TTC after early miscarriage part 2

[RaisingCornishWildlings]

Hi guys, I've made a new thread! @ThelastRolo20 @bluebunny2 @Blueskies4 @miamiamia869 @Claudiasaz @mumsince2021 @Holly0609

@ThelastRolo20 we both tried the conception vitamins but heard allt about messing up cycles so kind od scared me. Might give what you are doing a try and have a bit of research what hubby can take.

@RaisingCornishWildlings ohh looking very promising! How lovely would it be if you got a positive. Especially as hubby away alot and sometimes having to miss your window. Have all my fingers crossed for you, would be amazing if you was the start of a "positive test" train.

Also massive well done for not testing. Let us know. Keep us updated xx

@miamiamia869 same, which is is why I broke it down to these three. I'll let you know how I get on once I have a normal cycle x

@RaisingCornishWildlings well done on not testing! I really hope it's good news for you x

@ThelastRolo20 im gagging to dip a pee stick 🤣 I don't think I'll manage to hang on until Tuesday morning!
Had so much CM today I keep thinking oh crap blooming AF is here!, I dash to the loo and it's just CM!

I wish I had a first response but I'm too tight so I'll just wait for the 20 or 25 iU ones I've got to work!

I use proceive and take extra vitamin c and omega 3. It's in line with me getting pregnant 3 times so going to continue them. I've gotten pregnant super fast in the last year. Twice on cycle one and the other after 3 cycles. Kind of feel my only enemy is myself. Stress is definitely playing a big factor

Hi all was hoping to see good news in this thread (that I finally found 😅) hopefully someone will soon. I won't be due to test until next weekend so nothing to report from me. Unlikely a positive given only DTD once on estimated ov day then a few days later. I've been on jury duty all week at the high court so it's keeping me busy. Back again all this week for more. Hope everyone is trying to keep positive despite the frustration of AF and BFNs!

@mumsince2021 I think I tagged you when I created the new thread- sorry if I missed you!

It only takes the once so fingers crossed. Judy duty sounds exciting- I've never done it- interesting case??

@Ella31 I can relate to that!! I feel the opk stresses me out actually. I have never used them before this and always got pregnant straight away! Not saying stopping opk will do that but if not getting pregnant anyway -what's the point in doing them 😂

Completely and yet I feel lack of control without them. I'm going to do smep this month

@Ella31 I am worried about this. I'm more worried how to cope with the tww though.... Has anyone got any tips. I'm usually good for the first week - then I go nuts 🙂😂

I've decided when the tww comes around. I'm not testing until closer to af, if not on the day itself. Im thinking of also seeing can I do a hobby or something that 2 weeks.

@Ella31 I don't actually test until missed period. Just because I got a negative when pregnant with my second so I would never believe it if that makes sense. I would think ah it's too early still 🙄😂

Yeah I have to change something. I honestly can't continue the way I have been. I have noticed I'm also always on guard at the moment, just in general, kind of always waiting for something to happen so always in defence. I think it's some trauma from that scan! I don't know. Probably need to do something about that too!

Hope you're doing okay this evening x

It's a rubbish side effect of loss. Its difficult to get excited or enjoy the little things because ttc is so overwhelming.

I think I passed the last bit of tissue there was left in there as bleeding has significantly decreased today. I’ve notices clear stretchy discharge in the last 3 days that looks just like ewcm and a sudden increase in sex drive, is it possible I’m ovulating already?

@Claudiasaz i felt massively that way after the miscarriage last year. For me I feel like because I’ve been on the crap side of a statistic a few times, it’s made my mind believe that anything bad can happen (which is true of course but so rare). So hard to rewire after it - here I go again a with the acupuncturist chat but she said it’s important to let yourself experience the emotions, because suppressing them and just trying to think positive pushes them down which causes more harm in the long run.

@emmatcc1 sounds like you could be, I’ve ovulated early after a Mc before x

@emmatcc1 yes definitely possible! I'm also having EWCM, so I reckon AF will arrive up to a week late given my usual luteal phase (it's due next Wednesday but highly doubt that'll be the case)

Not knowing when AF is due to come is really annoying 😂

I've had my gp appointment today. All is well and hormones are as they should be so that is a relief. He said I need to chill out basically. Easier said than done 😅😅

@emmatcc1 anything possible maybe do an ovulation test just to check? More for your peace of mind

Morning everyone - I’ve been having a very down few days. It’s been almost 3 months since my MMC. I keep thinking about what could have been. And then worrying how long it will take to get pregnant again. Probably doesn’t help that I’m not back to a regular cycle yet so don’t know how long the process will take.
Does this ever get any easier?

@Figtree11 Sorry you're having a tough day.

I'm 5 months post and not pregnant not a hint! It's never been something I've had to worry about previously and the want to have a baby after a MC is soooo strong you can't describe it.

My cycles were a bit messed up too, so I also understand this. Mine do seem to be regulating now, so sometimes it just takes a bit longer for some of us.

I'm at a place now where I believe I'll get pregnant but it's just a little more challenging this time and there's no rhyme or reason! It's taken me these 5 months to get here. So I think it definitely will get better but we're going to have crap days where we think it's not fair and want to be pregnant right now and hurry up! It's all normal feelings 😘😅

Thank you @Claudiasaz for your kind response.
Its good to know that your cycles are regulating now, hopefully mine will start to over the next few months.
Time just seems to take forever when you are waiting!
I need to somehow try & get into a positive mindset

My Hertility test has arrived on Day 3 of AF! I’m excited it’s arrived on the right day to test for best accuracy, and now terrified of having to go and pierce my finger 🙃

My other TTC shop-a-thon items also arrived (CoQ10, BBT thermometer, purple CB OPKs). I feel excited about getting to know my body better, but I feel that all this paraphernalia may not help me relax into TTC-ing, so I really need to keep an eye on that.

Oh @Figtree11 it's so blooming hard. I'm getting so despondent too. My positivity is running out!

I was pleasantly surprised when my cycles seemed to regulate quickly after the Mc- I've never been clockwork but had a 34d cycle after MC, then 28 then 30. Each of those cycles I tracked Ov and it was 12 day luteal phase.
I'm now back on day34, no sign of AF but as the days go on with negative HCG tests I just can't imagine that I am pregnant- and wondering why AF isn't arriving. It really messes with your mind! I'm trying to carry on as normal but it's almost impossible when it consumes almost every thought. I'm now assuming that's I have had a chemical pregnancy with not enough hCG to be detected and that it'll probably result in a late period within a week!

I needed a wee at 1.30am this morning and ended up doing a test- another stark negative. Now 2 weeks since ovulation (14DPO).

Starting to think I need to make my peace with the fact that 3 is my lot. A few friends have just welcomed their 4th's into the world though and it's very tough 💔💔💔

@Figtree11 aww hun I feel you. I have been thr same. Im Just going to really try and be happy snd more chilled although thay is so hard. Hope you feel better soon

@RaisingCornishWildlings I am patiently waiting for updates notnsure I can wait till Tuesday for your update let alone how you must be feeling lol

@RaisingCornishWildlings I'm sorry about the BFN, I'm hoping AF makes an appearance soon so you know what's going on ❤️

It's so hard when you see others getting what you want, I naively thought before I had my daughter that I wouldn't mind so much if I already had a child...turns out it's not quite so simple x

@Claudiasaz I’m out of ovulation test and don’t want to buy more. If I count first day of bleeding as cd1 then in a normal cycle I would be ovulating in about two days. Either way we’re skipping the first ovulation so it doesn’t really matter, I’m just hoping my cycle comes back soon.