TTC after Miscarriage part 4

[Ella31]

Starting thread number 4, can you believe it? Congrats to everyone who has been lucky the last few threads and for those who have had recent losses again or new, keep strong, you are amazing. To those still trying, it will happen, myself included there and we will support each other.

I'll just include a foreward for anyone new who joins us, this is a supportive group for anyone who has had a loss, no matter how early or late. Everyone here has experieced the upset and understands.

Ive gone through the list and more than likely left people out so add anyone you think I've forgotten.

@ToeBeans24

@DonnaWhat
@Onthedouble123
@Lovedatforme

@emmatcc1
@ncl31
@MisssMarion
@Loz365
@Tallgirl91
@Figtree11
@ThelastRolo20
@mountainlass
@CadoAvo

@Joleyjojo

@Jellyfish2

@B1989
@rosyposy26

@RaisingCornishWildlings
@Rockyslife
@sarahk89

Hugs @MisssMarion I'm 8 months too. It's so crap. Don't beat yourself up about weight, it's so hard when you want something so much. Just wanted to say you aren't alone. Try and enjoy your trip. I'd hate to think you'd let this ruin it. Lots of hugs. I really mean it when I say most mc are just terrible luck. They are so painful but I really believe your rainbow is waiting for you. Your body is so stressed now and it's so painful, it might just be taking a little extra time

I'm so sorry @Ncl31 I won't patronise you with the chin up stuff, because I know it's so bloody hard. Just put one foot in the other for this week and I actually think you are dead right having a plan in place.

It's never the same but each new pregnancy is a new pregnancy and that's what you hold onto. The fear will be there but keep telling yourself that. Other we would just crumble.

I'm cycle day 15 today. Increased egcm today and folicle ultrasound tomorrow.

Also we are nearing the end of the thread again. I can create a new one at page 38 , or if anyone would like to take over, I don't want to be hogging it either. If you'd like to stay on, just like this post as I can add you quickly.

That's promising, when do you usually ovulate?
You must be looking forward to the scan and getting a good picture of where you're at. I'm planning one for September if this cycle doesn't work. I both want to know and dread it...
I'd like to stay on the thread but don't know how to like this post on the app. The functionalities seem quite limited compared to the website I think?

Good luck for tomorrow 😊 and yes please, add me to the new thread when it's up

Don't worry I won't forget to add you😁 i ovulate day 20. yeah this scan is just to confirm I'm ovulating. I've had all the others and they came back fine like they thought. So I had amh and folicale count which were perfect. And I already had all the bloods done when my sons died. So had the hsg last week which was fine.

I honestly wouldn't dread these tests, they can help with any bad results so even if something cropped up , they can help. But just remember after a mc, your body can take time. Two people aren't the same. After my second miscarriage I got pregnant the month after with my late boys. Yet after their birth, I've been trying for 8 months and nothing. All tests perfect. My body obviously just wasn't ready. Hopefully it will be this month.

All I can say is, I've gone through the full range of emotions the last 8 months and the worst part was the anxiety and depression in my sons deaths and then not getting pregnant. Nothing has changed in me wanting to get pregnant again but I have acknowledged that I need to face the grief, started walking every day, eating well. I do feel better and more hopeful. Make a plan. Set your limit. 4 months after mmc is early yet so I'd say go as far as 6. Get checked out. And plan from there. You will get pregnant again. Yoir body is just trying to cope. I've actually realised that me being pregnant in the last 8 months would have been nuts after burying my boys. I'm not sure I could differentiated the two pregnancies.

Fingers crossed for you for tomorrow's ultrasound scan. Please add me when you create a new thread. Sending positive vibes!

Can I stay on too please if you'll have me ❤️

Hi everyone - sorry that we're all in this club but congrats to all who have had bfps since!

I had an MVA in May after a missed miscarriage. I've since had AF and am currently 7 dpo in our first cycle ttc again. My bbt hasn't really risen since predicted ovulation and am wondering whether I even ovulated.

I had ewcm and positive opk but usually my bbt always increases.

Has anyone had the same? X

Looking for somewhere to talk about TTC. I had surgical management for a miscarriage 2 weeks ago. Almost 2 years to the date that I had my first MMC. Luckily we did have a baby girl in between times who has been keeping us strong. Looking to TTC again but just waiting for my period. Hopefully it will come before our holiday in September and will treat that as a refresh and try again. Did anyone find it hard to get back into normal sex love after having a baby and then MMC? Just feel like I’m missing the connection we had before but I don’t feel like the same person. Can anyone relate?

Some light spotting for me at just 9dpo - think the late ovulation this month means a shorter luteal phase as this sort of timing (day 27) would be normal spotting time for me 😔

@moosey89 could it maybe be implantation bleeding? I thought your luteal phase remained pretty much the same. How long is it normally?

@jellyfish2 usually 14 days - this would be my first cycle where the luteal phase was shorter. When ovulation has been delayed before so has AF. But I've never had this spotting except before my period usually.

Yeah that usually is the case, as I don't believe your luteal phase should change from what I've read. Especially if yours is usually 14 days, 9 seems really short. Hopefully it's a good sign for you!

Thanks @jellyfish2 - It could just be my body being weird after my HSG test, and the MMC a couple of months ago and the spotting may just be mid cycle spotting for no reason! Guess I'll find out at the weekend or thereabouts x

Our bodies do strange things don't they but I really hope it's good news 🩷

@Gracie1825 just going through the thread, I meant to put woohoo, not boohoo! I'm so sorry, if I offended. Stupid phone!

@Figtree11 all you can do is keep doing the opks. Mines dropped again today but I can feel my cervix open and ewcm so I know my spike is due any day now.

@LucyCL welcome to the thread ✨️

@MisssMarion im looking at the London women’s clinic in Darlington. 2 of my colleagues have both been there and had good experiences and they now both have their little darlings.

@Ella31 Good luck for your scan tomorrow, let us know how it goeS

@MisssMarion vent away, I'm only after getting a BFP cycle #8 after mmc and I'm over 40. So worried it won't work out again for me, I have no doubt it will happen for you but the journey is very tough, I've been very down on my journey..but each month it got a bit easier and now i've got a BFP I'm thinking I'm an idiot as I was beginning to get to a better place and what if i end up the same again, anyway I hope my journey gives you hope.

@Halo20 congrats hope we both have sticky beans.. also terrified.

@DonnaWhat no of course not, I also have a silly phone

@Gracie1825 Ah thank you. Fingers crossed we both have a very sticky bean this time.

How far along are you?

@Ncl31 FYI the London women clinic are running a promotional offer on MOTs until tomorrow to celebrate IVF day. You need to book by tomorrow but you can book it for a day in the future and cancel it if you change your mind or you get pregnant. At least that's what they told me on the phone but might be worth double checking. I'm going to book tomorrow for tests at the end of September, so two more cycles. Hopefully we don't need it and I can cancel!

@Gracie1825 Thank you, you do give me hope. I just turned 39 and we were lucky to get pregnant on the first try for dd (3.5 years ago) and second try for the mmc (6 months ago) so I try to tell myself everything works fine. It was just a bad egg (or sperm!) ans my body just needs time. I really hope yours is a sticky baby. It's such good news to see you all get your bfp, we all deserve it after what we experience! Keep us posted of course ☺️

Thanks @Ncl31 really appreciate it

Congrats on all the BFPs

Hope all goes well tomorrow with the scan @Ella31

@moosey89 really hope the spotting is some good news & not your period

@DonnaWhat still the same for me with the opks with them going up & down

Yesterday I was feeling pretty good. Felt good that I’m finally back to TTC. But today I feel pretty glum about it all! No real reason why, just overthinking it all & it’s just feels overwhelming. And also due to see a pregnant friend soon & it’s making me anxious. I just don’t cope very well being around pregnant women, brings all my sadness & jealousy to the front of my mind