TTC after early miscarriage part 2

[RaisingCornishWildlings]

Hi guys, I've made a new thread! @ThelastRolo20 @bluebunny2 @Blueskies4 @miamiamia869 @Claudiasaz @mumsince2021 @Holly0609

@Claudiasaz I'm still here! Technically not trying until April so I couldn't be less pregnant if I tried 😂

@Figtree11 @ThelastRolo20 It is hard to stay positive! I am also trying to ignore my body now and forget about babies and pregnancy 😂 so why am I on here today I don't know 🤷🏼‍♀️😜

@Claudiasaz im still here too! Sometimes I feel like I’m getting left behind 🫣😂

@Claudiasaz I know exactly what you mean! I'm absolutely thrilled for everyone who has those longed for BFP's but the "why isn't it me too?" Vibe is STRONG! Frustrated about my enforced month off, but trying to remain hopeful and positive about the next cycle!

I feel just like you @Claudiasaz how long have you been ttc? I MC with my first pregnancy in May last year and haven't had a positive test since 🙈 fertility referral appointment in June, desperately trying to avoid that and get pregnant 💤

@Claudiasaz it's hard to stay away isn't it but it's a good reminder that we aren't alone I guess ❤️

Glad I am not alone, thank you all for being honest. I am genuinely happy for all who have had their positives❤️

@Westy22 Aw. Fingers crossed you are pregnant before your app!

Well I have two little ones, both conceived straight away and always felt very lucky for that. Lost my 3rd at my 12w scan no heartbeat..been trying since October and nothing. Had hormones checked and all fine.

What has the gp said to you x

positive confirmed yesterday. Today. Huge bleed. It’s chemical :( devasted. The progesterone tabs I was given I only got one day usage before happened. I hate the fact that I can’t the tablets till I get a BFP and doctors permission. If I’d had them sooner maybe this would’ve lasted. It feels so unfair.

@Panda101x So sorry to hear that.

Did any of you experience any pain during sex after mc. It happened to me again tonight but it’s just in one position and it’s a sudden sharp pain I think somewhere around my cervix.

Oh @Panda101x I'm so sorry. The disappointing and the heartbreak is just so so hard to process xxx

@Panda101x I'm so sorry, you're right it's horribly unfair that this is happening xx

@Claudiasaz not alot really, they've done all my hormone checks which are normal inc day 21 progesterone which was strong, sperm analysis for OH which is normal and I've had an ultrasound to check everything looks as it should and that came back fine. Other than tell me to loose a few pounds as my BMI isn't optimal for fertility help that's all they've been able to do. So now it's just wait. I'm 37 and have an autoimmune disease so I feel like things are against me. I'm so sorry about your loss, its the worst feeling 💔 my mc was very early and was predicted due to hcg monitoring, I was so naive thinking I'm pregnant and that was it!

I'm so sorry @Panda101x xx

@Panda101x oh I’m so sorry to great this. It’s just so unfair

Sending love and strength @Panda101x really so sorry to read this

@emmatcc1 I don't remember having any but would make sense to really given what the body has been through so maybe just keep an eye on it and if you're worried next month go from there?

@Westy22 From what I've read I think some people just take longer to conceive after a mc. You're supposedly more fertile but from what I've seen it isn't the case and is still absolutely normal x

Thankyou everyone for your messages. Maybe eighth time lucky. As much as it’s horrid I feel kind of bad as I feel like I’m used to it if that makes sense. I’m upset but I feel numb and also like I’m acting normal it’s hard to explain. I feel guilt I guess that I’m not sobbbing my eyes out all time like the first few. Maybe I’ve just got good at processing I dunno I just feel guilty for this feeling :(

@Figtree11 and @Claudiasaz I was exactly like that immediately after I lost my boys at birth and up to two weeks ago felt the same despite there being no reason. Then my gp reminded me I was like that before I conceived my boys because I had two miscarriages before them.

I don't think that fear will go until you get that positive test but we will. Its just a lottery when it happens. Timing, environment, our own bodies. It comes together xxx

@Panda101x I'm so sorry, I just saw this. I've no words. Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and try to stay strong. Its so unfair.

Another way to look at it is ...when you get your bfp here eventually, another poor lady will be delighted fir you but wishing it was her. It comes in waves. I literally started a thread April a year ago that read 2 dpo or something like that with the intent of having a group to support and be supported for months, I got pregnant 2 weeks later and the group moved on without me naturally. It just happens when it happens.

ah no @Panda101x it looks like we’re in the same boat as I’ve just had pink on wiping so I think I’m having another early loss as well, this is number 3 for me 😢. I also didn’t have my hopes high but still feeling absolutely gutted.

@bluebunny2 oh I'm so sorry but I really hope it's nothing more than a small bleed for you xx

Hopefully it’s still ok for you. This is number seven for me :(

@Panda101x so sorry to read this, hope you’re getting plenty of support xx

@Ella31 absolutely! This is the place to be honest with how you feel though for sure xx

@bluebunny2 hopefully just further implanting.. everything crossed for you x

Just from my partner no one else :(