***Lets support eachother again- you know who you are ***

[mummy2olivia]

charliesmum, nandos, beakas, sugr, cornflower, poppy, becky and everyone else who miscarried in may/june 2008....

We have all been very brave together and supported eachother. For those of us that are ready, it may be time to support eachother again as we return to TTC. Lets hold hands, remember our loss and give a nod to the future as we endeavour to procreate and............

SHAG!!

As promised, a thread to stay in touch. Will also see you on the MC avengers thread.

Hello all and welcome to Tattifer. Sorry to hear about your recent losses. This thread has been a total lifeline for me and I couldn't have coped since my last MC last May without these guys here and the support and friendship they have provided me. We were all on the 'due December 08' thread and sadly all had an MC last Spring and started this thread to support each other. I am nine weeks pregnant now (you guessed the weeks correctly Nandos). I mark each week with The Apprentice as each Wednesday I am a week further. I feel nicely sick today so that is good! I had terrible miscarriage dreams last night, dreamt I was bleeding everywhere, and woke up in tears. Nandos did you have such dreams early on in your pregnancy? It was so horrible.

I am wearing my new knickers today (one pair of them) you'll be pleased to know.

It is cold in Wales today so we have been on the beach in our winter coats! We lasted 30 minutes before we went to a cafe for a drink. Even now in the caravan my hands are cold and I'm contemplating working out how to put the central heating on.

Nandos I bet you look like one of those yummy mummy-to-bes with your neat bump. I was like that with DS1 (but not with DS2 when I just looked like a very large space hopper).

mbm have a good time with your visitors! I'm going to go look at your pics now...

Ooooh lovely pictures! I ought to put some more up too.

Becky LOL re space hopper - post those pics

Becky, lol re new knickers today
i, on the other hand doesnt forget to bring any when going on trips..in fact brought extras just in case staying longer than expected will have phobia if i have less/none
re dreams, i didnt have any mc dreams but theres one recently when i dreamt baby's feet came out from my tummy and i screamed in my dream! it sounds funny now but in my sleep it really feel real..
oh btw your cats are really cute...i wish i could touch it a friend of mine told me its not safe to touch stray cats here so i am avoiding contact. shes a doc and said it might cause mc so becareful when handling your cats too becky MBM
your baby boy is so tall and big now
i still love that baby pic with you in front of the camera/computer screen soo sweet

got to go now as contractors will be coming soon..take care everyonee

Morning all!

Thanks nandos I love that one too! Seems like yesterday that he was so little and now look at him The time has passed far too quickly...
Your dream sounds awful, very upsetting. When I was pg with ds I dreamt that I had a 'fling' with dh's grandad of all people Was very vivid, and an absolute nightmare, and it left me feeling really weird for the rest of the pregnancy because I felt like I wasn't sure who the father was. Pregnancy dreams really are incredibly real aren't they... I did tell dh about it and although he laughed I think he felt a little disturbed

I also used to dreamt really gruesome things, like about people having their hands chopped off with chainsaws Think it is a really good sign that you and you Becky are having horrible dreams!

Becky I'd love to 'forget' my knickers and have to buy some new ones - mine are ancient! It's nice wearing new underwear isn't it.
When are you back from Wales? Hope it's a wee bit warmer for you today.

Poppy How are you? Hope all is well and that ds is better?

tattifer how are you doing? Am thinking of you x

Off to watch Peppa Pig with ds now as friends have just gone. He keeps making snorting noises in my ear, which is not going to stop until I put the DVD on. 'Peppa Pig, la la lalala, la la la lalala' Off we go......

I'm back! I miss Wales. Aki the cat is driving me a bit mad though: I think she has missed us as she's only had DH for company and he is very boring when he's on his own as he just sits at his computer.

It was nice buying new knickers but they are novelty knickers as they were in the sale: I have one pair with pigs on, one with cow print and a spotty pair. The DSs love them!

Hehehe re knickers Becky Love the sound of the spotty pair! Novelty knickers are the way forward......
How are you feeling?

Hi you guys

I hope you are all well and enjoying your weekend. I had my midwife booking-in appointment today. It took ages and ages and there were so many questions about family health and history and stuff. She had a feel of my belly and said she could feel the uterus so I guess that is a good sign! I have no idea. I'm nine weeks 4 days today. Woohoo! Scan is two weeks tomorrow. Ahhhhhh!

I'm not wearing my novelty knickers today as they are all in the wash now but I am quite fond of them. DH likes things to be matching but I hardly ever wear matching underwear!

DH is bathing the DSs at the moment so it is quiet down here.

I'm not looking forward to tomorrow: back to work / school / routine. Blaaa. I think it should be the summer now.

I hope you are all well xxxx

Hello!

V quick one from me as cooking supper - I too am back to work tomorrow Becky, it's depressing isn't it... So pleased the appt today went well I shall be waiting anxiously for you to have your scan in two weeks Can't believe it has gone so quickly, although it probably doesn't feel that way for you

Nandos and Poppy how are you both? Hope all is okay and that you've had a lovely weekend? What have you been up to?

Right, must go and do potatoes - dh got a quiche from the bakery this morning, and it's one of those surprise ones where we don't know what's in it... On close inspection it has walnuts on the top and what looks like goats cheese and it smells yummy

Love to all xxx

becky just love the sound of those novelty knickers - they are the kind of thing my ds would love too
So glad your booking in appt went well and it sounds like all is well so hopefully that must put your mind at ease a little. Can't believe it's only two weeks till your scan - that's really exciting.

MBM your pics are lovely. I really will try and load some on this week. Will try and post one of ds with his big gappy smile as another tooth came out on thursday night, a big top front one. It is so cute now seeing his smile. He was v excited as the tooth fairy came and left £2 under his pillow. The rates have gone up since I was a lass .

nandos the creepy dreams must be really scary for you but all pasrt and parcel of the wonderful world of pregnancy

tattifer how are you this week?

I was at a 40th with my friend on fri night and it was quite good. Don't get out v much now and always end up with the "what will I wear" dilemma as I spend most of my life in jeans!

On sat we took ds swimming which was a big breakthrough for him as that was his first time in a proper swimming pool as the water and the noise have always frightened him in the past but he loved it so we were delighted. Have been having v bad migraines again recently. No idea what the cause is but had one all day yesterday and today and it is no fun as it really wipes me out. Any tips to prevent them are welcome

xxx

Poppy poor you. I have no tips though. I've only ever had one migraine and that was on holiday a couple of years ago and it made me see fuzzy lights. I thought I was dying until DH pointed out it was probably a migraine. My mum used to get them and they used to knock her out all day. Hers were triggered by stopping work and the weekend starting. My grandma used to get them from cheese or red wine. Does anything trigger yours off, that you know? Could it be stress?

The tooth fairy rates have gone up! I used to get 10p... perhaps that is showing my age.

I've had a really sicky day today. I know I am sooo lucky compared to many, esp poor Nandos over Christmas and beyond though so even when I'm sitting on the kitchen floor wanting to throw up at least I'm not throwing up all the time. I really miss hot drinks too. I just can't stomach tea or coffee. Yuck double yuck!

Well, better go, DH is bathing the DSs again so I should be 'resting up' or something.

Hello!!! Long time no 'see'! Have had very hectic week back at work, and just not had time to post, sorry!

Poppy poor you having migraines, they're awful Have you had more since you posted? Hope not. I don't have any tips, other than just to make sure you're drinking enough, but then if it's a proper migraine I doubt that'll make any difference. My MIL gets awful ones, but has tablets to take when thy start coming on which helps, but probs not a good idea when ttc.
That's great re your ds Water can be scary can't it. How old is he now? I didn't start swimming til I was 11, and have been scared of water ever since
Thanks re pics i would LOVE to see some of your pics, am dying to be able to put a face to yours and Nandos names!

Becky How are you feeling? Not long to go til the scan now... What you said re sitting on the kitchen floor just takes me back to last summer, and feeling too ill to even sit on a chair. Urgh. It's awful, but as you know is a good sign. Think you are being amazing for looking after ds's whilst feeling like this.

Nandos How are things with you? Any news on where you're having the baby? Hope things are going well.

Tattifer Hello if you're lurking Hope you're okay x

All okay here but am yet again completely confused as to what is going on re cycle Why is ttc so very difficult???
Had spotting around time of ovulation, then again at what I reckon was CD5, and then again today (CD8). Only a teeny tiny bit, just enough to colour the toilet paper (tmi!) but is weird and I don't usually get it. Have been googling implantation bleeding in a hopeful manner, but think that CD5 is too early for it to be that. Is defo something up, so am going to make an appt to see the gynae I found over here. DH is now worried with the spotting, and so agrees that I should go. The saga never ends.......

Anyway, hope you all have the lovely weather that we have here Just looked at myself in the mirror and noticed that am looking a wee bit brown, hurray! I love summer freckles and looking tanned

Anyone doing anything nice for the weekend? We have FIL's b'day party on Sunday where we get to meet his new girlfriends son, who is apparently a bit of a well-known singer over here, and rather goodlooking! Am all of a fluster!

Love to all xxx

Can you tell I'm tired?
I meant 5 & 8 days after ovulation, so CD18 and 21

Hi guys

mbm I think you are doing the right thing seeking advice from the gynae. I don't know about implantation bleeding as I've never experienced it the times I've got pregnant. It could be, though, couldn't it? If you ovulated early.

I am feeling a bit better since Monday so again I'm worrying about that - am 10+2 today. Oh the stress never ends. I have my scan a week on Monday. I haven't been too unwell so far so looking after the DSs has been manageable: I know I can call on MIL if it gets too bad! I've had a few wobbly moments but nothing major.

Poppy I hope you are ok.

Tattifer hello - how are you doing?

I wish m2o would come back here I miss her posts.

The weather has been on and off here. It keeps teasing us. Apparently it is going to be a hot summer though so hopefully we'll all soon look and feel much brighter and healthier - it has been a loooong winter.

I meant to add: no plans for the weekend at all. Any suggestions?

Nandos how is your bump doing? We want some photos!

Hi everyone, just a quick post before I pour myself into my bed. I fell asleep on the sofa which is prob the worst thing as you wake up feeling crappy .

We have had a busy first week back at school and much excitement when another one of ds's front teeth came out (well he pulled it out) in the playground after school on tues. He was like a mini celeb with kids crowding round to see the tooth and the blood He was delighted when the tooth fairy made a second appearance in the same week! Now when he smiles he is all gappy. Will take a photo tomorrow and get dh to help me load on some pics as I'm sure it would be nice for you to put a face to a name.

The other lovely thing to happen this week was that my old neighbour and friend who had a mc at the same time as me last year had a beautiful little baby boy. Can't remember if I said or not but she had fell pg again at the end of the summer and at 3 months had had bleeding and it turned out to be placenta previa. Well she has had quite a tough pg and over the last few weeks has been in loads of pain and about 3 wks ago spent nearly a week in hosp with pains. They said she was either in labour or had an infection. She was only 35 wks then. The upside was that the placenta had moved and eventally she got home with antibiotics. The pain never really went away and then last sunday her waters broke and she had baby on mon morn and all was well. So quite eventful for her but worth it. She has two girls who are sooooo excited it's just lovely.

Anyway better go to bed now and stop eating mini eggs!!!!!

Love poppy xxx

Hi Poppy yeah at your DS's tooth! I remember those days myself!!! I want to see pics.

My scan is a week today and I am totally a bag of nerves. I just wish I could travel through time and get it over and done with. I just want to know now whether there is something there to make me smile or just get the bad news over and done with (I'm a total pessimist). I am 10+5 today.

Nandos and mbm how are you doing?

helloo all

been quite a while since the last time i posted.. sorry didnt get much time on the computer let alone MN.
just a quick post from me cos' i need to get ready soon.
Becky, hope scan goes well next week. im sure everything will be ok. How is MS doing? hope it's not as worse as mine

Poppy lol as ds being a mini celebrity..they are really curious abt these small things isnt it
hope you are doing ok too..

MBM didnt quite understand which CD u r at now..sorry u can see am in a mad rush now but hope u r doing fine and dont stress yourself up ok?

just a quick update on me: am just over 6mths now. i think am on the 26/27th week but will confirm once i see the calendar baby doing little kicks here n there but not hard enough maybe due to the placenta being infront.
am rushing to complete most of the work here by next mth(just b4 i turn 7mths) cos' thats the time when i can't go travelling till birth..if that is true cos' the airport staff might stop women who are 7mths pregnant or more.have read abt it somewhere..godknows cos' am still deciding where to give birth..
dh still in US and am a bit worried abt him re the swine flu.
hope you ladies take care of yourself cos' i heard theres flu cases in UK as well now.

Got to go now..have a nice day everyone

Hi all

Nandos Can't believe you're over 6 months already, that's amazing! When will you stop work for maternity leave? Do you know how long you can have off? Re flying, I think that if you're around that 7 months mark then you can get a letter from your doctor stating that you're okay to fly and not about to give birth That should be good enough for the airlines, well it was with me anyway... I think my last flight when pg with ds was at about 30 weeks. It was great as I got to jump all the queues
I hope your dh is okay, have heard a little about the swine flu here and it sounds very scary. When's he coming back?

Becky Gosh, I can't believe the time has gone so fast with you too! How are feeling today? It's normal that you're nervous, but hopefully it will all be for nothing and this time next week you'll be feeling a lot more relaxed about things! Have you told the ds's yet or are you waiting till after the scan?

Poppy at ds pulling his tooth out! Makes me shudder! That's so cute that he's all gappy though, and he must be a very happy boy at having the tooth fairy visit again so soon
What lovely news about your friend, just the kind of story we need to hear. Are you going to visit them? Newborns are so sweet and I never fail to be amazed by how tiny they are

My AF started yesterday, so I've had a 23 day cycle Have spotted every 2 or 3 days for the last two weeks, so think I should defo go to the gynae. I know I keep saying I'll go, but I just feel like I've had enough intrusion into the whole ttc thing, and I can't bear the thought of more tests/opinions/medication. I just want to get pg and stay pg. Surely that's not too much to ask for
Am feeling poorly today too, and think am coming down with something Tis a bank holiday here on Friday, so at least I only have one more day of work to get through this week...

What are you all doing for the bank holiday weekend? It is a bh weekend in the UK isn't it? Becky I hope you've got something lovely planned to keep your mind off things. What time is your scan? Is dh going with you? I hope with all my heart that it's good news for you x

Love to all xxx

Hello everyone!

Nandos I also can't believe how time has flown! What's your due date?

mbm I haven't told the DSs yet - will wait until after Monday. They are totally in blissful ignorance. I'm sure they wonder why mummy always lies on the sofa as soon as daddy comes home and does the dying swan act. Or perhaps they wonder why mummy is eating all the time! DS2 did comment on my larger than normal boobies yesterday which was funny. He asked me what my 'lumps' were for.

I hope you are ok today mbm and not feeling too poorly.

I've been having nightmares about swine flu. I'm not ready to die yet!

The scan is 10.30 on Monday...counting the minutes!

The weather is supposed to be nice this weekend so we'll make sure we get out and about. We're going to my sister's on Sunday as it is my niece's 12th birthday on Monday. I can't believe it. She is growing up. She's already been to her first concert: Scouting for Girls. I have that album! Makes me feel old!

Better go get everyone ready for school and nursery. Byeeee, take care all xx.

becky lol at your ds asking about your "lumps". Good luck for monday, remember and drink plenty water!!!!!

mbm I have been taking vitamin B complex (1 a day) for the last 7 wks on the recommendation of the reiki lady and I have defo felt a lot more "normal" cycle wise since taking them. Had a 30 day cycle last month as opposed to varying lengths and loads of spotting beforehand before the vits. Might be worth a go.

My poor friend stopped taking her pill 7 wks ago and has yet to have a period. She was at docs and her blood pressure is v low and so is her pulse so they are going to do tests and also tests for early menopause. She is bricking it as she is only 35 and has one ds of 7. She has been single for a long time but would love to meet someone nice one day and have another dc so fingers crossed tests results are ok.

I bought a lovely pressie for friends new ds and gave it to her today on school run. Am going to pop down next week for a wee visit and hopefully a cuddle. She says he is turning day into night which will be very hard for her as she has 2 older dd's to look after as well!

Off to Louden Castle (fun park with rides and petting farm etc) tomorrow with my girl guides and ds is coming along too. Hope it will be sunny or it will be a long and cold day in Scotland!!!

nandos hope you are ok and got all your work finished!

xxx

Just got into work so v quick - good luck this morning Becky I am thinking of you... I so hope it all goes well and that you come back bursting with good news
This computer won´t let me go onto the last page due to its filter so I shall have to wait till I get home to find out how you got on. My fingers will be crossed all morning xxx

Love to all xxx

Hello all! I had my scan this morning and I was so terrified and nervous I was on the point of saying 'please, I can't go through with it' but the good news is that all is well and I saw a little baby with a pumping heart and fingers! I've never been so nervous in my whole life. I am 12.5 weeks apparently so further than I thought and due 14 November. It was such a relief. I will upload scan photos soon

I hope you are all ok.

Poppy how was your trip to Louden Castle? I hope the weather was nice and warm for you. I'm off to take the DSs to my sister's this afternoon. The weather here today is grim.

Becky Congratulations on your scan!
I am sooo pleased everything is ok this time - you really deserve it and how exciting to be more pregnat than you thought

Hopefully now you can relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and look forward to November! Can't wait to see the scan photo.

Have fun at your sisters.

We had a great day at Louden Castle. The sun even came out (which is rare in Scotland) and the girls all had a ball just getting to wander around with their friends and go on all the rides. Ds also had a ball and went on some of the bigger rides which surprised me and we went to the petting farm and he got to feed the sheep, goats and llamas. He couldn't stop laughing at the sensation of their warm tongues licking his hand. We also spent a fortune on hook the duck in order to win him a spongebob toy so all in all a success.

Just need the sun to make another appearance as it is a very wet and windy bank holiday today.

xxx

Oh Becky What fantastic news! Have been dying to find out how it went ALL day Blasted work computer!

You must be so thrilled - are you going to tell the boys now?

Must dash as only just walked through the door and ds still has his coat on

Hi Poppy too!