TTC after loss part 6

[Figtree11]

Previous thread created is nearly full so starting a new one. Will try and tag names

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Hi ladies! Will be Beginning to TTC in December, I’m booked in to have my copper coil removed on the 19th of December and hopefully baby no 3 will be conceived not too long after!😂 had 2 early losses both last November and last December and got the coil put in January this year as I felt I needed to process my losses before trying again.. now it’s been a year since my first loss I feel ready to start trying again and I’m so excited! Baby dust to all you lovely ladies and here’s hoping we all get the best Christmas present ever ;) 👶🏼 👣 🤍xx

@PensivePencil I’m holding out a little bit of hope for a miracle as this pregnancy itself is nothing short of a miracle given the circumstances but preparing for the worst as I don’t want to get my hopes up.

I had therapy for my missed miscarriage and ttc, it helped so much. I too was staying in a job I hated as I was too scared to move jobs in case I got pregnant. However my therapist said something to me that struck a cord. They asked how I would feel if in one years time I still wasn’t pregnant and was still in a job I hated, would I regret it? After that session I started looking for new jobs and landed my dream job. This job has taken away so much stress, given me a new focus and most importantly made me a lot happier.

My HCG has almost tripled in 48 hours 🥹🎉The nurse has booked me in for a scan in two weeks but she’s really happy with how my HCG has progressed.

I won’t let myself get excited yet until we’ve seen all is well on the scan but for now I’m cautiously optimistic that this might be a little miracle 🤞

@Reyttc that’s reassuring! Keeping everything crossed for you 🤍

@Reyttc that’s reassuring for you I’m sure. Fingers crossed everything continues to progress how it should

@Reyttc amazing tentative congratulations xxx

AF due in 2 days and I just have a feeling that it’s on its way! I’m just so fed up! It’s been so long now and absolutely nothing!! 12th cycle this month. There has to be something wrong

I’m so sorry you feel so fed up, I can completely sympathise with you. Although, let’s try to stay positive, you’re not out until AF actually arrives.
remind me, have you had any tests done?

Just joining in after a second missed miscarriage. Would love to hear his soon others tried again/how you felt about it? I am on clomid to stimulate ovulation so can't start that again until I have a period but I probably will ovulate myself before then and really torn about trying then. If I go for it I know I'll spend all of Christmas symptom spotting and hoping for a BFP when we're in Spain for new years. I don't really want to wait but feel like it might be better to give my head and body a break for a few weeks. Totally all of the place to be honest!

@TrulyMiss my first I tried right away and wasn’t successful for 8 cycles, my second I waited a cycle then fell straight away (who is now an energetic 3yo) and this time I wanted to try straight away but I’m 6.5weeks post mva and have done ovulation sticks each day but have had no peak - and no sign if AF - so may be forced to wait a cycle! I think it depends on how you feel and how ready you are x

Oh i love this miracle stories That s amazing congrats 🎉
How are you doing now?

@Figtree11 just thought I'd check in and see how you are xx

@DonnaWhat thank you, that’s kind of you. I had to take a step back from the thread for my wellbeing. I have been struggling.
Had my first recurrent miscarriage clinic appt, they think I have APS syndrome, a blood clotting disorder. Waiting on another blood test result to confirm it. Have a treatment plan in place though which is positive. Also being tested for any hormone issues due to the irregular cycles.

CD40 something and no ovulation in sight, so I am just feeling very low. The festive season isn’t helping, it should be so different this year for me, yet it’s not, I’m grieving 2 losses instead of 1. Sorry that was a bit of a downer. I hope you are doing well?

Sorry I have ignored the rest of you, kind of had to just shut off from it all for a while

You're not a downer at all. You're completely entitled to feel the way you feel. I saw the thread had been quiet and thought id check in. I've never heard of aps but is it something they can treat? It's good to see you have a treatment plan in place. It might be a slighter longer road ahead but I have everything crossed for you. If you feel like stepping away from the thread then that's fine. If you ever want to talk or vent, reach out and drop me an inbox. I cam always be an ear to bend, don't forget that. Please do remember to love yourself beaut. 💝

Thanks @DonnaWhat I hadn’t heard of it either, but it’s an immune system disorder that causes an increased risk of blood clots. And this can cause recurrent miscarriage. The consultant said it’s very treatable, and I would have to be on aspirin & daily blood thinner injections throughout a pregnancy. Not sure yet what it means for my long term health.

So I feel ok about that, I feel better knowing there is a plan even though it’s not ideal. Now my mind is just so fixed on there being a problem for the long cycles, and I am so fed up of not having many chances to try conceive because of this. I just can’t pull myself out of this hole I’m in at the minute.

Thank you, I am sure I will take you up on that offer of a chat sometime xxx
Sending love to you & hope everything is progressing well x

@Figtree11 please don’t apologise. You didn’t ignore anyone, you were simply looking after yourself. Which should always be your priority. I’m sorry you’ve been feeling so down lately. Hopefully with the results of your tests and the plan in plan it’ll mean that you will get your sticky like bean that you so much deserve.

Thank you. I think this time of year isn’t helping, this Christmas should have been different to last Xmas. But it’s just exactly the same. How are you doing?

I feel you.
it really hit home when we put our tree up and we were putting our decorations on “first Christmas at our new home together - 2021” “first Christmas engaged - 2022” “first Christmas married -2023”
a year just rolled down my face when I realised we should have had a 2024 - another first. But we don’t sadly. It’s heartbreaking.
Im not sure how I’m going to cope with Christmas this year.
Im currently 5DPO, not really sure how I feel about this cycle if I’m honest.
How are you today? X

@Reyttc Im sorry you’re going through this, it’s really tough, particularly with the waiting

@Figtree11 sending love. It’s almost a positive that they have found something so that a plan can be made, hope I’m not speaking out of turn here. I felt almost frustrated when mine came back normal. I totally understand the Christmas thing too, it’s a really hard time of year when TTC/after loss.

@PensivePencil I’ve had both a handful of therapy sessions and Accupuncture. Can’t recommend either enough. If you find a fertility Accupuncturist they’re invaluable. Appreciate not for everyone but it’s definitely made me do a 180 on it and now I see my Acupuncturist every fortnight x

Currently CD10 and been spotting the last few days which is joyous.. so don’t no whether to just say I’m out or test!

Hi @Figtree11 I know a bit about aps my dad was diagnosed a few years ago with it after a Tia. He was later undiagnosed with it after repeat tests showed negative results. When you are ready I'm happy to talk about what I learnt from my reading.

It looks like I'm heading back over here. I had a scan 2 weeks ago at what should have been 7+3 but was 6 weeks. Rescan this morning and there's been growth but not consistent with 2 weeks and no heartbeat. Given I should be either 9+4 or 8 weeks depending on lmp or previous scan I've been told to prepare to lose the pregnancy. They are rescanning next week to confirm.

@Ncl31 I’m sorry you are feeling similar. I haven’t put my tree up yet, just want to whizz past Xmas this year. I also find January a pretty miserable month, so maybe by spring I’ll feel better 😆 I hope this is a positive cycle for you & you get the best Christmas present ever. I’m ok thank you, just trying to keep busy. Only 2 weeks to go until my next appt with the consultant

@Blueskies4 definitely not speaking out of turn, when they first said about APS I had a bit of a cry, but now I’m trying to be positive, and I do feel better knowing that if I do get pregnant there is a plan in place. The consultant said it’s very treatable. I still have the worry of another partial molar though.
I’m sorry you are spotting - I hope it’s a good sign though.

@Superscientist i am so so sorry about the scan. It’s just devastating. When abouts is your next scan? Life is just so cruel. Sending you so much love. It shouldn’t have to be this difficult.
Thank you for the kind offer of chatting to me about APS. Not yet been told what it means for my general health, as still waiting on the second lot of blood tests to confirm I definitely have it

hi all. I have been avoiding these threads since my another loss. But here we are again! Im convinced this test will be a positive. I have felt like this twice before and both times it was. After my sixth loss I have totally changed. Gone is the obsessive tracker etc. I would read about other women who suddently stopped doing it so delicately and intricately planned and would be like WTF, that could never be me. But it is! I havent done a single test, LH or HCG since July. Just relying on my own body etc. But i woke up this morning, 10DPO and i just feel it in my gut. My question is, whats the minimum time to hold wee? I notmally use FMU but didnt and now im DESPERATE to test. is 4 hours enough?

Thanks @Figtree11 it's next Thursday.

It can be readily managed with blood thinners and can go into remission too. You might need testing for lupus as it's often they go together. It was Dr Hughes a prominent lupus specialist that identified aps as a condition.

My dad was on warfarin as it's more easily reversed in an emergency and he had a manual job so they needed to balance the risk of clots with risk of the risk of uncontrollable bleeding if he had an accident at work. His thrombotic risk is now managed with aspirin. It's a complicated story they lost the test results that showed the aps after his Tia when they retested years later he no longer had any markers for aps. Your levels of the phospholipids vary for many reasons which is why you need the bloods repeated.

@Superscientist sending lots of love, that’s a awful position to be in xx