TTC after Early Miscarriage part 3

[Ella31]

Part three of of our previous threads.

Had my scan, still a tiny bit of remaining tissue but they said it's okay and I don't need to take any more meds. Have to go back again in 2 weeks.

Still doing OPK's on the off chance I'll ovulate soon.

I just want to be pregnant again, it's desperate.

Looks like it..fingers crossed for you.

Hi I wonder if I can join.

im 39 and trying for a while, I had great positives tests at 10,11,12,13 and a digi 1-2 weeks.

i have now had stark white 14,15 DPO. I am obviously having a chemical which is breaking my heart. Does anyone know when I should come on? I just want to try straight away. I’m utterly heartbroken

just waiting to come on is torture xxx

@Joleyjojo I am so sorry you are going through this. I had a chemical in March after loosing my first baby at 20 weeks the previous December, it's so cruel & unfair getting your hopes up for it to be taken so quickly.

Like you I tested positive for several days, I had a break in testing and when I did again my tests were stark negative and "not pregnant" on my digital. I started bleeding 2 days later and counted this as day 1 of a new cycle. That was in April and I didn't get pregnant, but the 2nd cycle post chemical (May) I got pregnant and I'm now nearly 6 weeks with my tests looking strong and still progressing every day so there is hope. Please look after yourself as this is a very upsetting time for you. I hope your period comes soon and wishing you all the luck for the next cycles 🌈❤️

Has anyone had success with preseed? Due to ovulate Friday and still lacking on the cm this month and I can't understand why. Last month I got my opk peak but not much cm and the same again. Ordered pre seed to try and hope it helps.

@jellyfish2 I've used it in my last two conceptions and didn't even use the applicator, just used it like a normal lube so it must be pretty good 😅

@ThelastRolo20 good to know! So I'm nightshift this week (of course I am on my fertile week!) and was going to wait to try it but ended up just going for it and using the applicator. I was a bit apprehensive but it was completely fine. A quickie before work 😂 and probably the rest of the week I think!
How are you doing? How many weeks are you?

Haven't had a chance to create the new thread yet, will get it done tomorrow. If others want to do it, feel free as well.

@jellyfish2 I've used it. I conceived on conceive plus though. But heard great things about pre seed too.

@jellyfish2 preseed added to basket 😂

For all those on CoQ10, which brand and dosage are you taking? Did you get medical advice?

Hope it works 🤞

TRIGGER WARNING BFP?

ladies I caved and tested this morning at 12DPO, am I seeing things???

I see it 😍🤩🎉

I’ve rang and spoken to my research team and they’ve booked me in for an early scan on 8th July… which is our first wedding anniversary!
if this really is it then bubs would be due on my birthday too!

Thank you.
I have started to bleed today quite lightly atm but I am assuming I will get heavier.

The GP has booked me in for bloods CD5 well it will be CD6. I am 39 and panicking so scared that this will continue to happen.

we are going to try straightaway and although we thought about not testing early again , if it happens again at least we know and there may be something not quite right.

feeling really low again today, I just wish I knew how to get myself out of this low.

congratulations on your little bean.

@Ncl31 congratulations x

I’d say it’s very tentative at the moment but thank you.
it’s so difficult when you have had a loss to not just worry about every single little thing.
im not excited in the slightest, in fact im terrified at the moment.

@Ncl31 congratulations. So happy for you

I am interested about this also xxx

The new thread is up and running. @Ncl31 if you'd like to post your amazing news in it again so that people can see it.

can people also add anyone I may have forgot.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/5095229-ttc-after-miscarriage-part-4

Hi guys, I wonder who from the original bunch is still lurking here? I set this up last Oct/Nov and haven't posted for ages- hubby was a way for a cycle and whilst he was gone for 6 weeks (deployed), I did a lot of thinking/soul searching I guess.
I'm now in a hypothetical quandary!

So we are 41 and 48'years old, 3 gorgeous kids (7.5,5 and 2). mc last October- if the pg was successful I'd have a month old babe in arms right now.
We tried and tried to get PG again every cycle since- (previously had got pg quickly with no mc or complications- had full term and healthy babies). Since last Oct, we DTD at the right time every month bar one when he was away. Then he was away again in May/ June... and whilst at home with 3 kids, even though my heart still wants no 4, I realised perhaps it was time for us to start the next chapter of life- littlest soon out of nappies and soon no daytime naps, I'm also convinced I'm perimenopausal. Suspected ADHD (me and eldest), and easily overwhelmed.
I've also really started to enjoy getting back into fitness and running and trying to claim back a bit of me (even though I'm not sure who I am anymore).

When DH got back a few weeks ago we chatted and agreed actually perhaps we should just count our blessings for our perfect brood and accept that 3 is our number.

Then DTD (unprotected) right around when I think Ovultion would have been.
Period arrived this morning and I'm so torn- initially actually relieved that no baby but now still thinking it might be implantation (periods not particularly clockwork but a few days earlier than expected, when I wiped it was brown and very mucousy. Put in a tampon and after 4 hours it was still half white, very very brown blood.
So now I'm wondering if it's implantation bleeding?! And really don't know how I feel.

I'm the type of person that once I've processed stuff in my mind and made a decision, it's made up and my brain is stubborn!
I also worry as husband admitted he feels "broken" with how little time he has to himself, work is stressful and sleep isn't great!
When I told him about my "concerns" that it's not a period he mimed blowing his head off with a pistol!!

I know if it turned out that I was Pg that baby would be loved and cherished by us both.

I also worry if I am and it ends in another MC, how I will cope with that... I just don't know where my brain is or what to think... it feels "easier" if I come on properly tomorrow!

Feel absolutely pulled in different directions

Hi, I'm sorry you're feeling so torn. I had a MC in January and it completely broke me/ us. But in my case, it was first pregnancy. I'm now nearly 15 weeks pregnant and so far touch wood, all going well.

One piece of advice a lovely person told me was that with all things pregnancy/ fertility , you just can't plan. You can do absolutely everything right and there's still only a 30% chance of getting pregnant. Then there's a 1 in 4 chance it could end in MC. I don't mean to be gloomy and I feel I'm not explaining it very well but I found it reassuring that nothing I do or don't do will change an outcome. So I think rather than stressing, see what happens and if it is meant to be then it is?! As for your husband being cross, this isn't okay. He chose to have unprotected sex so he knew there was a risk of pregnancy. My advice would be to decide exactly what you both want and if it's no baby then maybe make plans for protection during sex.

Good luck!

@RaisingCornishWildlings How are you feeling this morning? Was it just spotting? I joined this thread back in March after reading all your previous threads. We have a part 4 thread going on at the moment x

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/5095229-ttc-after-miscarriage-part-4