Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul, vol 2

[thefatladyscreams]

Hardly the most original title but I didn't want to loose anyone (well that's my excuse for the lack of originality!)

meita that is so terribly tragic. I think your idea of contacting her is lovely. Every act of kindness counts at times like that. Hope you're OK.

fingers - get thee to a doctor. It sounds like you've had this for quite a while?

boodle - your CAPS did make me laugh. This is a woman returning to TCC with gusto!

Hope that sun is shining cheepz. Very impressed with you posting from Cape Town and hope the holiday does the magic in every sense. I've read about so many instances where people get pregnant on holiday.....

Tigger - I wouldn't overworry. I read somewhere about the percentage chance of conceiving each month and I was amazed at how relatively low it was. Just need to keep plugging away (so to speak ) each month!

barrenbrook - I've had shortened periods since my m/c and then 2 days of spotting the last time. This one has finally started as normal and I think the acupuncture has helped sort it out. Hope the reflexology does the same for you. Sounds lovely

CakeandFineWine - any news??

Feeling tired - could do with another day of the weekend....

Now how about this for sad - I've already worked out that IF I got pregnant this cycle I could test just before Christmas and the child would be a September starter for the school year. Sad of the month award for me!

Evening everyone

cheepz

Went to Boots today and brought a First Response Ovulation kit - actually got 2 as it was a BOGOF offer and they each come with a free pregnancy test .

Sex again tonight, not really looking forward to it, but needs must . We're going for the every 2 days plan of attack. If I'm not pregnant in a month, we'll up it to every other day. I don't even want to go into what we'll do if I'm still not pregnant in 2 months!!!

Hope everyone is well.

just popping in to say hi... have been reading but keeping quiet.. not very hopeful this month, too much snot and sneezing going on...
mrsR... the thought of EVEN more than every other day makes me feel quite dizzy... ....

Hi Ladies,
Well I'm sorry I can't be the next BFP, AF got me Fri. I'm now CD 4 and will update the list and try not to screw it up!

Meita that is such a sad thing, I felt so ripped off at 3mos. w/ a mmc, I can't imagine the anger I'd feel at full term. Also questioning if something would've been different had they monitored her more closely and taken the baby early? That would kill me. As someone else said, any kind and understanding words are well received.

TFLS, I've gotta say that I'll join you with the sad of the month award. I've got it all figured ahead too and should be able to test right around Christmas.

lol cheepz, I love tmi, makes me feel normal Here's hoping it's your month, I too have heard a holiday can make all the difference.

Looking forward to my first appt. with a new (highly recommended)fertility specialist this Thurs. Just a first mtg. but I can't wait to get a move on. Also started a diet today as I'm as big as I've ever been and got pg last time I dropped some weight and was taking care of myself. Wish me willpower!

Oh yeah, the list:
Monday

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD36
CakeandFineWine TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 1 CD33
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 2 CD26
Meita TTC#1 UCL30-45 cycle 3 CD26
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL26-30 cycle 11 CD24
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD20
Cheepz TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD14
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26-28 cycle 3 CD12
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 8 CD10
Sunburnt TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD4
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 8 CD4
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 6 CD2

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD60
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD60

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September
Chamois BFP 7th October
MrsRigby BFP 11th October MMC 17th November
Apples BFP 9th November

Hi girls. Do you mind if I join you? my fears were confirmed at my appointment today. I am going through a miscarriage. I would have been seven weeks today but from the scan it appears that I didn't make it that far into the pregnancy. I am having some bleeding and cramping. No major bleeding so I assume it is still to come.

I just found an article about 10 things to boost fertility any views?

1 Make love regularly

ok do that already

2 Cut down on caffeine

Research has shown that as little as one cup of coffee per day can halve your chances of conception.

maybe i'll try cutting out decaff this month

3 Keep him cool

(no tight trousers)

not a problem

4 Stop excessive dieting

hmm now when did I last go on a diet

5 Supplement your diet

Take zinc, selenium and vitamin C supplements.
Zinc for him - zinc is crucial for the proper development of the sperm; for her - zinc is crucial for cell division ? if cell division is inadequate it makes it more difficult for the egg to fertilise.
? Selenium for him ? it?s essential to maximise sperm formation and testosterone production.
? Vitamin C for him ? it can enhance sperm quality; for her ? it can help with ovulation.

Any views on this one? I don't think zinc is a great idea for me as it interferes with my insulin and ended up with a coma when I tried it about 8 years ago but I don't mind vitamin c. Anyone tried this?

6 Cut down on smoking and drinking

Smoking and drinking interferes with the reproductive system of both men and women so you should aim to cut out smoking altogether and limit your drinking to no more than six units (six glasses of wine or three pints of beer) a week.

check

7 Cut out recreational drugs

Maybe I should start them for stress relief

8 Cut down on painkillers

Some painkillers, such as paracetamol and ibuprofen, can interfere with conception if taken around the time of ovulation by suppressing hormones called prostaglandins, which the body needs to release the egg into the fallopian tube.

I always thought paracetamol was fine but since I only take ibuprofen for period pains it's not really an issue.

9 Try a sexy spice

Fenugreek has high levels of vitamins A and D, which can help with sexual desire and impotence. It can also increase the body?s metabolism, giving you more energy for sex.

Must get fenugreek....

10 Get checked out by doctor

Only they won't see you till you've been trying a year.

Interested to hear if anyone's tried any of these in particular vitamins and fenugreek and whether it's made a difference.

welcome sevans so sorry to hear you are muiscarrying. Let us support you through it. Vent at will....

i have got tingly boobs.

thats my lot this evening. hope all is well with you guys x

Just popping in before off to bed. Will post properly tomorrow but just wanted to say welcome sevans. So sorry you're going through this - it is such a horrible experience but you will find loads of support on here. Kindred spirits and all that. Hope you've got plenty of TLC tonight and take good care of yourself.

Thanks for the welcome boodleboot and thefatladyscreams.

I still haven't had any heavy bleeding but the abdominal pain is awful. I really, really hope it goes away soon. I can hardly even stand up straight. Will this end anytime soon?!?

sevans i had ERPC then full salpingectomy so altho i did bleed it was nowhere near a miscarriage amount of blood....hopw it passes soon. Hows your 'head' feeling?

i realise that i sound preposterous to even consider that i would fall on the first cycle of trying post EP but i can't help it....boobs still feel tingly and have had sharp stabbing pain this morning, similar to my OV pain, very intense - i am 12DPO today and wonder if this could be an implantation pain....i wish my womb had a window so i could see whats goin on in there

i have been testing on internet cheapies as i have about a squillion of them and am still convinced there is the faint line in some lights but this could totally be the evap line they talk about.....and my wishful thinking. i would SO love to end this year on a BFP....

still can't help thinking......MRSR you remember when i was trying before i and met you on that other thread about just 'knowing' when you are pregnant....i honestly feel like that again....i guess i will know for sure by this time next week. I have lost my faith in my ability to know what is happening after the EP....this could just be wishful thiniing

hows everyone else this morning?

Morning (DS is napping )

Welcome sevans I'm so sorry your going through this. I miscarried on 17th November - about 2 weeks ago now, the fetus still in the sac, came out at home after 3 days of bleeding. Be strong. The most difficult and frightening thing I found was the amount of blood I lost after the baby had come out. Again I'm so sorry . The only pain I had was cramping just before the placenta came out, and after seeing the size of it I now understand. I couldn't sit or stand for any length of time. I think it'll happen soon, probably within a day. I'm sorry.

tigger15 I think it's all a load of crap, doesen't really matter what you do, though that said it's always worth a chance, see below:

1 Make love regularly - we have sex every 2 days.

2 Cut down on caffeine - I have 1 cup of tea per day and that's it.

3 Keep him cool - pass.

4 Stop excessive dieting - ha, ha, ha I've never been on a diet in all my life.

5 Supplement your diet - have lost count of the amount of years I've been taking Pregnacare.

6 Cut down on smoking and drinking - have never smoked and stopped drinking at 19.

7 Cut out recreational drugs - have never done recreational drugs and VERY rarely take prescription medication, although on metformin 850mg bd.

8 Cut down on painkillers - don't take them.

9 Try a sexy spice - don't like spicy food.

10 Get checked out by doctor - done, diagnosed with PCOS.

boodleboot I've had itchy nipples for a couple of days now, but probably too soon for me . I have a good feeling, I think you'll get good news VERY soon.

Oh god, he's awake - I'll have top check back later...

Hi All ...Had a fabulous break in Bruges and a lovely birthday yesterday.Hi SEVANS its crap isn t it? I ve had 2 MCs in the last year most of us on here have been through it soo can totally sympathise with you.....

Well a bit of news all i have a BFP!!!! 11 weeks after my most recent MC....Felt pg last week, don t know why or how i knew????Very naseaus tested last sat just as sailing to Bruges and many positives later, all faint though, i gave in and purchased my old favourite of a clearblie digital which displayed the words"pregnant 1-2 weeks"!!!!!

Soo sick of squinting at lines!!! Was worried that the lines were faint but then reasoned the last 2 times the lines were stronger but i lost those 2 soo i m giving that on thought at the moment,For now i m pg and we ll see how it goes.Not going to the midwife for a few weeks yet as my experience of them has always been poor...I will re-refer myself to EPU in 4 weeks for a scan then take it from there....

Have lots of nights out planned for xmas with much alcohol lined up!!! Now then fun starts paricularly with my work night out next week, i m a nurse i work with a load of nurses soo to fob off with the old antibiotic excuse doesn t work!!!!!

Am happy had mt brillant birthday weekend before i knew for definate to enjoy loads of naughty food and booze...

Hope everyone else is well.Got today off having my hi-lights done then back at work tomorrow.First night out on Fri must start to think of excuses!!!!!!

Congrats Louise. I hope it works out for you this time.

Sevans, sorry to have you join the group. Nurofen with codeine wears the edge off a little for the cramps. Take it easy and avoid work if you can.

Mrs R thanks for the response. I know it's probably crap but I just want to DO something. I'm so sick of driving myself crazy for 3 and 1/2 weeks of each month trying to have the perfect blood sugar for nothing.

Oh and Louise - driving is a good excuse or driving lessons in the morning for avoiding alcohol.

Louise! Wow! bighappysmiley that is such good news!
Could you now just pull boodle along with you?

Welcome sevans, so sorry to hear about your loss.

Thanks everyone for your encouragment regarding the stillbirth. I was quite thrown by it all and needed some time to find my feet again. Better now. Thanks especially to boodle for reminding me that my pain of having to find the right words is insignificant and totally bearable, compared to hers (not that you said exactly this, but your posting had this effect for me).

I'm always so busy, so have had trouble keeping up with everything - please excuse me!

Strangely, I too feel as if it might have caught on this month. Though it is not very likely. But at the very least, I am having the first "normal" luteal phase since the MC back in July... so it looks as if things were finally straightening out. With the exception of that thrush I caught...

I think emotionally I am doing alright. I had a bleeding spell over the weekend and yesterday morning so I was fully expecting bad news when I went to my appointment yesterday. I guess I was 90% prepared and handled myself well at the doctor but of course was in tears when I left.

I am staying home from work again today. The abdominal pains are better but still no heavy bleeding. The doctor barely noticed the sac on the ultrasound so I am guessing the pregnancy stopped developing weeks ago. I would have been 7 weeks yesterday. This was my first pregnancy so I didn't know what to expect but it just never felt right to me. We didn't tell anyone besides my mother because I was so worried and fearful that there was going to be a problem.

I have to do blood work to check my Hcg levels tomorrow to make sure they are decreasing. I guess I may have to go in again and again until they get down to 0. How long normally after a MC until the first period arrives? I have irregular periods so the doctor said I may have to take a period inducing medication (Provera). I have PCOS and actually had to use Clomid to assist with my ovulation so I am sure I will have to use it again. I actually got pregnant off my first month of Clomid and now looking back realize I was just too lucky for it to happen all so fast! Enough about me.

boodleboot it sounds very promising! Good luck with getting a BFP!

louise congrats on your BFP! Great news!

Thanks all for your kind words .No probs any of u can come along for the ride, particularly boodle after her horrible year {annus}!!!!!

SEVANS my first mmc my af took about 6 weeks to return m y 2nd mc my af showed up after 33 days.However i am normally regular and don t have pcos.It s horrible time for you to go through.Hope you ve got lots of support,wine and chocolate..Take care

Fingers crossed for u 2 MEITA if you feel positive...Lets end this crappy year on a high!!!

Thanks TIGGER15 for your ideas!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS louisesh so, so, so happy for you.

tigger15 I can relate to you wanting to do something - I've tried most things, some just plain daft and also very embarrassing. All part of the TTC proccess I guess.

sevans I have PCOS too , also, more importantly, DH and I from the moment we got the BFP couldn't shake the feeling that something wasn't right. I think you just know.

I'd have been 11 weeks when I miscarried, except that the baby died at 5-6 weeks. Missed miscarriage.

DH and I will never forget the sight of the fetus in the sac.

Anyway...

DS has a cold. Nose is completely blocked and so he's not really sleeping. Keeps waking up. We've propped the bed up with some books, but it's going to be a long night - not least because I've also got the cold. My nose is completely stuffed and my throat sore. And on top of all this, DH and I are planning on having sex tonight.

The things we do for a BFP.

louise that is fanbloodytastic...

really really happy for you...heres praying for a peaceful pregnancy for you hun.

still no change from me....tingly and large boobs...AF due tues....still feeling optimistic after my sharp pain earlier and lots of crampy feelings today like AF feelings....

roll on sun when i should be able to get a reliable test done.....

Huge congrats louisesh - what an absolutely fantastic birthday present! As far as excuses for not drinking, you could always take the dramatic approach and announce that you've joined AA! Beats the old antibiotics one for gossip anyway On a more practical note, how about saying you are on a manic detox diet before Christmas? Anyway, you've got a BFP - yipeeee.

Boodle my dear, you are teasing us! Just promise me that you won't mysteriously disappear on Sunday and leave us all in suspense. We need to agree testing/posting times

meita maybe, just maybe this is your month.... No working too hard!

tigger I try and do most of the things on the list but it depends on what day/time of the cycle you ask me. I find it hard putting my life on hold hoping for this BFP that seems to have got lost in the post.

MrsR sending you loads of Vitamin C, a hot water bottle and a voucher for a night off the schedule!

sevans - how are you doing? It is a really horrible period you are going through but it will pass. I found it all happened within 24 hours but everyone's body is different. In terms of cycle afterwards, I've been told that basically all bets are off. The first AF can often be later than usual but in my case it came early. So I'm afraid it's a wait and see what mother nature produces. I found taking my temperature helpful as I could at least track when I was ovulating and when I was due to start my period.

Well slightly weird result for me as got a High on the CBFM on days 6 and 7. That's very early for me - but oh well, the monitor calls so off to bed

Hi everyone,

Just a quickie. Good luck boodle, tingling is good.

I am 5w4d. But not thinking about it. Haven't even checked the due date and everything like I normally would.. don't want to be disappointed.

Am over in the UK on 17 Dec and have a scan booked at 7w4d. So I am pretending I am not pregnant until then.

The pain has seemed to pass and the bleeding has slowed down. Still never had heavy bleeding so not sure if this is over with or just taking a break. This is my third day staying home from work and I feel bad because we are super busy but it just doesn't feel right to be at work. I really plan to go tomorrow. I am still taking my temperature and it has not gone down yet. I was fully expecting it to go down so I'm kind of confused.

It's so nice to have to ladies to talk to. Thank you so much.

Well that has to be the shortest pregnancy EVER.....Started bleeding this pm at work feel periody soo think this is another fuck**g MC......

Why me? Why doesn t/can t my body do as every other womans does?????

Just told my manager anf a few friends at work also....Now got to tell my DH and mum about this

I m soo sick of all this....Why can t i do what lots of women accomplish when they re not even ttc or have 1 one night stands.

FUk FUk FU*k.....its shit

Had just got appt at re-current miscarriage clinic changed to 7th dec to see if our blood tests show anything...Now don t want them to have a note of this latest Fu*k up as it ll delay our adoption plans..

Ok i give up ttc we ll just stick to adoption.