***Lets support eachother again- you know who you are ***

[mummy2olivia]

charliesmum, nandos, beakas, sugr, cornflower, poppy, becky and everyone else who miscarried in may/june 2008....

We have all been very brave together and supported eachother. For those of us that are ready, it may be time to support eachother again as we return to TTC. Lets hold hands, remember our loss and give a nod to the future as we endeavour to procreate and............

SHAG!!

As promised, a thread to stay in touch. Will also see you on the MC avengers thread.

Congratulations nandos I am so happy for you that all is well and that all the puking has been worth it! It must have made you feel so good to see your cheeky monkey on the screen Have a good evening with your friends and relax and have fun.

MBM when ds was at nursery I got every sick bug going and proceeded to lose loads of weight and ended up in hosp a few times as I was so bad (I take steroids etc for arthur and low immune system means I am super susceptible) hope you feel better soon.

becky I had to keep ds off scool yest as he was ill over wkend with a bad cold and also super grumpy. He went back today but now my nose is starting to tickle . Get well soon.

M2O Good luck with your relaxing break from MN and the madness of ttc. It totally takes over your mind and for me occupies a lot of my waking hours which is not healthy. I may be forced to join facebook now as I will miss all your advice and good humour. You take care and enjoy lots of fun bonking

My AF is due on Sun but have been getting pmt symptoms for about the last 4 days - seem to be getting earlier as I age which is worrying. So I am deffo out this month but hope to be luckier in Feb
xx

Hi gang. My AF has just arrived five days early (what is going on! Last month it was twelve days late!!!). So I'm not preggers, again. Hey ho. Here we go again!

Oh Becky Bugger bugger bugger and bugger again. Have been feeling v broody myself today hence I am feeling even more disappointed for you than I usually do. You must be really p*ssed off by now

Well, my orders are to open a large bottle of wine, down it, and then follow with lashings of chocolate. Got any Quality Street left?

Are you sure it's AF? Is funny it's arrived early. Mind you, it could be your body settling down after last months shenanigans...

I'm feeling loads better thanks, but DH caught it too, and was feeling awful last night and this morning. He's just got back from work and is no longer in the mood from hell, so I can only presume he's feeling a bit better Why are men so rubbish at being ill?

Sorry about your presumed looming AF too Poppy. Am just as cross for you as I am for Becky. It's so frustrating that it's so out of anyone's control (says the control freak that I am ). So hope that next month will be a better one for both of you...

Nandos How are you doing? Has it sunk in that you're pg yet now that you've had the second scan? Do you have a little bump yet? I remember at 11 weeks with ds that my trousers were getting a bit tight, and I started looking round maternity clothes departments! Such fun!

Better go and put ds to bed...

Have a good evening all!

Hi mbm thank you you've made me feel a bit better. I just can't be bothered to feel miserable! It's too much like hard work! I have already told DH we're getting the wine out tonight even if it is a school night! And we still have two boxes of Terry's orange (we only have green triangles left in the quality street box because no-one likes those here).

I'm sure it is my AF. I'm in full flow. We were out shopping when it happened and I had to find a toilet. Being five days early was just so unexpected. DS2 said to me in a loud voice in the toilet cubicle as I was examining the evidence 'have you pooed your pants mummy!' I had to laugh. It stopped me crying at least.

Your poor DH mbm. They do seem to (think they) suffer more than we do. My DH goes into total decline and sits on the sofa with a duvet watching space on TV when he is ill.

Poppy has your AF arrived yet? I think we must be about in sync now.

I remember that full feeling at about 11 weeks when you start realising you can't wear just whatever anymore. But then it is quite good fun buying maternity clothes.

Anyway, I'd better go too as it is nearly bedtime here too, that is for the little people at least.

Hi All

Becky we really must be in sinc now as last night I got first bit of blood but not in full flow yet - that joy still to come I also consloled myself with a large glass of wine, crisps and choc need something to take the edge of the disappointment.

Hopefully next month will be luckier for us all!

MBM glad your dh is feeling better as it is always 10 times worse when they are ill .

I'm just having a cup of tea before going to collect ds from school as it is a half day on a friday then it will be a quick luch and off to tae kwondo. It's all go.

xx

becky n poppy, sorry to hear AF came whats up with your AF coming early becky? its going crazy nowadays..
hope you girls treat yourself good this time
MBM, im just very wary aff this pregnancy cos' i never got this far b4..im taking it a day at a time. im trying to get looser pants cos' its getting tighter.
also i thought im getting better but today told dh to make breakfast n he gave me 2 moldy breads and i didnt realised it till i nearly finished the whole thing now im not feeling well again..
i hope its not harming baby i feel so stupid for not checking..
anywayz i got to get ready now..

hope you ladies have a good time today..

eeks, wheres everyone??
i cant find the thread at first
just wanted to tell all of you that i am leaving UK tonight and off to dubai, then to singapore for a couple of few months so will try to keep in touch when im there.
also if i dont feel like coming back, i might just give irth over there as well no kidding.. my ticket is an open ticket
hope you ladies have a good time(without me) and hopefully i will pop in to say hello wherever i am

take care all,

muah muah
nandos

I'm here! Hello Nandos. I hope you have a good time in Dubai and Singapore. You're such a jet setter! Sounds very exciting.

Take care and do keep posting us with your latest.

Beckyxxx

Hello girls! How has everyone's weekend been? I've been quite busy - had friends round yesterday, then out for a curry (yum!), then off to the golf club this morning which was lovely but the time has flown by...

Nandos You do get around don't you! Have a wonderful time in Dubai and Singapore you lucky thing! Is it an option for you to stay and have the baby there? What's the health care like? Make sure you do stay in touch, we'll be desperate to know how you're doing and to hear that all is going well. Safe travelling x

M2O Think Simon is back now?? Presume you will be too loved up to be on MN much at the mo, hope you are having a lovely time together . You must be thrilled to have him back safe and sound...

Becky and Poppy how are you both? Hope you're okay...

I'm starting to get nervous about my gynae appt on Wednesday now. It's a new one as the last one was rubbish and didn't know anything about PMP's, but apparently this guy does. Not sure I'm happy about seeing a man, but will see how it goes. Am soooooo scared he's going to say we have to wait even longer. I haven't been able to think about much other than starting to ttc since Jan 1st, so god knows what I'll do if he does say that. I even have my plan of attack ready for next months bd'ing. Any words of wisdom to calm me down?????

Off to bed now as got work in the morning, wish I could stay at home!

Night x

Hello! My weekend was good. The DSs spent the night at the PILs so DH and I went to see Slum Dog Millionaire and it was really good! Then we stayed in bed until 10.30am on Sunday, something I haven't done very often in five years! My AF has gone now so another month of hopeful bonking for me now.

Good luck on Wed mbm. I hope it goes ok and he says you can start TTCing. I don't have any words of wisdom, I need some too!

Off to town now to buy MIL's birthday present because DH says he has no idea what to get her. He always leaves it to the last minute!!!

Good luck tomorrow MBM hope your appt goes well and you can join in the madness again!!!

Good luck this month becky!!

My AF has been lurking with intent for days now but today has come with a bang. Am glad it has finally arrived as that means in a few days I too can rejoin the madness Scary how ttc takes over.

Have just been to the opticians today and got my new specs. Have been wearing one pair all aft and have just put others on now. It is always really odd wearing new glasses. Wonder if anyone else will notice. People always know there is something different but it takes them a wee while to work out what it is (maybe thats just me!).

Off to bed now - really have no idea why I am still up!

xx

Hello all!

Good luck to you too poppy this month. My AF has left me now so let the sexathon begin... actually DH and I are going to to doctors today just to say we're struggling to get preggers and its been 8 months now since the MC whereas previously I've managed to get pregnant quite quickly. I'm sure they'll just say 'go away, you're just getting old' but we'll see.

I know what you mean about the specs, its the same when you get your hair cut!

DS2 and I are watching In The Night Garden at the moment. He has terrible chocolate chops thanks to the chocolate biscuit he's just devoured.

I wonder how Nandos is doing in Dubai. I bet it's warmer there than it is here. Brrrrr.

Thanks for the good luck wishes! Just off to have a quick shower before going into town for the appt - argh!

Poppy Did anyone notice your glasses? Did they make the floor look wobbly to start with?

Becky Isn't In the Night Garden brill! We love it in this house!

Right, better go, am feeling so poorly today (am coming down with ds' latest lurgy) and everything's a bit wobbly coz I feel so dizzy. Even misjudged getting out of the car earlier and whacked my head

Will be back on later to tell you what he said [very nervous emoticon]

Hi girls!

Just a quick one as have dashed in for tea and cake (yum!) before taking one of the dogs to the vets.... It's none stop at the mo!

Well, I've just had my appt, and I don't know what to think. He said that my body is ready for another pregnancy and that as I'm OV'ing today that I should start trying 'now, NOW. NOW!' I almost burst out laughing - he was like something out of a monster movie! Suffice to say, we have the go-ahead

He's also told me to start taking baby aspirin every day, and that for every cycle of trying, starting on day 21 I have to start taking progesterone every morning and night, and only stopping if/when AF arrives. I'm really happy that he's given me something to do rather than just leave it to fate, but am worried that taking progesterone would make my body hold onto a possible miscarriage. Also, he said he'd do a cervical stitch as my cervix is open. Apparently that's not normal, even when OV'ing.

Anyone have any thoughts on all this? Am so confused as to what I think, but then I don't really know a lot about cervical stitches/progesterone supplements.

The other thing that worried me is that he read my results from the last mc wrong. He thought it was one extra chromosome rather than an extra set, so told me it was something else and not a partial molar. Just come home and googled what he told me, and he's wrong.

Apologies for the me, me, me post, but just don't know what to think!

Hope you're all okay x

I meant he'd do a cervical stitch as soon as I found out I was pg...

Hey mbm that is fantastic news. I am soooo pleased that you've got the go ahead.

I don't know about taking pogesterone and cervical stitches though. But sounds like things are looking good for you. I'm keeping all my fingers and toes crossed.

I've just got back from the doctor and they are going to do the usual blood tests but you can't get referred for tests until a year after TTCing so that is May. So we'll just keep going and keep bonking. See what happens. I'm going to try, try, try to chill out and just see what happens until May.

Can I join you for tea and cake mbm? I could do with some

Hi MBM so happy that you got the go ahead from consultant (he sounded v enthusiastic!)and you can start straight away . Don't know anything about the progesterone but my dad's cousin had many mc's when she was younger and eventually she had a stich put in her cervix when she got pg and she managed to carry the pg till full term then they took stich out and she had a lovely and much longed for dd. That was 34 years ago so I things will be much safer and progressive now.

becky I used to love In the night garden as well and was sad when ds announced it was too babyish (boo hoo) it's wall to wall spongebob here now

So far specs have gone unnoticed by playground mum's. Will see if anyone notices them tomorrow night as we are doing a joint sponsored singalong with rainbows, brownies and girlguides all taking part. It is a living nightmare as we have to stand up on stage with the girls and sing in front of an audience of parents/grannies etc many of whom I went to school with . I usually try to fix my eye on something at back of hall and make no eyecontact or I would be blushing constantly.
Am getting hair cut and coloured in morning so at least I should be looking better/less roots showing!

xx

Hi guys, how are you all today~? I've had a funny sort of day: really busy. This morning DS2 and I went to our local toddler / drop-in session and there was a woman there who has a five year old, a two year old, and 6 month old twin boys. She is breastfeeding them still and looked totally, totally shattered. She said she can't barely get out of the house most of the time! But when I looked at her two gorgeous little boys I felt so gooey and broody. Then I helped the school PTA sort out some books for a book sale and then we all trapsed off to PIL's house as it was MIL's birthday. Phew I am knackered. Need to start ov tests now as 8 days since AF. TTCing is exhausting. I just wish we could all see into the future and know whether we will have babies soon.

Anyway, hope you are all well, have agood weekend. I'm going to watch the CBB final tonight with a big glass of red wine and a pizza. DH is going over to his parent's house to see his mum on her birthday.

Hello!

Becky First of all I have to say sorry for not having wished you good luck with your doctors appt on Wednesday. I am so crap I did THINK about it, but then was in such a rush I forgot to put it in my post. Sorry! That's a shame that they won't do tests before you've been trying a year. I know it probably makes sense, but when it's actually YOU in that year it's an awful long time... I hope that chilling out works for you. I know you probs don't believe in things like this but the offer's still there if you'd like me to send you a smiling buddha - I gave one to one of my best friends a couple of years ago, and the next month she was pregnant . It just had to be the buddha...
Re the lady with the four kids, my god! I bet she was knackered! It's draining enough breastfeeding one child, let alone two, and then with another two on top. I thought you were going to say she'd put you off having any more

Poppy How are you doing? Did you get your hair done? Bet it looks gorgeous! I have no idea what you look like - what colour hair do you have?? How did the singalong go? You are so brave to do that, I woud be a nervous wreck! Did you enjoy it?

Well, no real news from here except that ds is still ill . Went to the docs last night and she thought it might be pneumonia, but had an x-ray done today of his chest and it's fine. She thinks it must be flu, but the poor little mite has such a high temp still, and is shivering a lot. It's just awful when they're ill.
Also, I went to my GP today to talk about what the consultant said on Wednesday, and my GP said go with it, so I am going to. Aaaagh!!!! Girls, I now have a 13 day countdown to AF and then it's all systems go! Am going to start taking baby aspirine when AF has finished, and then will take the progesterone. Am a bit more reluctant about the cervical stitch, as I googled it and apparently you have to have a general anesthetic for it . We'll see what happens with that, if we even get as far as being pg. I am now so excited though, after having had a few wobbles earlier in the week.

Better go coz I want to catch the end of Eastenders, and then yay, it's Celeb BB in this house tonight too Becky!!!!! Who do you want to win?

Lots of love to you both xxx

Just re-read my post, and I meant aspirin - aspirine is french, d'oh!

Hi mbm I would love a smiling Buddha! I lived in Japan for two years so I know a little bit about Buddhism. That is very sweet of you It would be lovely if it works.

I've been wearing a crystal for a couple of months that is supposed to regulate the reproductive system (since my strange 12-day late period) and it has worked, kind of, by making my AF 5 days early this time around! DH is very scientific and logical and thinks I am crazy but I think it is working.

I thought the lady with four children would put me off but no it didn't at all. (I didn't tell DH about her though in case it put him off ). I must admit though when she said she'd been breastfeeding the twins I was in total admiration! I struggled with one child!

Sorry about your DS mbm still being poorly. Poor mite. It is sooo horrible when they are ill, isn't it? I hope he gets better soon.

I'm watching CBB and Oh My God Verne has just been evicted!!!! I thought he was going to win! Wow! I want Ulrika to win because I think she has done really well living with all those male egos and she has kept her cool relatively well. Or Terry Christian because I used to fancy him when I was a student watching The Word (showing my age no doubt!).

Take care all xxxx

Oh MBM I hope your poor ds gets better soon. I totally agree that it is so worrying when they are ill. I am still an overprotective paranoid mother who always checks ds thoroughly if he complains of being ill and I still sneak into his bedroom everynight to check on him. He prob won't appreciate that when he is a surly teen

becky I too am in complete admiration/slight broody envy of the mother with the 4 kids - wow. Breastfeeding twins must be so exhausting but she will or should be really proud she managed it.

I have also been watching CBB. I hoped Terry would win but was quite pleased for Ulrika as she always seems to get a bad press for no reason.

I survived the singalong but it is excrutiatingly embarrassing standing up on stage singing to an audience some of whom a peeps who went to school with me and are now parents along to support their wee ones. I kept on trying to fix my eyes on the back of the hall and not look at anyone was very glad when it was over!

Had to go back to the opticians today to get new specs adjusted as they were digging in to the side of my head. Wore them all afternoon but (cringe) will need to go back and get the pads at nose adjusted as they also feel a bit tight. Would like to get dh to do it to save the hassle but am terrified he might damage them. Hair is also an improvement. Felt the highlights were getting a bit bright so got some darker colour mixed in this time. Might disguise the roots a bit longer

MBM maybe I should try to put some photos on my profile as I suppose you are right it is strange speaking to folk and not knowing what they look like (or maybe thats good). Will try to get dh on the case as he is more technical than me .

Hope you all have a good weekend. My ds has a party on Sun aft and is v excited. He is also very proud today as he was awarded pupil of the week at school assembly and the teacher called him up on stage and shook his hand and he got a certificate and a sticker. He was beaming with pride when I collected him at lunchtime.

xxx

Oops forgot to say becky you should give the budha a go. My mum got me one for xmas and it is now sat pride of place in diningroom. Dh just noticed it recently and said "when did we get a budha - no don't tell me, it is something to do with fertility isn't it". (yes darling along with all the other charms, crystals, angels etc etc in my house!) Good luck

Hi Poppy glad you survived the singalong. You are brave standing up on stage in front of everyone!

We've got lots of visitors today: first BIL and his partner Simon for lunch, then my sister, mum and niece are coming for shopping trip and then DH's friend Sue coming for tea! Busy day!

Think I may have just buggered up our carefully laid plans....... DH just persuaded me to bd without a 'raincoat' on. Bugger bugger bugger. I ov'd on Wednesday so the egg will have gone by now won't it???????? Only reason I don't want to get pg yet is that if I was then I may be too sick to go on holiday next month. If it wasn't for that I would've dived into bed when the consultant told me to
What do you reckon girls?

Poppy I'm so glad you got a buddha, I hoped you would Have you thought about putting it in your bedroom? I hope its magic works for you soon. I was given 4 as a wedding present by a dear friend of mine, and I made sure they were near the bed, and I used to rub their tummies . Yes, we may be barking, but if it helps then that's all that matters.
Btw, well done your ds! That is so lovely, and you must be very proud too. Bless him

Becky Hope you've had a good day! Poor you, you must be knackered now! Did you get anything exciting on your shopping trip?
If you send me your address on FB I'll send you a little buddha

Right, off to bed now. You don't think I could be pg from one quick shag do you? Am on tablets that I was going to stop when AF arrives...
Naughty naughty naughty DH. But it was nice though