Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

I’ve been lurking in the background, sorry to hear about your spotting @Oxalis00 (fwiw I had spotting for both my successful pregnancy and this pregnancy but not for my MMC, so you never know) and that AF is here @Ladyinpink1, I hope you’re doing ok x

I don’t really have any symptoms, did a clear blue weeks digi and only got 2-3 weeks and still have light pink spotting so I don’t have very high hopes, but I have my EPU appointment on Friday so will see what they say and let you all know x

@Ladyinpink1 sorry AF is here.. onto a fresh cycle. @Oxalis00 you're still in with a chance.. keeping everything crossed for you.

Hubby this morning: "You're looking spotty and fertile" (with suggestive eyebrow raise) 😂 Things you only hear when TTC. Although of course this month we're not. Which is feeling weird now that I know I seem to be close to ovulation. Happy that it seems my body must have got back in the groove of things quite quickly though. It feels crazy 'wasting' a cycle, but at the same time, I think my MH needs a month off from symptom spotting and worrying about it all. A BFP would even be a worry at this point tbh so I'm just going to chill and focus on being healthy and happy for now...

Good luck to everyone else. Hope everyone is holding up ok. X

So sorry that AF reared her ugly head for you @Ladyinpink1, I hope this cycle is more successful for you x

@Wise0wl I have literally just got my 3+ after being a bit stressed about this the past few days, I didn’t think it was progressing like it should but hopefully you’ll get your 3+ soon and the spotting is nothing to worry about too as il sure you said you’ve also had this in previous pregnancies? X

@Bali200 congrats on your 3+! How are you doing? Thank you for sharing - obvs the peace of mind of tests getting darker/increasing weeks is great but they also cause so much anxiety (I’ve spent way too long googling about it this morn…) Yep I’ve had spotting before with my successful pregnancy, but I guess the problem with pregnancy loss is it makes you doubt everything!

Thanks for the support everyone! Appreciate your attempts at hope but pretty sure this is AF though - I’ll let you know when I take my mooncup out later 🤪 It’s been a busy and nice few days so I’m not feeling too bad/sad at the moment, but I am wondering whether to see GP about light periods and see if there’s any fertility checks they can do. I conceived second cycle for my DD, second cycle for CP earlier this year and first cycle after that for MMC so I’m into unknown territory now. I realise it’s massively lucky and perhaps quite unusual to have been so quick previously but it does make me wonder if something has changed.

LOL @SnookyPook looking spotty and fertile! How flattering…! Who needs PreMom when your DH is so attuned 👏🏼

Thanks @Wise0wl it’s a relief to see it’s now progressed to 3+ as it was seeming to be sticking at 2-3 for longer than it should, however it’s easy to forget that they’re not 100% accurate. Will they take your bloods at the EPU on Friday? This should hopefully be more accurate and will help to put your mind at ease.

I have quite a lot of symptoms already, earlier than last time with my MMC. I keep thinking to myself that I really hope this one sticks around as it’ll be so shitty to keep going through the first trimester for ‘nothing’ 😓 x

@Oxalis00 I know right! Haha maybe I could hire him out and we could have our own fertility app side hustle 😂

@Bali200 that sounds really positive. Absolutely get you on the first trimester for nothing comment! I realised after my most recent loss that I've been pregnant for almost 20 weeks this year and nothing to show for it! And just having to keep redoing the absolute worst weeks of pregnancy on repeat. It's so disheartening!

@Bali200 they’ve said they’ll do an early scan so not sure about bloods, maybe it depends on the scan?

and yes - @SnookyPook it feels like the lost pregnancies never happened for everyone else and like it’s in our heads, which is definitely not healthy. I caught myself saying to a friend the other day ‘I had that in both my pregnancies’ and of course they were confused because they didn’t know about the second one… wishing you lots of luck for this month!

Hi everyone, I’ve not caught up on messages yet so I hope everyone is well. I’ll have a read over them when I’m in from work.

Had a scan today. Measuring just under 6 weeks, everything in place and even saw a tiny heartbeat. Not getting my hopes up after last time as we saw the heartbeat before but feeling quite positive now and have lots of symptoms!

I’ll read the update on everyone’s situations soon! xx

@SnookyPook your DH made me laugh!

got a positive ovulation test result today. We DTD yesterday but I feel so full of cold today. But I also want to give this cycle a good shot! Our fertility blood tests and sperm tests are on Thursday this week too.

will it be too late if I wait til tomorrow to DTD? Just feeling like a good nights sleep will sort me out. I really hate the whole timings thing with TTC. Feels very unromantic

@SunSparkle i am currently under an nhs fertility clinic (for ovulation induction), and they recommend having sex every other day x

@SunSparkle Snap, I got my positive OPK today as well. I figure if it's 12-24 hours afterwards then that means I'll most likely ovulate tomorrow, which means the egg will still be hanging around at bedtime tomorrow. I know what you mean about wanting to give yourself the best possible chance - but I think yesterday and tomorrow gives you a good shot. You've got to have a rest every now and again!

@Aaliyahrae That's such lovely news about your scan - even though it's early days it's great to hear things are going well so far.

@SunSparkle last time I got pregnant I only DTD once that month, the day after my positive ovulation test (in the evening too!) x

@ThelastRolo20 - My cycles were all over the place too after my MC. I hope yours start settling into place soon. I know you said you think you’ve ovulated

@Oxalis00 - It is scary thinking that a MC messes up your cycles somehow. I felt the exact same. After mine, my periods were ridiculously heavy and so so painful and I had weird pain during my cycle so I assumed something was wrong too! I also had spotting mid cycle last month. Chances are, your body is ok and just healing. Where abouts in your cycle are you?

@Ladyinpink1 I’m sorry to hear that AF has visited. How are you feeling?

@Wise0wl - how are you feeling? I know it’s so nerve wrecking waiting for an appointment. I know you said you don’t have many symptoms but you are still early symptoms can just pop at any time. I had spotting in all of my pregnancies (except this one). Never found a cause but I had a cervical examination before my MC that showed an Ectropion which can apparently get worse with hormones and cause bleeding and apparently it’s very common so maybe it’s due to that. Let us know how your appt goes.

@SnookyPook - Lol that your hubby can sense the fertility period! His sense of humour makes it feel so much easier , my OH is scared to death of me around ovulation & It is so difficult but I agree, sometimes you just need to try (very hard because it’s so hard) and take a break to just enjoy sex without symptom spotting, planning, tracking etc. It is so difficult to do this because I know ttc is always kind of on your mind. If it’s any help, I tried to find other ways to be intimate with my OH this month. Oral / foreplay (TMI! Sorry) instead of PIV, massages, relaxing together, having showers together because he found it to regimented and maybe the relaxing helped me to ovulate and helped get my BFP. No idea, I always got angry seeing people write that as if it was that easy but I know my own mental health needed a break from tracking and panicking that I had missed O - but I definitely agree on having a break if your mind needs one!

@Bali200 - How are you feeling? Congrats on your 3+. I’ve always been way too scared to take one of those tests so I’ve only done a couple of PT this time round and not touched anymore. Any new symptoms? I feel the same about the going through it for ‘nothing’. It is so scary being pregnant again after a MC.

@SunSparkle - Sorry to hear you’re feeling under the weather. You might feel ok to do it once you’re in bed near your OH, even if it’s just a calm on your side quickie lol but jokes aside, of course don’t force yourself if you really aren’t feeling too well! If you DTD yesterday then there is probably sperm waiting which I’m sure is the most important thing and then you’ve still covered all bases. I hated the timing too, all the sex was nice but the planning was hard and I’d get so stressed if I missed a day!

@CluelessInLondon - thank you so much. I’m so so scared still but trying to think positive and remember that this is out of my control and I don’t want to spend everyday crying and anxious. So glad you got your positive OPK! Nearly in the 2WW. How are you feeling about this month? Are you going to try and DTD everyday for the next week or every other day? Or just for the next couple of days?

Sorry if I’ve missed anyone else - if I haven’t mentioned you.. how are you and whereabouts in your cycle are you?

@Aaliyahrae Will you have any more scans before you get to 12 weeks?

I'm feeling pretty positive about this cycle, obviously have no way of knowing how it's gone for a couple of weeks yet but feel like we've given ourselves as good a chance as possible! I was away over the weekend so was super-conscious of missing opportunities, but we managed to DTD Friday morning and Sunday night. Needed a night off last night as I was really tired from my busy weekend, but I've already told my husband that tonight is non-negotiable. He is obviously devastated about all this extra sex. 😂I figure if I'm ovulating today then after tonight there's no need to be militant about it as it's not likely to make a difference - so we can chill out a bit! I do worry a bit though that I might be pinning too much hope on getting pregnant again really quickly after my MC - you read so many stories about people getting pregnant straight away and it's really easy to assume it will happen to you, so I'm trying not to assume anything in case I end up being completely crushed in a couple of weeks' time.

@CluelessInLondon all you can do is try! Fingers crossed it works out but maybe plan something nice to do around the time AF would arrive just in case? I'm the same, so keen to get pregnant again as soon as possible but we have such little control over it x

@ThelastRolo20 I've actually got a wedding to go to a couple of days before my period is due, so I at least won't just spend the weekend right before then being tempted to test early. I've told my husband that under no circumstances should he allow me to test unless my period doesn't show up when I'm expecting it! AF is due near the end of the month so at least after that we're getting into the Christmas season and there are lots of things to keep busy with. If I do have to spend the next cycle TTC then hopefully it'll go a bit quicker than this one has! Think this one has dragged a lot particularly because of being the first one after my MC.

@CluelessInLondon it's good you have a wedding to take your mind off of it! It's so hard waiting until AF day to test isn't it. Not 100% sure when I ovulated but I think 7/8 days ago - tempted to try a test this Friday so I know whether I can have a glass of wine over the weekend. Equally it might be easier to handle the disappointment if I wait for AF/ at least it'll be the start of a new cycle

So my period arrived today so officially cycle day 1. Exactly four weeks post MC which I'm happy about - hoping this means my cycles aren't going to be too badly messed up. Looking forward to giving this cycle a go and hoping for some good news at Christmas! X

@ThelastRolo20 That’s positive about your cycle seeming to be regular. Good luck with this cycle.

Im CD11 and full of a cold 😞

@ThelastRolo20 That's good news that you're spot on 4 weeks for your period - I remember getting desperately impatient when I got to 4 weeks post-MC and mine hadn't come back yet! Glad you are feeling positive for your first cycle - will you be tracking ovulation etc. or just taking it easy this time and not worrying about it too much?

@Gem0302 I hope you are feeling better soon - there seem to be colds flying around all over the place at the moment.

@Gem0302 bad luck about the cold - I've just gotten over one.. hope yours doesn't last too long x

@CluelessInLondon I will track yes, but feeling relaxed about it all :)

Definitely AF here, but it’s so weirdly light again - about 3ml in my mooncup all day. (Sorry TMI!) I don’t know if it’s after my MC surgery or after taking the mini-pill or even after having my DD but something has changed. I used to fill a mooncup to overflowing in half a day at least one of the days, and it would last a proper 5 days. Now spotting a couple of days before and then barely any ‘flow’, and none of the symptoms I used to get. I know it seems mad to be complaining about an easy period! But it’s only been 4 months since D&C, do I wait a bit longer or see doc? I’m 38…

Hi everyone!

Hopefully some of you remember me from the early days of this thread, kind of dropped off commenting when I got my BFP after a MMC in July, but I've been lurking and keeping up to date, lovely to see so many more positives! And its also nice to know I'm not alone in the anxiety they bring.

I'm over 8 weeks now with no bleeding (although I go to bed every night thinking I will have a bleed 😔) I don't suppose this will ever go away.

I had my booking in appointment yesterday which was actually very underwhelming but felt like a milestone all the same.

I'm considering a private scan but I seem to be burying my head in the sand a bit which is nothing like my personality in every day life 😅