TTC After Miscarriage Thread 14 🌈✨💕💙

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We have been trying for 10 months, with 2 miscarriages in that timeframe (so really only trying for 6 cycles, pregnant on 2 of those. However I've had a miscarriage about 7 years ago and a medical termination about 5 years ago also hence the appointment at the EPU. I'm not sure what to expect. @Dinosaur39

Hi everyone, I took myself off this board for a couple of months as ttc was taking over my headspace and it was wearing me down.

after the mc Oct last year and CP in January I needed the timeout. We’ve been using condoms the last couple of months and just totally enjoyed ourselves without thinking about conceiving which is just what I needed.

We didn’t even think about trying again this month but the last couple of evenings just decided to lose the condom 😂 I’m cd13, have done no OPKs so don’t know if I’ve ovulated yet or not, but af should be due on the 2nd so it’s a wait and see approach for me this time around.

has anyone had any bfp since I’ve been gone? Really hope some have been lucky but I’ve not managed to catch up on the thread yet.

Thanks a million for your reply. Was that after a loss @TheBirdintheCave do you mind me asking. Its so confusing isn't it? I'm even animated at my own emotions at the minute. I'm less upset about getting pregnant again and more wanting my body to regulate again so I feel somewhat normal.

Weird question as well. I'm using proceive, could that be delaying my cycle.

@Ella31 No it was just a random blip once back in 2017 before we were even trying for a baby. Thankfully it hasn't happened since and I never figured out a reason for it.

@Ella31 I doubt the proceive is doing it, it's great for building you back up after a loss. Midwife recommended I go on the conception one after my first mc and I took it conceiving my first and all through that pregnancy.

It could be linked to stress also, the worry do not knowing what's going on can be delaying it? X

Hi all,

I haven’t posted for ages because it wasn’t helping me. We were due to start IVF next month. But then this happened on Weds. I have tested yesterday and this morning too and it seems to be getting lighter 😭

What do you think? Is it because I switched to clear blue? Should I try again with FRER?

top is Weds, bottom this morning.

@ChickenT2b Hmm I think it would be hard to compare lines from two different brands. Also, lines get darker as they dry and the bottom test hasn't finished drying yet by the looks of things. Could you get a HCG blood test booked in? That's the best way to check that your numbers are doubling correctly.

Tentative congratulations :)

It's very hard to compare different tests. I'd say stick to one brand and test again on Sunday (to give it 48hrs). The bottom CB one looks invalid though, kind of looks like a bit of dye run.

Please don't test every day either, you'll drive yourself crazy and you usually won't see a difference in 24 hours.

Thanks… I did another FRER 🤦🏻‍♀️ definitely slightly lighter than weds which is a full 48 hours difference.
@TheBirdintheCave i guess I could ask about blood test. It’s all very nerve wracking. I just want to see that progress and can’t help but fear the worst.

Looks slightly lighter, but the one from Wednesday has been drying out for 2 days. I'd say do another Monday morning and if you still aren't certain ask for bloods.

It's mad how much we analyse these things that perhaps people who have never MC wouldn't even notice.

How many dpo are you?

@ChickenT2b sorry you are in this position hope the next test is stronger.

@Ella31 I use proceive and my cycles are generally getting better as time goes on.

1dpo here so the 2ww begins. Not feeling particularly hopeful as had an 'ok' rather than great attempt this month but as they say it only takes one..! Good luck everyone

@BudgetBuster i am 16 dpo today. I can’t help but keep testing because I am freaking out ☹️. I just want to see a darker test and they keep getting lighter.

Does anyone know if Tommy’s offer bloods for this? I could ask GP but it will take ages to come back anyway. I don’t know what to do 😖

@ChickenT2b . I am not sure about Tommy's. Yes the GP may offer bloods or you may get told to wait and see. I would just use FRERs personally and leave it 48 hours between tests to give the HCG a chance to rise. Is hard to know as test lines can fluctuate in colour and all can be well or it can be a sign of a chemical pregnancy.

Update from my side. Hcg test came back at 22.7 for 18 dpo which is extremely low. Safe to say this is in fact a chemical pregnancy. Any thoughts? Did anyone else check hcg before a chemical? 💔

@ChickenT2b - no experience of this sorry as my losses were a bit later but sorry you are in this position. Have you been given any advice as to what to do now?

Hi ladies, I am so angry right now.
I called the GP yesterday and was told they would ask if hcg could be added to my pre booked blood tests today (I’m having some anyway that I needed for IVF clinic).
Rang just now to check if that’s been added. I’ve been told no, I need an appointment. Asked for an appointment, I get given 9th JUNE! What’s the point in that?! This is despite the receptionist knowing the reason for my call.

Now the on duty doctor is apparently going to call me. But just what a waste of everyone’s time. You’re literally drawing my blood anyway…

It just feels like there is zero support for miscarriage at all. Both the EPU and Tommy’s advised hcg test. Why should we be expected to pay for these ourselves?

Not sure if it’s just me but I think it’s awful.

It is so frustrating and I agree there is a lack of support. When I spoke to the Tommy's midwife about my miscarriages she spoke a lot about progesterone. I thought the likelihood of getting a test through the GP and on my correct cycle date was unlikely so have ordered a finger prick test to do on Thursday. I'm not great with that kind of thing so it may be £40 down the drain 🙈

Hi, all haven’t been on here in a while, been struggling a bit, should have been my due date a month ago, and still not falling pregnant, and it will soon be fast approaching a year since I fell pregnant before.

Cervical Mucus question…. So around day 13/14 of cycle I started getting the egg white discharge and I did an OPK test on 1st May (day 18) and it was positive (is that late to be fertile? I’ve no idea) anyway, we had sex a few times during the times that I was fertile. But today on day 22 I’ve got a load of the egg white mucus discharge again??! My period is usually due around 14th may and my cycles vary in length between 29 days and 32 days! I’m just so confused, I wanted to do an OPK again today but I’ve run out 🤦🏼‍♀️

Hi All, can I join? I found out I was pregnant yesterday after exactly 1 year of TTC with 3x miscarriages in that time frame. I actually had brown spotting and cramps so thought it was my period coming and that I was definitely not pregnant. but when nothing else came I tested. My gp has given me asprin and progesterone pessaries until 12 weeks + agreed for me to have reassurance scans. My anxiety is going to be through the roof until I hold my baby in my arms but especially the next 8 weeks are going to be hell for me!

Sorry I’ve just realised the title is “ttc after miscarriage”, (it’s 4.30am 😕) so I really should’ve written my post in another thread. Sorry if I triggered anyone I can’t delete my message .

@TTCxox https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/4674068-pregant-after-miscarriage-support-thread?page=13&reply=125936793 I’m on a pregnant after miscarriage thread lovely that you could join ☺️ xx

@TTCxox I'm glad you shared here, it gives me hope to read stories like yours! Congratulations, I hope you can keep the anxiety at bay and of course that you have a healthy pregnancy. Great that you're already getting support from your doctor.

@TTCxox congrats on your BFP! Iv not got mine yet but due to my previous losses iv been prescribed progesterone aspirin and prednisone, let me know how you're finding them?

Thanks for sharing @ChloeN i will join ☺️

thanks @Hankthehonk I really hope the best for you and a BFP soon🤞🏼

thanks @Daniki . I’m not sure what prednisone is but with the pessaries you can take them vaginally or up your backside 😬 I chose the latter as I have cervical ectropion and don’t want to worry myself if I see any bleeding . so far I’ve taken it last night and this morning and I have no side effects but still very early days. I have another 8 weeks of these ! Wishing you so much luck 🤞🏼