TTC after Miscarriage part 4

[Ella31]

Starting thread number 4, can you believe it? Congrats to everyone who has been lucky the last few threads and for those who have had recent losses again or new, keep strong, you are amazing. To those still trying, it will happen, myself included there and we will support each other.

I'll just include a foreward for anyone new who joins us, this is a supportive group for anyone who has had a loss, no matter how early or late. Everyone here has experieced the upset and understands.

Ive gone through the list and more than likely left people out so add anyone you think I've forgotten.

@ToeBeans24

@DonnaWhat
@Onthedouble123
@Lovedatforme

@emmatcc1
@ncl31
@MisssMarion
@Loz365
@Tallgirl91
@Figtree11
@ThelastRolo20
@mountainlass
@CadoAvo

@Joleyjojo

@Jellyfish2

@B1989
@rosyposy26

@RaisingCornishWildlings
@Rockyslife
@sarahk89

@Lovedatforme @Onthedouble123
Thanks so much...will take it day by day.

What are you normally? I don't ovulate until day 20 since my boys.

@Ella31 before my loss, I only tacked 3 cycle and 2 of them had an lh surgeon cd15 and then the cycle I conceived on it was day18. Pre my daughter I always had the surge in cd14. I am cd19 today and nothing yet 😩

My ovulation was and is longer since my loss. Yours might be too. Keep testing. I bet it will come

@Gracie1825 boohoo! Congratulations 🥰

@CadoAvo you're not pit until af arrives.

Hope you have a good result on your ultrasound Wednesday @Ella31

Congrats @Gracie1825 😊

My miscarriage clinic appt that got moved to January has now been moved back to November! So now it’s just 3 weeks later than it was meant to be.

CD15 for me today, no signs of ovulation yet

@Figtree11 are you tracking with opks?

Yeah I have been, this is what it looks like at the moment

Congrats to all the new bfps! Wishing you all sticky babies ☺️

I hope it's ok, I need to vent and I don't know who to talk to. I've vented here before and appreciate all the support you've given me. I probably should start therapy...

I'm really struggling with this TTC#2 journey. We're 8 months in and no sticky baby yet (we got pregnant with our dd on the first cycle of TTC#1 3 years ago so a very different experience). This is cycle #4 since the MMC and my hopes are low. I'll be testing on Tuesday next week (14 dpo!) as we're away for the weekend and I don't want a bfn to ruin the trip). I feel so deflated and worried ('what if...?').

Also my partner was made redundant earlier this year and he's worried of not finding a new job which adds to his and my stress. We'll probably lose the 15 hours funded childcare and tax free childcare if he stays unemployed, which is nuts because we'll be one salary down but have to pay more for childcare 🤯!

With all this stress I've been comfort eating and I've gained weight, which of course doesn't help TTC!

This period feels dark and it's hard to imagine things will get better. I wish someone could look into my future and tell me it's all gonna be ok...

I'm sorry for being such a Debbie Downer, especially amidst all the good news 😔

@MisssMarion this sounds really tough for you both ❤️ TTC can be really stressful and is all consuming enough without other things to worry about!

What does your husband do work wise? Can he do some contracts in the same line of work? Or just any temp type work to keep the childcare hours?

Be kind to yourself about the comfort eating - a lot of us are guilty of that! X

Hey guy first post.

I suffered a mmc last May around the 6 week mark after trying for 2 years.

Continued trying and testing each month but not very hopeful as I am now 36 when this happened this morning at 10dpo.

I know 6 tests is overkill but I was not expecting them to be so strong so early as I never got more than a faint line the last time plus this is with 3 different urines hence why some are lighter.

Congratulations, I hope this is a sticky sticky bean for you.

Thank you ncI31.

I really really hope so. My boobs have been so sore and tender the last few days so I am hoping that is a good sign.

I am terrified though in case it doesnt stick.

@MisssMarion I'm so sorry you're feeling so rubbish. A weekend away sounds just what you need. I didn't expect to get my bfp when I did, I had no symptoms at all. I just took a test to prove to myself it was negative to get it over with and then was astounded to see the positive. That might be you next week!! I really hope it is 🩷

@Figtree11 do you have a rapid onset? I tend to go up and down before I spike. Hopefully its not too far away and plenty of dtd.

@MisssMarion i’m sorry you are having a low day. It really is a rollercoaster with emotions up & down all the time. Don’t worry about the comfort eating - I’m enjoying a magnum right now!

@DonnaWhat i don’t know to be fair, this is the first time I’m tracking ovulation properly. In the meantime we are dtd every other day as that worked before. And keeping in mind it could take a little while for ovulation to happen. Good to know you go up and down too, mine keeps doing that everyday it seems

@MisssMarion im
sorry you’re finding it difficult at the moment. If it makes you feel any better I am too. I spent 4 hours yesterday morning lying in bed crying. I should have been starting maternity leave this week and I think all of a sudden it’s just hit me. I was really hoping I’d get a BFP before I was due.
but it’s not been the case thus far, had EWCM today so hoping ovulation is just around the corner.
I have my follow up NHS appointment at the end of August so I’ve decided to see what they say then and then think about private IVF. Just looking at the numbers makes me wince, but I’d spend my last penny to give it a go.

@MisssMarion I'm sorry you're feeling so low - I am having a bad time of it too lately. I feel trapped in the cycle I'm in, trapped in my job, just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel currently. Just have to keep hoping one day it'll appear. My other half has had bad job luck this year too - he's now totally retraining to be an electrician! Really stressful financially currently but hopefully will be for the best long term.

Similar to yourself I can't lose weight and keep eating too much which will block me from being eligible for IVF on the NHS and it kills me that I can't sort myself out enough to just lose the 5ish kgs I need to!

Some chapters of this journey just absolutely suck for some of us women. Xx

@moosey89 @Ncl31 i’m so sorry you are both struggling. We all know exactly how you feel. Now I’m past my molar journey and onto TTC again I am feeling ok at this moment in time. But I am very aware I will slip into the sadness again in the next few weeks/months once TTC takes its toll again. It is really unfair how we have to go through this. Before I had a MC I had no clue how difficult it is. It’s honestly shocked me how hard it’s been. We’re all here with you xxx

I do recognise a few names here and some of them have recently got their BFPs. Very happy for them! I have a thread which I record the ttc journey after CP. I will join this one too. I also suffers 2 MCs. I feel like I could get some support here and it makes me less lonely.

Hopefully you'll get your bfp fast enough and won't experience the sadness again... It's great you're in great spirits now though, keep it up! It's exciting to be done with the molar experience and ready to TTC again! You deserve it, it's been a rough journey for you too...

I remember how innocent (ignorant) I was with my two pregnancies (dd and mmc) and I miss it. It's never the same after a mc 😔 ttc, pregnancy... it's like something was stolen from us. And it does feel unfair. But I try to picture holding my baby in my arms one day and remembering these days and how it was all 'worth it' as it led to this moment. Hopefully we all get our sticky baby and it will erase all the sadness we experienced on the way.

I'm really sorry you're joining this thread 😔 but welcome! This thread is full of very supportive women helping each other go through this difficult time and hopefully it'll help you feel less alone... sending you loads of baby dust 🌈

Thanks so much @MisssMarion it really has been a very trying time. I do hope i will get my BFP soon, but with 2 MCs behind me and no children my hopes for a positive outcome are pretty non existent tbh. But I still have that tiny bit of hope, as I guess I wouldn’t try again if I didn’t.
Agreed, the innocence of TTC just completely vanishes doesn’t it. I hope you have a nice weekend away. I find going away for weekends or day trips really helps me. I hope you come back feeling more like yourself again x

Welcome @LucyCL its a very supportive group of women

Oh I'm so sorry you're going through a difficult time too. I try to stay positive but sometimes we have to say it, TTC after a mc sucks 😔

I hope you get your bfp and your dh's work situation improves soon, you deserve a break!

Sending you hugs... you're definitely not alone!

I'm sorry you're going through a tough time too 😔 'anniversary' dates are very triggering, I do that to myself too.

I've started looking at private fertility clinics, to do some tests first and take it from there. I have zero faith in the NHS sadly and not much time to waste as almost 40. But the prices are craaaazy! Is there one in particular you're thinking about?