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Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul, vol 2

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thefatladyscreams · 21/09/2009 16:35

Hardly the most original title but I didn't want to loose anyone (well that's my excuse for the lack of originality!)

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thefatladyscreams · 21/09/2009 16:44

littleonemum that's fantastic news. So pleased for you. You must be exhausted with relief now . Please don't feel that you can't post good news here - it is great to be reminded that there is light at the end of the tunnel. So please do pop in whenever you fancy.

meita - I bet you're fed up with waiting by now. AF then o/v.... I know that some women get temporary hair loss after childbirth so I wonder if it could be hormone related post m/c? I had real temp dips last month when I didn't ovulate (dropped 2.4 C instead of rising) so know how you feel. Is your sleep OK because lack of sleep can cause drops and you might still be ovulating? What is it all such hard work

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thefatladyscreams · 21/09/2009 16:50

OK OK I'm a very sad googler but I just had a quick search meita and found a site that said hair loss post childbirth normally happened 3 months afterwards. It said it could also happen (to a lesser extent) post m/c.

Will stop pondering meita's hair now and try to do some work.

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MrsRigby · 21/09/2009 20:48

Evening

I've found you all .

Not much to report tonight, DH had Friday and Today off so we've just been enjoying some time together. Pity he has to go back to work tomorrow .

Will be doing more TTC tonight if DS allows. He's teething badly we think, keeps waking up every 2 hours, so not getting much sleep.

How is everyone else tonight?

thefatladyscreams · 21/09/2009 22:10

Sorry to hear about DS MrsR. Doesn't he know you have a schedule to follow

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Meita · 22/09/2009 10:09

Hi ladies!

Thanks for opening a new thread, TFLS - I hope everyone will find us!

littleOne please don't leave us for good - as TFLS said, we're always glad to hear good news!

MrsR glad you enjoyed your "long weekend". Hope you are well. Btw are you observing your temps at all? Oh and on another note, have you progressed in your search for income that can be generated from home?

tfls That's sweet of you, to have googled my hair loss :-) And I am, in fact, relieved that it could just as well be MC related (didn't know that!) rather than a symptom of possibly thyroid-related systemic hormonal imbalance. Well we'll see. My temp has surged today, not quite high enough but that could be tomorrow, who knows? OPK has yet to give me a + though. And the sad thing is, DP is leaving for Switzerland today, won't be back until Friday - I just soooo hope I won't end up ovulating on Thursday!

Any pgy-signs for you yet?

Meita · 22/09/2009 10:14

Tuesday

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD64
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-45 cycle 1 CD28
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD22
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD22
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD18
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD15
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD14
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD11
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD2

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD49
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD49

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September

MrsRigby · 22/09/2009 19:53

Evening

Sister-in-law has just announced that she is 3 months pregnant .

This is the one that lives in London, loves going out to restraunts, bars and clubs, is very career minded and has just brought an Audi TT (which she now needs to sell because she can't get a car seat to fit it). She lives with her husband in a 2 bedroomed house and has said that she is not going to decorate the second room as she uses it as her office and will simply put a cot in the corner.

I should be happy for her, so why aren't I?

On top of that I'm still stressed about going back to work in November. I really don't want to. I want to stay at home and look after my son, but DH hasn't got that promotion yet.

Feeling shit.

And as soon as DH found out that his sister was expecting, he announced he wanted to have sex again tonight - that'll be 3 nights in a row.

Surely this is my month???

meita I knew there was something I meant to do . How exactely do I go about doing my temps, is it too late to start now? I've abandoned the idea of working from home and accepted that I'm going to have to go back to work.

Cheepz · 22/09/2009 20:25

Thank god I have found you!!!!

Thought I might have to search but with the incredibly intuituvew title it was no problem - thanks tfls mrsr thats a whole ton of crapness - SIL preggers and sex 3 days in a row

Know how you feel though as we are having lunch this weekend with SIL who is 7 months pregnant and blooming. Was kind of hoping things would work out this month so could have secret knowledge of harbouring own bean but no instead will be post AF and pre Ov and grumpy at not being able to do anything about it

I think it is fine not to be happy for her right now - you would be if you were pg or if you didn't want to be so its just circumstance and its very normal

As for sex 3 days in a row - how do you manage that - I have to make massive effot to get twice in a week - although have said I really want to get pg by Christmas to dh so can he step up to the plate a little more.

He does not see why the hurry - but for me its a combo of - age gap with ds (dont want it to be too big), age (am 37 now and would like to have second - and last child - on the go so to speak before 38 - next summer but it can take a while as we all know, work - feel like knowing i am going to be taking another period of time out means i am in kind of a lull with the job, health - for me and the baby sooner is better i think, and because i am not good at being pregnant so could really do with having that be out of the way iyswim. Mostly though would like there to be not more than 3 year age gap and already thats blown because ds will be 3 in June but 3 and a half would be ok....

Anyway once I explained some fo this to him on way back from wedding he kind of realised its not jsut me obsessing about a baby there is reason behind why i feel some time pressure and he is all laid back about everything

sorry mrs r was talking about your stuff and ended up ranting about mine guess thats why we are all here

i too did temp for 3 days then forgot - stopped so need to get on with that again maybe.

what would i do without you ladies - so glad you are here

Meita · 23/09/2009 09:48

MrsR you can start at any time, though at first it might not make much sense. It doesn't matter if you miss out a day or two, especially at the beginning and at the end of your cycle.

It is very simple really (though when you go into details, it starts getting more complex).

Basically, you just take your temperature every morning BEFORE getting up.

You can measure orally or (for better results) vaginally. You should keep the thermometer in for full 5 minutes, not just to the peep.

Then you write down your measure and the current time.

If you write that down in an online chart, for example at www.fertilityfriend.com then the online software will do all the interpretation for you. It will tell you when it is reasonably certain that you have ovulated and when to expect AF / to do a HPT.

After a while the programme will know your cycle and will be able to make predictions and tell you when you are most fertile.

Obviously, the more information you feed it, the more it can tell you. So, observing CM in addition to charting temps is a good idea, and you can also put in OPK test results. But even if you just chart temps, it can be useful, since at least you will see if and when you ovulated and when to expect AF. (However, temps alone are NOT good for predicting ovulation. For that you will need to observe CM and/or use OPKs)

cheepz glad you found us. I hope everyone else will find us too!

applesaretheonlyfruit · 23/09/2009 12:47

Urgggggg!!!!!!!

Meita · 23/09/2009 14:26

apples I take it AF has still not arrived? Poor you. I do hope the situation resolves itself soon!
If it's any consolation, I'm on CD29 and still have only got negatives on the OPK. Oh, I know it isn't any consolation, really. But just wanted to moan a bit too

Wednesday

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD65
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-45 cycle 1 CD29
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD23
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD23
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD19
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD16
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD15
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD12
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD3

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD50
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD50

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September

Cheepz · 23/09/2009 15:51

I am on day 3 - woo hoo hate those first two days feels like a long time away from anything but by day 3 a) hormones are settling down, b) is less than a week from day 9 which is first potential bd day for me and c) everything is alot lighter so not scooting to the wc all the time to 'freshen up'.

apples must be driving you nuts - cant believe its been so long, heres me moaning about AF and you must be cursing the lack of arrival, doesn't say what cycle you are on but am assuming wtf cycle

meita must be frustrating for you too with a long cycle not to have any sign of progress. xx hang in there

mrsr hope you feeling less green today - although probably not - I am feeling green about your SIL so must be worse for you

tfls how goes it

hope barrenbrook chamo zayja and tigerbear all find us - and stressy, boodle and promenade ....

by the time dh gets back from business trip will be cd5 so that should accelerate the time this cycle too

Cheepz · 23/09/2009 15:52

whoops - there i go - obsessing and wishing my life away again

barrenbrook · 23/09/2009 16:51

Hello! I found you all, if I'm completely honest I didn't actually notice it was a new thread, yes I am that much of a numb skull

Super happy for the BFP's. Congrats if I've not already said it

So CD19 for me, am super grumpy and thinking I've missed the boat this month, we BD'd days 3,4,6,7,9,10 and nothing since cos of crappy shifts we've both been on.(I've got a CBFM and I was shown high on days 7-9 then peak days 10 and 11.

I feel a bit guilty for being miserable, I even think AF is gonna be a shocker this month as my cramps have started already with 9 days to go Goddamit!!!

Bugger. Onwards and upwards I suppose.
(barrenbrook heads to fridge for chocolate)

barrenbrook · 23/09/2009 16:52

Sorry, last post was a bit "me, me, me!"

Somebody hit me now!

boodleboot · 23/09/2009 17:01

i found you girls....

have had the first feelings of 'perhaps i could go through it again' today....

barrenbrook · 23/09/2009 17:17

Hey boodlebot, I'm so sorry about your ectopic, it is however good to hear that you are thinking of getting back to trying! Baby steps every day til you(and your body) are completely ready

How are you feeling?

boodleboot · 23/09/2009 17:29

well physically i have got the most appalling thrush that i have ever had. Apparently as i had it before the ectopic and hadn't managed to clear it as couldn't use pessaries incase needed to be emergency scanned, the antibiotics i am on for the PID and the surgery have just sent the thrush wild....TMI for sure....

mentally i am very accepting of what happened but still so gutted about the reduction in my chances of falling again....DH and i are waiting for our couples counsellor that we saw last year to call us back to make appt to see her for some sessions to sort out how we feel about not having a child between us versus trying and possibly failing to have a healthy pregnancy.

i hope this doesn't depress you all too much but i have been pretty haunted by the picture of my little bean and heartbeat on the screen and how awfully it went against every motherly instinct i have to sign the consent form for the surgery....totally irrational as i possibly wouldn't have survived without the surgery and my kids need me here and now but grief and loss don't feel very rational i guess. I hope my bean knew how much i loved it already...

MrsRigby · 23/09/2009 20:43

boodleboot that last paragraph has got me in floods of tears.

It's a bit of a rollercoaster this TTC. Yesterday I was confident that this was my month. Today I feel that there is no hope.

DH has just informed me that he is going to Madrid next week (work). Leaving me alone with 10 month old DS who by the way is teething and waking up at 12am, 2am, 4.30am and finally 5.30am.

I just hope I've already ovulated.

I've told DH to email his colleague and tell him that he can't go, as I'm possibly ovulating next week .

Cheepz · 23/09/2009 21:49

boodle so hard for you, but you are right your kids need you here.

barrenbrook I had cramps with ds for most of the 2ww, worse than normal pmt ... just an observation to give food for thought....

mrsr lmao at your wee fib to your dh, but sympathise as ds has been and still is diabolical sleeper - have read every book, tried everything and its better but inconsistent, normally worst nights are just before I have big presentation at work...

I am back from our 5 day wedding extravaganza where dh got to live it up and i dealt with the hassle of extended childcare abroad and now he has buggered off til friday on a work do, and is away for work again next week....

ds is 2 and abit and has just decided, tonight, that he is scared of the dark = 2 hour settling to bed, and is also going through a 'no' phase - although with him he says 'not' e.g. 't come and have your nappy changed' - 'not'; or 'can you come and keep your juice in the playroom please' - 'not'; 'will you do what mummy tells you' - 'not'; 'lets go and have our bath now' - 'not'... and so it continues, really, its not frustrating at all

applesaretheonlyfruit · 23/09/2009 22:22

Hi, finally caved in this morning and phoned the gyne unit that did the ERPC 65 days ago. Explained no AF - which they thought was a very long time and should be checked. Unfortunately there was not a protocol for them to check me without going through GP or going to A and E. All of which would have taken hours.

Still, worth it, as AF arrived this afternoon. So after more than two months of waiting I am finally on CD1...

Hi boodleboot, it is horrible the thoughts you have afterwards, particularly sad because your little bean was just in the wrong place..

thefatladyscreams · 23/09/2009 23:10

Oh yippppeeeeeee apples. That's one very long awaited CD1! At least the gyne unit validated that you've had an extremely long wait. Just hope it's not a horrible AF after all this time?

meita - I'm guessing that you were worrying about a possible underactive thyroid?? What are your temps like? I think they are meant to be consistently low in that scenario. Hope o/v waits for DP's return

MrsR - that's tough having to deal with SIL's news. Just to add to meita's advice on temping, I bought an expensive ear thermometer from a chemist. Turns out they are useless for temping and you need a Basal one which only cost me a few quid off Amazon. Typical!

Glad you tracked us down cheepz. You sound like you really deserve a treat and to be spoiled this weekend. Perhaps a couple of hints to DH that it's pay-back time !

[TFLS hands barrenbrook a huge bar of chocolate]. But it does sound like you're still in with a chance this cycle judging by the dates, so fingers crossed for you.

boodle at thrush. It never rains but it pours.... Oh I wish I could give you a hug. You know you did the ONLY thing possible but that won't take away the feelings of grief and what ifs. Having to sign that form must have been horribly symbolic. I guess it will take a while to work it all through and it's still such early days. I'm sure your bean knew how much you loved him or her and that won't ever change.

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Cheepz · 23/09/2009 23:19

go apples whoop

Cheepz · 24/09/2009 13:50

I moved you apples and its so good to see you no longer at the top of the list

Day going ok - have a day off tomorrow so feels like Friday

DS decided he was scared of the dark last night - it took 2 hours to settle him down brings new meaning to the word frustrating.

hope all ok today

Thursday

Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-45 cycle 1 CD30
Chamois TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD24
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD24
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 5 CD20
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 2 CD17
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD16
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 5 CD13
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD4
Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD2

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade

MIA
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD51
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD51

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (mc)
boodleboot (ectopic)
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
VivCliquot BFP 10th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September

LittleOneMum · 24/09/2009 16:07

Hello! (waves)

I couldn't abandon you, and was dying to see how everyone was!

boodle I had tears running down my face at your post. OF COURSE your bean knew that you loved him/her. And we know.

cheepz totally sympathise with the contrary 2 year old DS behaviour. My DS was 2 this weekend and it's as if someone flicked a switch and he suddenly started saying no to everything. AARGH. He's not afraid of the dark either but I'm sure it is just a matter of time (my friend strung a string of fairly lights in her DS's room when he started doing that, and it seems to work a treat).