TTC and 35 +, all those who are worried their ovaries are not as sprightly as before

[DarrellRivers]

After 18m persuading DH, we are finally (v gently ) TTc no 3.
As I am now 35, am convinced my fertility days are behind me.
Anyone in a similar position and needing to share support?

Can't stop crying....

slippers congratulations crying is allowed

Not sure how to tell DH.
He wasn't massively keen for a number 2, but we decided to stop using contraceptives and not 'officially' try but see what happens. It took quite as long time to conceive dd so figured it would be the same for no2. How wrong we were....

I mentioned in passing yesterday I could be pg, and his jaw dropped. We joked about it a bit, and he said if I was he didn't want to know, and we had a bit more of a laugh about it. Am sure he will be thrilled but also

Hurrah - and congratulations Hope your DH is as excited and happy as you are.

Thanks SFX and Beanie. Really pleased you're both here holding my hand . I don't want to tell anyone in rl (except DH of course). Just had to go back upstairs to check the test again. It still says PG definitely didn't misread vit. Also says 3+ weeks since conception.

Can't wait for more +ve results from this thread.

Were you using one of the new clearblue tests - the trial ones?

slippers my dh is a bit like that he always tells me it is just best let nature take its course as if at my age
and he finds it hard to be excited for what is pretty much an abstract idea but he is a great father

am sure it will be fine the poor dears need a bit more help i think

fab fab news

Hi There,
I got a trial test from mn.
We have been trying for 8 months, had a mc in March.
Every month now, i hope and hope.
Maybe this month..fingers crossed for all

Just spoken to DH who trundled off to his work toilets to be told the news. He's taken it in his stride, but also said he's a bit scared. I think that's a fairly common reaction.

Beanie I applied for the free test quite early on but still not received it. Went to our local chemist this morning and bought a test. It was a Clearblue digital (on offer hence I got that one!), that told you how long it was since you conceived. I thought they sounded exactly like those that were being tested here but also thought they weren't out until October?

SFX I wonder if that's mens way of 'coping'? The bury head in sand and everything will be ok approach?

Hi Deany you will get lots of support from this thread. Good luck.

Not quite sure what to do now. Think I might just lay down after all this excitement. Thanks once again guys

Hi all. I'm back from hols and tried to catch up on everyones news- but was skimming as there were so many messages. SLippers and pipe congrats on your bfp.

There is no way i will be up the duff this month as am fairly certain ov on holiday and dh chickened out on under canvas sex. Though we did spend more time worrying about whether the tent would still be standing in the morning, wiht all the gales and rain!!!

Big Congratulations Slippers and Pipe!!!!That is fantastic news.
Hope your baby dust rubs off on everyone else

congratulations slippers, wonderful news.
I was very bad and tested sat which was CD26 and was negative (was left in the house for a few minutes by myself)
Shouldn't have done it, so will wait now until period or at least CD32 (hits self around the head)
Am off shopping tomorrow so will buy lots of things as distraction therapy

I am officially mad started feeling nausea last night and have been faintly nauseous all day, nips hurt
someone put me out of my misery I am imagining things surely

It is most likely you are imagining things.
I can now make myself feel sick, just by thinking I feel sick
Rotten isn't it

Hi All

I haven't been on for a while, so congratulations to Slippers, well done, and am sorry to bring everyone down but have just had the most awful few days and am so desperately miserable. After getting tested for my fertility (which was all ok) I then got a positive ept, which resulted (today) in an early m/c, it was a chemical pregnancy, hate that term. I've now had 2 miscarriages since April and am so devastated I just don't know what to do with myself. I don't even think I can be bothered to try again it's too depressing. i guess I should be grateful I have one baby already. I can't take the disappointed. Sorry to vent, but I feel like I can't even talk to my husband about it.

wondermum, it is awful, it happened to me last year
sending you lots of hugs over the internet, concentrate on the good things, your lovely baby, and share on mumsnet, it does help having others to talk to
and so sorry for your loss

Thank you. I feel destroyed and don't know why I feel like that, it's just like a late period, but I so desperately wanted another one and all my friends are starting to announce. I don't want to go anywhere or see anyone because everyone keeps asking when are we going for number 2, and I know we've been trying for a while. Did the same thing happen exactly? How long have you been trying - you have 2 don't you, that's all I want, one more to make us a family of four in all!!

oh wondermum I am sorry I had a mc last year late November and only just got back trying I have had 3 prior to having dd now 3.

it is soul destroying at times personally I feel the need to grieve and take my time recovering but everyone is different.
I also feel time is running out but try t block that one out and have set myself a time limit to conceive before giving up altogether

it is the only way I feel able to cope

Do you mind me asking how old you are? Why have you given yourself a time limit? Have you had testing or anything done? I am 38 next month...I had no trouble conceiving my son, it happened immediately, then had an accident but miscarried and now another one... yet everyone around me seems to conceive easily and quickly!!!!!!

I am 39, 40 in Feb its in my profile

I have given myself a limit because I feel otherwise I will just keep on hoping and will not be able to move on, btw dh can't quite understand why either but I have my reasons
I have PCOS which seems to be the main problem only mc after mc is not something I can cope with but everyone is different

I know what you mean abut others but it is not always so people don't often talk about mc but it is quite common
it is hard to explain my reasons for the time limit mostly because they are fairly personal I don't mean to be difficult

I understand where you're coming from, and I am thinking that you're very wise in having a time limit, I don't know if I'd have the discipline to do that. How easy was it (or hard) to conceive your dd? You're not being difficult either, everyone does things differently, and I know in my heart, that others have also had their blips, but a lot don't, and you end up giving yourself extra stress which doesn't help things.

We are out next weekend with pregnant people, it's hard, because you want to get up and shout that you too want another baby, but you are having problems so please shut up!!! I'm terrible aren't I, I really am pleased for people but just want to join the club!! I miss being pregnant.

My mum said to me in her day they had to wait a good week or so after their period was late before they could take a test, we unfortunately can test before a period is due be excited and then be bloody disappointed! I think I prefer my mother's day, better the devil you don't know!

wondermum no it did not take long with dd I had a mc 3yrs prior and did not feel like proper trying for a long time

a friend had fertility treatment and her consultant suggested she had a number of tries in mind before starting and that for her own sanity he suggested she kept to it, it made sense to me

That's a good idea, I think I might mention it to my consultant