TTC after Early Miscarriage part 3

[Ella31]

Part three of of our previous threads.

Ditto. You've been a huge support to me @ThelastRolo20 I'm crossing every finger and toe for you. Xx

And @jellyfish2 hopefully we won't be far behind

They should do, yes. I'm going to ring them tomorrow to try and organise. Current due date of 19th Jan, I wouldn't be surprised if it's bought forward by a day or two though due to earlier ovulation.

Thank you so much, pregnancy after loss is so different. I really hope you get your positive test soon ❤️

Thank you, that means so much to me ❤️

I'm really sure you and @jellyfish2 won't be far behind xx

Thank you, please keep us updated.
@Ella31 It will be us soon enough I'm sure of it 🥰

I’m so sorry that AF has arrived.
im sure im going to be just a few days behind you. AF due Wednesday but had backache as normal today so I know she’s coming

Did you test today @Ncl31 . Rooting for you. Hopefully that backache is early symptoms

Tested today and BFN again. Temp has stayed the same. No big dip yet. I’ve convinced myself I’m out so I’m not building up any hope to be shattered.

@Ella31 Sorry to hear AF has come, I'm due on Saturday. Get your feet up, plenty of junk food and then we're ready for the next cycle. Please don't be down beat, rainbow baby is coming soon. You're doing everything you possibly can, it will happen! Sending lots of baby dust to you xxx

Hello,

Is there room in this thread for one more?

I had a chemical in January, which was absolutely devastating. I fell pregnant our first month TTC and we were so shocked and excited; didn't even know what a chemical was. You never think you're going to be one of those 1 in 4. I lost it at almost 6 weeks, and tracked ovulation afterwards to see if my cycle was affected. It looked like I was going to ovulate as normal, so we figured we would give it another go. The second positive was still a shock as we really didn't expect it to happen again so soon after the chemical.

Sadly, that pregnancy ended in MMC at 10 weeks. I'm seven weeks post-D&C now and just finished my first AF since the surgery. I'm still testing faintly hcg positive, which is just so heartbreaking, though I've been scanned twice to make sure there's no retained tissue and still in touch with EPU just in case.

We've decided to go with the flow for this month, seeing as this entire year has been pretty traumatic. I've been pregnant for almost 16 weeks of it and will be leaving the year behind without either of our babies. I am loosely tracking ovulation now, just to see if there are any signs my cycle is going back to normal, but we have no plans to SMEP or anything like we did before.

We are aware that we had two sort of unicorn occasions in getting pregnant first time in both tries, so we're not expecting the same thing this time. We've both agreed to keep the pressure off for a bit. That being said, we've also agreed not to take any preventative precautions either and just let nature decide.

For weeks after my D&C, I was in such a bad place and hated the idea of ever being pregnant again because of all the anxiety and heart break. In the last two weeks or so, I've found myself thinking about tracking and trying again a lot more. I feel if it were to happen this month then I'd be very happy (and scared), but if it doesn't then we'll think about trying in earnest again next month.

I'm so sorry to see so many people in the same or similar boat. I'd never have known before all this just how common early losses are. It's so unfair.

Welcome. Sorry for your losses. Losing a baby is so difficult and everyone here understands. Hopefully it won't be too long again before you are pregnant again. In the meantime your body is recovering from the d&c and that will resolve itself. Keep going.

@DonnaWhat hopefully you won't be seeing AF Saturday. I'm rooting for all of you still in the tww

So had a good cry yesterday. Rang my mother, she's my rock since my boys died. I kept saying, how can I be going into 6 months without a whisper of a line.

And she said 6 months, are you seriously counting the first 3/4 months. You were rushed into an emergency section. You had to give birth knowing one of your babies had died. You had to make the decision to turn off life support for his twin and he died in your arms. You had to bury your twin sons 6 weeks before Christmas and then get through Christmas knowing they should have been sitting with you as you rang in the new year. Your body gave birth 6 months ago to two babies, not 1. And finally the grief, on top of all that you have to live with the grief.

Part of me thinks that's true. It's a lot. And maybe my body is just taking time. Either way, I'm cycle day 2 today of round 6.

Sorry@Ncl31 , are you 12dpo today? Still a chance. But i understand the frustration

Yes 12DPO today. I’m just trying not to build my hopes up.

Your mum sounds amazing, and she's so right. You and your body have been through so much, please give yourself a bit of grace and love - you'll get there ❤️

Thank you @ThelastRolo20 any advice this month?

You're doing everything you can I think lovely. Only advice is to try and be kind to yourself ❤️

Not sure if I've mentioned but I found my ovulation came a bit earlier after taking coQ10 - have you been taking that? I know you said your ovulation had been slightly later than usual recently? X

There's coq 10 in my proceive 10mg. Are you taking more than that

I've tried to not come on here too much during the TWW as sometimes it can make it worse to read other people's stories... but I kept an eye on your progress in hopes some of you will get their 🌈 baby... I'm rooting for us all!
I'm 11 dpo today and BFN so I've lost hope for this cycle (first one since surgical management, I know it would have been crazy anyway but not impossible). I was hopeful as I've been experiencing really vivid and weird dreams and night sweats for the last few days but I guess that's just PMS.
AF expected Thursday so yay... 😔
This whole TTC journey is heartbreaking...

I was taking one of these a day x

Were you taking them long? Are you taking any other prenatal vitamins? Sorry now for the 20 questions 😅

Sorry af arrived @ThelastRolo20 and I'm sorry for your bfn @Ncl31 and @MisssMarion I am due mine tomorrow so we will have some company this cycle x

That's the same coq10 my dh and I take @ThelastRolo20 🙂 how are you? x

Hi @KittyFantastica I'm sorry for your losses and I hope that you don't have long to wait for good news again x

No problem at all 🥰 I started in Jan after my last miscarriage, so 3 months, along with vit D and folic acid.

I didn't take an all in one as I've heard those can affect cycles in the other way (longer cycles!).

It's all such a minefield though so who knows 😂

I think you meant @Ella31 in the first bit ❤️

Ah! Well here's hoping it brings you a BFP soon 🥰 I'm doing okay thanks lovely. I've called EPU today and they're going to see me on 13th June when I should be between 8 and 9 weeks.

Even the thought of that scan now makes me feel incredibly anxious, I have a track record of bad scans. Going to try and think of some exercises I can do on the morning off to help manage it ❤️

I'm glad they aren't seeing you earlier as the last thing you need is a scan that's too early. 8/9 weeks is good and you'll be fine. I have a good feeling. I'm going to come off proceive and go vit,d, folic and coq 10 and see what happens. Can't kill me anyway