Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

[October1979]

Hi girls here is a new thread as we have nearly reached the 1000 limit x

@catinthesunshine no they predict your 4 most fertile days..so you can have more chance TTC ..

D’oh! Thank you so much

Wow so many new people! Hi all 👋🏻

Temping is actually very easy once you get started, just get yourself a basal body thermometer and take your temp at the same time every morning before you move or get out of bed. So literally set your alarm for a time before you'd usually get up, reach one are out the cover to get your thermometer and take your temp then put it into an app like Premom or fertility friend or Femometer and it'll do it all for you! It'll tell you when you've ovulated then it will be able to give you a rough indication of when you do each month. If you combine this with opk - I use the cheap Femometer strips, others use easy at home, found them better than clearblue. Just start testing with those from the day af stops the first month so you can find your peak then your temp will confirm it by a rise in temp when you ovulate which will be just after your peak. Once you know when roughly when you usually ovulate you can just start testing about 5 days before that until you get your peak.
Hope that all makes sense and helps

Possibly a stupid question but where on your body do you take your temperature from?

Thanks so much for all the info!

@catinthesunshine you can take it under your armpit or under your tongue, I do the tongue as it's more accurate.

Any thoughts on what counts as first morning urine?if I'veneeded a wee since 5am shall i use that one? Or does that count as the middle of the night?

@Whataretheodds after the longest sleep considered first morning wee

Thanks @seashoreone@seashoreone

Got a negative. Think Im 9dpo, so I'm going to leave it for now. Told myself I wouldn't go crazy about testing before my petiod is due! So hard.

Hope others have better cycles!

Hello everyone 4 dpo today temps are rising nicely which there supposed to ovulated cd 13 I hope I got good coverage as we bd 3 days before and the day after and in between officially in the TTW which is already dragging I’m not going to test early this month sick and tired of getting positives and then not progressing so I’m just going to wait at least 12 dpo to test . I have to keep myself busy I hate the tww on the other hand I didn’t use opks I was getting stressed using them and going to the loo 2/3 a day to keep testing so I never used them this month and me and dh were less stressed I am temping to confirm so let’s see what this month brings .

hope everyone is doing good x

Hi all - got my fertility results today from a blood test. All in normal range except AMH which is on the high side for my age at 16.41 pmol/L which could suggest Polycystic ovaries but is unlikely to negatively affect my fertility and I have good egg reserves for my age/not nearing menopause. So feel better.

Hi all. Got my AMH results which are perfectly normal for my age. Think my cycle is back to normal. Period finished as predicted, BBT okay.

Fertile window predicted now but only slight LH climb so surge could be anytime in next 3 days so just going to have sex every day if husband can cope! I’ve got awful toothache too but will try ignore it and channel “sexy” 🫣

Morning everyone hope everyone is doing okay 6 dpo today I know this Carnt be pregnancy related but I woke up cramping feeling sick and hot and cold fushes boobs are so tender I always seem to feel ill in the TWW I have allergies that’s not helping . Do anyone else feel like this in the TWW I’m trying so hard not to symptom spot cause I know it’s way to early .

but saying that I have got a positive pregnancy test on 6 dpo last year it’s rare I know but I’m rare 🤣 I’m quite confident it’s not that I took a break from ttc last month as I was ill and my folic acid and vitamin d were quite low and I just kept getting ill all the time so we didn’t do anything but chilled that month

I didn’t get any of these symptoms I’ve mentioned now I have bd all through my fertilie window I’m getting all sorts of symptoms it’s like my body knows when to mess with me .

anyway hope everyone has a good weekend I have my grandchildren for a sleep over today so that’s going to be fun and very tiring lol but I wouldn’t have it any other way .

@TraceyTarotReader 11dpo and have been feeling nauseous today....
AF is only 3 days away s it's probably related to that....
🤷🏻‍♀️

@Iusedtobedontcall Glad you got a good result and you’re feeling better about it all. I can’t comment on the polycystic ovaries risk, but can say that in October 2022 my AMH was 12 or 13 I think (need to dig notes out and check] and I was 42. Consultant said it was “fine” for my age which made me feel a lot better. During IVF they collected 11 eggs of which 8 fertilised. Consultant said it showed decent egg reserve for my age. So, point of my waffle is that as your AMH is higher, I’d guess you can be assured the odds are good for you as you try for a baby. Wishing you lots of luck x

@Noodles4Me Great news! Typical timing on toothache, always seems like any kind of illness or bugs land during the fertile window! 🙄 Hope you get it sorted soon, toothache is the worst!

@TraceyTarotReader Wishing you luck! The 2ww is horrible.. pesky progesterone gives so many symptoms that are similar to pregnancy and it’s so cruel. Keep strong, not long til you can test x

Thanks @YellowLoafers - I do feel positive now that I do have time left. I am unlikely to have PCOS because I have regular periods and no other symptoms but the high AMH means I might have PCO without the syndrome which doesn’t affect fertility. I suspect egg quality is my issue and not number of eggs, so it’s a case of getting the right one!

We still don’t have the results from the genetic testing but I’m fairly confident that we were just unlucky as we’ve 5 healthy dc between us. That makes me sound greedy wanting another 🙈

Hope you are feeling better soon @Noodles4Me - toothache is horrid. I have a cold and fertile window starts tomorrow so I’ll have to muster up some energy.

@seashoreone hope this cycle is a lucky one for you.

@TraceyTarotReader good luck this month. Hope you have a lovely time with the grandchildren tonight and they let you get some sleep!

@Iusedtobedontcall thank you but I’m sure I won’t get much sleep they get very excited when they come to nanny’s for a sleep over my grandaughter has gone to the cinema with my my oldest daughter and my grandson who is 2 and half will be staying in playing games and he just dosnt sleep when he has a sleep over till late about 10pm I’m there dying to go sleep and he’s just running riot the joys but I wouldn’t have it any other way . I see my grandchildren every day but they don’t sleep over much but it will be lovely to have them over for the night x

Hi all, I have paid for some fertility blood tests because I didn’t feel my doctor was particular helpful and just put it down to me being 43 for the reason I hadn’t fallen pregnant. I got the results on Thursday. I’ll post below parts of the report

My AMH levels are in normal range for my age, however more towards the lower end. My FSH & LH levels are also normal range.

What it did show was i have high prolactin levels. This means that if prolactin levels are too high or too low, your menstrual cycle can be disrupted, stopping ovulation from taking place.

My oestradiol (E2) levels are also high. As oestradiol is one of the main hormones that regulates your menstrual cycle, excess levels of oestradiol may disrupt your menstrual cycle and result in irregular periods

I have irregular periods periods making it hard to track ovulation so finding this out is really helpful.

Now Im on Dr Google to see how I can reduce levels. I know I need to try and get a different doctor but just feel I’ll have to explain myself all over again.

Has anyone had anything similar and lowered prolactin & E2 levels naturally?
I’m already having acupuncture as I think that helped me have my 1st baby after 2 x MMC

If you got to the end of this post, thank you for reading 😀

@YellowLoafers tell me about it I hate that hormone give so many false hopes but tbh I’m actually quite calm this month I just hate the TWW it just goes by so slow yes not long now x

@seashoreone im hoping af stays away for you have you not tested I’m going to try and hold out till 12 dpo I also get nauseous just before my af and sometime I actually throw up but I’m really hoping you get a BFP x

@TraceyTarotReader I'm out again! AF just showed with a vengeance...probably why I've been feeling nauseous and headaches...😩
Well I'm just going to say it...I think I may have reached the end of the line , I'm 44.
I have a beautiful DD who is a joy.
And I may be one and done. 😊
I do t know anyone who has got pregnant at 45! I think the probability is very low...
Xx

@seashoreone im sorry af came hey I’m 51 and have been ttc a successful pregnancy for yrs with my dh I have 3 beautiful daughters from a previous relationship and have gotten pregnant 3 times with dh (baby angels) and in feb I had a CP had all fertility testing all come back normal years ago I know a lot can change in that time I have regular periods ovulate every month there is no reason it Carnt happen but it dosnt I have hope and faith that it can happen to us older women yes it’s harder but it can happen .

my husband refuses to go for anymore tests which I don’t blame him it was so stressful last time so we are leaving it to fate what will be will be . If I’m meant to be an older mom then so be it a lot of people I know say it’s selfish but I don’t care about there opinions and it proberly is in some sense but I’ve want a baby of our own for 16 yrs when we were attc we have been NTNP for 3 yrs .

all I’m saying is don’t give up if it’s something you truly want to have manifest on bringing your baby to earth side .

I have a little manifesting mantra you can try I do this every night in the hope my angels sent her/him to me .here goes .

CONNECTING WITH MY SPIRIT BABY 💙💖

WE ARE READY TO BE YOUR MOMMY AND DADDY.

AND I CANNOT WAIT FOR YOU TO COME TO EARTH SIDE.

WE ARE READY WHEN YOU ARE.

I HAVE A SAFE AND WARM PLACE FOR YOU TO GROW.

WE ARE WAITING PATIENTLY FOR YOU PLEASE COME TO US NOW .

LOVE MOMMY AND DADDY 💖💙

I say this every night good luck x

@seashoreone I am 44 as well but I've spoken to loads who have got their baby at our age and beyond! 🤞🏻 for you. There's always options to help as well, that's my plan. I'm saving at the moment for ivf abroad prob 1 round with oe then de or 1 tandem then de I will get my baby one way or another!

Sorry I’ve been really bad at keeping up with the comments and replying to people, I don’t mean to be so low effort on this thread. Just feeling really down today. I wish I’d frozen my eggs when I was younger and having health problems and thinking I could never conceive.