, that I hope you're okay and managed to get some sleep. And send you another hug. x

Oh yes, and asked my friend to alter the questions bit of the website (so thanks for whoever suggested that - feel too iffy to browse back over previous posts at the moment!)

AmandaCooper · 27/04/2010 22:04

I'm not so hot myself, confused. I've been reeling from a horrible head cold all day and couldn't face staying at work one more minute than I had to. Thank heaven I don't have DC to contend with at times like this, that's all I can say!

Hope we both feel better tomorrow!

confuseddoiordonti · 27/04/2010 22:27

BroodyRhi maybe you need to order one of these scary books (the Naomi Wolf one for example) to help stave off the broodyness. I haven't even got mine yet but I am strongly suspecting from what everyone was saying last night it would be the literary equivalent of a jug full of iced water!

Feeling a bit better now as had some toast. Here is some absolute bollocks from the Daily Mail I read today (at work so was bored - that's my excuse!)

confuseddoiordonti · 28/04/2010 20:52

Anyone around? Am posting in bits and bats as my computer has gone agonisingly slow (ten minutes minimum to load a page) so there may be delays!

How is everyone?

AmandaCooper · 28/04/2010 20:59

BroodyRhi the scary books are the perfect antidote to broodiness. My Naomi Woof one is very well thumbed though, so obviously the effects are not long term!

Confused I completely agree!

"I don't wan't to tell Linzi what to do... (so I've writen an article spelling out exactly what I think she should do in the Daily Mail)... but my hope is to nudge(!) her in a certain direction."

AmandaCooper · 28/04/2010 21:01

Just waiting for DH to come home with our pizzas (four weeks without an oven tomorrow, does our landlord win a prize?)

HoneyPetal · 28/04/2010 21:28

Evening. Am working again, final report for my course (thank goodness). Has to be in after the bank holiday so need to crack on so Im not working all over the long weekend.

(Also, AC, I forgot to say the other day, it wasnt me with the recent 'scare', I think it was Seagreen, no scares in my house for many a long year ).

Hope LST is ok after her middle of the night postings. I did mean in RL, I just thought if we were local to eachother and your head was exploding, I am around. Just putting it out there, in case.

Right...make me write this boring report.....

AmandaCooper · 28/04/2010 21:52

HoneyPetal get on with that report this minute, young lady!

HoneyPetal · 28/04/2010 22:30

Yes miss.

Actually, I've given up for now, it's an early night in a comfy bed for me! Night!

AmandaCooper · 28/04/2010 23:16
confuseddoiordonti · 29/04/2010 10:13

This is all going vaguely kinky!

Sorry not to have posted further last night. The computer was SO slow it was too tedious to stay on it, so I turned it off. DH says's it's because it's scanning so hopefully it won't be like this forever.

I am utterly exhausted today as some fuckers individuals tried to break into our house. Our neighbours got burgled last week so it was at the back of our, well DH's, mind and DH got up at 2.30 for a wee and heard some tapping noises. Turns out, when he looked out the window, it was two yoofs with a crowbar. When they saw him looking from the upstairs window they scarpered and we heard a car screech.

We called the police who turned up about 20 mins later and saw that the window's are damaged along the bottom. The policeman said they'd just picked someone up for stealing petrol and were going to take him back to the station - they have fingerprints from next door's burglary and are coming to take them off our house today.

Needless to say, we were both very angry as well as a bit unnerved. I went back to bed about 3.30 but couldn't sleep at all (fantasies involving thwarting any burgling attempts in both disgusting and disfiguring ways).

Bastards.

Suerock · 29/04/2010 12:12

You have my sympathies confused and I know exactly how you feel cos some nobheads did the same to us a few months ago. The police were great though, and took it really seriously even though they didn't get in.

Can't write more - illicit work post.

LeviStubbsTears · 29/04/2010 16:20

In the library so also briefly, but wanted to say how horrible, confused, and really hope you're feeling ok (though it must be very unsettling). At least they were clearly the type to scarper at the first sign of occupation. Hoping they catch them (or it's the same people as stole the petrol).

How's the report, hp? Hope it's going well. Well, hope it's finished, which would be ideal!

I'm doing fine now, sorry for the middle of the night dramas. In fact the most recent scan was better, follicles up to 8, and I'm having egg collection tomorrow! It's still not a great showing, and there almost certainly won't be 8 healthy eggs, but it's a bit better at least. Keep your fingers crossed that there is something there. I have a dilemma, actually, that I was wondering about asking you lovely people about. I haven't told my mum about the IVF, as I've probably said to you, as I didn't want my parents waiting expectantly, and to have to disappoint them if it didn't work (as the odds are relatively poor). But I'm having a general anaesthetic tomorrow, and DH raised the issue of whether I should tell them, given there is the theoretical possibility of something going wrong and me dying on the operating table (to put it brutally!). It's the mildest type of GA so this possibility is absolutely minuscule (I hope!) but they would be rather shocked and probably upset if anything did happen and I'd kept this from them. On the other hand, it's such a small possibility, and I would still rather keep them in the dark until I have some real news. Any thoughts?

Anyway, sorry to be so self-absorbed - will be the other side of this process one way or another soon.

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