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Anyone Planning To TTC From October

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VeryKeenForABean · 23/08/2008 20:49

Hi, I had an ectopic in May and am coming up to the end of my 3 month wait following methotrexate treatment. Need to wait for blood results in September but hope to start TTC from October. Feel really positive about the future and want to start looking forward. Anyone want to pass the time with me?

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littlewifey · 06/09/2008 11:42

Welcome babyinarms, I'm very sorry to read about your MC, but we all understand here so feel free to vent your frustrations. I don't know about everyone else, but I find it so much easier to speak here than in 'real life'!!
Suzibhoy and VKFAB- I'm with you on the whole pregnancy comments from others. I got married just over 2 years ago, and as most ppl don't know about my MMC at work I've had loads of people nudging each time a new preg is announced and saying things like 'will it be you next?'. Obviously it's not their fault, but sometimes I want to kick them!!!
VKFAB - Are you off on hols this weekend? Anywhere nice? (Please don't make us too jealous )

VickyJane77 · 06/09/2008 16:32

Hi, I had MC back in June, and am waiting 3 months before trying again, so will be TTC in oct. I've been really fed up over it all, but now decided to be positive, as if anything happens again I can't stop it, so may as well be happy than sad! Can't wait now for AF, it's due in 2 weeks, just wish we could try now!!

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VeryKeenForABean · 15/09/2008 14:17

Hi everyone,

Am back from Spain (was v lovely but will say no more!!) So sorry I didn't say bye before going - entered that huge scrabble to get all ready etc and had no time for anything!!

Sorry to hear your news BIA & VickyJane - welcome to our little waiting room! Hopefully we can all pass the time together!

How's the pilates going SB? It's meant to be a really good form of exercise. i once went to a pilates on the ball class that I really enjoyed and always meant to take it up! Am restarting the gym this evening (have a post-holiday figure!!)

Hope you are all ok,

VKFAB xxxx

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littlewifey · 16/09/2008 20:49

welcome back VKFAB, glad you enjoyed your holiday. I would love to go away again, as work is a nightmare at the moment!! 3 people are all off on maternity leave in the next month or so and I feel !!!
Welcome also to VickyJane, sorry to hear of your mc. I think you are right to try to think positive thoughts. Speaking from my own experience, it's very hard though isn't it! Not long til October now though. Hope everyone else is ok? x

CamsMommy · 25/09/2008 01:33

HI. Hope You all don't mind if I join.
I found I was pregant Mother's Day but had to get the methotrexate shot early june.
My question:
When I got the shot the nurse administered it in 2 shots (one in each hip), I am wondering if that counts as just one injection since they were on the same day.

i recently had an hsg and my tubes were clear. we wanna try in oct, but i am just trying to clarify that my methotrexate shots actually only count as 1 shot. since my ovulation days will be almost 20 weeks since my shot. (almost 5 months)
thanks.
and i will be thinking about all of you!!!
i always pray for other mothers and families that have been through what we have!!
best of wishes.

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VeryKeenForABean · 25/09/2008 16:46

Hi CamsMommy, so sorry to hear about your loss. Hope your recovery has gone well.

That counts as one dose, my first dose was given as 2 injections. They split the dose as each muscle can only have so much liquid injected and it should be less painful in smaller amounts (although I had my 2nd dose as one injection and I think just one needle is better!!)Good luck with TTC -fingers crossed for you!

I have had my appointment, all my bloods are fine so we are go, go, go for TTC!! I hope all of you get the same positive news and October is a fertile month for all of us!!!!

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VeryKeenForABean · 28/09/2008 11:19

How's everyone doing? Hope all is ok x

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ellsbellzie · 28/09/2008 19:26

Hi everyone, anyone still on this thread me too wanting to try from oct?? After ectopic/misc?x

ellsbellzie · 28/09/2008 19:28

So sorry just realised this thread is still going, I only read the 1st page Derr!! Can I join You??x

littlewifey · 29/09/2008 19:51

Hi VKFAB, all ok here thanks. Well except for the fact that I just got my AF, which was late, so now doesn't look like I'll be trying till November- as have really long cycles since MMC grrrrr!!! How are you? Hi Ellsbellzie, you are welcome to join us. Sorry to hear about your ectopic/misc xx

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VeryKeenForABean · 01/10/2008 21:06

Hi Ellsbellzie, welcome! Come, join us! xx

Littlewifey, sorry to hear about the arrival of the horrid Aunt. Have been reading a Zita West book about conception, and she advises viewing "this as a time for renewal" (I'm inclined to view it as a time for eating chocolate) but am wishing you positive thoughts xx

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littlewifey · 02/10/2008 18:29

Haha, I like the time for eating chocolate- I've definitely eaten enough to keep cadburys in business this week!!! x

pop1973 · 02/10/2008 18:38

Hi, can I join your thread too ??

SuziBhoy · 03/10/2008 17:07

hey everyone

sorry av not been replying, been away in tenerife............. it was so what i needed.

Sorry to hear bout the latest experiences from everyone, but on a happier note... heres to trying again

So how is everyone doing???? wow october has came pretty fast dont u think? now ive just got to wait til nov!!

VKFAB - the pilates are going really well, just tryin to get back into it after the holiday! How r u doing?

littlewifey · 03/10/2008 17:34

Hi Pop1973, welcome to our merry little bunch :-) I think October has come round pretty quickly too, roll on November!!! Suzibhoy- where abouts in Tenerife did you stay? I really want a holiday!!!!! Don't think there is much chance for a year or so now though- if everything goes to plan with conceiving etc.. (fingers crossed)

spats · 03/10/2008 17:36

Hi i have been trying this week. my opk was pos on mon evening so i have done the whole BD thing and now have the dreaded 2 weeks wait for AF. Sorry to hear about all your problems girls. I think i had a very early miscarriage last month - only 4 1/2 weeks, (didn't test as too scred but AF overdue by 5 days which never happens) but still upset. Thought it would put my cycle out of synch but was OK. We do have to put up with a load us women dont we? I am definately coming back as a man!!!

SuziBhoy · 03/10/2008 20:26

ha ha spats, yes that sounds like an idea... i will coma back as a man aswell, so much easier. 5 days late? how long will you wait before you test? Let us know how u get on!

littlewifey - i stayed in a little place called sunningdale village (about 15 mins away from los cristianos), its a very quiet place but was lovely! i think i will be waiting for a holiday for a while aswell, if everything goes to plan

dawn37 · 04/10/2008 10:51

Hi everyone, I had methotrexate shot on 5th Sept, after a suspected ectopic (levels were slow rising-no pain or anything but too early to see anything on scan) finally had last blood test yesterday, my levels were less than 5. It was my 3rd pregnancy, but 1st with my 2nd husband, I feel so bad as he was so excited & it was my in-laws 1st grandchild. We are moving on but cant wait to ttc again, its been v traumatic for us as the hospital have made me go for bloods every other day until now (I think maybe they were secret vampires or something!) I'm a little anxious as I am 37 now & it usually takes so long to conceive, however this last pregnancy I managed it within 3 months of clomid, so have my fingers crossed all will be well when times right as my age is bothering me. Does anyone now when I would be able to try again..is it 12 weeks or 3 calender months? could mean difference between end of Nov or Dec (god I sound so desperate!) Anyway, good luck to everyone

littlewifey · 05/10/2008 08:58

Hi Dawn, I'm afraid I don't know much about methotrexate, but I'm sure there will be someone along soon who knows about how long you should wait. You don't sound desperate at all, and I shall be keeping my fingers crossed for you. I know what you mean about the first grandchild- it was my inlaws first one too then I had a MMC. Then within a month, brother in law and his gf were pregnant. Baby is due this week- and I'm finding it really hard. I feel like a cow, but feel really jealous about it, although obviously wouldn't wish anything bad on them or the baby.
Spats- you are right- men have it SOOOOOOO easy! Keep us updated for the 2WW.
Suzhiboy- holiday sounds fab
Hello everyone else. Hope you are all having a fab weekend?

dawn37 · 05/10/2008 09:38

Yes littlewifey, I'm in same boat, my cousin just had her baby & noone wanted to say. I feel everytime a baby is in my vicinity, friends are watching my reaction, whoever said it on here about being in a goldfish bowl was absolutely right! Anyway, it is my wedding anniversary on Tues, so at least I will be able to drink (I'd rather be pregnant) I just hope I don't end up drunk & start crying, I've done extremely well keeping it together in front of people!

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VeryKeenForABean · 05/10/2008 12:00

Welcome Pop!

Hi SuziBhoy - glad to hear you had a great time in Tenerife! It's so hard not knowing what to plan for the future isn't it! DH & I have always wanted to go skiing but wouldn't want to go if pg. However, if we don't get pg it would be good to have something to look forward to! Glad to hear pilates id=s going well. I am def feeling fitter than I was. Can swim quite a few lengths without gossip stops now! November is not far away for you and Littlewifey!!! Dawn, I had methotrexate in June, and found the advice from the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust so helpful. Have a look here. The advice varies but is essentially based around you having a measurable cycle and your folate and iron levels being back to normal. I waited 12 weeks from the first dose and had bloods done to check levels. You also need to have been taking folic acid for at least 6 weeks before ttc again. I was so desperate to start ttc again and completely understand the way you feel. However, I am glad that I managed to wait (with the help of MN!) as I now feel prepared and know I've done all I can to get it "right" and if something awful happens again, I can hopefully reassure myself with that. Thinking of you x

Spats - we are both on the 2 ww! Fingers crossed for you xx

I am enjoying a lovely w/e off doing v little - hope everyone else is having a good time too!

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dawn37 · 05/10/2008 13:29

Thanks for your comments girls, you've been really supportive, its reassuring when you've got people going through the same thing, rather than expecting you just to move on. Does anyone know when I can start taking folic acid, my last blood test said my hcg levels were now zero but I can't ttc until end of Nov

spats · 05/10/2008 13:31

verykeenforabean - glad found someone on the 2 weeks wait with me. This wekend has gone so slowley i am waiting for the week ahead as it rushes past with work and school runs etc and then will soon be time. Mind you i felt really weepy yesterday, possibly a pmt sign which put me in more of a bad mood- wasn't v. pleasent to be round yesterday!!! I just want to hibernate for the week, wait for AF and if she comes get on with trying again. HURRAY UP NEXT WEEK PLEASE!!!!!!!!!

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VeryKeenForABean · 05/10/2008 13:41

Hi Dawn, have just re-read EPT methotrexate advice, and they actually say 12 weeks of folic acid before ttc again, but you can get levels checked before ttc and make sure they are normal. You can start taking supplements as soon as levels are zero, because the metho has worked and they won't interfere with its action now - check with epu/GP to be sure. Good luck x

Hi Spats - am trying not to think about it. Am more focused on being able to try again next month too as not sure we bd'd enough this time round. Have the tests lined up and ready!

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LJ29 · 05/10/2008 14:02

HI, I am trying to conceive baby number 3 at the moment. This is my 2nd month of trying which I know isn't long but a bit of a surprise to me as first 2 were conceived straight away. This week end has been the all important few days for BD'ing but really struggling with DH. He is normally all over me but think he is finding the demands of having to perform a bit stressful. Really frustrating as he doesn't seem to get the fact that the window of opportunity is so short. I've tried to make it fun and a little bit less of a military operation but i just end up feeling guilty for even trying to get it on!