35yrs + and trying ✨🫶🏼

[SCK2024]

I am now 37 and have one beautiful 10yrs old boy, my partner has 2 boys 9 & 13yrs.

I bought the Hertility kit online, not yet opened it… I was going to give this cycle my last attempt before investigating 🙃

We got pregnant a year ago but due to personal circumstances we both decided to not go ahead, this I carry so much guilt over 🪃

Now we are both ready and settled in our careers and home but now it has taken nearly 6/7cycles.

today I got my 1st + ovulation test, so beginning our January TWW.

what is everyone else’s story 🌟

Ahh, so sorry to read that @SophieP89, limboland is horrible. When did you get negative tests? My first post-MC cycle was 29 days (I got a negative just under a week after the MC), although saying that, with my previous one the positives hung around for 3 weeks but that cycle was still only 30 days. Although I have no idea whether I ovulated on those...no idea if it's connected, but my second post MC cycles both times were short (24 days and 18 days 😳) so that's something else to watch out for...

More stupid questions from me - I took an ovulation test this lunchtime (as a sort of practise tbh) I’m on cycle day 10 and have a 28 day cycle so the little piece of paper in the tests says to start taking them on day 12. Question is - didn’t see anything on the test - is that ok for day 10 or does it mean I’m not going to ovulate this cycle??

I can't see any picture but LH levels fluctuate across the month, and the surge can vary: back when I TTC DD1 I used to have a couple of days of positive OPK, but more recently I've had very quick surges which go up and back down in the space of a couple of hours. Basically, keep with the testing and see what happens. If you find the OPK darkening round about mid-cycle (or even a bit later - DD2 was conceived around CD24!!), that may well be your pre-ovulation surge, even if you don't see a true positive. Then AF may (or may not!) arrive 12-14 days after that. Good luck!

Thanks @curliegirlie- I didn’t upload a photo as it’s just an ovulation test with one line! I was mainly wanting to check that it’s normal to have no line at all at some times of the month - I.E. a line only appears when you’re close to ovulating (which I’m at least 4 days away from now!)

Yep - my general baseline is what PreMom classes as about 0.13 ratio, but sometimes I struggle to see the other line at all. Then the surge or peak will comes whenever it comes (as I said, for me currently this happens very quickly and can be easy to miss), and you also might also see slightly darker lines just before AF and in the early days of your cycle.

@curliegirlieI think i tested negative around 10 days after miscarriage and I have been using ovulation tests ever since. The tests have got much darker since this morning so I'm hoping my peak is close, fingers crossed!

@curliegirliethanks! That’s helpful - so basically I should keep testing once a day and hopefully I’ll see it get darker (when I then might need to do more than one a day to catch the peak)

@curliegirliehere is todays! I know it’s not positive but it’s the start of the surge right? (There was nothing on there yesterday)

This is the ovulation test I've had today, I would say it looks positive? It's very hard to get a decent photo of the lines but in real life they look exactly the same.
I've also had twinges and mild pain in my left side so I do think my body is about to ovulate.
Feeling some sort of relief that something appears to be happening.

Hey👋
I have been TTC child number 2 since December 2024. I initially got pregnant in February 2024 but this ended in a TFMR in May due to a fatal diagnosis. Ever since the loss I have been struggling to conceive. I had surgery to remove stage 4 endometriosis (which I had no idea I had) and my c section scar defect was removed and resewn. These alone can cause issues conceiving so I am really hoping that I will have no issues going forward. However I was 34 when I started trying and turn 36 in just over a month. I am kind of losing hope

Looks good to me @SophieP89! It’s hard to keep positive I know @Mummysparrow- I’m 36

@FlyHighSky72 hard to know whether that's the start of a surge or not, but keep on testing!

@Mummysparrow it's miserable isn't it? I've not had a TFMR, but have had two MCs - one in March 2022 and another exactly 3 years later (to the day!) last month. I've just found out that my line manager's line manager's wife is expecting again and due in September. Their first is about 14 months old. I'm willing to bet they have been TTC and managed to have two kids all in the space of time that I've been failing to have DC3 😩😠

I didn't really mean the angry face but just sometimes it would be nice to have just a tiny slice of other people's good luck. I thought I was finally there last month - but noooo, just got two and a half weeks of false hope....

@curliegirlie it's hard isn't it. My colleague is pregnant and she got pregnant within a few months of coming off the pill and due in October. The baby I lost last year would have been a November baby. It is all just too close to home.
I should be in my fertile window on the basis of my last 3 cycles and then the dreaded 2ww. Thankfully since my surgery my cycles are more regular so hopefully the timing it right. But I dunno I just don't want to get my hopes up as I know the chance is big that I will be seeing a negative again in a few weeks

Does anyone take low dose aspirin (75mg)? If so where do you buy it??

@Mummysparrow what is it about November?! Both my MCs would have been November babies, I had a CP in November 2023, and last November my best friend fell pregnant but had to terminate as they in the position to have another child. March and November seem to be terrible, terrible months!

@curliegirlie oh god, it really does seem that way 😬 maybe it is something about bad health in Feb/march time 🤷
I am about to ovulate again and then back into the dreaded 2ww. Oh how I haven't missed a 2ww. On the plus side my cycles seems to have settled to a nice 28 day cycle since my surgery which makes timing BD a lot easier as my cycles used to be anywhere from 29 to 35 days

Sorry to hear @Mummysparrowand @curliegirlie- I have an older child from a previous relationship and count myself as very lucky that I conceived her first try and had no issues. Very worried this time around though as I’m ten years older and with a new partner!! Fingers crossed for all of us

Today’s ovulation test - def darker than yesterday! Fingers crossed as my prediction from apps says I ovulate tomorrow!!

Sorry for the stream of consciousness btw guys - you’re keeping me sane

Hey girls!
the famous….. I’m back!!! 😂🫠

May cycle (CD7)
OVK started yday I have my lines visible but not dark yet, fertile week definitely starts today I think Sat/Sunday is I’ll be my peak.

feeling positive and hopeful this month! Both me and OH are child free and not working this weekend, the sun is shining, which always brings out the happiness! 😊

@FlyHighSky72 Keep testing! It’s definitely getting darker! So start bouncing! Your peak should be (I think) 4/5days from now of it gradually gets darker, but I’d say it’s the beginning of your fertile week.

@curliegirlie How are you?

we have a good few newbies so hello! 👋 😊😊

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Thanks @SCK2024- pretty similar situation here! Same age and similar age child!! Been BD every 2-3 days since the end of my period - I’m on CD14 today so all the apps thought id ovulate today but no sign of it! Only started using OPKs on Tuesday this week (eg CD12) and the line has barely changed! Wondering if I missed it!?! No clue! Think I’ll just keep BD every other day - maybe more over the bank holiday weekend (as also child free) and hope we catch it! Argh! So stressful

Thanks @SCK2024- pretty similar situation here! Same age and similar age child!! Been BD every 2-3 days since the end of my period - I’m on CD14 today so all the apps thought id ovulate today but no sign of it! Only started using OPKs on Tuesday this week (eg CD12) and the line has barely changed! Wondering if I missed it!?! No clue! Think I’ll just keep BD every other day - maybe more over the bank holiday weekend (as also child free) and hope we catch it! Argh! So stressful

You may of missed it lovely, I am no expert! Wish I was!
however if you have been BDing ever other days since AF you have definitely covered all bases! So I wouldn’t worry too much.
My always start testing at CD 6 that is when I notice my 2 lines then peak is usually around CD 10/12
how long are your cycles & been trying for?
mine are 22-26days. ✨

Thanks @SCK2024ill try starting earlier with the OPKs next month! This is my first month trying and cycles are 28 days. I’ve no idea when I ovulate - I usually get EWCM but haven’t paid attention to exactly when in my cycle as have had a coil and so haven’t needed to!! I think it’s not impossible it’s still to come and I noticed a bit more CM today - not egg white but maybe moving that way so fingers crossed I ovulate over the bank holiday as can get lots of BD-ing in then ! How about you?