calling old duffers or old up the duffers

[marinda]

By popular request (2 votes actually!) this is a thread for old duffers like me who are over the hill and TTC and for anyone who is old and up the duff ! I didn't suggest these terms so please don't get offended if you don't see yourself as a duffer but would like moral support , chat etc...
I am 38 years younh, have ds - 3.8 and have been TTC for 7 months ---aaaarggg!!!

You are not alone, Caz, I am 43 too! Which month?

I'm 41

I am 41 also and been bedding without contraception for 13 months, although only ttc and opks for two months. So another oldy to add to the list.
Bev

Hi all, just popping in to say hi. Am on cd 23 of 29 - hate this time of the month, wondering if we have managed it this month! Anyway, no symptoms to speak of so maybe a bfn on its way. Have got a 'First Response' hpt ready in case I cannot control my obsession with these things!

Question for all you ladies - I usually do opk's every month and the kits show ovulation around day 14. Do these results mean I am definately ovulating, or is it only a blood test at the doctor's that is definitive? Just wondering as we have been trying since August/Sept and no luck yet (sadly, just a m/c in December). Was thinking of going to see my doctor for some advice.

TIA

Had another scan today - I'm just over 7 weeks, and saw two babies, both with heartbeats! I know this is my second scan, and I saw them last time too - but I still can't get over it.

Anyway, I've been told that unless I have any more bleeding I won't be seen again till I'm about 12 weeks. Goodness, not sure i can wait that long for a bit of reassurance.

twins how wonderful.

Wish i had met DD earlier and had more money. I would like a large family but mustnt be greedy.

Pacinofan,

I've just come from GPs having asked the very same question. A blood test on cd21 to measure hormone levels (LH and F something?) can confirm whether you've ov'd. I've mine booked for next week as no luck after 11 months ttc #3.

Good luck,

BL (aged 40!)

Hi

Just going throught he same phase as you BL we've been trying for 11 months for No.2 and I had first blood test week before last and next week have the cd 21 test, DH just submitted his sample too. How the hell are you supposed to relax (which is supposed to help in becoming pg) when there are so many things to do/think about!?>

It's just so rediculous, isn't it? It's impossible to relax and not obsess about it all. I tried applying for another job but that didn't work last month, and I didn't get the job either so double misery!!

Thanks BellaLasagne, I am thinking of booking one of these if my af shows up in a few days which I fear it might. I've been really low the last few days wondering why it's just not happening, and although my common sense tells me that worrying will only make things worse, I just can't relax! Have already looked ahead for next month and dh is away working on ov. day, and that is adding stress too.

My mum probably has the best advice - to go away, relax, and it will probably just happen! Hoping to get away in June, so you never know!

Regards to all,

The other advice our GP gave us was to not use OPKs as they cause too much stress but to 'just enjoy ourselves'!!!! Also to REALLY enjoy ourselves by ensuring a big 'O' for me (and I'm talking When Harry Met Sally here ) as it sort of sucks up the wrigglers like a little hoover!!!! So enjoy!!!

BL

Hi

Just wanted to let you know I got the BFP! Cant believe it! Really pleased but was a bit worried as have been having pains that never had last time and bit worried about it - have settled down a bit now thank goodness.

So hoping that a bit of the baby dust spreads around you all

Bye for now

MF

congrats mumfun !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

loads of sticky babydust to you

Congtats mumfun - when are you due ????????
How are you all - bben rather quiet lately !!!!!

HI Marinda,

cd 28 today and no AF yet , but can't get my hopes up.

Just delivered dh's latest test to the path lab and I've had my cd21 blood test so we'll find out all the results on Monday.

Got 12 for Sunday lunch so busy now trying to take my mind off it all (except one of the 12 will be a 3 month old baby of some old friends that I haven't seen yet, but looking forward to meeting him )

Love to all,

BL x

Hi Marinda and all.Think Im due 16 Jan next year so hope to have avoided Xmas babe ( and was overdue last time) but you never know. Still taking it easy still worried re M/c rates.Trying not to get excited.

Had tried to get mind off getting pg by planning hol and buying some gorgeous summer clothes on ebay - hadnt bought hardly any clothes for 2 years. Well it worked but I dont know if your DH/DPs will appreciate me recommending a spending spree. Also did a good reflexology session 2 days before CD11/12 relevent days and think that helped massively as well.

Hope to hear brilliant news from others soon.

Mumfun

Hi all, I haven't been able to visit this thread for months because my PC upped and died, but am really glad to be able to be back. Huge congrats to those of you with BFPs and my heart goes out to those who have miscarried - I've been there, and it is so especially heartbreaking at our age.

I am now 18 weeks pregnant. Have had a bit of a worrying time (six weeks of bleeding) but baby seems to be thriving. Have been feeling very tired and sick (my mum's 'helpful' comment: "Oh, I felt wonderful in my pregnancies - but then I was 20 years younger than you") but so, so thrilled to finally be pregnant after so many years trying.

I also had my 41st birthday! So will really be the oldie at the school gate..

wooohoooo she's back! YAY!!!!

ahem sorry girls.

Hi Hester - I'm gonna be 42 when these two arrive - so I'll be the oldest mom at the gate!

Hi Hester (Hoooray you're back!!!!!!) and goldenoldie - I am a mere babe at 39!!! Also had another scan - all fine !!! 21 weeks now - knackered is not the word - my god it's hard work - I have to keep going for rests and still chucking in the morning !! Goldenoldie - didn-t realise you had 2 !!! Anymore duffers will news ?????

Hi

Just to say to Hester - never talked to you before but great to hear youre well and come thru what for me would have been very worrying 6 weeks.

Im fine - generally feeling rough and tired but so much better than first pg. Sometimes think maybe hormones not working as well but think maybe others find second less bad as your body is more used to hormones. Hope everyone else is well and glad your scan was good Marinda and hope you feel better soon

Lots of babydust to those trying.

Bye for now

MF

Hi mumfun, goldenoldie, marinda, munz - thanks for the lovely welcome! It's good to be back, though I'm having a very hectic time at work and finding it difficult to get Mumsnet time (the outrage: don't you think they should allow for it, along with time off for antenatal appointments?).

Yesterday I felt the first kicks - what a thrill!

Hester, Marinda - I'm way behind you at 13 weeks - but feeling very knackered and breathless. Also look very pregnant - no way of hiding it now.

goldenoldie, I do hope the knackeredness lifts soon. Mind you, I'm still wait for that glorious second trimester moment when you stop feeling sick and exhausted. I still fall asleep at 9pm every night and feel nauseous all day - though, to be fair, I no longer have to hide under my desk for a midday kip, and I've not actually been sick for ages.

I wonder if these symptoms are worse because of my age, or perhaps I'm just unlucky? My mum keeps smugly pointing out how she didn't get morning sickness at all - 'But then I was 20 years younger than you are now"! It does make me worry about how I'll cope after the birth... Mind you, everything worries me about how I'll cope with motherhood. I am completely and utterly terrified right now... (though also thrilled).