Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

Hi all, how was everyone's weekend? I am feeling a lot better, not so tearful and feeling a bit more positive. However, I am wavering on whether to try again straight away or not. Part of me wants to just get on with it, and another part of me is just terrified.

Hi Shyla, sorry to hear you have had to go through all this three times. I don't think I can answer your question either but I suppose my guess would be it would put your cycle back to the beginning, but I really don't know as am not a medic. It is horrible all this waiting. Hope this cycle is a more positive one for you.

Btw how many of you have dc already, and if so how many? I am just starting to wonder whether I am completely mad to be considering a third and my miscarriage was meant to happen.

Lucky- I have 1 DC and you're not mad at all. These things just happen.

I feel like the MC is starting to hit me now. I haven't had my first AF yet but I know that I ovulated yesterday/today. Had the usual hip twinges and egg white etc. But DP has been all baby baby baby and tonight he's 'too tired' to BD.

And he said all I care about is getting pregnant.

And one of my best friends has just told me she's pregnant and she's thinking of getting rid.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr all these things happen at once.

What's up with my DP?

Hi girls!

its so sad to hear of all your losses but we must stick together and remain positive that we will all get sticky beans soon

Lucky I have 2 boys aged 8 and 2. I have always wanted 3 children so am really pissed that things are going wrong now.

totally My DH was a bit funny a few months back... gagging for it up until ov and then when it mattered he couldnt/wouldnt perform. after speaking to him he just said that the pressure of it was too much and he would prefer it if i didnt mention my fertile signs so he could still imagine that sex was spontaneous??

Well... blood test results were back last wk and it showed i didnt ovualate on day 15 like the sonographer said. I now have to wait for AF to show and then attempt the blood tests again next cycle.
Im feeling really low and to top it off ds1 is really poorly.

xxx

Bubble, don't worry, it will happen for you. It's good to know that about your DP, I'm going to stop mentioning babies and ovulation and things to my DP.

In a way, now I know we havn't BD'd while I was ovulating, I actually feel some relief for a month off of wondering. If it was just a normal month it would be ok, but when it's the month of MC, it's hard to work anything out and I've thought I've ovulated loads of times (but when I really did, I just knew).

It's a gorgeous day today, so hopefully we can all cheer up- I'm sure weather makes a difference.

So happy smiles ladies we can do it!!

Hello everyone {waves}. I've been using my clearblue fertility monitor, it "told" me to do an ovulation stick test this morning and then spent 5 mins analysing the results- all very weird. I could have told it that there's no chance of me conceiving on day 6 of my cycle and true enough it came back with this! From what I've read it takes the monitor a few days to get to grip with your cycle and once it has you have an 89% chance of getting pregnant using it after 2 cycles- this is what it claims, have to admit I'm a bit dubious....

Bubble - sorry to hear you're so low, though completely understandable. I'm meant to be meeting up with a pregnant friend this week and I think I'm going to cancel, can't face it. I'm happy for her (she has a m/c last summer) but all she can talk about is the baby in every sentence, normal I know but not very considerate when she knows my circumstances. Plus of course I'm .

Totally- hope your first AF turns up soon, are you planning on ttc next cycle?

A quick message from me as I am supposed to be doing my shopping order from Sainsburys and putting on the washing and hoovering and ironing oops!

Totally, I really feel for you as I hate it when my dh waivers even a tiny bit. Does it feel like it is being taken out of your control? Maybe he is feeling still sad about the mc. I think it can come out in strange ways with the dps. Mine shed a little tear on sunday when my ds got all teary about the dinosaur losing his mummy in the land before time.

Oh Bubble, I am sorry you are feeling low. Can you snuggle up with ds and watch star wars or something equally indulgent. Perhaps its time we cracked open some more of these. To hell with the baby diet. I bit of pink icing may do wonders for ewcm .

I have had three pregnancy announcements since my miscarriage. tis rubbish. Umm that wasn't really a quick message was it!

Thanks girls

engel my MC was in feb. I then had a 26 day cycle and then a 28. now im on cd29 and no sign of ovulation or AF. It doesnt surprise me as the cycle before i fell pg was a whopping 72 dayer!!

The scan showed that my ovaries were normal so the irregular cycles are not down to pcos.

i really want to keep ttc but im starting to feel annoyed that ttc consumes my every being. Feel like im fighting a loosing battle if im not even ovulating

Totally DH is much more reliable now. I hope that your DP relaxes more for next cycle.

Wow bubble 72 days, that's one long cycle. I also have monster long cycles too, usually culminating in evil pmt. Mine can be anything up to 45 days. Have you ever temperature charted? The last time I miscarried I bought this book.

It made me feel a little more in control and a little less obsessed. It is so hard to stop thinking about ttc especially after a miscarriage. Feel for you. Chin up girl. We'll get there in the end. Lets make a promise to be kind to ourselves while we wait. Have a very unmumsnet hug from me in the meantime (()).

lucky i have been charting with FF since sept 08. temps are slightly irratic due to ds2 still getting in with us at around 3am and then keeping me awake by fidgeting. i am being a bitch atm. think its pmt but no sign of the evil cow yet.

I have just bought that book you showed me. I will have a read and then when i go back to the gp i will hopefully know what i am talking about. Thanks

i had erpc on 30/4 so waiting to start again - not using any contraception and DH and i have decided to take the wax on - wax off approach and see what happens. i am going to let nature take its course for the next few months before i start looking at my ovulation cycles etc....i will be totally honest and it baffles me at the min...

i am definitely up for a bit of handholding and glad to join the thread...

hi I had my mc in march aswell. i have been bleeding ever since. some days its heavy flow & other days its lighter so I'm not realy sure when my AF exactly is or was. i'm giving it a few more weeks before i go my check up as the doctor said the bleeding could last up to 40 days/ so at the moment even though me & hubby are ready to get started at ttc again we cant. but i will be patient & it will also give my body some time to recover fully as i know my hormones are still hay wire. i would love to be pregnant before the end of this year tho. hopefully we will have 2010 babies. wouldnt that be cool. anyway good luck to all the ttc'rs.

Morning girls!

hi and welcome to Boodle and inshaaf.

still no af for me.

hi all
I've been having a tricky few days with my DH. I think he has also been suffering from performance anxiety too. I know I probably give him too much information re: cycles, ovulation, etc. But, I am finding it difficult to persuade him to be spontaneous so I thought stupidly the direct approach was better. His libido is pretty low at the best of times so I think this additional pressure is just too much. I know I need to take a step back but ... it's just so frustrating. We've been lucky to conceive 3 times pretty much on the first or second attempt and have one pregnancy that went to full term. I suppose I just need to relax ... ha ha ... and it will happen. I fear the clock is ticking and I just want to get on with it ... not very romanitc really, I suppose

Morning everyone .

Sorry to hear AF hasn't arrive bubblebell. I'm thinking of starting a sweepstake on when my AF will arrive this month. It would be so nice if our bodies could co-operate! Do you have any AF cramp like feelings?

Happybump- I've been making my DH 'rise'to the challenge as it were every other day, mind you we did this last month and were more bored rather than exhausted doing it. Know what you mean about the clock ticking.

Good morning everyone

can someone please tell me what is AF please?

i am still having some days where i am sort of bleeding but not really....very very light brown, not what i consider real 'periody' blood or enough to warrant anything other than a precautionary pantyliner which more often than not is clear - i was told by doc that i would be fertile and ovulate straight away after erpc....DH and i are desperate to get back on with making love and babies......should i wait do you think? we are not normally put off by a bit of hangover period stuff....

OMG - i hope that isn't too much information for you girls and i am not thrown out of here quick smart ha...xx

Hi all, I was having a quick lurk and just wanted to say to Liskey that exactly the same thing has happened to me since a mc last aug. Ever since then I have bled midcycle. I am waiting for a referral to have it checked out but generally no-one seems too concerned, this side of the menopause! I have used opts a couple of times to check I'm ovulating but i just feel that I'm unlikely to conceive with all this bleeding going on. Take iron!

boodleboot - AF = Aunt Flo = period ... well that's my understanding anyway ..., I'm still fairly new to the terminology

I am trying to get my head around when I ovulate and when the "right" to BD is ...

Englbart - I hear you on the "boring" comment ... sometimes it all feels a bit tragic/comic IYKWIM.

ah ok....auntie flo....i would never have got that by myself....

Hi. Don't know if it helps but when I obsessed about focused on my diet and being healthy instead of AF mine appeared! I have now been doing opks for a week without a positive an would not recommend them for the 1st real cycle post mc. I started temping before I got AF and found that helped me to feel more in control too. This is a very frustrating time for all of us, but at least we've got each other to moan to

we have committed to BD every other night til i fall preg. That said this is our first real attempt at sex for pregnancies sake....my recent lost bean was prob conceived on our wedding night feb 17th so a wonderful suprise but not mega planned....no doubt if this doesn't happen straight away the boredom will set in....x

Morning girls!

neeko i am trying to focus on my diet. i need to loose a stone atleast. Its not working tho. the sader i feel about the MC the more shit i eat.

boodle bding every other day sounds like hard work. gd luck

Still no AF... Im having alot of pain and feel really emotional.. i hope she turns up soon

Hi Bubblebell1 hugs for you, i had a mc in march, it took 6 weeks for af to turn up and im now waiting for my secound af to come, we have been ttc this month but the wait is endless, I'm just hoping i am/will get back to normal soon. i have done a hpt but was a bfn .
Hope af comes for you soon.

bubble - never have i felt like BD less since i made that little committment with my DH....oh dear. in the short space of time i was pregnant before my MC i mananged to put on half a stone....relaxed into the idea of having a baby and loosened up on the diet, even put on maternity pants! now back in my normal clothes i am really regretting that and feeling fat and flumpy...i empathise with you bubble....sadness is a good motivator to eat crap isn't it!!

Can I join you ladies? I'm ttc #1; My mc was early April and af has arrived today, day 42. Feeling v positive cos it means we can start looking ahead so sorry to hear about everyone's losses but it's good we all understand each other in here

Glad to know everyone else's dh wants it all to be 'spontaneous' too! My dh hates it if I get too clinical about it all Must be a man thing!

Hello everybody, a nasty cold-sore-throat virus has covered AF's imminent tracks, I think: I have had no pmt being too poorly to feel anything else and now on CD 25 I have noticed a little brown-tinged mucus when wiping (sorry TMI). Oh yippee.