TTC after early miscarriage

[RaisingCornishWildlings]

Morning!
So I sadly suffered an early miscarriage at 5w just over a fortnight ago.

We have 3 children already (6,4 and 19m) and I'm 40, hubby 47.

Lovely staff at EPU said crack on again as soon as I'm ready- and not to worry about having a period first.

I've always had pretty irregular cycles anyway and have never tracked ovulation (we have been very lucky and fallen pregnant super easily- and this was my first MC).

I think I have just ovulated (Sunday) which was 14 days since spotting (main bleed from miscarriage was Tues 11, Weds 12 Oct).

My symptoms were bloating on Fri and Saturday, and real drop in mood over the weekend (I've noticed this has happened a few times a couple of weeks before period since cycles started after DD was born), by yesterday my mood was much more stable again. On Sunday I had mild nausea and very mild cramping (more like little twinges).
We DTD Sunday night.

So have fingers crossed that something might have happened!

I noticed yesterday evening and today I'm peeing more than usual but apparently that can be a sign of ovulation too.

I'm going to be a crazy lady symptom
spotting for a fortnight now! Have a cervical screening booked for a week today (wondering if I should cancel it?!)

What's the earliest anyone has had symptoms after DTD that turned out to be early pregnancy? And how many DPO have you got a positive?

@Claudiasaz I'm feeling as fed up as you are. It sounds awful but my brother is getting married this month and I know they are going to try for a baby straight away after the wedding... I'm going to be gutted if they get their positive first and I shouldn't be feeling like that! I know it's possible for my to get pregnant (although it takes ages!) but it's the fact there's a high chance any pregnancy I have is going to end in loss too as 3 out of 4 pregnancies I've had have been miscarriages. I just want to be pregnant and then at the end of pregnancy as soon as possible. Not feeling hopeful this month. I know I'm very lucky to have my son but I'd just love for him to not be an only child.

@ThelastRolo20 @mumsince2021 Hate this for us 💔 it's hard to keep being positive with disappointment every month. I don't have any wise words today as at the worst point in the cycle 😭😂

@mumsince2021 I'm in a similar boat, 3 pregnancies, only 1 successful. Although mentally I see my two MC as quite different, the second one never got anywhere so I think that's just a bad luck chromosome issue, just a shame my body didn't recognise it. The first one getting to 9.5 weeks hurts a lot more, I feel we were so close and I wish I had an answer to what happened.

I'd also really love for my daughter to have a sibling, but I keep telling myself that the odds are actually in my favour, it's just a longer journey than I'd expected.

I started out really hopeful and thought I'd easily be pregnant by when baby was due (early April).Said positivity and hope has worn off slowly each month with each period 😂

@Claudiasaz when are you expecting your blood results back?

Is it worth just having a month off to see if your body regulates without having the stress of TTC (although I understand the "need" to keep trying - it's why I'm sometimes positive/ sometimes negative about my own enforced break)

@ThelastRolo20 I only really have February and then I'm forced to take a break as I don't think my daughter would appreciate sharing her birthday 😂 and same for following month.

Bloods are with Dr apparently. X

I've just taken another clear blue advanced OPK (started flashing yesterday and again this morning) and it's gone to static tonight, but my cheap strip is still super faint 🤷‍♀️
Though I've never really got high readings on cheap strips...

Not sure whether to believe the CB - could it be confused (I have read you shouldn't actually use them if you've recently been pregnant)?

Annoyed that we haven't DTD at all since my MC 17 days ago.

Going to try to do it NOW (😝) and tomorrow

@123456789ss have fun 😂

My husband has been very helpful/ not helpful. I've been repeating to myself all the reasons to wait until April. He's in agreement - makes sense.

I said earlier that it's difficult as head says April, heart says Feb and what does he say? Whatever you want! No, I needed him to be firm on April!

Now what do I do? Feb's cycle isn't even due to start until 21st (if it comes on time) so a late November baby, and I'd be early pregnant on holiday in April - not ideal (timing as Dec/ Jan are his busiest work months).

Can everyone please tell me to wait until April 😂 or do I just say sod it...let's try Feb?

@ThelastRolo20 I say sod it and try Feb 🤣❤️

I personally would not enjoy being pregnant in the first trimester on holiday. I have to travel by plane with work and used to be anxious about that in my first 12 weeks BEFORE having a MC. So I have no idea what it would be like now. So that is my only input there @ThelastRolo20 - only you know how deep down how you really feel about it xx

@Claudiasaz I think mainly after everything we've been through, I think a stress free holiday is deserved. And what's the difference of a few months? Also I could start trying in Feb and not even get pregnant until summer! I'm assuming I'll immediately get pregnant again.

I think one of my main drivers is actually avoiding having my in laws know I'm pregnant again 😂 obviously quite a few people knew about the first pregnancy and then having to tell everyone about the MC was horrible (and had to see them straight after the scan as they had my DD). Then when we got pregnant in Nov they knew as we hosted them for Christmas, so I had to tell them about all my scans....of all the people I don't want to keep updating about my gynecology, it's my bloody in laws 😂😂 and we're off on holiday with them! Screw it, I'm waiting.

Can people just tell me that April/ May isn't far away? (I'll be having a period late April)

@ThelastRolo20 I understand that. Why don't you tell them you're taking a break regardless of what you decide. It's just a fib and then a lovely surprise when the time is right!

There's nothing wrong with wanting to go and have one last hoorah. But I also obviously understand wanting to be pregnant asap because I'm there with you 😂

Sorry not much help! 😜😜

Just remembered you said tell me it's not that far 😂 It's already Feb. You've basically just got march to deal with and then April is holiday month anyway. What can you get in for march that you couldn't do pregnant? Bottomless brunch? 😂

@ThelastRolo20 . I totally get wanting to try again immediately but it sounds like you really have the best reasons for waiting. I was forced to take the month of after my MC as me and DP weren’t in the same location and in hindsight it really was best for me.

Hope everyone else is doing ok. Fingers crossed for you @Holly0609 really hoping this is your time.

Im back into the tww again so we’ll see how this month goes. I’m mostly just glad January is finally over 🎉.

@Claudiasaz haha thanks! I'm off to Edinburgh with my daughter to see my brother and his family (new niece has arrived!)...not exactly bottomless brunch though. More screaming toddlers and crying babies!

I might book something for mid-late March. Good idea!

@Claudiasaz shared birthdays are cool!

My middle two are one day apart (I'm already excited and dreading the year they turn 18
And 21 respectively- it'll be quite the party!

Also me and hubby are 3 days apart, there's two days between him and his little sister and one day between in laws 😂 it's a tradition for us haha! Also if I have conceived this time, baby might share bday with their uncle- he's the 10th Oct and according to Flo, a possible due date is 16th!!

@bluebunny2 what DPO are you? I'm 4DPO so there with you in the hateful 2WW

I suffered a MC at 10wks back in Dec- got my period 5 wks later and decided to get cracking again. I weirdly got a peak reading on CD 9 (I have a normal 28 day cycle, with ovulation usually CD 13/14/15). We did the BD a few times over the next 2 days and today (CD13) I'm back down to low.
Don't know what to make of it!

@RaisingCornishWildlings my daughter's birthdays are only 4 weeks apart with Christmas in-between 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ I doubt I'll conceive by then anyway, something must be amiss for me to be into cycle 5 and tracking O.

@Lollipops23 sorry about your MC. From what I've seen here cycles are a bit all over the place for some of us afterwards!

@bluebunny2 thank you - I know it's all for the right reasons, I think it's just that 3 cycles feels like a very long time.

I'm sure by the time March comes around it won't feel so bad. Just going to keep busy in Feb x

@Lollipops23 so sorry for your loss.

Do you think you might get a lower peak than a drop before your main peak? That seems to be happening with me.

I would expect the read to say 'high' rather than 'low' if that were the case.

This was this cycle for me- you can see it went from barely visible to a fairly strong line but still "low", then dropped right off and came back super strong!

Omg that's so random!! I'll defo take another strip test later today!

@Lollipops23

www.miracare.com/blog/can-you-ovulate-twice-in-the-same-cycle/

This explains how you can have different types of LH surge- just to make matters more complicated 😂

@ThelastRolo20 i think there’s pros and cons to both - a worry free holiday would be fab, and a chance to give your mind a break (back to back miscarriages are tough)…

Equally I’d be tempted to jinx the hell out of it and just go for it… saying, don’t want to be pregnant on holiday 😂