Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

@Oxalis00 I’m in a similar position to you. My AF would always last 5 days, have 2 days of being heavy and no spotting either side. Then all of a sudden they’ve reduced to 3 days, are a lot lighter and at times I get spotting. I didn’t worry too much until they started to become painful which I’d never experienced before. I went to see my GP and now waiting on a scan and blood test results. If you’re worried about any changes I would make an appointment as it might help reassure you, but I imagine your body is still recovering from D&C.

Has anyone experienced delayed or no ovulation due to a cold/illness? I normally have a flashing smiley by now but still showing as low. Not sure if it’s because of my cold or just another irregularity in my cycle.

Hi everyone,

Good to see everyone's updates and how everyone's been getting on.

Some of you may remember I got my BFP a few days ago; unfortunately, I started bleeding heavily a couple of days ago so am certain this was another chemical. I have a scan with the EPU today to confirm, but can't say it's looking great. If so, today would be CD3. I think I might step away from the OPK testing for a bit to regroup once I've had a chance to process this latest loss.

Wish everyone the best with their TTC journey, and everyone with BFPs happy and healthy pregnancies xx

@Oxalis00 I think the general advice is that it can take up to 3 months for your cycle to return to normal after miscarriage, but as you say it's been a bit longer than that I would definitely see about speaking to the GP.

@wyto Good to hear that everything seems to be progressing okay for you and you've had your booking appointment. Are you not able to get any early scans through your EPU?

@SunSparkle How are you feeling now? Hope your cold is getting better and you managed to get some extra BDing in!

I am officially now 1DPO, wondering how long it will be before the time starts to drag. I reckon I'll get fed up by the weekend. 😅

@CluelessInLondon

I had to fight for a scan at my EPU last time and I'd had a massive bleed and been to a&e etc so I doubt I'll be offered anything unless some issues arise

@wyto That's a pity - it's so variable in terms of what different EPUs will offer. My hospital has an emergency gynae unit and they told me when I had my MC that if I got pregnant again I should just call them and they would scan me at 6 and 9 weeks, which will be amazing if they actually follow through on it if/when it happens again for me.

Thanks for your message @Gem0302 - it’s always helpful to know you’re not alone in any given experience, though I’m sorry this is a worry for you too. I saw the GP this morning who thought that the lighter periods may be because D&C clears out any extra thickness, like treatment for endometriosis, but isn’t necessarily a cause for concern. I’m not having any pain (or any sensation at all…) with my bleeds, though. Were yours painful before? What blood tests are you getting? Sorry if I’ve asked all this before! I’m on so many threads desperately seeking information I’m losing track 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m getting a test for thyroid and day 21 progesterone. The local hospital unfortunately isn’t accepting referrals under the new RCOG guidelines of 2 MC for women over 35 though 😡

Oh and @Gem0302 I’m pretty sure my reaction to the flu vaccine last month set ovulation back a couple of days. (Have I said this to you on another thread already?!) It makes sense to me that if the body is busy making antibodies - either to a vaccine or an illness - it might delay ovulation. Keep testing, I’m sure it’ll come. And hope that cold passes soon.

@Oxalis00 thats interesting to know. Do you feel reassured at all by your appointment? I’ve never had painful periods in my life until a couple of months ago. Even the first one after my MC was back to normal so not sure what is going on. My blood test was done on day 7 and just checking hormone levels, thyroid etc. Don’t apologise, I’m also on loads of forums/threads. Sorry to hear about your local hospital not accepting referrals.

@Liz2681 oh I am so sorry to hear this. It is so so rubbish, I can't believe what a cruel journey this TTC can be. Sending you a big hug xx

@Liz2681 im so so sorry. Thinking of you xx

@Liz2681 I'm sorry to read your news - multiple losses are just so unfair. Take care of yourself and take some time to process, it's a good plan to not worry about tracking things for a bit. ❤

@Liz2681 I’m so sorry to hear this news, it’s really not fair. Sending lots of hugs your way x

@Liz2681 im so sorry. Take the time you need. It can all get a bit much.

@wyto that’s amazing everything is progressing. Totally normal to feel nervous and want an early scan but tk also not want one. I think about it a lot with my missed miscarriage whether I should have had one.

im feeling better - we tried again but my partner just felt under pressure so didn’t finish. I hate it makes him feel stressed to.

I’ve got my fertility appointment today - blood tests and pelvic ultrasound and sperm analysis. We will get the results next week. I think I will be asking about progesterone to increase my luteal phase which is so short and potentially letrozole to help with ovulation.

anyone’s BBT and LH tests contradict themselves? My BBT says I ovulated on CD12 and I didn’t get a positive ovulation test until CD 15so would have ovulated until CD16/17.

Makes a big difference to how long my luteal phase is as I only have 24 day cycles on average.

Thanks everyone for your lovely messages ❤️

Had the scan at the EPU yesterday, which showed no pregnancy so they're pretty sure I had a complete miscarriage. They took bloods to doubly confirm (and will get those results today) but they'll just confirm what was in the scan.

Obviously devastated, but also feeling a bit hopeful - one of the Tommy's Miscarriage Research Centres is based at my local EPU and take referrals after two miscarriages, so I'll be pursuing that and will hopefully have some luck soon! xx

@Liz2681 I've heard great things about Tommys. they are a wonderful charity and they are so good at what they do. I hope they can support you.

Just had my first fertility appointment - took bloods and did a pelvic scan. she said I definitely ovulated this month so that's good! Got to wait a week for the results and the appointment with the consultant.

The bad news is my BMI has crept up to 36! Eeeek. That's all the comfort eating showing up. They won't want to do any treatment (if needed) like IVF if it's not 35 or below. Definitely need to cut back on the biscuits and eating my feelings.

Sorry I haven't been on in a few days, the day I got my period, a family member told me they got a + test and I felt like my stomach hit the floor (and a million other feelings) i am happy for her because I am very fond of her but it still hurts alot too. It has passed now and feeling much better. This whole process from start to finish is such an emotional rolercoaster once you have experienced a loss isn't it. (Remembers fondly back to the bliss of the simple ttc before any loss 😄) x

@Liz2681 I am really so sorry to read your news, sending love ❤️ xx

@Oxalis00 Sorry to hear your af arrived as well. My periods have been lighter at times too, I think things definitely do change after but I don't understand why. That would be great if you got some tests etc to find out why. x

Sorry if I have missed out on any other news, I hope everyone else is OK? x

Can I also ask, has anyone heard, been prescribed or thinking of taking asprin if you get (or already have) a BFP?

I keep reading about people taking asprin to prevent miscarriage x

Sorry to hear you’ve had to deal with the shock and all the other feelings of your relative’s pregnancy @Ladyinpink1 It’s so hard, and the feelings are uncomfortable ones on top. At least in my experience… Completely understandable though. Hope you’re able to take the time and space you need, and others are understanding and you can engage on your terms.

I’ve heard of the low dose aspirin thing. I think it’s in cases of (undiagnosed) anti-phospholipid syndrome, where your blood is a bit sludgy and it can stop a pregnancy implanting and developing. My GP mentioned that would be something to get privately tested (at least unless/until a 3rd MC for NHS referral). Not sure if I will. What makes you think of it for you?

@Liz2681 I’m so sorry you’re dealing with another loss. What a rollercoaster this TTC is… 😖 It’s great you can find some hope for the future in the prospect of a referral to Tommy’s. I hope you’re able to take some time and space to process right now too. And I hope you have support - I remember FIL wasn’t doing too well with saying the right thing... Ignore those who don’t get it and accept all the love and support from those who do. Take care 💐

@Oxalis00

Thank you, yes definitely unconfortable and confusing feelings. How are you feeling now? What cd are you? We both seem to hahe been at very similar stages so far.

Oh I dont have a clue if I need it lol but I had been scrolling through forums and reading articles and lots of them said their successful pregnancies were ones where they took progesterone and asprin so I wondered if anyone else was using it or had any experience, but I did phone my EPU to chase my appointment for the tests, as they said it would be a 6 week wait (12 weeks ago), and they said they are really busy with a long waiting list so to expect a further 6 week wait so I will ask about the asprin then. x

Hi, I hope it’s okay to join in this thread. I had a MMC at 7+3 but found out at 8+3 as I had some pink discharge and wanted to check it out to be on the safe side. As soon as the bleeding stops and I get the negative pregnancy test we definitely want to TTC.

How long did it take for you guys to get your negative pregnancy tests after a MC? Feels like the wait is taking forever

@Ladyinpink1 I was prescribed aspirin in my first pregnancy when I was 8 weeks due to my higher BMI (I believe it has something to do with preeclampsia) but this was my little girl who we lost at 25 weeks.

When I next fell pregnant I spoke to my bereavement midwife as soon as I found out (3+4 I think it was) and she spoke to the consultant who said start on the aspirin straight away as I had it with my daughter, this was then a chemical at 5 weeks. My next pregnancy I did the same but miscarried at 5+4. I have had lots of bloods done and they have come back as in the correct range (including clotting) so who knows... my consultant said it's one of those things that can do no harm but I don't think I'd take it unless I'd been prescribed it. Last month I took it from 1DPO instead of BFP, I wasn't pregnant and have since read it can mess with implantation?! So who knows and I'll probably go back to not taking it straight from ovulation next month.

Hi @Rainbowpeanut02 I'm sorry for your loss. The first time, when the bleeding stopped I got a negative test 8 days later. It took longer this time so I think it varies. I felt the same after, couldn't wait to try again. I hope you don't have long to wait x

@Vic231 Thank you for the information, and I'm sorry you have had to go through this 3 times, hope for you that the next time is "the one" x

@Ladyinpink1 I hope you are doing ok, it’s hard enough when AF arrives let alone being told that news. Sending lots of hugs your way. I think aspirin only helps if you have a blood clotting issue but I could be wrong. Have you had any blood test work done so far? I’ve carried on taking high doses of b6 and vit c to try and help this one stick as I do think I have low progesterone but as I didn’t bleed during my last pregnancy I’m not entitled to it during this pregnancy x

@Wise0wl good luck for today, please let us know how you go on x

@Rainbowpeanut02 so sorry for your loss, I got my negative test 2 weeks after my SMM for my MMC. Hopefully it’s not too long to wait so you can start trying again as I know that focusing on ttc helped me during the grieving process x

@Ladyinpink1 Sorry to hear that you've had to deal with hearing about a relative's pregnancy - it is so hard to balance that feeling of being happy for someone with the reminder about what you're missing out on, so I really feel for you. ❤

@Rainbowpeanut02 Welcome and I'm sorry to hear about your loss - how are you feeling at the moment? I got my negative test 3 weeks after my SMM - I did a test at 2 weeks that was still a faint positive, I could probably have got a negative a bit earlier but I decided to wait for a full week before testing again as I didn't want the stress of seeing another positive! 3 weeks was also what I was advised by the EGU before I had my surgery. Interestingly I then had my LH surge the day after the negative test!

Hope everyone has got some lovely plans for the weekend - I'm feeling like mine isn't going to be busy enough to distract me from the TWW. 😅 Anybody planning to test this weekend?