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Anyone Planning To TTC From October

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VeryKeenForABean · 23/08/2008 20:49

Hi, I had an ectopic in May and am coming up to the end of my 3 month wait following methotrexate treatment. Need to wait for blood results in September but hope to start TTC from October. Feel really positive about the future and want to start looking forward. Anyone want to pass the time with me?

OP posts:
bluesatinsash · 12/10/2008 14:08

Hi littlewifey - sorry your've had a shit week, families eh?! At least your BIL and his partner live far enough away that they aren't around to upset you with all the new babyness. I totally agree how hard it is to be surrounded by pregnant people and new Mums.

DH and I have just had some "sky rockets in flight, afternoon delight" as the OPK clearblue digital gave me a smiley face last night! Still think my cycle is off this month but reassured that I'm at least ovulating. AF is due on 21st Oct. but as my last one lasted over a fortnight I think its not actually due until early Nov. Now in wait and see territory...

olivo · 12/10/2008 14:30

Hello. May I join you please? We will be ttc after the end of this packet of pills and I know some friendly support will be needed. I'm really anxious this time around; have a 2yo dd already and seem to be far more anxious this time. I am hoping to try accupuncture to try to manage my anxiety a bit, as i have also been very stressed with work and lack of sleep recently.

good luck to all.

VillageMum · 12/10/2008 14:36

Hi olivo - welcome. After my recent mc I'm anxious too abut ttc again... I'm sure we can reassure each other! ((virtual hug))

olivo · 12/10/2008 14:41

thanks VM. I'm not sure why i'm anxious, dd's conception was no problem, the pg was fairly straightforward and her birth and the few days after when we didnt know how she'd be were really traumatic. i guess I'm older now, know more people who've had problems, mc etc.
sorry to hear about you mmc and here's to some successful pgs soon.

VillageMum · 12/10/2008 14:54

Hi again olivo, was the birth of your dd difficult? You say that you didn't know for a few days afterwards how she'd be - or were these just the usual new parent niggles?

olivo · 12/10/2008 18:15

had an em c-sec due to foetal distress. she wasn't breathing for the first 6 to 8 mins and had to be 'worked on' . she spent a week in scbu but is now a healthy and energetic 2 year old. i guess i was naive the first time round as all my friends had reasonably straightforward births, i assumed i would too!i felt so out of control and it hurt so much - she was OP despite everything i tried to keep her the right way round. by the time i decided i couldnt cope with the pain, i was too late for an epidural.

the main thing is, she is fit and healthy now and we are very lucky for that. sorry to ramble, it'squite therapeutic to get it all out!!

LJ29 · 12/10/2008 18:24

Crikey Olivo it sounds like you had a really traumatic time. They do say tho that no 2 births are the same. With my DS I spent 18 hours in labour, he was also OP so I can sympathise, and I pushed for an hour and twenty minutes. With DD I was in labour for 3.5 hours and pushed for 3 minutes, so totally different. I know its easier said than done but try and relax, its better for you, your chances of conceiving and baby.

VillageMum · 12/10/2008 18:48

Hi olivo - I can see why you're anxious; that difficult birth must have left a residue with you. But LJ29 is right - the past is no predictor of the future and no two births are the same. On the positive side, you now have foreknowledge of what can happen, and will be so much better prepared mentally if things aren't textbook. And if all is straightforward (and there's no reason why it shouldn't be) then you'll be on top of the world.

I've realised I need to think positively too about any next pg - just because I've miscarried once doesn't mean it will happen again; it would be a totally different pregnancy after all! x

olivo · 12/10/2008 20:58

thanks guys, hopefully we can help each other be positive. I went over the birth with my midwife and she said there was no reason i couldn't have a natural birth in the future but would be given the option. I realise it was just bad luck. feeling more cheered, have just been to visit a friend who had a hard time first time round but has just had dc 2 and everything was so different and so much more calm.

you're right VM, every pg is different and it'll be fine for us all, hopefully.
thank you both for your words of support.

VillageMum · 13/10/2008 14:09

Hi olivo - so glad you've heard a success story in the form of your friend's experience - and that they'll give you an option about how to give birth next time.

Hmm, now we just have to get pg...

VillageMum · 14/10/2008 11:52

Hello again olivo - I was on a thread about amalgam fillings just now and saw you there - I'm having one removed tomorrow and hope to ttc around 4 November (am guessing I'll ov around then!) How long will you be waiting to ttc after having yours removed, if you don't mind me asking (has your dentist said anything about this?) Do you think it'll be safe to ttc 3 weeks after the nasty thing is out? Any advice MUCH appreciated... xx

olivo · 14/10/2008 19:55

Hi VM - have just posted on that thread. i think I'm naive, I assumed a few days would have it out of the system but now i'm not so sure. will have to do some research as I will quite happily avoid getting mine done for now. I also wondered if there was something you could take to minimise the risk, or to help it along ( vitamin, or something similar?) maybe we should post on health?

woollyjo · 14/10/2008 20:15

Hi Folks,

Think I may fit here,

Just started trying again after MCs in April and July (we have a dd 21 months old).

Not sure what I'm more worried about a positive or a negative result (caught v quickly on my last 3 pregnancies) but the next few weeks are going feel like an age.

olivo · 14/10/2008 20:44

HI Woollyjo. sorry to hear about your mcs, let's hope this thread is lucky for us all.

VillageMum · 15/10/2008 10:37

Hi woollyjo - all the very best of luck for conceiving and being pg again!

olivo, thanks so much for posting on the other thread.

bluesatinsash · 21/10/2008 12:19

VillageMum - did AF come as planned?

My AF is a no show today but as last one lasted 18 days (first one post m/c) think I'll hang fire doing a test for another week at least!

thegreatescape · 21/10/2008 12:25

Hi, wonder if anybody can advise me? Started ttc and period approx 5 days late and never usually late. Have been doing pg tests everyday all coming up negative. Have had a couple of headaches recently also. If you have an ectopic, i'm thinking the test would still show pos? Not sure if i read on mn of someone with an ectopic who had neg pg test, i'm probably just late but would appreciate any advice.

Sorry to be such an amateur!

littlewifey · 21/10/2008 18:34

Hi thegreatescape, not sure if I can be much help, but from what i've read on here I think that ectopic usually shows as a positive result. I'm sure someone will be along soon tho who can be a bit more help. Hope you get some answers soon.
Hi everyone else!! Any positives yet? x

Icantbelieveitsnotbitter · 22/10/2008 11:49

Hi - my DP and I are TTC - my 2nd and his 3rd !! Took my last pill (femodene) on 3 October and just wondering what experience people have had getting pregnant after being on the pill.

I wasn't actively trying to have DS1 - in fact we were actively trying not to have DC at that time but fell into the 1% of condoms that fail so I have no experience of TTC at all !

x

olivo · 22/10/2008 12:56

icantbelieve, I fell pg with dd within 6 weeks of coming off the Pill. i am finishing my current pkt tomorrow and hope to ttc dc2 as soon as possible. my GP told me that there is an increased chanvce of pg straight after coming off the pill,and no real need to wait for 3 cycles as some recommend. Can apparently be more difficult to date the pg but not a real problem.
good luck - i hope we are all sharing good news soon.

Icantbelieveitsnotbitter · 22/10/2008 14:30

Whoops, did think it might take a bit longer to get pg when coming straight off pill !! Certainly didn't know anything about waiting 3 cycles

Decided to end pill as the side effects were grotty and we discussed alternative methods of protection but in the end just decided to 'see what happens' thinking it might take at least 6 months to get a BFP

VillageMum · 22/10/2008 14:56

bluesatinsash - yes, AF came on the 17th, right on schedule, and has lasted four/five days as it used to... so I guess I am getting back to normal after my mc. Well, physically, at least - after much soul searching DH and I have decided to sit this cycle out before we ttc. I was all for getting right down to it immediately, but once the AF came it suddenly seemed all too real, I got panicky and depressed, and I realised that I actually need another month to get my head back together. So this is going to be my 'getting strong for pg' month... before we start ttc at the end of November! I went swimming again today for the first time since my mc. So many of my normal everyday habits have got suspended since the mc; would really like to get my life back on track before boarding the pg train again... (sorry about the railway metaphors! ) How are you doing?

Icantbelieve and olivo - I also fell pg six weeks after coming off the pill; apparently your fertility is slightly raised for the first few months afterwards, as olivo's GP says. Good luck both of you!!

theautomatic · 22/10/2008 17:08

Hello everyone, great thread, can I join? Sitting here imagining pregnancy symptons even though I know this is impossible as only bedded recently (16th and 18th October) but getting my hopes up. I know I'll feel devastated when AF turns up, though god knows when this will be as my cycle seems to have a life of its own!

Heres hoping for lots of BFP for us all soon!

memoo · 22/10/2008 21:56

Hi, I'm a bit late but can i join your thread? DP and I have just started TTC.

I had an ectopic3 years ago that ruptured leaving me with only one tube. It has taken me all this time to build up the courage to try again.

Already have DD age 9 and DS age 7 but I'm a bit worried that after ectopic I might stuggle.

peacelily · 22/10/2008 22:06

Hi, I'm joining late too, had mc 5 weeks ago, according to ov sticks have ovulated since and despite advice to the contrary did try, but am expecting AF soonish anyway.

Already have dd(2) and we are desperate for a 2nd, mc has hit me hard, usually quite a coper but struggle with feelings o loss sometimes.

Anyway will be back onto "it" big time come mid October!!