Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

[October1979]

Hi girls here is a new thread as we have nearly reached the 1000 limit x

You're right, it's easy now to say that I'll stop trying in 12 months, but I know my feelings might change when that time actually comes. I really hope it happens for you @curliegirlie , it sounds like an incredibly difficult time.

Thank you for the welcome @BertLiv and Huge Congratulations and best wishes - Will keep you in my thoughts.

Hi ladies,
Sorry for being quiet.
After all my chemicals, rounds of ivf with none euploid embryos and no decision on a fonor route, we were coming to terms with stopping this ttc journey when I fell pregnant in September.
Yesterday I had what was supposed to be 8w scan, but unfortunately no heartbeat and measurements were for 6w and a few days, which unfortunately with ovulation tracking I knew cannot be. Dr wants another scan this Friday, though today I started preperiod (worse actually) cramping and MMC on a way 😔
I was almost at the closure stage before this pregnancy and now again in a full emotional mess and what to do next...
I never had this far mc, usually they are early days chemicals, so started having some hope 😞

Hope you have better news soon and wishing all in a waiting period lots of luck 🍀

@TT82 it sounds like you’ve had a really tough time of it. Sending hugs. What you’ve just gone through is very similar to what I experienced. I had a chemical before a MMC which was picked up at my 8 week scan but the pregnancy hadn’t developed much past 6 weeks. The experience was one of the worst I’ve ever been through and it takes time to grieve that loss. I took three weeks off work (which is unheard of for me) and grieved and put myself back together. Three months later I conceived my son who is now 21 months. Someone once told me that the oven of our reproductive system needs to kick in before it remembers what to do. It sounds a bit silly really but it felt like that for me. I’m sharing this in case it helps you at all. I hope it does even if it’s just to know that you’re not alone.

Hi everyone. I’m new to this thread. I’ve just hopped on over from an IVF thread as I recently embarked on my first round of IVF. Unfortunately it didn’t work for me - despite being on the highest dose of hormones I only had one follicle develop - so we abandoned the cycle are are seeing if we can fertilise that egg the old fashioned way! I’m ovulating today so time will tell…

I’m 43 and we’re trying for our second. I conceived my first naturally at 40 and had him at 41.

Ive just ordered the book “It Starts with the Egg”. Has anyone followed it and taken the recommended supplements and did it help?

Good luck to everyone on here. I haven’t read back through all past posts but look forward to chatting to some of you on here and providing support where I can. It’s a bumpy journey!

@LiveLaughL0ve thank you for your kind words and sorry you had a tough journey too, including ivf 😔
I do read stories that women have babies after mc even when older, which from one hand gives me hope, from another fear of going through this again. The anxiety I had when I saw positive test was unbearable, I should have been happy not scared to death that it is untested my old eggs.. My dreamed way was getting euploid embryos via ivf and then having some hope.
But I guess I need a clear of all these hormones head to decide what do we do next
There's still a small growth but no heartbeat, so hopefully next week at hospital it will be clear and decision on mmc management can be made. Angry at my body that it still tries to trick me

I am so sorry you are going through this. I had a chemical in May, got pregnant straightaway and had a MMC. I still had all the pregnancy symptoms right up until a scan 9+5 . The baby measured 9with no HB. It was so upsetting and emotionally painful. I had surgical management end of August and it’s only now I am feeling a bit more myself.
sending you all lots of hugs and have my fingers crossed for us all xxxxx

Thank you @Joleyjojo 🙏 and really sorry you have been there too, so tough emotionally not just physically xx

Officially in the TWW. Stuck to SMEP since CD9 and ovulated CD24 poor boyfriend. Anyone in TWW. Xxx

Hi I’m 42, on day 5 of my period. Just want to hurry up and get on with it. I’m taking seven seas trying for a baby and just got a thermometer to track my temperature

Hi I’m ttc #3. I’m 43. Been trying for 3.5 years 😭

I am currently on my 3rd cycle of Letrozole and I had surgery back in July for a fibroid and an area on my previous c section scar that needed resection. Hopefully this month will be my month. If not after Xmas we will be doing FET as I have embryos from when I had IVF for dc 1 and 2.

@Joleyjojo TWW here 🙋‍♀️ I’m 2 DPO.

A TWW buddy. I am 1 or 2dpo. Already impatient. I wish there was a way of knowing straight away lol. Are you a symptom spotter? Early tester. I want to say I won’t but 100% will 😂😂😂

@Joleyjojo
I’m so impatient! I wouldn’t say I’m a symptom spotter but then if I get a twinge I always ending up googling whether it’s anything, so I guess I am! 😂😂
Every time I get a moment with my thoughts, they turn to wondering whether I’m pregnant and what the little egg could be up to.
I was thinking last night that I might do myself a sort of advent calendar for the count down to pregnancy test day to try and distract me.
I think I’ll test at 10 DPO but I might crack at 9! What about you?

Eep - So just tested positive. Feeling a myriad of emotions - Excited/ Nervous/ Am I too old? I thought we'd talked through all our concerns, but now I have a positive test in my hand, it has knocked me for six!

Congratulations! I remember the feeling well. Totally freaked out on the first day I found out, but that quickly turned to joy. It’s a huge change, I think you can give yourself some time to let your thoughts settle.

Thank you. I think you are right, I just need to let it settle in. I suppose, part of me thought at my age, it wouldn't actually happen.