Friendly/supportive/sensitive thread 🌱

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi everyone, I was hoping to start a nice friendly supportive and sensitive thread. Maybe for those ttc for a while or after losses or just finding things difficult with ttc in general. I love to read others have had bfp's as it gives me hope, but have been finding some threads with alot of positive test pictures posted quite difficult.
Hoping to find others looking for the same as it's lovely to have a place to rant, feel sad, feel happy, get advice, or just obsess without judgement 🙂

I am 36, started ttc 2 years ago, had 2 mmc, and have now been ttc for 14 months since the last one without success. Currently on cd14 on a "not tracking"cycle. x

@BGxxx I'm with you on feeling sorry for yourself, I naively think okay we've got the next cycle that it could happen fast forward 12 cycles and still saying the same thing 😅 I think I'm just getting impatient now and wondering what's wrong with me 🙃 my last one took 14 months of ttc, I was hoping this time around would be quicker.

Yeah I have to take myself off somewhere if I hear her talking about pregnancy.
Oh wow 😆 I guess it’s always drilled into us when younger to be careful as you can get pregnant so easily. I remember freaking out about it a few times! Oh how things have changed

I’m glad I’m not alone!! Ewcm has returned so I’m back to ovulation testing tomorrow although it probably won’t be any time soon! I hate not knowing what’s going on🤣

@BGxxx hope you find your peak soon! Mine was today so after tomorrow my tww begins!

@Jess1066 hope the tww speeds past!!

We’ve got loads of plans between now and Christmas so I hope I can forget about ovulating and not stress and then I might actually ovulate 🤣

Hi girls, I was going to make a new thread but thought I’d post here first in case anyone had any experiences. This cycle marks 12 with no success, and I turn 36 in April. My partner is 42 and is booked in for testing in Jan.
has anyone considered/been through egg freezing wirh a view to using these eggs if IVF was needed at a later date, therefore using younger eggs than what I would be at the time? Neither of us are emotionally or physically ready to pursue IVF at the moment, (for various reasons) but I was thinking this may improve chances later on, especially as my mum is desperate to pay for it.
has anyone considered/done this and have any experiences to report?

Many thanks xx

@Jess1066 @BGxxx what ovulation tests do you use? I'm tempted to test this cycle. I predict it'll around Sunday as that's when I'm due to get ewcm, but i don't know my actual ovulation day 🤷‍♀️

@Vanilla90 I used the clear blue digital ones for this cycle! But used the natural cycles ones before that!

Im using easy at home atm, I’ve used clearblue as well but I find the cheap tests just as good

Sorry about af @PoppyPeaches I dont have any experience of this, although it makes sense. Hoping someone else will know about it ... I hope you have a lovely holiday, I'm very jealous of the thought of cocktails in the sun 😎x

@Figtree11 Thank you, I am ok actually, I looked at my app and this is month 14/15, but my 18th cycle trying since the loss, the longest it took for previous pregnancies was 5 months (and i remember thinking that was like forever lol) so I'm not sure if it will happen now after so long, still holding out some hope though 🙂 How are you? Glad you don't have long to wait now until you can spk to the consultant, hoping you can get a good plan and some answers x

Sorry you were feeling down, how are you now? @Vanilla90 Yes i feel the same rolercoaster of hope but fear if it happens again and doesnt work out too... i actually think about that all the time, what if it happens after waiting so long but then ends in loss... i feel it would be better to just never happen now and so not have to go through that. x

@BGxxx yes I feel those feelings too. There has been another newborn in the family ( in-laws) and this is the second one this year. Meh! x

Hi ladies, how is everyone doing? X

I was tempted to get the ovulation tests, but decided not to so I don't get carried away with testing 🙄 trying to focus on enjoying Christmas and not get fixated on babies (but my brain has other ideas)

@Ladyinpink1 ready to start TTC again, your fertile window should be coming up soon too?

@Vanilla90 doing well! I'm 4 DPO so still very early! At least the run up to Christmas helps take the mind of it! Haven't really felt anything worth note, some cramps and a sensitive chest but trying not to symptom spot or i'll go crazy! 😂 my app says to take a test Christmas day but I'm not sure how I feel about that!

Glad to hear your fertile window is coming up! You are just right with not getting to into the testing but I understand the need too! It's crazy how your brain makes you feel during that ovulation window!

Glad you are doing ok as can be @Ladyinpink1 Yeah my consultant appt is a week today. Hopefully get some more answers

@Vanilla90 ive been spotting since Wednesday night but AF still not here. I’ve been ill with flu or Covid all week so don’t know if that has caused havoc with it all. Feel impatient waiting for it to arrive. Although probably good job it’s not, as not sure I could practically deal with a period while I’ve been in bed for days!
I tested ovulation this cycle, and either missed it completely or I didn’t ovulate as I saw no peak. So think it’s best to sometimes not track

@Vanilla90 im cycle day 20 something, still no ovulation 😒😒 I’ve taken having a regular cycle for granted the past, this is annoying 🤣

@Jess1066 symptom spotting is the worst and yet we still can't help but do it! Out of the 3 times I've been pregnant, I only had symptoms before a BFP with my second pregnancy.
Some cycles I've had "symptoms" and thought I was in with a chance and got a BFN lol.
Testing Christmas Day is a hard one!! It would be so amazing to get a positive at Xmas! What do you think you'll do? What CD is Xmas day for you?

@Figtree11 sorry to hear you're not very well, hope you feel better soon. Yeah, might be the stress of being ill delaying AF. Hopefully she hurries up and you can get onto the next cycle.

@BGxxx oh that's so annoying. Is it possible to miss it using the tests?

@Vanilla90 yes I know, literally keep looking at my bbt and comparing it to my last BFP in Sept, the start of the charts don't look the same, temp hasn't had a massive increase like it did last time so I keep telling myself I think I'm out this month! I'm not sure I don't think I will, it would be cd 32 for me so technically I could do a test cd 28 which would meant to be the first day of AF. I just kind of feel like I don't want the answer hanging over me if AF is going to come.

@Vanilla90 I’ve stopped testing again because the ewcm went for a week and now it’s come back🤣 it just feels like a waste of tests because they’re constantly the same

@Jess1066 well, they say every pregnancy is different and a number of things can affect your bbt... so, you're not out until AF arrives! The tww is so torturous.
I feel like Christmas is not the best time to be TTC, I want to know whether I can have wine with my Christmas dinner or not 🤣

@BGxxx your body can't seem to make its mind up can it 😂 on a positive note, at least it's trying to do its thing! Ewcm can only be a good sign!
Is this your second cycle since your periods started again?

I just clicked on the chat and found a draft message I never sent! Now it doesn't make sense so will retype lol

@Vanilla90 I bought the ovulation tests 🫣 I have such bad willpower. I found the relaxed cycle much better but because we are off work this cycle, I think we will have the time/energy to dtd more than usual so want to make sure that it's at the right time if that makes sense.

I am cd13 today, got my peak yesterday and ovulation pain yesterday so I assume today is O day.
I also went to my friends last night for reflexology and also had it a week ago too with her (I was telling her never mind all the other organs, just concentrate on the ovaries 😂 ) My ovulation pain yesterday was sorer than usual, very crampy, so just a few things a bit different this cycle number 18 🙄 How are you? Where are you in your cycle? x

I'm sorry you have been unwell @Figtree11 how are you now? What a pain with the spotting, you really haven't had it easy.
Your appointment is this Friday, is that right? Hoping you get a good appointment, some answers and a plan. I think things always feel better with a plan, don't they. Will you get a good amount of time off over the holidays? x

@Jess1066 It's a hard one, I understand not wanting to know but also wanting to know. The tww is so hard, everything us heightened isn't it x

@BGxxx Really sorry you are having trouble pinpointing ovulation. Fig has had the same thing happen this cycle. Any joy yet? x

@Ladyinpink1 I am CD 13 today too!
Different is hopefully a good sign! Worth a go! Maybe the soreness and cramps is your body releasing an extra special egg for you to fertilise this Christmas? Lol🤞
I wish I had got the ovulation tests, my body is doing weird things. Which ones did you buy?
TMI warning... CD 9/10 I didn't really have much ewcm, more milky/wet but DTD. CD11 it dried up completely, tender boobs, so assumed I must have ovulated.
I thought that when your CM disappears it usually means ovulation has happened?
However, earlier I noticed ewcm (but only after a bowel movement) apart from that, have hardly got any CM, so I'm really confused 🤷‍♀️

Still no peak🤣 my little one is teething so wanting feeding more than usual so I don’t think that’s helping

Ha ha @Vanilla90 that's exactly what I thought... maybe 2 eggs released this cycle 🥚 to give me a better chance 😂
When would you normally ovulate? Would it normally be earlier in your cycle? I get cm most of my cycle, but it does come and go in the amount of it... could you not have ovulated yet?
One step. x

@BGxxx well hoping it comes soon so you can have your attempt and then hopefully relax a bit (we'll as relaxed as you can be in the tww) x

@Ladyinpink1 I hope so!! I feel like there’s a new pregancy announcement everyday at the moment, it’ll only be worse next week I imagine with the Christmas announcements too!

I love the idea of this thread! Everyone defines TTC for a „long time” differently I guess, and some people may think that me being on cycle 8 is not THAT long, it feels like an eternity to me and has been a huge rollercoaster so far.

I am 32, thought to be at a great age to try for my first, and expected to get pregnant super quickly because I always had great, regular cycles yet here I am, on cycle 8 already, in disbelief.

I have gone to have fertility investigations early and already discovered a few months ago that there might be issues which massively bring me down and I am having a really hard time right now. Now I envy those who can do minor treatments like ovulation induction and get pregnant easily…
After discovering an endmetrioma cyst which may suggest endometriosis, my world came crashing down. I always thought this is the last condition I could possibly ever have!
My husband’s results were very good but his morphology was very low, again shocked me massively due to our healthy lifestyle, supplements etc.

Now I am just praying that we can still get pregnant naturally, however long that may take. My biggest dream was always to have a big family so this is incredibly hard for me. I guess I am just massively worried that it might never happen to us.
I wasn’t sure if I could post this because I find it so hard, but I think it is important to spread awareness since these conditions are so common, even despite having no symptoms like me, and investigating early is going to (hopefully) save us time. Hopefully those of you who have been try for even longer have at least managed to rule out this terrible condition.

I am really in need of positive stories, encouragement and positivity in general. I regularly have mental breakdowns now some days, which obviously won’t help with fertility. Any positive words would be so helpful and hope we can all support each other 🙏