TTC May 2023 💖 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 3)

[Sez281]

New thread for 2024 ladies 💓

For those of us still waiting on our BFPs 🙏and those of you that want to come back and update us with all of your lovely news 🌈 🥰

@Westy22
@Jadeypie
@xxcxdonxx
@SnookyPook
@Supertrooper101
@Hankthehonk
@HopeAndStrength
@DmcinT
@Strawb28
@Paws4thought

So sorry if I've forgotten anyone please add them or jump on board if you see this xx

I’m ok thanks @Sez281 , I caved and tested this morning but it was very negative. I thought that some of westy’s good luck might have rubbed off but it’s not been my month.
Will retest tomorrow but I would expect some kind of line albeit faint just now. Onto next month!

I’ve never really experienced that kind of cramping/bloating you have mentioned. Did you think it was progesterone related? 2 of the 3 months I’ve taken it I’ve had mouth ulcers which I don’t know is related or just been a coincidence with being run down but will put up with it if it’s going to help!

@xxcxdonxx Sorry to hear that 😞 Hopefully next cycle is the one 🤞 When is your consultant appointment/bloods again?

I'm just back from my GP and she's 100% sure that it's the high dose of progesterone that's causing the pain. She's prescribed me losec tablets and Duphlac syrup to help loosen things up even more 🫣

@SnookyPook I just realised I never replied to you. Weirdly it has actually gone fast and I can't believe I'm past the 7 week mark either 🥹 I had a chat with my GP about my anxiety around it and she really put my mind at ease.. also she does pregnancy scans so whilst she does not recommend me continually going for them through the whole pregnancy she said just to book in whenever I'm worried 👌 I agree with what you said about getting a Doppler too, if I make it that far there's no way I could deal with getting one! 🙈 xx

Ah @Sez281 your GP sounds amazing! How kind of her to offer a reassurance scan if you're in need. Glad she was able to provide some reassurance too and hopefully the stuff she's prescribed re bloating will be helpful.

@xxcxdonxx ah sorry to hear that. Hopefully next cycle will be the one 🙏🏼🌈

@Sez281 i love your gp 🤣.... didnt you have the cramps pre progesterone tho? Or does she think thats kind of just enhanced things? Youl have to let me know how you get on with them. Hope its not like durlox or whatever and abit random lol
@xxcxdonxx you never know, still time 🤞

@Sez281 your gp really does sound amazing, to know that you can book in with her when you feel you need to is reassuring in itself.

I don’t have anything else arranged with the consultant, I will have repeat bloods taken but they won’t be until April time.

Thanks @SnookyPook, let’s hope so!

@Supertrooper101 yeah I've had my "normal" cramping since ovulation, o think the last 7-10 days it's definitely been a lot more gastrointestinal than uterusy if that makes sense 😂 The syrup is lactulose which is basically the same as dufulox or movicol or whatever. The losec (omeprazole) I'm hoping are going to be the ones to ease it, I'll know in a few days I guess 🤞

@Westy22 hope you're doing ok and not too busy in work (although it's probably a good distraction from testing!)

Glad you got sorted with your gp @Sez281 it's good when you know there on your side.

I'm alright, I'm absolutely petrified that this is going to go the other way, I've had some very light cramping...probably more like stingy feels and my lower back is achey. I did a test this morning ofcourse lol it was still decent but I'm obviously over analysing everything although i did remind myself it can take 48 hours to change significantly. 🙈 I might feel a teeny bit better when I pass AF due date Thursday or get a super dark line 🤣

@xxcxdonxx so sorry it's not looking to be your month 😥 Hope you're doing OK.
@Paws4thought how are you? Been thinking of you.
@Sez281 wow your gp sounds fantastic, take her up on that offer if you're struggling.

@Westy22 I totally get it, the fear and anxiety can be quite overwhelming. All we can do is take it day by day. Getting through AF due date tomorrow will be one box ticked. Just be aware also that cheapies like the one step tests take absolutely ages to become dye stealers so don't worry too much at all about progression xx

@Paws4thought was thinking about you too, hope you're doing ok xx

@Hankthehonk @Sez281 I'm OK, bit up and down and cramps have been worse than last time but think everything is settling down now. Trying not to over think it all, I guess 2 miscarriages is fairly common and there's lots of tests that could be done but can't shake the worry that it might never happen for us and only time will tell.
@Westy22 congratulations, hope it all progresses well.
@Supertrooper101 have you got a scan tomorrow? How many weeks will you be?
@SnookyPook you must be happy to be getting closer to the 20 week mark!
@xxcxdonxx sorry to see you've had a negative, will this be your first child? What tests have you had done?

@Paws4thought Sorry to hear that the cramps are bad. As if our bodies need a reminder of how shitty the situation is when it happens 😞 I don't blame you for being worried but I'm sure that it was just one of those awful things 😢. Myself, @SnookyPook and @xxcxdonxx have all been in the same horrendous boat with 2nd and sometimes 3rd losses 😢 I'm crossing everything that this will be the last time you have go through this 🙏 xx

@Paws4thought sorry to hear you have had cramping, hopefully it starts to ease up for you. I am completely in the same boat with you with your worry. I am actually TTC #3, I’ve had two very straightforward pregnancies so the multiple losses has all been very confusing to me. I’ve had generic testing from my gp for folate, thyroid etc. and then this ‘sticky blood’ which I’m waiting for my follow up appointment for. I’m also on that crazy long waitlist for some kind of scan, not even sure what it is to be honest. Have you been offered any testing?

I think realistically I have another few months in me for trying then we will decide to stop. Last year was really tough going and I feel I need to get back to my old self again for my own sake and my kids. Just a scary thought of deciding when that point is though!

@xxcxdonxx that must be confusing to have straight forward pregnancies followed by losses. They've offered blood test to check thyroid etc but has to be 6 weeks after negative test, I think we're going to try this cycle if I can work out when but if don't catch will wait for the test to be done. Its frustrating how long the wait lists are for these things. I guess you could stop actively trying and just see if it happens when you feel you've reached that point.
@Sez281 thanks, it's just so difficult when doing everything right and it's going wrong but other people seem to have no issues at all. I feel a bit sad that I don't think I'll be able to be happy about being pregnant until I get quite far now. Have you got anymore scans booked?

@Paws4thought oh I totally get it, it's just awful, it takes all the joy out the first few weeks...I'm trying to think positively but it's so hard. I have a private scan Saturday and epau Wednesday. We were going to tell our parents if it goes ok Saturday but I've changed my mind. I'm so afraid to give them good news only to dash it again so will wait a bit longer I think 😕.

That's good that they're offering you the blood tests. I know it's so hard to think about stuff now but no harm getting everything checked for peace of mind. I think I remember you saying that you were lucky and caught first time last year? I know it's so cliche but getting pregnant is a massive positive, just praying it sticks soon for you xx

@Sez281 ah not long to wait for scans then, you may feel differently about telling parents once you've seen all is OK but completely get the not wanting to cause upset if things were to change.
I told my mum about my losses this time, I wanted to keep it secret first time so it could be a happy thing but realised that potentially it could be years and more loss before the positive and I didn't want it to be secret that long. Yeah I've caught quickly both times really which is positive, think it's worried me that they both ended at pretty much the exact same point and I won't be able to get past that. Yeah I'll take all the tests I can get to rule things out, I'm just not keen on waiting for them haha.

@Paws4thought I think at this stage you should be referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic or something similar? If not maybe it would be worth a visit to your GP outlining your worries about the fact that it's been the same time line both times? They may be able to prescribe you progesterone for when you get your BFP next time? I know it's not a miracle drug and definitely doesn't stop miscarriages but I do believe that it can be a massive support in pregnancy. It's all probably a bit too much to be thinking about now anyway, give your body and mind to heal a bit more maybe xx

@Sez281 I don't think they'll refer to clinic until after 3 loss, I think the bloods they've offered are first step. If I do manage to get pregnant before bloods I'll ask gp for referal back to epu and hope they'll offer more support this time. I've been reading on other threads about recurrent mc and most seem to eventually go on to have successful pregnancy but some after 5+ loss which is just awful, seems daft to be comparing when I'm still pretty early into ttc, tbh I thought the hard part was getting pregnant, miscarriage never really entered my mind and the success on this thread is a positive im trying to focus on. Hormones are probably a bit all over the place adding to the anxiety of it all.

@Paws4thought i think mc's and especially mmcs are a real eye opener in such a sad way. I was the same as you i thought getting the bfp was the challange 🙁.... if you feel ready to try again go for it. Still book yourself in for the bloods tho regardless. If you get a bfp getting referred to epu sounds a very good plan. If you have fight for the referral, fight for it lol i honestly think you were quite neglected by all of them this time round. Dont be afraid to tell them that in order to get support you deserve this time. At the end off the day its only there day to day jobs but to you its your life and worries there fobbing off. Makes me mad you asked 3 different professions for help, you got one scan, sent away knowing there was a bleed there, and no further help/progesterone or follow up. Sorry i dont want to drag it up for you am just annoyed you were left basically alone 🤬. But anyway. If you get a bfp yay lol if not...your booked in for bloods in 6 wks. They dont need to know your still trying in between... what about some private bloods to see where your fertilitys at? May give you peace of mind x
@Sez281 hows your new tabs going lol you all empty lol has it eased the pain abit?
@xxcxdonxx i wonder if its the new year making people want to give up, quite a few on another thread have decided to have an end date or break lol i like paws idea, maybe try but not try. How old are your other two kids?
@Westy22 how you getting on? Was today your first milestone with af 🙂

@Paws4thought I'm sorry your feeling like this, you really need to push your GP for additional support, have they offered counselling to you? I got offered that after one loss and then referred for fertility checks but I'm 37 so the latter I think was more due to my age. I thought the rules had changed about recurrent mc though and it was now two and they step in and start to investigate? are you trying to conceive your first or do you have children xx really hope your okay I know it's a horrible place to be.

@xxcxdonxx I honestly think taking some time to bring yourself back is the way forward as ttc does rob you as you literally wish the days away. ❤️

@Supertrooper101 I'm okay, was cramping a bit yesterday eve and that freaked me out but I'm telling myself that's normal and tbh i didn't experience it first time round so maybe its a positive sign things are happening 🙈 today is AF due date (I think, my cycles have been longer) and I obviously tested, decent lines so that will calm me down for an hour 🤣 debating when to inform my gp, feel like I want to wait till 6 weeks as it was sh!t cancelling my first booking in appointment last time. I feel like everything is going really slow (downside of testing early) but trying to appreciate each day.

How are you getting on? Your scan tomorrow? How far will you be then 😍

Hi girls I've got tbh I've bloody missed you lot!!! But the time away was very much needed and I'm feeling back in the zone!

So so much to catch up on and sorry if I don't get round to all of use!

@Paws4thought I'm so sorry what you have had to go through! My heart really goes out to you and sending you massive hugs xx

@Westy22 super excited for you!! Xx

@Sez281 I crnt believe how quick it's going and @SnookyPook xx

@xxcxdonxx totally get it!! I'm in the same boat but I'm going to try the 'put it in the fuck it bucket' and just leave it down to nature for now xx

My last af was horrendous worst one I've had in a long time!! I've started the metformin for a week now. I had to wait for the bloody consultant to send the letter over to my gp which took two weeks ffs. I've got more bloods coming up and waiting for my ap with the gynes.Tbh I feel like with the vitimins and these meds I'm feeling alot more alive my body seems to be gearing up to ovulation so I'm feeling positive not in the way of I'm going to concieve this month just that my body hormones wise feels like it's getting better! Xx

@Jadeypie aw welcome back lovely! Glad to hear you sounding positive! Great that you can feel the vitamins having an impact! Sorry af was so awful though!

@Paws4thought sending you a hug. It's hard having to suddenly confront the image of yourself as someone who has had recurring losses. However, as you said, there is still every reason for hope, and some of us on this thread can attest to that. Your recent loss is still so fresh - the hormones will definitely be impacting all your thoughts etc, as well as the grief. Just go gently on yourself but where possible, allow hope to creep in. I definitely felt last year like maybe I just wasn't meant to have another child, but then everything changed and things are looking more hopeful again. It can all turn around very quickly. I'm still extremely optimistic for you that it will happen 💗

@Westy22 glad your lines are looking decent! I was so superstitious about registering this pregnancy with the midwives. Think I didn't until after my first scan. But fingers crossed all is developing well for you 💗☺️

@Supertrooper101 think you said it's a Friday appointment this week, not Thurs? Hope you're doing ok!

@Sez281 hope you're ok too - not too long to wait until your next scan is it. Are the nerves ramping up again? Sending a hand hold!

I had a tiiiiiiny bit of spotting again last night. Pretty sure it's my cervix and feeling more confident now I know baby is bigger but still feeling a bit antsy ahead of my 16wk appointment tomorrow. They'll be listening with the Doppler so just hoping all goes well and they don't struggle to find it!!

@Paws4thought i was referred following 3 losses but kind of had to fight for the chemical to be considered a loss. I’m in Glasgow though and I know that’s different to the new guidance in England.
It’s really difficult when you are in the position of being given bad news, trying to process it and also fight your corner.

@Supertrooper101 my kids are 5 and almost 3 so it’s unexplained at the moment and I don’t know if I’ll ever know what’s when wrong. I think for me I need to make a decision, I’m not really one for just leaving things to fate. I like a plan!

@Westy22 I know everyone says not to have too much focus on lines but in the early stages they definitely do give some reassurance.

@SnookyPook that’s to be expected to feel a bit nervous but great that you can be more confident with where the spotting has come from. Hearing that heartbeat is so lovely 🥰

@Jadeypie so lovely to see you!! Glad to hear that you are feeling more positive and sounds like you have a lot of appointments, results coming up too which will hopefully provide some info for you.

Bit of a random one, I started spotting before I’d taken my last progesterone pessary and since I knew it was a bfn, I stopped taking them. I’m still spotting but it will develop into af in the next day or so.
Do you think it’s anything to be concerned by that I was still spotting even when on them? Or am I just giving myself something else to worry about 😝