August TTC thread ❤️

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Hi all.

Just setting up a new group to continue the chats and support.

Short story: had my HCG level taken at hospital after some symptom scares, and everything was negative. They told me all my positive tests were false positives and I’d never been pregnant at all.

I’m so sorry @EmPeEf False positives? Did your tests go dark at all? I really want my HCG drawn as I think I’m heading for a miscarriage.

I just don’t see why the nurse didn’t refer me for bloods. My clear blue is lighter today and it’s not fair that I’m sat mentally not okay and sat in limbo. It’s so cruel as it’s my birthday on Tuesday so looks like I’ll lose baby around my birthday. I’ve lost hope now and just waiting to bleed. How I’ll get through work today I don’t know.

Just done a first response and it isn’t lighter, the same or a little darker. Who knows! But it’s looking highly likely I’ll miscarry and I don’t feel strong enough.

WTF, I just don’t believe that. Surely it’s that your levels have now dropped, I can’t believe it’s false positives at all, and that feels so unhelpful for them to say that!

@Iris2024 i don’t know if this is an option at all but could you get bloods done privately if the gp/clinic won’t?
I had a consultation with Plan Your Baby and if I get a Bfp again, I’m going to do hcg blood tests with them - and they’ll prescribe progesterone if needed. It’s a predicament for me as I’ve just seen the consultant at nhs fertility clinic, but I know they won’t blood tests or offer progesterone

Yeah I’m think this hun as I’m just sat in limbo, no spotting, no sign of bleeding, just sat with positive tests that are not really dark. I might try my GP one more time today. What shall I say?

Hi everyone, I'm out for August - period in 2 days and I'm spotting today.

I'll be 37 in 5 months so I'm at the point where I think it won't happen. We had tests last year and we were both fine but what can you do.

Trying to get off the 'you failed' feeling faster this time!

Also somewhere like this will do hcg blood tests if you have one nearby: https://www.ultrasound-direct.com/services/blood-tests/beta-hcg-blood-test

re the GP, is it worth just saying how much distress it’s causing and you’re aware 2 hcg blood tests will show if it’s a progressing pregnancy or not? There might be some info online that explains it that you could share with them?

Thank you @Muddysocks1 ❤️I’ve messaged them again half an hour ago. I honestly can’t stop crying and don’t feel mentally okay at the moment. I really appreciate you helping me when you’ve got your own struggles. I guess to get me out of this dark hole I’m thinking now I know I can still get pregnant at my age and we’ve got our daughter ❤️

Sending you so much love ❤️ hopefully GP comes back and can help xx

Hi all - been lurking on this thread for about 10 days now so kind of feel like I know you already. Bit weird. Anyway…

So sorry to those who are navigating uncertainty or loss, no matter how early it is. Have been there myself 3 times and it sucks. Hang in there. This forum was a lifeline when I was TTCing my first two and made me feel heard and more importantly, sane!

Which brings me on to…NTNP this month, been tracking my cycles loosely for the last 6 months or so and average about a 28 day cycle give or take a few days.

Thought I was 15DPO today which would mean AF due today and I usually spot all day the day before but none yesterday and (so far) none today.

3 x ICs this morning and need someone to give my head a wobble. I know in my gut these tests are most likely BFN but I may have tricked myself into thinking I can see a vvvvvvvfl on all 3 (yes, 3…)

Which means either way, I have clearly ovulated late but since I wasn’t tracking I have no clue when! So that makes me CDfk knows and fk knowsDPO.

Pics attached if I can figure out how.

Baby dust to you all xxx

Pics currently under review so will hopefully be on there soon!

I do see something on those!! 🤞🏻

Thanks for looking @Muddysocks1

Ugh, just did 2 more with SMU and stark white negative. Going to put down the tests and go touch some grass.

Anyone else testing soon?

@olivehush i can see something on all 3! If
youre not sure how many DPO you are then perhaps it’s still very early and tests might get darker tomorrow! Keeping everything crossed for you x

I managed to stay distracted from it and didn’t do any ovulation tests, had no idea where I was in my cycle until yesterday.
so I’m only cd19 today and yesterday I could not stop peeing so I was curious and looked what cd I was
of course at cd18 it means nothing (though I think it’s to do with hormones changing and would happen either if pregnant or not!)

now to keep busy and try not to think about cycle day numbers too much 🤣
hopefully will end up with a missed period
I think we covered main days that could’ve been close to ovulation 🤞

Just caught up, sorry to hear about potential losses from some of you. Life can be so unfair 😞

@EmPeEf Had no idea that false positives could be that strong. Is it possible they’ve made a mistake and you definitely were pregnant before??

@Milennialworkinprogress Sorry to hear your struggles but if you’ve had tests and nothing was flagged it’s possible that it’s just going to take you some time. How many cycles have you been trying for? Have you ever had a positive test?

AF is due tomorrow and I’m pretty sure it’s coming so am just gearing myself up for the next cycle. I don’t think anyone has made a thread for September yet have they?

I’m 9dpo and tested a few times today, convinced there’s a faint shadow on them, but know I just need to be patient and see later/over next few days. I’ve had to chemicals - one at 5 weeks and one I just had faint positives 9/10dpo then faded again… so whilst I’ll be excited to see a Bfp, also very anxious as to whether it would last. Just want something to happen though!! In work this afternoon so can’t be temped to test again until home tonight.

Oooh snap @Muddysocks1. I was thinking not to test until the weekend atleast. My period would usually come by Sunday I expect

Mines usually due around Monday/Tuesday but I’m taking progesterone which might delay it another day or two… due to start letrozole next cycle so part of me isn’t as disappointed as usual if it doesn’t happen this cycle.. but would be amazing if it did. When will you next test? I tell myself if I’m going to test just to do FMU or SMU and evening after a longer hold but I’m bad at sticking to it.

@Muddysocks1 sorry to hear that 💐 makes the process all that more stressful doesn’t it! Were your tests cheapies too?

@givingitanothergo sounds like me! I have no idea when I ovulated now. I thought I was roughly 15dpo today but I could be as early as 10dpo and no way of knowing! Or AF could just be due tomorrow or something and it’s going to slap me in the face. Are you planning on testing or just going to wait for AF?

@CDD1992 hoping this is the case! Although I caved and ordered some FRERs that arrive tonight 🤦‍♀️ think I’ll try one tonight after holding all day and then another in the morning. If they are BFN then I’m giving up and waiting it out! Are you in TWW currently?

Hi all, new joiner... 31 and ttc since January. I thought this was our month but sadly not to be.. just got period. Trying to stay positive so I can get a positive! If there is a September thread please tag me.

Anyone else just feel like deleting all the apps and stopping tracking ovulation and just seeing what happens? People keep telling me I'm too focused on it but I dont want to waste a month of trying either

Hi! I thought it was best to not track and see what happens…now AF is “late”, I have no idea when I OVd, my tests are inconclusive, and my head is all over the place 😂 I wish I’d just tracked now. But obviously…down to personal preference. If you think it would take the pressure off then give it a go!

I just feel like what’s the point any more. Three chemicals in four months. Multiple lines across multiple brands on multiple days every month confirmed by other people and apps. And a superior at hospital can’t even get right that HCG leaves the blood before the urine so you can be negative but still see faint lines. Instead you’re told you’re not even getting pregnant in the first place. I’m 40. I feel lost. Just want to give up because now how do I even push for help from the recurrent loss people. Can’t keep going through this month after month. Don’t know how other people manage for years.

@olivehush im in no mans land currently! I’ve recently come off my pill and trying to get my cycle to regulate a bit before we actively start trying for baby #2. I’ve rejoined this thread so I can remember all the terminology and remember how it all works. Trying not to put any pressure on myself this time around as I got very obsessed with tracking and temperatures etc last time and it ruled my life a bit. X