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Anyone Planning To TTC From October

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VeryKeenForABean · 23/08/2008 20:49

Hi, I had an ectopic in May and am coming up to the end of my 3 month wait following methotrexate treatment. Need to wait for blood results in September but hope to start TTC from October. Feel really positive about the future and want to start looking forward. Anyone want to pass the time with me?

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MsG · 24/08/2008 13:20

Hi there. Sorry to hear about your ectopic. That must have been very traumatic for you. It's great that you're feeling positive! I am TTC at the moment. Had a mc last June and it hasn't happened yet, but I'm trying to stay positive.

What does the treatment involve?

xx

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VeryKeenForABean · 24/08/2008 20:41

Hi MsG, thanks for your reply. Sorry to hear about your mc, fingers crossed for you. The methotrexate is an intramuscular injection that helps the ectopic to stop growing and be reabsorbed into your body, hopefully avoiding rupture and the need for an op. It worked for me, but it does mean you have to wait before TTC again. You can read more here

Keep in touch!

xx

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MsG · 25/08/2008 13:46

That is great that it worked. And it looks like there is a very good chance of you conceiving again and it all working out. I keep reminding myself of the statistics of how long it takes on average to get pregnant etc. It's hard not to panic a bit as I got pregnant quickly last year and we're both a bit older now (39 and 35) and even though it's not old, we're obviously not as fertile as we were 10 years ago.

Was this your first pregnancy?

xx

SuziBhoy · 26/08/2008 13:25

Hi VKFAB

I am also waiting for the 3 months after methotrexate........ its a bummer eh?

Well I can start trying after 10th November, so i will pass the time with you?

Did you go on contraception? I am on the pill for the 3 months but am worried once i come off the pill that i need to give my body time to get the pill out its system. what u think?

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VeryKeenForABean · 26/08/2008 21:51

Hi MsG,

It was my first pg - we weren't trying, but just not trying not to iyswim! I didn't know I was pg as I bled around right time for af, but had severe pain a week later. I know what you mean about trying not to be impatient. I think I will find it hard to not fall soon after ttc, just 'cos it happened so easily this time. Fingers crossed for you x

Hi SB, great to have another post metho friend! Hope you are feeling better. Are your HCG levels completely down so you can start taking folic acid yet? I have been prescribed microgynon but decided to stick with condoms for the moment as I had some weird bleeding and pain for a while and wasn't sure about confusing the issue anymore! I think it will be fine for you though, it shouldn't be any different to others coming off the pill. Heard somewhere it can boost your fertility? (Might be a myth!) Have you got any follow up booked?

Keep in touch x

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SuziBhoy · 27/08/2008 12:21

Hey

oh its good to talk to someone goin thru the exact same thing!! Well i went for my last follow up about a week ago and they said my hcg levels were in the negative, so just told me to go on some sort of contraception for 3 months. but as soon as i get a bfp ive to make an appointment with the hospital again for an early scan.

It gets irritable waiting though, but will be worth it in the end i suppose

So how are you feeling now?

x

LullyMummaOfOne · 27/08/2008 13:09

Hi VKFAB,

Im starting TTC this month after suffering a missed miscarraige in July. My first AF has just finished so feel the time is right now.
Sorry to hear about you eptopic, im glad your feeling positive and wish you lots of luck with TTC.

MsG lots of luck for you too, im sure we will all have BFP very soon.

SuziBhoy · 28/08/2008 12:17

Hi lullymumma

good luck to you TTC, hope it all works out

MsG - think positive and relax, it will happen good luck

littlewifey · 29/08/2008 08:33

Hi everyone,
Hope everyone is ok this morning? I had a mmc last December. We weren't trying but weren't not- IKWYM verykeen :-) We were really excited but then were devastated when we found out it was all over. Just after, SIL announced that she was pregnant (husbands side of family) and then four people at work have all announced their pregnancies. Didn't intend to wait this long to ttc, but every time a new pregnancy was announced it set me back emotionally IYKWIM. Anyway, am ready to ttc again now, but am waiting til start of DEC as I'm a school teacher and want to try to time birth for after six weeks hols as will mean end of my pregnancy is during hols and less stressful for me. I know after my last experience it might not work this way but am trying to think positive! Anyway, that's my story and I'd love to wait here if that's ok? Have sort of felt in limbo since, as hang around mumsnet but don't really have a thread where I fit!!!!

SuziBhoy · 29/08/2008 12:28

well littlewifey you fit in here

sorry to hear about your MMC

ikwym about the emotions when someone in the family announces they are pg, and in my case other side of family aswell, but im not going to think about anyone else at the moment, no stress + positive thoughts = happy baby environment lol

So will you be trying for your first?

littlewifey · 29/08/2008 21:33

Thanks SuziBhoy :-) Yes we will be trying for our first, finding it hard to hold off ttc now that I feel emotionally ready, but know that the next few months at work are going to be very stressful and prob wouldn't help baby. You are right about no stress and positive thoughts. Are you trying for your first too?
I agree about trying to forget about others and focus on ourselves. It's sooooo hard though isn't it!!!

SuziBhoy · 30/08/2008 11:50

yeah it it soooo hard, also trying for my first.

Fell pg a recently but it ended in MC of one twin, and ectopic with the other. Bizarre eh?

So I am just waiting patiently (not)
and hopefully it will happen sooner rather than later.

I have a holiday booked to go away 2 weeks time so that is taking my mind of it a bit.

SuziBhoy · 30/08/2008 11:50

VKFAB how are you getting on?

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VeryKeenForABean · 30/08/2008 22:23

Hi, sorry I haven't been on for a couple of days!

Welcome Lullymumma and littlewifey, sorry to hear of your stories and crossing my fingers for you LM. Know how hard it is when everyone else has good news, but strange that some people upset me more than others?!

SB, glad to hear your follow up went well. I'm looking forward to my appt on 25th Sept. Think it will act as a confirmation that we're moving on iykwim.

Thinking of you all x

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littlewifey · 31/08/2008 17:20

Hi VKFAB, I know what you mean about some people's news upsetting you more than others! There are lots of people at work who are pregnant and I see them every day, but have coped ok with that. However, have found the forthcoming birth of family baby (BIL and his GF) very hard to deal with emotionally!
Hope everyone is having a good weekend? x

SuziBhoy · 01/09/2008 12:35

It deffo is hard, but do you know what i found the hardest........... having to tell everyone what had happened, because it was their reaction that made me feel uncomfortable and upset. I dont know why... any of you feel like this?

VKFAB It is strange when you look forward to the appointments.... i remember feeling great when they told me i was no longer pregnant and my hcg had returned to normal........... because as you said.. its all about moving on

x

littlewifey · 01/09/2008 17:03

Yes Suzibhoy, I know exactly what you mean about telling people. I was quite lucky as had hardly told anyone we were pregnant, and found out MMC during a private scan before 12 week one. However, had obviously told parents, inlaws and had had to tell my boss (due to being offered different job role) I hated the looks of pity when I had to break news of MC and it made me feel like such a failure, which I know prob sounds stupid! Have just found out today that another colleague is pregnant (5th since my mc)- I keep wondering when will the announcements end!!!

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VeryKeenForABean · 01/09/2008 18:09

Hi guys,

I think telling people is awful, 'cos not only does it make you think everything through again, but you know you're going to make them feel awkward and have to make them feel better and then feel that they are scrutinising you for your reaction too! I was off work for so long, I knew I was going to get questions, and I wondered whether to say "I'd rather not say" and seem a bit off, or tell people and deal with the conversation. i took the latter route with most people but not sure if it was best.

LW _ I cannot fathom why I am inconsolable with some people's news and quite ok about others - weird but just trying to go with it!

Thank goodness we all have similar feelings - means we can't all be mad!

Thinking of you all, xx

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littlewifey · 01/09/2008 21:28

I know! Every time a new pg is announced at work, I can feel those that know about me watching me closely to see how I react. It's like being in the zoo
But we def aren't mad if so many of us feel this way. Thank heavens for mumsnet eh?!

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VeryKeenForABean · 02/09/2008 19:19

Hope everyone is ok today? Am off on holiday at the end of the week, which will help pass the time until my appointment! Does anyone else find themselves wanting to have more to do to get ready to ttc? I kind of want to be reading something, but would feel weird getting pg books/magazines. Does that make sense? It seems most things are for when you are pregnant. Hopefully it won't be too long before we can all legitimately be reading these! x

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SuziBhoy · 03/09/2008 19:39

OMG started my third year at college the other day and 3 people have asked me if there is going to be an addition to my family......... wots that about..... do we send off a vibe that says we were pregnant or somethin lol.

man november seems so long away.... i cant wait lol

thinking of u all xx

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VeryKeenForABean · 04/09/2008 10:19

I know what you mean. Someone at work came up to me and said in from of everyone "I had a dream about you where you were really heavily pregnant...". Maybe on a phenomenal (?made up) level we give something out?.

Have joined (and gone to!) a gym to focus my getting ready energies!!

Take care x

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SuziBhoy · 04/09/2008 17:53

yeah thats a good idea, i started pilates, but just at home on the dvds, hard work lol

babyinarms · 04/09/2008 21:46

Hi everyone, sorry to hear all your stories , hopefully all will go well come oct, nov!
I did a pregnancy test mon and got a BFP, but bleeding today and now tested a BFN, i am upset but not so surprised as have been spotting all week, even for 5 days before AF was due. Anyway long and short of it i am now going to wait until oct to try again to allow everything to settle down a bit...so is it ok to join ye?

Verykeen and suzi, i know how hard it is to wait to try again also. I had a molar pregnancy back in 2006 and had to wait 6 months before trying again! But on a positive note i fell pregnant first month off the pill and now have a wonderful DD who will turn 1 next month...so there is light at the end of the tunnel!

SuziBhoy · 05/09/2008 11:45

hello babyinarms

ofcourse you can join us and wait impatiently lol

sorry to hear about your experiences, but as you said their is light at the end of the tunnel!

It must have been so hard waiting for six months! I mean 3 months is feeling like a life time to me but just cant imagine what you went through.

I think keepin busy helps me a lot, no time left to think about it really, and also the chats on here

x