TTC After Miscarriage Thread 14 🌈✨💕💙

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@Dinosaur39 Thankyou ! And thanks everyone. I've just spent like £20 on FRER and
More clear blues! Obsessed man 🥺🥺

@Dinosaur39 how are you doing ??

@indieray make sure you keep us updated!

I’m ok thank you, if anything it’s make me realise that I need to take a breathe and stop trying to rush things. My body needs to get back in sync before we can start trying again so I just need to allow the time.

So pizza & Prosecco tonight whilst I wait for that to happen!

So I did my FRER this evening. Im so
Nervous but happy at the same time.

@indieray what a line! Very jealous 😄

@Dinosaur39 pizza and Prosecco sounds amazing. Glad you are ok.

Back to ovulation sticks today cd7 hoping to at least ovulate this month 🤞🤞

@Dinosaur39 are you having another blood test after 48 or taking the 6 as it’s low?
mine was 12 on Wednesday and waiting for my friday results
my mc was in January so almost 9 weeks ago and I think I’ve had atleast one period. I think my second one was a very early mc as it was super early and horrendously heavy.
my body has not felt back to normal at all post mc so if I did manage to get pregnant again it explains it a little bit

I hope you are doing ok?

No I don’t think any more blood tests nurse just said do another pregnancy test next week and I’ve done a few since that are negative just strange how a couple of them was picking up that 6 HCG for some reason.

Well hopefully you get the news you want ☺️

If you’ve had a period I’d assume your HCG would have been lower than 12 before now. Have you had negative tests since your MC?

I’m doing good thank you I think the disappointment made me realise that I do need to give things some time to heal.

It's the first time I've taken a FRER test but the line was really dark. I'm still waiting for my results to come through today but I'm not holding out much hope. Even if the HCG level has gone up the bleed I had less than 2 weeks ago was so big I can't imagine it will be good news overall.

I know what you mean about realisation of needing time to heal. The stories of people becoming pregnant straight after MC didn't help me either.

I hope you get your BFP soon but do make sure you take care of yourself so your body and mind are in the best position to grow a baby.

Ah well I’m hoping for the best for you ☺️ and at a minimum hopefully the results will give you some answers and reassurance about what your body is doing.
keep us updated.

Yes definitely, you can easily get swept away with everyone else’s stories but ultimately it’s just time. I didn’t have one of those MC then clear and negative 2 weeks later so I just need to be accepting of the fact it will take a little longer.

Hope it is OK for me to join. I had a miscarriage last week, still bleeding and obviously not ttc quite yet but I'm also obsessively thinking about when I can get pregnant again. I'll follow my doctor's advice and wait for a period to happen then start trying after that.
So not much to say at the moment, just processing my grief and sadness. But seeing other people's stories of trying and falling pregnant after miscarriage is really helpful. Good luck to all of you and sorry for your losses.

Sorry for your loss @Hankthehonk . I also had a miscarriage 1.5 weeks ago.

When did everyone start TTC again? We both want to start as soon as we can but don’t want to risk infection. I have pretty much stopped bleeding, but still spotting. I am also still testing positive.

I also want to do the ovulation tests to see when I start ovulating, but not sure when to start. I know a lot of people say wait till your first period comes, but we are keen to start asap.

@Hankthehonk Sorry you find yourself here.
Just take some time to process what’s happened there’s no rush for anything.

@Ivory88 There’s no point doing the ovulation sticks until you have a negative pregnancy test as you will be false positives on the OPK test.
I think just try and wait until you have your negative result on the pregnancy and ‘apparently’ it’s two weeks from then and first period is 4/6 weeks.
I would just do one every other day and see if it starts rising that’s where I’m at now but not had any rise as of yet.

@Dinosaur39 thank you. That’s good to know. I thought most people ovulated 2 weeks after the miscarriage but my pregnancy test is still showing a strong positive! Silly que - but whilst I’m showing as pregnant will I not ovulate?

Thank you for the advice, really appreciate it. I hope you see it rise soon!

Hey ladies, sorry to hear about your recent miscarriage’s. You don’t have to wait to have a period to TTC but they recommend it for a dating point of view. After my first I tried as soon as I stopped bleeding, still got my period but conceived the next cycle, after my last one I left it 2 cycles to begin again as I couldn’t really cope.
the need to get pregnant straight away I totally understand!
Would recommend waiting to you have a negative test tho and then begin, just so there’s no confusion if you were to get pregnant quickly x

@Ivory88 we started trying as soon as bleeding stopped but I still had faint positives until my next period arrived 4 weeks later! I started doing ovulation tests but there was no point really because they were all just mega high! I don’t think I ovulated before my period xx

@Ivory88 I'm so sorry for your loss too.

I feel just the same as you desperate to be pregnant again. I'm hoping I can wait until after a period to start ttc because I know it would only add to my stress and anxiety to have uncertainty around teats and dates. But it will be difficult if I think I'm ovulating in a couple of weeks time not to take the chance.
That said, the thought of dtd feels pretty dreadful right now too. I'm not in much pain now but I guess my body just feels a bit broken. I'm totally done in. My instinct right now is I need a wee bit of time even though I also want to wave a magic wand and be pregnant again.

The doctor who I spoke to after my miscarriage confirmed that the main reason they advise to wait a full cycle I largely about dating, as a pp said. Obviously every mc is different and we should each follow our own doctor's advice.

Sorry bad typos - *tests not teats!

@Ivory88
I may be wrong but how I’ve come to understand it all is that whilst your are still testing positive your body won’t reset so the ‘two week’ wait for ovulation won’t start. I could well be wrong. I tested negative two weeks ago now and nothing for me yet unfortunately.
I think looking back I would have stopped looking at other peoples stories of getting pregnant right away and just tried to allow the time my body needed to heal.
I was doing OPKs the week after thinking I was ovulating when of course this wasn’t happening and I think this just ended up causing me more hurt and stress.

I had retained tissue that lasted 4 weeks after the start of the MC which obviously didn’t help me, I didn’t realise it was going to be such a drawn out process.

Personally I would be happy to TTC without waiting for my first period as the information I’ve seen is that it’s just mainly for dating purposes but I can also imagine it would be nice to know your body has a refresh!

@Hankthehonk be kind to yourself and take the time your body needs.

@Dinosaur39 Sorry for your loss :( thank you for your kind words and your advice.
I did an hcg test today and it's positive but already pretty faint just 4 days after my mc. It feels very strange to be desperate for a negative result when I want so badly to be pregnant.

@Hankthehonk I felt the exact same way it’s a complete head mess that we are pining for negative results and as soon as they are negative we will be pining for positive!

But we will all get there unfortunately it’s just going to be a different journey than we all expected 🥲

Thats ‘good’ news that yours is going faint quite quickly I hope that process isn’t so drawn out for you.

Do you have any other children?

Yes it is strange the wanting a negative result and then back into really wanting a positive! Hope you are ok @Hankthehonk

Decided to give reflexology a try this week to hopefully help with restarting ovulation. Interesting to see if I ovulate this month though I guess if I do I won't know if it was due to that or not!

First flashing smiley today cd10 🤞 they don't go on forever like last time! Good luck everyone xx

@Dinosaur39 Exactly! I'm finding myself fixating on nutrition for fertility already - I guess there's no downside to eating healthier, but it's pretty obvious I'm just trying to gain a sense of control over something.

I have a daughter who is 2, she'll be 3 in July. She is amazing, so funny and kind, and she is getting me through this. More grateful for her than ever. How about you, do you have other kids?

@tulipsunday That is good news about the flashing smily (I haven't used these ones, just LH cheap sticks but flashing smily means high chance right?) I hope the reflexology helps too - another thing that doesn't really have a downside so you might as well try it.

@tulipsunday im starting reflexology on Monday! I was doing acupuncture since my first Mc and found it really helped too 🤗

Good morning everyone! Hope everyone is ok !
Just a quick question did you keep testing are a positive ?
I'm becoming obsessive & my anxiety is really high ! Xx

@indieray I did until I got a 3+ on clearblue xx

@Hankthehonk I understand this completely it is that feeling of wanting to gain a bit of control with something you don't have much control of.

@Daniki Ah cool! Hope it works well for you. I was considering acupuncture. I can't really afford both and I'm a bit time limited with work and childcare but I might consider in the future if my cycle doesn't settle out.

@ChloeN Hope all is well with you x