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[Sez281]

New thread for 2024 ladies 💓

For those of us still waiting on our BFPs 🙏and those of you that want to come back and update us with all of your lovely news 🌈 🥰

@Westy22
@Jadeypie
@xxcxdonxx
@SnookyPook
@Supertrooper101
@Hankthehonk
@HopeAndStrength
@DmcinT
@Strawb28
@Paws4thought

So sorry if I've forgotten anyone please add them or jump on board if you see this xx

@Westy22 i did nt understand any of that first paragraph 🤣 ....
Just your hormones being stuuppid then. Have you done anything different for them to chg? Yeah ive got battery heated socks lol always have cold hands and feet even in summer so got lots of warming shite haha

Sorry I was typing fast as battery was about to die lol he's doing his sample in the morning and dropping off, so he has to abstain from dtd and all of a sudden my libido decided to show up because I know we can't do anything 🤣 @Supertrooper101

I did not know heated socks was a thing I may need some as I'm always freezing lol I've been taking hormone support vits that contain evening primrose, maca and starflower oil, its ment to help pms etc I didn't expect it to create new problems lol

@Supertrooper101 just realised they're 75cl bottles so only about 3.5 litres a day. I used to drink even more water for years when I was a smoker so it's definitely not that that's causing the cramps, they feel way more reproductivey if that's a word lol. That's interesting about the golf stuff, I've been afraid to put a hot water bottle on my tummy but I'm assuming a warm one would be ok 🤔

@Westy22 its Murphy's law that when you aren't allowed to do something you want it more 🙈😂 Makes more sense that he's dropping a fresh sample in this morning. Hopefully all comes back ok 🙏

@Paws4thought hope you're feeling ok this morning xx

As you can see by my early posts I'm waking up before the birds 🫠 Getting to sleep is no problem as I'm shattered but I'm lucky if I sleep past 5am and I'm not in work till 10am🙈 I should really use the time to do something productive like cleaning but that hasn't happened 😂

Morning everyone 😊

@Sez281 I think that's a common thing when pregnant being up with the birds haha wonder why sleep patterns go mad? How have you found work while being pregnant? Mines a active job I worry about how I would hide mine when the time comes. Xx

@Supertrooper101 how are you doing? Have u stayed away from the cup? Haha was it that making you sick or just the glorious morning sickness? Xx

@Westy22 what dpo are you? I feel like I miss a day on here And lose all track haha xx

@Paws4thought hope your doing well how's the spotting been? Xx

@SnookyPook how are u feeling? Any new symptoms? Do u still feel on cloud nice since your 12 week scan? Xx

I'm only cd5 @Jadeypie going to start dtd from day 7/8 ha I've been taking maca and I think it's waking up my libido a bit 🤣

What does everyone do? I feel like we know the ins and outs of our cycles but nothing else 🤣🤣 mines a active job, I'm on my feet all day when I found out I was pregnant first time round I was absolutely exhausted 😫 so it's not the best job for that 🤣

@Westy22 ohhh God yeh haha I remember your plans haha. I work in retail too 😩 don't sit down all day run round constantly. I was in lockdown for my first pregnancy so it was a dream didn't have to do a thing then also got time off for the first twelve weeks so I got through the morning sickness lying on the couch haha. God nos what I would do now. I think I would have to just tell everyone and hope for the best. With my ectopic few days before I found out I was pg I pulled 35 heavy delivery cases in on my own and still to this day I feel like that had somthing to do with it because I wasn't the same after that! So this time round I want to find out soon as and I won't be lifting a finger haha xx

Your job sounds like mine @Jadeypie lol I was dragging pallets and selling garden furniture 🙈 there was one day I said I couldn't lift a big 6 burner bbq on my own and they looked at me like I had 5 heads 🤣🤣 obviously they didn't know at the time. I think I'll be extra cautious the next time x

@Westy22 macas good for libdo definatley lol i would maybe look into the primrose tho, am sure your only meant to take it up to ovulation then stop as it can have a negative effect. Also starflower, am sure i read mixed stories on that too. There both for extra ewcm but only for the 1st part of the cycle...i cud be wrong tho but worth a google lol your message did make senee know....just didnt twig what the frig you were on about 🤣
@Sez281 i wondered the same about heat on the belly. Iv got a wheat sack thing you put in microwave and i use between my legs or on my back instead if directly on the stomach. Figured it must heat the blood travelling that way lol
@Jadeypie i didnt use the cup at all yesterday and felt better than i have been doing. Buttttt.... i switched up my food and had carbs more than i normally do, so it could be an eating thing too tbf lol defo a job you need to know quickly if your pregnant!

@Supertrooper101 a combination of thongs then maybe haha xx

@Westy22 I agree I will 100% be cautious. I think u should take @Supertrooper101 advice and look into the supplements could be messing you abit maybe xx

@Jadeypie so far haven't had anymore spotting since yesterday lunchtime ish so hoping it was just everything growing and now it's settled 🤞 how are you feeling? Will you test early?
@Sez281 wow you drink loads, I have to make a real conscious effort to drink enough each day! How are your cramps today?
@Supertrooper101 hope changing cups has made you feel better. I've not heard of cold uterus before,that's interesting.
@Westy22 you need to save that feeling for your fertile week 🤣
@xxcxdonxx where are you in your cycle now?

@Paws4thought glad to hear!! You will be right just your body adjusting. And nope (I say that) plans not to buy any tests till af is late. I had evaps on those easy@homes last time so I'm not even doing it to myself again ha. Xx

@Jadeypie ah yeah it's not worth the uncertainty if you can resist! Hopefully it'll keep going by quickly :)

Yeah I think I'll stop the hormone support ones around day 12 just incase it's interfering with anything, I'll keep the maca going though and coq10 @Supertrooper101 @Jadeypie

I've just ordered loads of new knickers etc to try and make things less about ttc when dtd lol I'm worried it's ruining our relationship 🤣

@Westy22 I done that the other week. I think ttc can really put a damper on things crnt it and it becomes more if a chore than fun xx

@Jadeypie wow you've definitely a job that you'd need to tell them early, I work in child protection so not too high risk.

@Paws4thought glad that it's gone, hopefully you can relax a bit more 🙏 x

@Supertrooper101 I have the microwave bags too. Could have used one in work today as I'm cramping fairly badly again😭. I've spent the morning googling if progesterone can mask a miscarriage or bleeding😣. Randomly though as I was writing this post I got a call from my consultants nurse. She said the progesterone wouldn't mask it. She offered to bring me in for a scan next week but I said no. It would be too triggering as it's too early and they'd see nothing so I'd rather wait.... Obviously if my bloods come back too low I'll have to go in but if they are doubling as they should then I'll go in at 6+3. For now I just have to tell my l self that the cramps are probably normal unless they get severe or are particularly bad on one side. God I hate this 🙁

@Westy22 I thought it was @Jadeypie that was pulling pallets. You both have busy jobs! 🙈

Ah thanks for asking. I'm doing ok thanks! I think it's feeling much more real now, although still completely surreal in a way! Not really any new symptoms. Still getting mega hungry and my boobs are still achy. It's been nice being able to tell people we've seen and everyone is so happy for us. 🥰

Gosh I don't know how people do really physical active jobs when pregnant - and that's me with minimal symptoms thinking that! With sickness etc even less so!! I'm a researcher at a Uni - mostly desk-based and my team have been able to work from home a lot since COVID so it's really not strenuous at all! I feel very lucky!

@Sez281 I think that was wise to refuse a scan at this point. I see so many posts from have scans early and then freak they can't see anything, no heartbeat etc. Far better to wait it out a bit longer, although tough to be patient! Cramps really are very normal as everything is just stretching out etc.

@Sez281 yeh, I don't blame you when it happens to me. I won't be doing any scans till at least 6 weeks! Every twinge will have u on edge, but looking back on my cycle with ds, I had a lot of cramps logged down in the first few weeks if that's any help. The only signs I had with the ectopic, if that's a worry, was bleeding, serve back pains and shooting pains up my bum, which I couldn't move with, so you do just sound like the norm. Xx

I had some horrible cramps last night in bed around 1am kept me up then a few twinges today when doing the house chores. I feel like af is pending already. Wouldn't be a surprise if it does tbh I'm on cd 38 x

@SnookyPook aww have you announced now? Another milestone completed 🥰 seriously don't no how I do it not being pregnant haha God help me when I am. My dp works from home since covid loads havnt gone back he prefers it I couldn't cope I like interacting with people xx

We've not made any official announcement but we've told a few people when we've seen them. Mostly people who knew what we went through last year so it's been so lovely to share positive news and be able to celebrate it a bit with others 🥰 Not sure if we'll do an official announcement on FB or anything - especially now knowing how hard those can be for people to see... Would want to do it sensitively. May put something on further into it all - not before 20wk scan.

@Sez281 well tbf, look at me with that early scan i had lol absolutely paranoid af and worried for the next. But perfect timing for the nurse to ring lol are you still going to be under them then or havent you discussed any of that yet?
@Jadeypie and @Westy22 get you two with ya frilly nickers lol do the other halfs put any extra effort in too 🤔 probably not lol @Paws4thought and @Sez281 are you both about the same time wise then? When will your scans be then 🙂

@Jadeypie how many dpo are you now? If AF was to come soon or could be a sign of a short LP like me. Hopefully you get a few more days and will show that side of things is fine 🤞 x

@Supertrooper101 I'm only 4+4 so crazy early. I'm sorry I mentioned the cramps to the nurse because she's just called back. She spoke to my consultant who is saying she wants me to go into the epau so I’m going to get a call tomorrow with a day and time. I’m sorry I mentioned it now. 😓 There’ll be nothing on the scan except possibly an empty sac and all it will do is add to my anxiety for another 10 days or so 🙁 What date were you for your 1st scan? It's Thursday your back for 3rd?

@SnookyPook Id imagine it's so hard to know when to tell people. It must be such a relief to pass the milestone of 12 weeks 🥹 xx

Myself and OH spoke about it last night. After last year I swore I'd wait until 12 weeks, but If my bloods have gone up I'm going to tell my sister who I'm really close to.

If we make it to another scan at 8+3 we'll tell our parents. The way I see it is if something bad happens after that point we'd be telling them anyway as we'd want their support like last time. Hopefully we get that far 🙏

@Sez281 yes it's so helpful to have one or two people who know, especially if they are people who would be there for you in case of a loss anyway. I get that you're frustrated about the consultant but on the plus side, it sounds like they're looking after you really well. I'm sure you can voice your concerns around the early scan and they can help to set expectations. After all, at the gestation you are, you know you would never expect to see a heartbeat yet etc. But hopefully they will be able to confirm a pregnancy starting to develop in the right place etc and talk you through what it all means. 💕

@SnookyPook that's true, it's better to know there's something trying to happen I guess. (If I can try and persuade them to push it to maybe Friday i'll be 5+1 so yok sac might be visible) My expectations are very low, I'm just going to try and not worry and tell myself what will be will be 🤷‍♀️