2024 TTC 35+ Part 1

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New year, new thread!!!

Positive thoughts and baby dust for everyone this year!!!

Congratulations!! @SouthwestSis
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Eek @SouthwestSis ! Hope the lines get darker! 🤞 How exciting!

Haha I'm the same! I'm like 4dpo and could have sworn felt flutters last night and my boobs felt really sore in the shower. There's no way there would be any symptoms for me yet but here we are. 🤣 Maybe it's our month eh?

I have also seen another pregnancy announcement and I'm delighted for the person but also a bit wistful? Never mind, onwards and upwards I guess!

@BiscuitDreams @Lalaland13
I'm 5dpo and I swear every single thing I think is a pregnancy symptom. The TWW is awful. Really going to try not to test until AF is late but I doubt that will happen!

Struggling not to test too. Really need distractions 😂 it helps that I don’t know exactly what my dpo is… just following when fertility friend says my period is due which is Tuesday although I think it could be Thursday or Friday. So I am going to try and hold off until next Friday unless AF comes first!

Congratulations @SouthwestSis. Really hoping that this is your sticky bean. Sending you lots of love and to all those in the dreaded TWW/ valley of torment for those of us who have been around for awhile 😂

I have my first scan a week tomorrow and am hopefully 11+2 today. I’ve had a bit of a rollercoaster last week head wise and seem to have talked myself into believing that it will be a MMC at the scan. I have no symptoms to suggest that, everything is looking like I’m pregnant, I think I just want it so badly to be good news that I’m trying to prepare myself for bad. Absolute lunatic. Sorry I’ve been a bit absent on here recently. I know it’s hard for some still TTC when others pop back in and I’ve felt like a massively ungrateful dick for worrying so much after waiting for long for this. So didn’t really want to offload here. But I guess you’ve been here for all of my other emotional ups and downs over the last 14 months! 😂

Aww @Bumblebee413 I don’t think you’re a dick 😂 far from it. Having a MMC or any type of loss just screws with everything and makes us expect the worst. Like you say it’s trying to protect ourselves. I guess it’s brave to hope, because what else can you do? Expecting the worst won’t make it any easier to cope with if it was bad news ( which it is unlikely to be at this stage … ) I wish you the very best for the scan xx

Hats off to you, there was no way I could have made it all the way to the 12wk scan without any reassurance! Not surprised you've been on a rollercoaster! But great that you've made it to 11+2 with nothing concerning occurring! I'm sure little one is doing just fine and hopefully you will have a lovely 12wk scan experience 💕

I've also not been updating here much due to everyone else still on the TTC train and not wanting to be insensitive etc, but I'm currently up to 18+2 and hopefully all is looking good still. Heard a healthy heartbeat at the 16wk appointment and got my 20wk scan coming up at the end of this month. Can't quite believe it still tbh. I have struggled at times with anxiety (not helped by a couple of small bleeds but thankfully nothing sinister) and I think at one level I'm still not fully connected to the pregnancy after my losses last year. But as time goes on, I am daring to feel more optimistic. I think I'll be asking the community midwife for another listen in with the Doppler ahead of the scan as I still find scans quite triggering unfortunately. But hopefully all looking good 🙏🏼🌈💕

Lots of love to those of you still in the TTC trenches. Hopefully lots more BFPs on the way for the thread before the year is out! 💗

Meant to say, congratulations @SouthwestSis ! 🥰

Congratulations @SouthwestSis everything crossed for you.

@Bumblebee413 I’m now (I think) nearly 11 weeks too and my scan is on Friday. Midwife dates me at 12 weeks as going from first day of last period but I know I’ve had super long cycles and I think I ovulated later than expected. I’ve also not had a scan yet so I have that slight dread of going for the scan and hoping all is well.

sending lots of positivity to everyone else trying. Those in the TWW, I hope it speeds past for you and brings some lovely BFPs!!

@SouthwestSis keeping everything crossed this is your sticky bean 💕

@Bumblebee413 I hadn't realised how close together we are, I'm 11+2 today, got my 12 week scan a week tomorrow. You've done amazingly well getting to this stage without a reassurance scan. Not long to wait now for you.

@Fullofconfusion didn't realise you were at the same point as me and Bumblebee too. I've been measuring further along than I am, they've dated me before I even had my last period by a few days so I know its out. I'm therefore taking progesterone a week longer than I was told to just to make sure the placenta is taking over.

@SnookyPook I know what you mean about feeling a bit distanced from it all, even though my scans have been fine I still can't allow myself to think too far into the future or get too excited yet out of fear. I get so nervous before scans that I don't sleep properly for a few days beforehand with them on my mind.

Thanks all of you, I tested again today and had some line progression do going OK so far. Really hoping night shifts this weekend don't screw it up for me!
Husband is moping as he has some viral illness so not feeling as nurtured as I'd like atm

Lovely to see all the BFPs and talk of scans. Really happy for you all, and wishing you the best in upcoming scans.

A little off topic, I've just got a new job, in a new company. Do I keep ttc, or take a break out of respect for new employers? The chances of it happening at this stage are very slim anyway, obviously, but should I remove the chance altogether?

@CatCaretaker no defo keep going! Who knows when it will happen and if it does soon, you still have months before you will go on leave! I felt the same when j started a new job last August and glad I didn't stop as it was horrendous and I was let go then 😂

Go for it @CatCaretaker and Congratulations! Part of me thinks these babies love to pop along at inconvenient times, so I’d definitely take it as a positive step towards TTC 😂 Also, it’s incredibly kind of you to be so considerate towards your new employer, but work is work. This is your family, your baby. If you were unlucky this cycle, at least you could maybe hold onto the fact that you tried. It’s a really personal one though, so go with what feels right for you?

My husband was away for six weeks at a time for a year from when we first started TTC. I thought I would be fine and would cope with our toddler and morning sickness if it happened- I didn’t think we should wait due to my age but mainly because if we did struggle I didn’t want to look back and regret not trying sooner. We had no luck during that year, but I get a weird consolation that at least we tried. I also have peace and am grateful that we didn’t at that time. I would have ‘coped’ I’m sure, but I am so glad, now that I have him here, that I didn’t have to just cope. That was a ramble, but whatever you decide I’m sure it will be either a relief or a blessing x

Thanks @Daniki and @Bumblebee413, you're right, I didn't really want to stop ttc, but I just wanted to see if I was being unreasonable!

I absolutely would not stop ttc for that @CatCaretaker keep going! Congrats on the new job

Congratulations on the new job @CatCaretaker
The only thing I would be thinking about is your maternity package - do you need to have been working for your employer a certain amount of time to qualify for this?
I wouldn’t be timing things around my employer, no. I got pregnant within the first year of a new job with my first and they were arsey about it and asked me if it was planned. None of their business!

I too am encouraged by all this BFP and scan talk! Waiting to test until end of next week unless AF shows. Must… remain…. Strong !!!

Congrats on the job @CatCaretaker and like others have said! Definitely don’t stop TTC cause you feel bad! Most employers will happily move you on if you aren’t fitting in without thought for you! I guess maternity pay is a consideration though depending on your situation. I hope you get your BFP soon!

Haha yeah @CurlyWurly1991 ! I’ve just tested and of course it will be negative ! No idea! Just little man went for a nap and I had 5 mins to self before the big clean! Distraction sometimes but I usually find once have done a test I keep at it!

Thanks all. In the ROI maternity leave is an entitlement irrespective of how long you've been with the employer, so that's not a worry, it just seems a bit cheeky on my part, but in reality, it's unlikely to happen anyway, so I should stop worrying.

@CatCaretaker its not the leave that’s the issue it’s the pay - but I might be wrong. Worth checking out this site perhaps?https://maternityaction.org.uk/

Thanks, but in ROI things are different, so not an issue with pay either, I'm pretty sure.

I haven't actually signed the contract yet, but when I do I'll go over it with a fine tooth comb to be sure! Thanks 🙂

@Lalaland13 when is AF due? 22nd for me and currently 7DPO. Really don't want to start testing till end of next week but I doubt that will happen. I bought a couple of the boots early tests and it's going to take a lot of self control not to use them!!