TTC after ectopic/after loss/older age etc ALL WELCOME 🙂

[YellowZ]

Hello,

Would anyone like to join a thread for TTC after ectopic/miscarriage, or when facing other challenges eg age, PCOS etc? DP and I have just decided to try again for no2, and I'm going to come off the pill. It would be nice to have some buddies to share experiences and support each other 🙂

About me:

Pregnancy 1: conceived first cycle age 35, healthy pregnancy, DS born summer 2021 (now age 2)

Pregnancy 2: conceived first cycle age 37, ectopic, surgery November 2022

My plan is to eat well, exercise, cut out alcohol, and generally look after myself.

Because I got pregnant quickly both times, I'm hoping our chances are still good...no idea how only having the one fallopian tube is going to affect things 😬

I think I'll do OPKs but not sure about temping yet.

Would love to hear from others!

Ahh sorry @Nic2908 that's tough. Hang in there! Have you had any ewcm? Must be crappy being all geared up for it and then it doesn't happen.

@Bumblesbee84 sorry, missed your update but glad you don't have to wait any longer. Did you manage to DTD on time?

CD11 here. According to the app, ovulation due friday, but we'll see 😬no ewcm yet despite some avid knicker checking, but it usually comes the day before ovulation for me.

@YellowZ the waiting continues! Hope you're not waiting too much longer.
It turns out I'm still spotting a bit. I spoke to epu today for follow phone call following medical management and they said no sex until spotting completely stopped because of infection risk. They also said to wait a cycle before trying again, although was expecting that! Will see when spotting stops... on reflection I think the positive opk was left over pregnancy hormones, I usually only get one day of solid smiley face. I did another one today and it was also blazing positive. Did a PT and it was moderately faint so definitely got pregnancy hormones in my system.

Started back at work today after 2 weeks off and my head is about to explode. Think I'm going to chill out about TTC over the next week or two until I know pregnancy hormones have gone. Had been feeling quite positive and today has felt like a bit of a step back. It's exhausting this journey!

Sorry I’ve been a bit awol, I was so pissed at the early AF last cycle I just got so grumpy with it all 😂 got a positive OPK this morning that had faded a fair bit by this evening so assuming I’ll ovulate tomorrow.

Hope everyone is doing okay and we get lots of Christmas BFPs! AF due roughly around the 27th so I’ll definitely test Christmas Day I think.

@lemonyfox So sorry to see you’re still in this awful situation. Makes me so angry they haven’t respected your decisions on treatment, it’s not like you don’t know what you’re talking about and making an informed decision 😠

Ah sorry @Bumblesbee84 that must have been disappointing. I imagine the left over HCG can't be helping with the emotional side of things, either.

Hope you're alright @lemonyfox xx

@MrsB2019x hooray! Hope AF stays away a bit longer this time.

I got a dark OPK reading this morning (79%) so I'm expecting a peak later today or tomorrow morning.

Not sure what I think about testing on Christmas day. It seems sure to exacerbate any disappointment. I'm hoping to get to 12dpo this time instead of 7 ha ha.

@YellowZ It definitely will but I need to know whether I can drink to suffer through my MIL all day or not 😂

@MrsB2019x that's how I'm going to think of it from this weekend on (AF due). It will make for a very merry tipsy Chrisymas 😂.

Thanks everyone for checking in. I had my remaining tube taken out yesterday, I'm home now and recovering well 😊

Hey @lemonyfox glad you're ok. Physically anyway. Look after yourself 🙂glad you finally got the operation, what a relief. Although also something of a downer overall, I imagine.

@MrsB2019x 😂fair enough.

I'll definitely be getting myself a bottle of prosecco if AF arrives on the 29th.

I've told DP if we dtd 1 more time tomorrow then we've done "perfect" fertile week sex... He's competitive so he'll definitely want to do perfect sex hehe. We'll have dtd on ovulation day, the day before, 2 days before and 4 days before. (That's if today was peak lh - I'm thinking it might be, but I'll see what the test says in the morning).

@lemonyfox thinking of you. I hope recovery is smooth for you xx

How's everyone doing?

15DPO here, no AF yet, but spotting. BFN at 13DPO. Body just not cooperating 🙄.

Urgh @CatCaretaker that's annoying. I mean if your AF is going to come it should really just hurry up and get it done with!

I'm not too bad thanks. I'm 3dpo so no news. Just cruising along. Hoping I won't go quite as mental with the testing this month. I can already feel the temptation looming ha ha! I don't have any early tests in the house and I was thinking it might be best to keep it that way for as long as possible before Christmas.

Yes that's a good idea, can't can too mad with the tests if you don't have any! Fingers frosted for you though, at least uou should know either way by Christmas.

AF has now arrived, which is for best I suppose. Can start afresh now.

Sorry AF arrived @CatCaretaker ☹️

@YellowZ I’m 4dpo today so we’re very similar. The temptation to POAS is real 😂 I did an ovulation test yesterday just to get it out of my system!

Hey 👋 ladies hope everyone is well. I am currently on cd 8 but decided i will not do these opk tests and all as it just stresses me way beyond needed just will let nature do its thing without me fussing lol but need to see how long that will last 😂i have also decided to just chill with ttc if it happens it happens if not no biggie having said that i do check on the app every now and then to see when i maybe ovulating lol

@CatCaretaker @MrsB2019x the addiction is real isn't it!! It's like having a gambling addiction... I bet it does a similar thing to your brain. I actually considered an OPK as well. Urgh!

Sorry AF is here - but at least you're on to a fresh start 🙂 I'd definitely rather AF arrive if I'm getting BFNs. Also does that mean you can have lots of wine at Christmas? That's definitely an upside.

@Annonomous29 you definitely have the right attitude 🙂 I was thinking I might not do OPKs next cycle, but then I get scared about not knowing what is "going on" (even though that's daft as the most likely thing is I'll ovulate and if I don't I can't change that anyway)

@YellowZ soo true but im trying to avoid buying them if I don’t have them cant do them is the attitude only god knows how long i will survive tho

Christmas wine (and soft cheese, and coffee) is definitely an upside!

Good luck both of you, keep us updated 🙂

@CatCaretaker mmmm cheese. I've been really careful for the last few months with what I've been eating (lost some weight) so it's kind of a shame not to be able to go a bit wild at Christmas. Maybe I'll just eat allll of the quality street.

Sounds like a plan! DP has taken to buying Milk Tray at the moment because they're reduced and we're allowed 'because it's Christmas'.

I haven't had milk tray in years! My last day at work is Weds, so I'm going to pop to Sainsbury's on Friday while DS is in nursery and get a lot of fun treats 😋 I've only had one mince pie so far!

@YellowZ @CatCaretaker loving the Christmas snacking planning! I've completely fallen off the wagon, been eating all the cheese and all the Christmas treats and had wine/fizz a few nights in a row... I'll call it medicinal, that's my excuse!
@Annonomous29 I'm trying to do the relaxed approach too... we can do this...possibly 😅
@Nic2908 how are you doing? Any sign of ovulation?
My spotting had really tapered off and seen a little bit of EWCM so hoping ovulation might not be far away. Who knows though

@Bumblesbee84 Yep sure we can… we aint being overly optimistic are we??? 😂

@Bumblesbee84 you definitely deserve some recovery time (and recovery treats).

Woken up feeling a bit meh about the whole thing and like it'll probably be a BFN this month as well. Although that might be because DS was awake between 12-1am and then came into our bed at 5.30, sleep deprivation doesn't help my mood.

@YellowZ sleep deprivation is so hard, my DS was up at 5 and is still up in the night sometimes (and in our bed!) too. Definitely makes dealing with things and thought processes a little bit tougher. Sending solidarity your way x

Hi @YellowZ - thanks for finding me on the other board and inviting me to this chat - I'd love to join.

My circumstances: 1st TTC November, became pregnant. Am now in week 6wk+2days and it's ectopic. Expectant Management is happening, HCG gone up Friday to Monday (now 594) and cells grew 8mm to 12mm. More bloods tomorrow and Friday. Have some symptoms, went to A&E Friday evening for fear pain was suggesting imminent rupture. (I hadn't). UCLH don't offer Methotrexate and suggest surgery should be last case scenario. Less throbbing today, with intermittent throbs/pangs and bleeding seems to have paused. It's hell, with double whammy of cancelling our Christmas trip and rest of my family being stuck on the other side of the world, also unable to enjoy their Christmas, being desperate for out situation.

I know this is a chat about TTC and is useful for me to understand the viabilities after all treatments for EPs (particularly as I'm nearly 38 and also just told a fibroid type 0 has moved into uterine cavity). So appreciated! I just wondered if anyone had positive expectant management stories with details on their bloods and management (offered scans each time?) and even any warning signals. Sorry for long message! This really is a mental mine-field and I'm so sorry for any of you who have had to endure it xxx