December TTC Support Group

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Hey! Making a space for those that are :

• starting to TTC in December
• also had a negative in November and preparing to try again
• trying in November and will be testing in December

all welcome! 🤗

Hope we all get a BFP! x

Thanks @CoolSummer89 - after 11 cycles trying for #1 and 10 trying for #2 I know all of this academically, but I still can't stop myself from obsessing most of the time 😂In semi-fairness to me, I have consistently low progesterone and a short luteal phase (the only time I've ever seen 12DPO was when I conceived my son) so by the time 7DPO rolls round I'm mostly looking for signs that I'm out - the fixation on my heart rate is usually checking to see if it's dropped down, which seems to consistently happen at around 8DPO, 48 hours before my period rolls in...

I did skip most of my tracking for a cycle over the summer and did exactly the same as you and just got annoyed at myself for having imperfect data 😅because apparently I still think I can Type A myself pregnant. Anyway, trying to persuade myself that I don't really want an August baby anyway and that next cycle post-HyCoSy will definitely be the one that does it.

Has anyone been referred to a fertility clinic and if so how long does it take for an appointment? I've not been ovulating and I thought I did in November but blood test showed I didn't. Having said that I might of taken the blood test too early as my periods have been all over the place this year.
My GP said she is doing a referral for me given my age so just wanted to know how long it takes. My app said AF is due tomorrow but I'm going to remain positive and pray for a miracle.

Oooh yes I love that you’re thinking positively that it might be your last date night with a wine ☺️ i’m actually looking forward to having a drink which I’m usually not bothered about!

I definitely feel your pain with regards to TTC and the pressure. Me and my DH have had the same discussions and he questions whether i’m trying it on because it’s my fertile period or whether I actually want to 😅 at least you can relax now and just see what happens! X

@blackberryhill Haha "think I can type A myself pregnant" I think we might be the same person.

@RG84 I think it really depends area to area. I was referred back in October and my GP said I should get an appointment in January. This is in east London. Whereabouts are you based?

6dpo for me today trying to keep myself busy but I think we are out this month as we only dtd once at o-3 as we were all ill. Anyway not the worst month for it to happen as we go away on holiday next week so it would be nice to relax and have a few drinks.

@CoolSummer89 thank you for letting me know. I'm in Berkshire so not sure what the waiting time here.
So you had a 3 month wait, have they mentioned what you need to prepare ahead of time or what they are looking for? Given my age, I would love an appointment tomorrow! Wishful thinking hey

Hi Everyone,

I will be trying properly' now from this month, currently on cycle day 2 and if all goes to well. I could be finding out im pregnant on Christmas Day

Hello, sorry if you've already mentioned, I haven't scrolled very far down, but do you know for certain you're not? I ask because after my D&C, it took 8 weeks and a load of random bleeds for my actual period to come. I wasn't tracking ovulation at that point as it seemed pointless when I was bleeding randomly.

One day, after my last bleed, I'd had a huge amount of EWCM which was unusual for me. I then found some progesterone strips and tried one only to find out that it was positive, so I confirmed I'd ovulated despite all the OPKs having been negative. I fell pregnant that cycle.

I don't know if it could help you confirm, but the progesterone strips I got were £17 from Amazon and have confirmed ovulation for me twice now.

Hi ladies, Can I join in for another month ttc. Ttc baby no.3
Im 34. Had a loss in August. This is my 3rd cycle trying since then. Got my peak today on opk and strong ovulation pains and also lots of Ewcm. Dtd yesterday morning, we will again tonight and again tomorrow night and hopefully that will be enough. I wasn't expecting to ovulate this early cd13 as last month it was cd20 so we only started Dtd yesterday morning on cd12. After getting a peak I think it will actually be tomorrow that I ovulate, am I right? Sending plenty of Christmas baby dust to everyone

Hi!
I hope you don't mind me popping in.

I am 34 y/o and have a son born in 2018. For the past year I've been dreaming about a second child. Currently I've been trying for 1 cycle. Aunt flow came to visit me today, so I'm not super excited about it, but I'll get the chance to try again next week.

It's very nice to have a community where there is mutual understanding. I can't really talk to my OH about my worries. Mainly because he doesn't understand my way of thinking.

Anyways, I've read so much about infertility, and I am very nervous that something may be wrong (ex., secondary infertility). I know that I probably shouldn't be thinking about it, but it's difficult not to be nervous when the thought of not being able to conceive is overwhelming. As you may understand by now, I am a bit dramatic (and yes I do know that the chances of conceiving every moth range between 20-25 %).

With my previous pregnancies (one loss) I fell pregnant during the first cycle, and it was so easy and stressless. I guess I expected (and still do. Silly me) that it will be as easy as it was in 2017-2018. Anyways, sorry the rant, there's just so many feelings tied to this TTC process, and a huge fear of having to face something that will potentially block me from having a second child.

I guess reading the forum gives me a sense of assurance that it takes time, and that's should be ok.

I hope we all get a BFP very soon!

Hi @ramp2025

Thanks for sharing your journey It really is such an emotional rollercoaster. I completely understand how overwhelming those worries can feel, especially when it didn’t take long the first time around. You’re not being dramatic; it’s natural to feel this way
I’m also TTC this month, hoping for my third. I’ve been lucky in the past with getting pregnant on the first cycle, but I know every journey can be different. It’s such a comfort having a group like this where we can all support each other. Sending you lots of baby dust, and I hope we both get our BFPs soon!

@Renee33
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. It sure is very emotional. I bought a pair of tiny socks yesterday. It's a way of fighting back stupid thoughts and actually believing that I will have a BFP sooner or later.

That's great, maybe December is gonna be our month? I'll start testing 24th of December (but actually I don't know because I don't want to mess up my Christmas spirit).

I'm crossing my fingers for you!

I’m currently in the middle of my referral for secondary infertility.

I had my first GP appointment late August where they booked me for bloods and pelvic ultrasound. I got my bloods done straight away pretty much and then my ultrasound end of September. Ultrasound showed both ovaries multifollicular, so that along with my irregular cycles my GP referred me to gynae with a suggested diagnosis of PCOS. That referral was sent at the beginning of October and I had my first consultant appointment a couple of weeks ago. He has confirmed PCOS and wants to put me on letrozole, but I need more bloods via the GP and a hycosy once they’ve been done. My letter actually came through this morning, so hopefully GP will book those in soon.

All in all they’re been a lot quicker than I expected, it’s just annoying going back and between fertility clinic and GP before the next step. But with it being my second I’m just thankful they’re helping me at all!

That’s reassuring, hopefully I will concieve soon! If not I think I’ll wean at 2 and hope for the best🤣

@KittyFantastica hi there, no worries. Since having my daughter in 2020, my periods and ovulation have been all over the place and I've always been on the dot. This year I've had about 5 periods and no ovulation. Since June, I've had an ultrasound, PCOS blood test and urine test and all have come back normal. I think this month if I do start my period, then after that I am going to check every day until the end of the month if I ovulate. Cab you send me the link of the sticks you used please? I'll try anything and to be honest I won't get an appt anytime soon anyway so it's better I check again so I have another record.

@Marie1990x ah I'm glad there is progress and you know exactly what's going on with your body regarding the pcos. I also had an ultrasound, pcos blood test and urine but all came back normal.

I have no idea why I am not ovulating but I'm going to check everydsy should my AF arrive 😭

Peak isn't due for another 3 days but looking like I'll peak tomorrow now after how dark tonight's test is!

Rant away!! This is a safe space to get it all out!

I was hoping my journey would be quicker this time round as it was a year for my daughter with 2 losses and we are 7 months in this time with 1 loss it's so draining!!

These are the ones I used. I've only used two thus far, but I'll take one with me on holiday to use toward the end just to see whether I did actually ovulate.

They work in the opposite way to OPKs - once you've ovulated, progesterone should be present in your system. If it's present, there will be only one line. If there's no progesterone and you haven't ovulated, there will be two lines. I got my peak OPK on the morning of CD16 last month, and had a positive progesterone test evening on CD18, so I ovulated CD17. We weren't trying last month, I just wanted to see how my cycle was looking, it did help.

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It must be so frustrating when they’re coming back normal but not ovulating. Has your GP suggested anything? Surely they would hopefully recommend ovulation induction medication? How long have you been ttc?

Does it definitely say “ normal”? My bloods came back mostly “satisfactory”, so the consultant explained in the eyes of a GP they were okay and in normal range but from a fertility specialist they weren’t where they’d like them, as they were either high or low ends.

I did however have a progesterone test which showed I ovulated that cycle, it was really high too at 59 nmol/l which my consultant said was great. I was convinced they’d say well if it shows ovulation they can’t do anything, but they were great in acknowledging it could have been a one off and typical to be the cycle I’m getting tested.

Hey, tentatively joining in the hope that my sore boobs and cramping aren’t because my body is doing me dirty and bringing me an early period 🤞🏼. I’m 7dpo and have had sore nipples since Saturday and have had a bit of cramping today. Trying not to go mad!

Wasn't going to symptom spot, partly cos I can't re.ember symptoms with #1 but cramping tonight, so much so I've got a hot water bottle.

I did have cramps last month though before AF so telling myself I'm out. AF due next Monday ish

@JB2021 I get cramping before AF too, sorry to hear.

I got a bit teary eyed tonight as the anticipation and possible outcomes
are overwhelming me. Next Monday feels like a lifetime away

Think I may be out too!! My apps say I’m 10 DPO, but from looking at my temps I think I’m 12. My temp dropped a lot this morning, sitting just above cover line which would normally happen at this point if I was 12, with AF arriving tomorrow. Sore boobs started yesterday too, another typical AF sign for me.

I’ve not tested this month, which has felt quite freeing not seeing any negative tests actually.

Will update tomorrow for sure 😊 have a lovely day ladies

@KT199 i agree, I was unable to test on 2nd cycle as I was away and it was so good, I will likely use up my 3 non-sensitive tests this month but will only buy new ones if I miss my period.

9dpo here this morning! Still cramping with tender/full feeling boob's, lower back ache etc. Slept horribly last night. App says period due sun (14dpo cd38) but really I would expect it anytime this week as my cycles are not normally this long. I'm hoping that as I've had cramping on and off for 3 days now that if it was period related that my period would of come by now but who knows 😅

Bpn on an easy at home strip this morning which i was expecting 🙃