So Cheryl Cole 39 said she's too old to have another biological baby

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Cheryl Cole just said at 39 she's too old to have another biological baby. What's your thoughts?
I'm genuinely curious as someone who's nearly 38 I'm still trying for my first baby.
Can a healthy pregnancy be possible?
At 39 apparently half your eggs would be deemed chromosomally abnormal.
What's your experience on getting pregnant at this age?

I should clarify my post better..
So I knew cheryl was wanting to have another child and was considering ivf with donated sperm her words not mine. ( I heard (rumour) she had been visting fertility clinic in l.a . That khloe kardashian had used. Apparently they are very close friends...she's been open about it but now she's turned around and said coronvirus changed those plans and she said yesterday she's " a bit older" she still wants children but she is thinking about adoption . She still plans on raising a child in her 40s then regardless. It's not about her not wanting children. She said she feels she's" a bit older now" therfore i can only assume her age is clearly a factor in her decision by that comment.

The bottom part was nothing to do with Cheryl. That was my own story. I'm nearly 38 trying for my first. If Cheryl feels she's "a bit older" to have another baby biogically , I was curious as to others opinions as to their journey to motherhood at this age. How easy how difficult it was since fertility is supposed to decline after 37 and more eggs are abnormal. I wanted reassurance basically from others can a healthy pregnancy at an older age is possible. There was no judgement here.

And that’s my point. There you go again. Please get some counselling.

Some women here sound old before their time- moaning about lack of energy etc and 'teenagers in your 50s' as if that's so awful.

My Mum had my sister when she was 37, and didn't feel old at all.

And some women have no choice. They don't meet the right man until their 30s and want to try to have a family.

IMO you either have your kids when you are young, often without having established a career, or you meet a man much later and have them in your 30s.

Had my 4th with no issues at 40. I had high BP but had pre eclampsia at 29 with my first. It was a very easy pregnancy and birth. I think celebs are mostly a bit barking so who cares if she thinks it's too old. I doubt she is an expert in the matter

Maybe it’s too old for her (especially with the age gap) i had mine in my 20s & now they’re a bit older i wouldn’t have another. I’m 38 & have been in my opinion “too old” for the past 3 years but it’s a personal choice & there are no guarantees of a healthy pregnancy at 28 as opposed to 38. My friend had her last baby (after a difficult pregnancy and premature birth the time before) at 42 with no issues.

good lucn

'At 39 apparently half your eggs would be deemed chromosomally abnormal.'
Ok this has scared me. I have a 6yr old, i'll be 38 in summer and considering trying for a second around my birthday but this has me worried.

I think some people on here cannot add up. If you have a child in your late 30s or even at 40, you would not be bringing up teenagers in your 60s!

My grandma did too - he's very nearly 80 now.

Very common these days. Just tricky if you have any undiagnosed fertility problems because you don’t have much time to get any help.

This.

Ive got several friends who have had babies in their late thirties/early forties. Some have struggled and some have got pregnant pretty much straight away. However, when we are educating teenagers/young women, we need to be honest about when our fertility declines and the problems they could face if they choose to wait longer. As long as we aren’t telling women its going to be very easy late thirties onwards, then women can make their own choice if they want to prioritise career etc. And ofcourse sometimes it isnt a choice if you dont meet s partner until later on.

OP, you simply need to google fertility.

Surely you know people over 38 have healthy babies. Surely you also know older women are. Ore likely to struggle to conceive or to get to the point of having a healthy baby. Both are true. Which category you’ll be in, we just don’t know. No-one knows at any age about themselves until they try. We can read the stats for our age group, but they are just that…we might fit the norm or not.

I hope it works out for you.

So I knew cheryl was wanting to have another child and was considering ivf with donated sperm her words not mine. ( I heard (rumour) she had been visting fertility clinic in l.a . That khloe kardashian had used. Apparently they are very close friends...she's been open about it but now she's turned around and said coronvirus changed those plans and she said yesterday she's " a bit older" she still wants children but she is thinking about adoption .

Guys, I think I know who the OP is.

It's.... Rebekah Vardy.

For me and my husband our cut off ttc is the day I turn 36. It's just the way our lives have panned out. Ttc since we were 27 eventually conceived at 30. He is 6 month younger and doesn't want to have children over the age of 35. This is biologically as well as mentally for me as well.
Pregnancy takes a toll on your body, I developed gestational diabetes (no risk factors btw) and baby was born small because of this.
Ttc affected me mentally having unexplained infertility and failed IVF.
If other women have babies at a later age it has nothing to do with me what they choose to do. It's their body, their family. People enter into relationships later in life and it's the way life pans out.
I wouldn't say Cheryl has been judgey for this comment. Her son is 5 I think? She might have been ttc and been unsuccessful.

40 was my cut off - I had my third and last child at 39. First and second we're at 30 and 33. No problems with any. I'm 44 now and would definitely consider myself 'too old'. But my best friend is also 43 and just had her first. She's planning to try for number two soon.

But equally my friend had her child in her 20s, born with chromosomal abnormalities. I think it’s good to be educated but not to fear monger. It would be interesting to see that real stats.

I'm the same age, 39, and consider myself now too old to have another baby. I couldn't care less what other women choose is right for them, but for me no. Not just the getting pregnant, but I don't want to be looking after young-ish children into my 50s.

Having said that I first became a parent at 22, so am starting to see the light of freedom which I missed out on in my 20s and early 30s, which is another huge factor in being horrified at the thought of going back to square one now.

For me it would have been to old, but then I felt a big difference between carrying babies and looking after them from my 20s to 30s

When I was 35 we discussed having a 3rd child (me & DH, not me & Cheryl) and at the time I genuinely thought I was too old and the prospect of being 40 when they started school horrified me. It’s only looking back I realise how ridiculous I was and it’s my only regret, that we didn’t try for a 3rd because of me. Maybe Cheryl will look back and realise she got it wrong also.

Or some people are just disabled

See this pisses me right off. Do you know her? Do you know her medical background? Do you know if she’s in a relationship to conceive a baby?

Shes got every right to say she feels too old.

There were some stats out last week which said that there are more births now in women over 40 than teenage births.

Thanks Colleen

This thread is absolutely mental. I never thought I'd be in the position of defending Cheryl fucking Cole but she is allowed to have an opinion about whether she wants to get pregnant and that doesn't mean that she's speaking for ALL women.

Personally as someone who had my last baby no problems at 40 I'd not recommend it. But you do you.

I had my youngest at 42, like others easily got pregnant, easy pregnancy, easy birth. Perfectly healthy child. Yes the risks are higher as you age but 1 in 100 for example is not exactly a high risk on an individual level.

I may be an older mum but I'm healthier than people younger, I have no issues keeping up, no issues with my health, come from a long lived family. I'm not worried about the teen years, already starting puberty, difference is I have all the patience in the world to deal with mood swings, experience has taught me it soon passes.

The problem with Cheryl's comment is that she doesn't feel it's too old to be a parent to a baby its just the pregnancy part she's trying to avoid.