TTC after Early Miscarriage part 3

[Ella31]

Part three of of our previous threads.

My LH is back down today so I’m not sure what caused it to be high yesterday. I hope I haven’t ovulated yet.

Sorry @ThelastRolo20 I did mean @Ella31 I was at work on a quick break so doing some fast typing, AF arrived today, this afternoon so that's good I'm glad to be starting a fresh new cycle now.
That's great they are going to scan you, and that's good to be booked in somewhere proper iykwim, and I agree, I think all will be good too, it's got to be this time for you, statistically speaking at the very least it should be all good news 🙂 x

Thank you ❤️ I'll be sure to keep you updated!

Morning all, how is everyone. I'm feeling better today. Cycle Day 3, ready to tackle this month. Apologies for my mini breakdown 2 days ago😅🤣 can I blame hormones 😅🤣

Trying to decide this month's approach. I'm thinking of just going for the fertile week this month. Did Smep last month and it was tough. Kind of felt by fertile week Dh had enough. I ovulate around day 20/22 so thinking going from day 15 would be more than enough.

You can absolutely blame hormones 🥰😂

smep sounds like an awful lot of hard work 😂 going just for fertile week sounds sensible ❤️

Have you got any plans to keep you busy in the meantime? X

@Ella31 absolutely no need to apologise for breakdowns. It's what we are here for!
I'm in fertile week now. Technically opened yesterday but not starting til today as we definitely suffer from burn out if start too early!
Also got our first appt at the fertility clinic confirmed - will be last day of this cycle so either I'll test that morning and have good news or, even if it's bad news, at least I can be comforted knowing we are doing something about it that very afternoon. So all in all feeling at peace with this month. Who knows the more relaxed attitude might even help🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

My maternity leave ended a week ago but I took unpaid leave till the summer hols, [I'm a teacher] so I started prepping work for September. Sounds tragic 🤣 but my subject is English so I quite enjoy it. Throw on a show I like and do a few hours in the morning. Afternoon - walking and meeting people.

I've decided 6 months is nothing in the grand scheme of things after giving birth 6 months ago. Plus I've had the chat with dh about worst case scenario. We'll give it the year and if nothing we'll look into options. I would hope I'll be pregnant by then.

Hey ladies.

How's everyone?
So despite saying I want going to even think that I was even in the 2WW this time as odds so tiny (and convinced I didn't ovulate!), here I am at 9DPO (according to Flo calculations? Feeling very very mildly nauseous, so so tired and a bit headachy!
Yesterday it felt like I was weeing way more than normal, though not so bad today.

Felt like I might have had mild niggly king of uterus ache a few days ago.

And random reflux just before lunch today!
I expect it's just PMS and I'm angry at myself for even letting myself wonder and hope as it'll only end in disappointment! Why do we do this to ourselves?!

Will you test @RaisingCornishWildlings or wait it out. Any of those signs could be bfp hopefully. Fingers crossed.

@Ella31 I'm still pretty convinced I can't be PG, and reckon my mind is playing hopeful tricks. All the symptoms have had since the MC like this, turn out to be PMS. Flo thinks AF should arrive on Saturday so I think if nothing, I'll try my best to hold out until Sunday morning!

How are you feeling? Xx

Fair play to you. I'm an avid tester wish I was stronger.

The mind is bizarre when it comes to symptoms. All I can say is from what I've experienced myself and when I asked others, symptoms vary when positive or negative so there's every chance. I think it's only normal that you aren't allowing yourself to hope because it's so hard when it's negative. But I'm forever the optimist. I'll be thinking of you this week. Xx

I'm good actually. I need to take a huge step back from the worrying. I think it's completely out of my control so I need to just let it happen.

@Ella31 your mum sounds like a very wise lady. 6 months is nothing after what you've been through, your head and body have been through a lot and it maybe just needs a little more time. I'm glad to hear you're feeling better today 🩷

@RaisingCornishWildlings hope you get your BFP when you test. Good on you holding out until Sunday. I'm hoping to do the same when it's time but I doubt I will 😂

I'm terrible for. POAS but then I am trying to remind myself that if I go too early it's pointless and that I'll just be disappointed, so gonna do my best to stay strong,, there's every chance I'm cave though!

If you do and feel terrible, just come on here. Everyone will support you. I know it's strangers but we get it. I hope you'll be posting with a bfp though xxx

Thanks @jellyfish2 I'm going to try and step back and relax.

How are you ?

I'm doing ok thanks. Today is ovulation day but we've dtd the last two nights so I'm quite tired 😂. When I conceived the last pregnancy (MMC) we actually missed ovulation day so will see how we feel. It does get a bit much.

The days before have a better chance in any case so I wouldn't feel pressured today if you're exhausted 😊

It's so much. I'm convinced it's all luck. Obviously the fertile window is important but I think within that window it's pure luck. So you sound like you are in with as good a chance as any.

How do you all keep your sanity? I've been spiralling since the bfn yesterday: what if it doesn't work? what if it takes years? will my partner want to keep going? will I be too old? Etc. It's so hard to stay cool...

@RaisingCornishWildlings I'm impressed by your self-control. I had planned not to test before 10 dpo (but ideally after), and I tested at 10 dpo of course 😂 and 11 dpo just to be sure it was really negative

I completely agree that it's luck. A family member of mine tried to get pregnant for 10 years unsuccessfully. She got pregnant with IVF on her last shot and didn't want anymore children. She then had the shock of her life finding out she was pregnant and said it only happened the once that month so clearly luck that that once in the fertile window was enough!

@MisssMarion this is only my first proper go since after my MC. I have the same thoughts already so if it goes on for months I fear how I'll be. We need to just think positive and say we will get pregnant and imagine ourselves with that little baby 🩷 I believe positive thinking is important! It helps me anyway with a lot of things.

You keep believing and hoping. It's hard though.

I hope you have a bfp before that but if you can try and switch off knowing that date is coming.

@RaisingCornishWildlings I think those could be positive signs. I totally get not wanting to get your hopes up but I get sucked in by my own thoughts every month 😩. I've been right twice though so it doesn't have to be bad news! keeping everything crossed for you. 🤞🏻
I think I've screwed up this month already. Haven't even started DTD yet and got my peak earlier today. Several days early 😩😩😩 will DTD tonight and tomorrow but now not hopeful before we even start!

Thanks @Onthedouble123... yeah I think part of wanting to hold off testing is I'm terrified of getting a faint positive and then not getting any further and it being a chemical! So if I can wait til AF is due it might help my MH.
I just feel I've had many more symptoms of impending AF since the MC in October- all the sore head, sensitive nipped, nausea, groin ache, period type cramps- like a week before due.... so every month I've gotten hopes up! Now I'm trying to ignore all the "signs" as it must be nothing! Doesn't stop me madly googling "symptoms 9dpo etc, like som kinda crazy person!