***Lets support eachother again- you know who you are ***

[mummy2olivia]

charliesmum, nandos, beakas, sugr, cornflower, poppy, becky and everyone else who miscarried in may/june 2008....

We have all been very brave together and supported eachother. For those of us that are ready, it may be time to support eachother again as we return to TTC. Lets hold hands, remember our loss and give a nod to the future as we endeavour to procreate and............

SHAG!!

As promised, a thread to stay in touch. Will also see you on the MC avengers thread.

mbm that is quite sensible but I'm not known for being very sensible... If you aren't pg then next month you can have lots of horizontal tennis at the right time. But if you happen to get pg now then all the good too even though your holiday might be hard going if you're suffering from the old MS. Your DH is very naughty. He should definitely go to the naughty step for that

We had a fun shopping trip. We did all the charity shops of Shrewsbury as my mum and sister love bargain hunting so I got DS1 a jigsaw and DS2 a little present too. I also went a bit bonkers in Waterstones and bought four books... DH raised his eyebrows skywords when we got home. We have no more room for books.

I'll send you my address I will take very good care of your little buddha.

Meant to add: oooh Poppy well done your DS for being pupil of the week! They have the same sort of thing at my DS1's school. I hope he enjoys his party today

Hey girlies, soooo excited because we're getting a new addition to the family today! A kitten! DH's friend's friend has two kittens he is trying to find homes for and he has a home for one but struggling with the other so we're taking her. I haven't told the DSs yet so it can be a surprise but I am soooo excited!!!! We're going to pick her up later today. I just hope our existing cat will cope. I need to google some advice about having a new kitten, or I might find somewhere on mumsnet to ask.

Oooh that's lovely and so exciting! Congratulations!! What are you going to call her? How do you think your cat will take to a new playmate?

Have lots of fun!

Can't write more as am on a clothes chucking out mission

xxx

Thanks for the top tip MBM re the bhuda. Don't know why it never occured to me to put it in the bedroom . Am going to move it there now and hope it brings me more luck

becky lucky you getting a new kitten. I love cats and would get another in a heartbeat but my cat is 13 now and she can be a moody girl and there is no way she would tolerate a new housemate. My parents got a kitten a year ago and it was hilarious watching all his wild antics. It's funny because you forget how fast they are and all the mad half hours they have just rampaging around. You will have good fun

Ds was at a birthday party yesterday at our local soft play area and there was also a bouncy castle so all the kids had a great time and got well and truly tired out which would have been quite good but by dinnertime last night ds was very very grumpy. On a nice note though I got a lovely buch of flowers of the other mum for helping out which was very kind of her. Anyway better be off and do some ironing before it is time to collect ds from school.

xx

Just a quicky to say hello, hope you are both okay, and good night!!! Will write more tomorrow...
Lots of love xxx

OH MY GOD Just wrote 2 posts (first one MAMMOTH) and the bloody computer here in school has just wiped them both GRRRRRR

Will try again later!

As I sit here our existing cat is having a stare-out with new cat. New cat is soooo cute! She keeps walking on my keyboard though and trying to catch the typing across the screen. The DSs and I are having so much fun playing with the new kitty but we are trying hard to give old kitty lots and lots of cuddles too.

Hope you are both well. I am in ovulation time at the moment. DH is going to have to have a quick game of chess when he gets home from work!

hey everyone!
just had a fast read through of the previous post n my its quite long just came to say a quick hi too
missed all of you..
sorry i could not post while in dubai cos' of limited internet access n got sick all the time there.
am in singapore now but a bit bz with work for at least another wk or so. dh will be going back to UK in a few days so need to get work done asap. as usual i will be alone here without dh well family is at least here so im ok but will miss my dh (even though hes mean at times )
its 12.30 mn now so am going to sleep n everyone else is snoozing away so i better go soon
hope all of you are ok becky,MBM and poppy..
will try to post more but would be unlikely this wk cos' of too much work
might come next wk k

gtg now..c ya

Hello Nandos! I was wondering about you today wondering how you are doing. Are you still feeling as sick as before or is it starting to ease a bit? Hope you are well and not working too hard. I'm having crumpets with the DSs here at the moment. Yum.

Hi guys, I had a strange day yesterday. DH emailed me in the day to say he was having a bad day at work but wouldn't elaborate. He kept replying with 'I'll tell you later'. Then when he got home I asked him what had happened and he said again 'oh I can't tell you now, tell you later'. I was really worried. He seemed to be acting a bit strange, really distracted and really, really tired. But anyway I had had a positive test on the old OV sticks so we did the deed, which was actually very nice. Then I asked him again why his day had been so bad and he told me: the colleague of his who had given us our little kitty killed himself that morning. I was so shocked and upset. I didn't really know him but it was so not what I was expecting DH to say (I'd been expecting something computer-related as DH works in IT). I was speechless. This guy was a day older than me and very popular at DH's work - everyone had been shocked at the news. I felt so bad for making DH have sex with me - not that I had known then but I had sensed he wasn't quite himself. He said he needed it to take his mind off things. I'm still in shock. No-one knew this guy was that unhappy, except that he'd broken up with his boyfriend on Sunday and was about to move house (hence finding homes for his two cats). Then DH told me that another of his little team was off sick with girly bits infections or something, another one off with depression after proposing to his girlfriend and falling immediately into depression about impending life-long commitment. I told DH that they were lucky he was there to support them all. The world is a very strange place sometimes.

Better go, almost time to take the DSs to school. Hope you are all ok and well.

Oh Becky that's just awful. Oh my goodness me. What an absolutely horrible thing to happen. What was he like this guy? Am so sorry... No wonder your poor DH was distracted and acting strange, it must've been a horribly weird day.

Nandos Lovely to hear from you! Hope you're feeling okay, and maybe a little less sick with each day. Hopefully it'll start coming to an end soon and you'll start to bloom . Will you have a scan out there? When's your next one??

Poppy How are you? That's lovely re the flowers, it's great to feel appreciated!

Right ds on a mission to wreck the lounge while I'm stood here neglecting him so better go.

Big hugs to you all, esp you Becky. Hope you're okay, you must be very shaken up...

becky so sorry to hear about your dh's colleague. What a terrible shock for you all. It is so sad that some people think there is nowhere left to go in life. It makes it very hard for the people left behind to cope. It happened years ago to my mum's cousin when her dh killed himself after being depressed. Sadly then she missed out on a chance to be a mum as it took her a long time to move on and by that time the ship had sailed. Just so sad. My thoughts are with you and your dh. (((hugs)))

nandos great to hear from you. It must be so interesting travelling like you do. Hope you start to feel the pg glow soon and the ms disappears.

MBM I had a disappearing message the other day and it is so frustrating when you type it all out then click and it vanishes off into the ether (but not on mn) GRRR

I am off to take my gran for a few errands today as she hasn't been that great recently and got a bit of a shock last week when the dr came to do a house call and told her she had developed kidney failure and angina. Then she got some blood tests dona and yesterday another dr came to visit and has given her a prescription for diabetes meds as he feels she is hovering on the brink of that also and said her cholesterol was slightly raised! I told her she needed a silver bullet. It is a good job she is a relilient lady with a good sense of humour!!
Still trying to get used to the new specs. Had to go back to the opticians yest as they were too tight. Had them adjusted but today still feel they are pinching bridge of nose a bit and I really cannot be faffed going back again! Oh the joys.

Anyway better go. xxx

oh becky so sorry to hear your dh's colleague
i know how it feels like being depressed n thinking of suicide been there ages ago but only thing that stop me is my religion.. its just not worth doing it tbh..
didnt mean to be insensitive though hope you n your dh is alright..

poppy n MBM, i am now getting fed up of travelling now pack,unpack,pack,unpack
also getting very angry at dh all the time he seems to be so robotic nowadays..like emotionless,insensitive bugger i guess i am too tired today ..excuse me for ranting.
oh btw my next appt is supposed to be sometime in march in london but i still havent book for an appt in the hosp here for a scan. might do it as soon as my work ease up a bit..
got to go now..will try to come by if possible like today

take care all..

I just can't imagine being that unhappy that the only solution is to end your life. I just feel so sad for his family. I know he had a sister he was close to. It's just so sad. DH said nobody guessed he was feeling so bad, beyond being upset at splitting up with his partner recently.

Glad you're ok Nandos except the endless packing and unpacking. Sorry your DH is driving you a bit bonkers at the moment. They have their moments... and your hormones will be all over the shop.

Poppy sorry to hear your gran's health problems, I hope she is ok.

My specs need tightening but that is because little hands keep bending them!

I am sat here with cute kitten asleep next to me. She is soooo adorable. I am now especially glad we took her, although the circumstances are much tinged with sadness now.

mbm I hope your lounge is in one piece... I don't know about you but I feel as if I spend half my life being the tidy fairy.

Oh Becky It really is just so sad that someone should feel like there is no other option but to end their life. It's a very selfish act, because the loved ones that are left behind will go through hell torturing themselves about what they should have and could have done differently. His poor sister. His ex-partner must be distraught too.
We know of someone over here who committed suicide, in fact DH went to school with his sister who is lovely. Apparently no one knew he was so depressed either. The day he did it he seemed a bit happier, and even sorted out all his belongings first. I think that's quite a common thing to do. His sister found him (I won't say how) but I would think that it is something she will never ever get over, no matter how brave a face she puts on.
Re lounge, yes I rescued it just in time thanks, although even now with ds asleep it's not exactly what you'd call tidy . I think tidy fairy is a very polite way of putting it

Poppy Your poor Gran. It never rains but it pours. How old is she? Sounds like she is very lucky to have you looking out for her. I hope she feels a bit better soon. Re your glasses, what a pain! Do you go past the opticians at all to pop in again? It's probably worth getting it put right, otherwise you might end up not wearing them. I hate glasses and think you are very brave to have got them. my prescription's so bad that when I wear them the lenses look like milk bottle bottoms and my eyes like 'piss holes in the snow'. Very attractive. It's contacts for me, unless it's just dh and ds around

Nandos I meant to ask earlier, have you told people that you're pg yet? Have you told dh's family? I would love to know what they said and how they reacted. Still can't believe that they were so horrible towards you .
Do you thnk it's worth getting dh a pregnancy book for fathers? It might be a good idea if you think he'd read it? Maybe it'd give him some clue as to how you're feeling and the changes that are going on in your body. Maybe he might be a little less insensitive then... Good luck with him x

Right, am off to put in my 4th load of washing for the day. I am a lazy arse most of the time, but then every now and then go into overdrive. This is one of those days!

Ooooh mumsenet looks all weird. I'm just saying a quick hello to bump up our thread as it took me ages to find it! I ovulated this week but DH and I only did the deed once as it has been such a stressful week for him at work. His whole team have fallen apart around him. So I doubt if this month is the month but there is always next month. Hope you are all well!

I'm busy doing tax return stuff today

Oooohhh I'm not sure I like this new look MN. Was just thinking the other day how easy it was to use and then they have to go and change it Let's hope we get used to it quick!

Poor you Becky doing tax stuff, yuk! Re only once this month, it only takes one!!! Fingers crossed...

Just got back from work, have got ds in bed and am about to sit down with a cup of tea. Aaaahhhhhh I love this time of the week! It's our 10 year anniversary of being together today - we are v skint at the mo, so are celebrating tomorrow night by going to see Slumdog Millionaire at the cinema. How easily pleased am I . A bag of pic 'n' mix and I'm happy!

What are you all doing this weekend?

Oooh we saw Slum Dog Milliannaire a couple of weeks ago. Fab film.

I've just had to pick up DS1 from school as he'd had diahhrreear can't spell it. He's totally fine though. He came home, went to the loo, produced an awful lot of wind (sorry if TMI) then did a very normal poo! He was very proud of himself and said 'that's better'.

Anyway, not much planned for the weekend here. I've got work to do, might pop into town, just nearly finished Twilight so want to get the next book in the series. Then granny food at the PIL's on Sunday.

Forgot to add: happy 10 Year Anniversary mbm!

OOOHHHH This site is very weird. It will take a bit of getting used to as I am quite boring and really don't like change

becky hope your ds is feeling better. Having a sore tum and the runs is no fun at all.

MBM congrats on your 10 year anniversary. Enjoy your night at the cinema. I enjoy seeing movies as well with a bag of sweets but usually now it is films like Kung Po Panda and Wall E

nandos when you put it like that the maybe the travelling could get a bit wearing living out a suitcase is not much fun. How is the ms is it still as bad?

I have just been out with ds (stressful) getting a few bits of shopping and a birthday card for my dad as it is his bday on mon. Then we went to the dreaded tesco for a few of the things we couldn't get in town. Ds was beginning to moan by this time and was being a menace so by the time we got to the checkout with a heavy basket and a new duvet (as ds soaked our one this morning) and he wouldn't stop talking and so I whispered to him to be quiet and he boomed "I will be quiet then" I then felt like I had bad mother stamped on my forehead and couldn't get home fast enough!
Anyway just having a cuppa before making tea. Have a good weekend.
xxx

That doesn't make sense does it? Tea meaning dinner not a cup of tea!!!

I knew what you meant Poppy we have tea in our house. Tonight's tea is egg fried rice!

I often feel I ought to get the worst mummy of the year award, I think everyone must do! The last time for me was during bathtime the other night. DH had been working late every night last week and I had got to my limit on being the lone parent and the DSs were messing about not getting ready for bed so I just said 'I give up!' and lay on the floor! DS2 just carried on running around in the nuddy causing havoc and DS1 said 'ohh mummy please get up! we need you to get us into our jammmies and take us to bed!'

helloo..

MBM, happy 10yr anniversary!
goodness me, im only halfway there

poppy n becky, how r u 2 doing?

just to update a bit on myself:
i went to see grandma(dad's mom) two days back n was a bit surprised cos' i thought my family told her abt my pregnancy but they didnt. mom already told her friends/her family side ages ago but not dad's side?? i find that a bit weird..maybe MIL/DIL conflict?
anyways i told her that day itself cos' she kept talking abt me/dh not having kids for so long..rest of family n some friends already knew and a few more to go when we see them.
btw MS still lingering around when i thought its nearly over still gagging whenever brushing teeth n vomited both my late lunch n dinner 2 days back am 14+3 today n time seems to fly so fast when we are busy..
dh left yesterday night to dubai. missed him but at the same time i guess we both needed some space cos' the pressure from stress,pregnancy,housing n loads of other stuffs making us like 2 dry twigs rubbing each other..n fire is not what we want now
anywayz i got to go now cos' got some work to do ( wish someone would lighten my burden atm) my bro's beginning to think im a zombie n he even told me i look like one lol i cant believe him!

take care all

Hi guys!

Just a quickie as am on my break at work...

How are you all?

We had a lovely time celebrating over the weekend. Film was fab on Saturday night, and then dh cooked a lovely meal last night which even ds loved and then we had a wee bottle of champagne when he´d gone to bed! Twas lovely! Ended up in bed just after ten though as have a v sore throat

Well, AF´s due around Wednesday and after having had a bit of a stress that I was pg I know now that I´m not, and so am looking forward to starting to ttc again. I know it sounds ridiculous, but after waiting so long it feels like such a big step to try again, and if we´d have got pg before I felt ready to start it just wouldn´t have felt right. Does that make sense?

How´s the bd´ìng going Poppy and Becky. When are your next AF´s due?

Nandos I can´t believe you´re over 14 weeks already. The time has flown by, although you probably won´t think that Was your Grandma pleased when you told her?

better go, but lots of love to you all, and hope you´re having a good Monday! Is it snowing where you are?

xxx