TTC after loss part 6

[Figtree11]

Previous thread created is nearly full so starting a new one. Will try and tag names

Happy new year everyone. I only dip in & out of this thread now. I was glad to see the back of 2024.

@Superscientist I’m sorry you’re struggling. I too had news over Christmas about someone close being pregnant. It doesn’t get easier. Sending a hug

@Superscientist it's incredibly tough - two people announced their pregnancies while I was still on the tail end of my last MC, both due within a month of when I would have been. It was like a gut punch. To want something so badly and to start to imagine it might happen, then not only to lose that but to have it play out for someone else. It's so hard. I think you'd have to be superhuman not to be affected by it. I hope you get some time to mourn quietly soon.

@Ella31 thanks so much for the offer of support, appreciate it. Hope you’re doing ok in your pregnancy xx

@Superscientist I’m sorry to hear about the announcement, in never gets easier does it

happy new year ladies, really hoping 2025 is a positive one for us all xx

Thanks guys 💐

I'm sorry you had announcements too @Figtree11

I think it has been harder today with the reminder of the miscarriage with Christmas it feels so much longer than 3 weeks ago. I've had the house to myself for the afternoon so I've had my feeling sorry for myself time with the help of chocolate and ice cream! I've got my negative test today. I'm pleased to be able to move on but also disappointed as we've not held back trying. The max I'd be is 15dpo so still potential this cycle.

I've bought a conception recipe book for my kindle. My partner has been doing some reading about the benefits of different foods which is very much not like him!

Hello everyone, and happy new year! Hoping to join you all as these threads look wonderfully supportive.

I'm 38, and had a MMC at 8 weeks (everything stopped growing at 6 weeks) and naturally miscarried in Dec. It was my first ever pregnancy. DH and I guarded our hearts so it wasn't as devastating at the time but I started my period on the 1st (first cycle since MC) which made for a rubbish start to the year. My tests are now negative which felt sad to see, even though I've known for weeks it would be. We are going to try this cycle but am not tracking OPKs yet - will just BD in my 8 day ovulation window (according to Clue) and check for EWCM. If it's totally haywire this cycle, I'll track next.

@Superscientist I remember you from the July Due Date threads, we both bowed out the same time I think and you shared some insightful, kind posts at the time. I feel the same about negative tests as we too didn't prevent, but relieved there's no RPOC or complications from the MC. I've been SO unhealthy since I found out the MMC, I'm 50% booze and sugar so trying to get back to baseline health again. Do share if there's any favourite recipes you find!

Welcome @houwseevryweekend to the thread nobody wants/expects to be part of. ❤️ MMCs are a particular kind of devastating, aren't they? Hope everything goes back to normal (cycle-wise) for you quickly.

I'm 38 as well, we're trying to have no 2, but I had 2 MCs before No 1 and now have had another MC (in July). I've had a positive test earlier this week so currently pregnant, but it's such early days, I'm just waiting to see how that goes. It's mad to think I've been pregnant in 2021, 2022, 2023, 2024 and 2025 and currently only one child to show for it - but I know that's not unusual on this board, sadly.

Thank you, and congratulations! I'm hoping this bean will be no 2 for you. Stories like yours give me hope, even though it must have been a challenging time for you. I didn't even know MMC were a thing till it happened to me, so feels like just another anxiety us ladies need to deal with. I have PTSD from the scan room at my hospital already because I never once had good news in there.

The 25% statistic for miscarriages seems quite low as almost all my friends have had them - I wish this was the stuff they taught us in school so I was more prepared. I've learnt more from MN more than I ever learnt in biology lessons, or tbh from doctors/midwives.

Hi everyone,

So sorry that you’re all here but happy to find people who understand the worries of TTC a little more than those that haven’t experienced a loss.

I’m just starting on my TTC journey after a TFMR last year in June. I already have a little boy from a previous relationship but this was me and my partners first pregnancy together. Unfortunately baby was diagnosed with a heart condition at our 20 week scan and I gave birth at 22 weeks to my sleeping angel. We’ve both been very broken emotionally since then but we’re now feeling a bit stronger and ready to try again.

My periods are more regular now than before my pregnancy and although I’ve not tracked much this cycle we’ve DTD several times in my ovulation window (according to Flo) so I’m quietly hoping. Currently roughly 4DPO

Wishing everyone the best of luck for 2025

Happy new year to you all. I am potentially having my surgery at the end of this month to fix my isthmocele and will need to wait a few months before I can TTC again. I really hope you have all got your BFP before I come back later on this year ❤️

@houwseevryweekend welcome. I remember you from the July thread too. I'm sorry you lost your pregnancy too.
I'm sorry you've got your period but it's now a fresh start. Even with a guarded heart it's ok for it to hurt some days.
I've made the most of being able to eat this Christmas and have now regained the weight lost in pregnancies. We are starting a healthy kick now. I'll share recipes although they will probably sound odd as we will have to work around my daughters allergies so we end up with unusual but tasty options. I've been reading about the Mediterranean diet and it's anti inflammatory properties and actually quite a lot of the foods that are linked to higher inflammation are foods she reacts too.

The stats are 25% of pregnancies rather than 25% of women so it's more common than you would think. My mum has 3 children but lost my my sister twin. My nan had 1 loss but 5 children which is in keeping with the 25% but between me and my 2 sisters we have 2 children from 7 pregnancies I know about. My cousin had issues and had many miscarriages before having 2 children when the cause was identified. More earlier loss are probably identified now because pregnancy tests are more sensitive so women know earlier where as in my grandmothers era it would have been a late period and whether they had early pregnancy losses documented or talked about.

Congratulations @Melusina123 I hope this little bean sticks

Thanks @Superscientist , only 5w, so it’s a long road ahead. I’m not sure I’ll even bother doing the referral to hospital until after I pass 8wks. It would be so depressing doing another booking appointment for a pregnancy that ultimately didn’t happen and with my MC in July I got a random call out of the blue at work in December (four months later!!!) from the health visitors trying to arrange an antenatal visit and it was like a gut punch - I could really do without that again.

And thanks @houwseevryweekend I don’t feel very inspirational - I still feel very much down in the trenches! But yes, my successful pregnancy was very straightforward, no real complications of note, so in that sense it’s hopeful! The scanxiety is so real, I don’t think I’ll ever enjoy a scan now. Even with my DC I had a scan at 38 weeks and I could feel they were kicking away as we went into the scan room and I was still so anxious.

@Fullofconfusion welcome, TFMR at 22 weeks would be devastating. All my fingers and toes crossed for you for a quick conception and a lovely uncomplicated pregnancy when it happens.

Hi ladies,
im not on here as often as I was. But I thought I’d update you.
I got a BFP yesterday at 9DPO with some good progression this evening.
im trying not to let my mind get carried away with itself but its difficult. I want to get excited but I’m also scared to.

That’s wonderful news @Ncl31 I’m pleased for you, you deserve it. I know it’s scary. But hopefully this time next year you will have shut the door on this really hard chapter & have your baby already with you

@Mummysparrow hope your surgery goes well and it’s a positive year for you x

@Ncl31 gentle congratulations, I totally hear you on the being scared too x

@Ncl31 Cautious Congratulations. Prayers for a sticky bean xxxxx

@Ncl31 congratulations. Everything crossed for you.

I was totally thrown today when someone at work asked me if I’d have another one. It caught me completely off guard. I managed to not get upset and just said yes maybe one day. I know she wasn’t trying to be insensitive and she’d be horrified if she knew it had hit a nerve but it still made me feel uncomfortable

Thank you.
I’m so sorry you’ve been upset. it’s so difficult when people ask. I never know what to say really because I always get upset.
i hope you’re okay today

Just checking in now all the Christmas festivities and fun are over! We went to Spain for a break after Christmas and it was great to escape reality for a while! I'm fairly sure I ovulated on 26th December after my last miscarriage which was something. However, I stupidly allowed myself to hope that it might work so am quite disappointed to be testing negative at 12DPO. I'd even convinced myself I had some symptoms I'm definitely struggling with the feeling that I'm back to square one and the enormity of what's ahead of me now - more ovulation induction drugs, scans etc. and then even if it works I have zero faith it'll lead to an actual baby...

Hi ladies, I'm currently CD9 after a chemical pregnancy last month.. I tested positive for a week, I got a positive digital test and we decided to tell close family and friends out of excitement. We already have one child and fortunately we had never experienced a loss before so we didn't think to hold off. But unfortunately a few days later my tests became very light and at 4 weeks & 2 days I tested negative and started bleeding. It was a very very tough time having to tell people it wasn't happening anymore, me and my partner were devastated. But here we are! Onto cycle #2 I'm impatiently waiting for peak but I'm feeling positive ✨

@Fullofconfusion that must have blindsided you. Even before my losses I found that a difficult question as it took along time to recover from having my daughter and was in medication I couldn't conceive on. I felt so resentful against those who had less to consider about having their number 2s. It's such a difficult question for so many people especially those for whom what they want and what happens are polar opposites. Gentle hugs

@Ncl31 congratulations, fingers crossed for you.

I'm glad you had a relaxing time @TrulyMiss I'm sorry you have had a bump with returning to normal life. Dpo 12 is still early there's time for this cycle and if not hopefully next month.

I'm sorry you had a chemical pregnancy @nicolenorris it's a hard decision when to tell people. I have to tell work straight away and I've told a few colleagues as I struggle with hyperemesis in the 1st trimesters. They have been supportive in losses. I think the general rule of if they will be supportive whatever happens it's ok to tell if not stay quiet. I didn't tell my parents when I was pregnant with my daughter until 17 weeks! We didn't tell my in-laws until 13 weeks which was my partners choice. I would have been happy to tell them at 6 weeks when we rocked up at their house for Christmas with me off caffeine, alcohol and struggling to look at food but his folks his rules! Good luck for the next cycles.

I'm 4 weeks post miscarriage now which was when I got my period last time. I'm really trying not to overthink things!

Thanks @Superscientist! I know in theory there's a chance at 12DPO but it's increasing my unlikely and I'd had a positive in all previous pregnancies by now. Have been down a google rabbit hole and apparently crazy PMS symptoms can happen after a miscarriage so maybe that's it!

Glad that you're hopeful, it's so hard!

Does this look like a positive? I thought it was negative at first, then took a second look. I'm thinking I should maybe start my blood thinning injections tonight just incase

@Babydust99 looks like it could be positive to me! Especially if it was within 5 min? I find faint positives and evaporation lines hard to distinguish in photos of ClearBlue tests but there's definitely something there!

@Melusina123 I've had evap lines before on them and they'll more like really thin lines and sometimes only partially formed. I'll add a photo of one I had previously to show the difference. I think I think I'll start my injections tonight just incase

@Ncl31 I'm so unbelievably delighted for you. Crossing every finger and toe for you. I know it's scary but this is a new chapter. And I'm here if you need a chat. I get it Xx