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TTC and 35 +, all those who are worried their ovaries are not as sprightly as before

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DarrellRivers · 20/06/2008 10:27

After 18m persuading DH, we are finally (v gently ) TTc no 3.
As I am now 35, am convinced my fertility days are behind me.
Anyone in a similar position and needing to share support?

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nutherone · 23/07/2008 22:57

Hello, can i join in? I'm a long time lurker but now TTC number 2 at age 38, only on my first month but have already become completely obsessed and thinking mumsnet might help. Or will it just fuel my obsession? . First baby was concieved by happy accident so i have no idea how fertile i am.

I worked out my ov date last month assuming i had a 14 day LP but think i might be wrong. Typically this is the first time i've been late in ages and of course convinced i was pg with loads of symptoms but tested neg and came on today 4 days late.

This cycle i want to do it all by the book so have a thermometer and ov testers (cheap sticks from ebay) at the ready and will start temping tomorrow

Any hints, tips, commiserations, similar experience with first month ttc.??

hattscat · 24/07/2008 07:42

I too am 38 and TTC number 2. DS is just 2 and I had a miscarriage at 18 weeks at Christmas. This is fourth cycle, am taking temperature and having acupuncture - fingers crossed!

ClairePO · 24/07/2008 08:28

Just booked a doctors appointment for 10.10 to discuss not conceiving after 10 months of trying aged 36 and partner aged 35. I am just hoping I don't given the brush off and get told to keep trying. I suspect today will be CD1 cycle 11 so maybe I will be able to get the first test done soon - they are CD3 and CD21 aren't they?

ClairePO · 24/07/2008 08:29

Oh and it's for number one for us - I had a miscarriage last September. We'd been not trying but not preventing for maybe two years, relying on avoiding sex in the middle of the cycle (my cycles are fairly standard 27/28/29 days).

summerbird · 24/07/2008 09:02

welcome nutherone hattcat and clairepo stick with us and you will get lots of tips. i am just relying on my instincts at the mo as my cycle is absolute clockwork, i can even feel the moment i OV.

i have two test sticks in the bathroom but am being good and not testing until after day 28.

was watching locationx3 last night and when kirstie n phil went back to the couple a year later they had a baby... for the first time in the almost 6 months of ttc i got a little dewy eyed, i just managed to get a grip!

mummyontherun · 24/07/2008 11:14

Recent messages have mentioned how strong people are when it comes to holding back the tears - I am hopeless (unless I tell myself that if I cry other people will get upset - that helps!)

Cried twice on way to work listening to news and how kids sent out to Australia got separated from their brothers and sisters....

Think its all this TTCing getting me down and PM bloody T - i know this is the case because i cracked and tested and its a BFN - but what it really feels like is "I AM A BFN" and that makes AF even more of a drag....That's especially true (the BF part) this month because I allowed myself to believe my carbohydrate cravings were a symptom (good grief ) rather than pure greed so I've put on a good few pounds which won't help either, will it?

Leaving on holiday tomorrow and I'd made the mistake of imagining how lovely it would be if I was expecting...Sigh!

Lets hope the lack of stress from work helps!

BTW all those who are coming into contact with babies which must be sooo hard - can I offer a totally non-scientific crumb of comfort? I read somewhere (or something...) that contact with babies can help with conception (bit like how periods synchronise in women who live together) so cuddle away!

Good luck to all who are waiting - Darryllrivers you are so strong - wheel your bag whenever you get testing urge!!!!

So sorry to hear of all these mc's, does put the whole thing into perspective...

Still, got about a week to go before its back to it!!!

summerbird · 24/07/2008 12:09

oo give me that baby - i shall be hugging all the more on saturday! i am really looking forward to seeing her anyway!

enjoy your holiday mummyontherun why dont you make sure you do all the things you wouldnt have been able to do if you were pg - at least you wont have any morning sickness to wreck the day

ClairePO · 24/07/2008 12:10

Doctor was kind and am going for CD2 test probably tomorrow. She said as my cycles are regular that PCOS and early menopause are unlikely. Not sure about that but the tests will tell.

I feel like I haven't been on mumsnet conception threads for ages as I deliberately trying not to get too psyched up, but I come back and this thread was nice to see!

SpangleMaker · 24/07/2008 18:21

Hi & welcome nutherone hattscat ClairePO nutherone mumsnet will most definitely fuel your obsession as will FertilityFriend

hattscat ClairePO sorry to hear about your miscarriages. Hopefully this thread will bring us all some luck soon.

summerbird I saw locationx3 last night too, and felt exactly the same - was about their house too - knew I should have gone to medical school!

mummyontherun sorry about your BFN , what you say is so true, it's like the blank stick is saying 'you are a failure'. It's so hard not to test though, isn't it? This month I've taken the approach of doing several in an effort to dampen the impact, but it hasn't really worked.

Hope you have a nice holiday - go and indulge in some lovely summery cocktails (mmmmmm........ )

SpangleMaker · 24/07/2008 18:22

not sure what's with the random * *

DarrellRivers · 24/07/2008 20:07

DH wouldn't watch Location Location Location again.
I loved their house the last time.
D28 here. Am sure I have thousands of symptoms but feel my body is betraying me as these could all be pre-menstrual
Am so so so tempted to test, but have managed to get through today without.
At least I feel full of hope when I don't test and then taste the reality of a BFN
Welcome everyone.
We need one of those lists where everyone signs in.
Have no idea how to do that though

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summerbird · 24/07/2008 20:44

Hi spanglemaker those doctors didnt deserve that house, am sure all of us on this thread could have moved in with them and still have plenty of room..! I felt a bit silly as i should really be weepy at my two friends being uber fertile, am prob just coz they had far too much money!

D18 and nothing to report, darrell hang on in there you never know you could have classic symptoms - good luck! I am on another thread and two of the girls have had BFPs this last week so am trying to send the vibes over here!!

hattscat and clairepo i just read about your MCs, am so sorry to hear that, it happened to my friend last year and she is the one who has now just given birth to her DD, so there is some good karma out there

dharma · 24/07/2008 21:29

Thanks summerbird and spanglemaker for your support!

Have had some acupuncture today, so am feeling upbeat again! Think I will go to the docs if this cycle does not work out.

As I am 37 next Thursday , it will be good to go after that.

Have also bought some ovulation sticks for this month and am taking my temperature every morning - this is the most attentive I have been ever, so am hoping it will work! (yeah, right!)

flowerfairy · 24/07/2008 22:40

Hello to all the new recruits.

Mummy on the run have a super holiday and relaxing may help with conception you never know.

Have to tell you of my self pitying moment this morning tidying out ds drawers to find a place for school uniform (sob at ds starting school in sept) had to move all the nappies i used for him and just dissolved into tears at thinking i would save myself money by buying them and using for a dc#2 and they sit in the ddrawer being unused and just htought i'll never use them again. Keep thinking about selling and getting rid of all baby stuff, but can guess what might happen the moment i got rid of them!

flowerfairy · 24/07/2008 22:49

Just to add will be popping around for daily cuddles with new nephew if this holds any weight. And i'm pretty much willing to give anything a go atm.

summerbird · 25/07/2008 08:49

flowerfairy dont get rid of anything, do you have an attic? can you put them all in a suitcase in there which will be out the way but still in the house, it would be silly to throw them away.

My sister in law has four DCs so am hoping she has kept all of her baby stuff for moi, should it EVER happen.. on that note my DH had a dream last night that i was PG (he was sooooo cute about it this morning!). Hope this is a good omen and not one of those 'complete opposite' dreams!

Happy friday everyone

dharma · 25/07/2008 09:06

flowerfairy, you should definitely not throw the clothes away. summerbird is right - store them out of sight (so you don't get any more of those tearful moments), but in the house somewhere.

That's what I have done - I got a load of boxes and now all clothes from ds1 are in the cellar waiting for the day that they may get used again.

summerbird - let's hope it is a good omen! (fingers crossed!)

Anyway, it's the weekend (nearly!) HURRAH!

wasabipeanut · 25/07/2008 09:14

Hello I thought I'd make myself known here. Dh and I are now "officially" trying for dc2 after taking a risk last month, me then convincing myself I was preggers and then getting very upset when I wasn't.

Has made me realise how much I want dc2. DS is nearly 11mo and I was 35 in Feb so starting to get a bit concerned about dwindling supplies!

Because ds was conceived so easily (honeymoon baby) dh hasn't really taken me seriously when I say I want to start trying now because it might take a while. I have now managed to convince him!

flowerfairy · 25/07/2008 09:19

Summerbird hope that dream is a good sign.
good morning wasabi
Enjoy the weekend all and hope that the sun shines for us all.

summerbird · 25/07/2008 15:17

i am hoping dream is a good omen too!

wont be online for most of this weekend as will be with my friends new baby, so have a good weekend girls and BD away!!!!!

DarrellRivers · 25/07/2008 16:24

I am a weak willed individual [berates self]
I have taken a test, on CD29, 13 DPO and it was negative.
Serves me right.
Roll on period
Have a lovely weekend everyone

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flowerfairy · 25/07/2008 18:14

DR. Any chance it's just too early? AM only having afew cramps every now and then and some nausea but i have these with pmt. But do not seem to be having foul mood swings as per usual, but that may just be cause i'm on holidayand less stressed. Though do keep having to figtht the urge to test, normally i don't think there is any point and still don't but having to distract myself to not test. May have to even give them to dh to hide.

SpangleMaker · 25/07/2008 21:51

Darrell, it's a horrid feeling. Do you know how long your luteal phase is? Could be time yet.

Day 31 here, this is now officially my longest cycle ever. Grrr - I thought the one thing I had going for me fertility-wise was that I have v regular cycles - now it seems not.

Hello to everyone, hope you all have a nice sunny weekend!

[am now off to thrash myself for taking 5 yes FIVE tests this month]

DarrellRivers · 25/07/2008 21:57

I've only known one luteal phase of 10 days so far, and this one will be 13 days so far.
I think my period is on the way, and am a little gutted as probably won't be much chance for trying next month as really busy around ovulation.
Oh well, I feel a little more relaxed about it all this month.
I am lucky to even be trying, I am lucky I have 2 gorgeous children and so if it is going to happen, it will , if not, then that's fate
Oh spangles , 5 tests
That's cheered me up

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SpangleMaker · 25/07/2008 22:08

I'm going to nick flowerfairy's idea and give them to DH next month - he will really strict... "WAIT and SEE!!"

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