So Cheryl Cole 39 said she's too old to have another biological baby

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Cheryl Cole just said at 39 she's too old to have another biological baby. What's your thoughts?
I'm genuinely curious as someone who's nearly 38 I'm still trying for my first baby.
Can a healthy pregnancy be possible?
At 39 apparently half your eggs would be deemed chromosomally abnormal.
What's your experience on getting pregnant at this age?

Women in their 20s and 30s are fitter and more energetic than women in their 40s. This is not a difficult concept to grasp. My sister had a 9.5lb back to back baby at 17 and was out shopping the next day. I had a 9.5lb back to back baby at 35 and was in hospital for a week.

I had a 13 pound baby boy at 40 and discharged myself the same night. Some 40 year olds are fitter than women in their 20s and 30s. Just depends of their makeup.

Was it your first though? That’s what makes the difference I find. First babies at a later age tend to be tougher on the body.

First was 37 so also late compared to some people’s thinking on here.

@FKATondelayo I disagree. It depends on the individual. I know plenty of women In their 30s had children with absolutely no issues, they bounced right back after birth. All my friends, bar one or two had their children in their 30s

I find these conversations pretty pointless. Not everyone chooses to have children later in life but they end up in a situation eg due to fertility struggles or not meeting partners until later whereby they either do it at an older age or miss out on having children completely. I’m sure most people would choose to have them earlier (maybe under 35) rather than later because of the risks, potential difficulties in getting pregnant etc etc but not everyone has the luxury of having a choice

Well in answer to your question it can certainly happen at 38! I fell pregnant completely by accident at this age, we were actively avoiding trying to be pregnant. No idea if baby is healthy yet as it's not here, but pregnancy has been very easy thus far and I'm now past 12 weeks with low chance test results.

Really?

Had my first at 33, my eggs were useless by 35. Some women can have babies in their late thirties and even forties, good for them, I was not one and I applaud Cheryl for highlighting that it’s not possible for many women.

I think these conversations can be valuable. My generation were told that bright girls work hard and only stupid girls have babies young. Do it in your late thirties I was told. I could have had babies in early twenties but didn’t because I, and especially DH, had been misled into thinking later would be better.

@Blube i agree to a degree. I went to university and bought a house and was established in my career before we tried for children and this is what I believed was the sensible thing to do. It worked out well until now when we have secondary infertility and I’m now 36 and can’t conceive again and I certainly wish I had more time on my side so I wasn’t under so much pressure to make decisions regarding intervention etc. so in an ideal world I wanted to have had my children before I was 35 but it hasn’t worked out. Who knows how old I will be if/when I complete my family but it is certainly older than I had imagined

You're an adult. Nobody should be making decisions as serious as having children based on what "society told me"

To claim you were misled, what a way tp give up agency of one's own life and put the responsibility square outside one's own reach.

because I, and especially DH, had been misled into thinking later would be better.

Yes. Really. You don’t think some 20/30 year olds have medical issues or are overweight/obese/smoke/take drugs or have their health compromised in some way?

I think you can’t be very bright to make a life changing decision based on what someone else has told you. I think most people do what they think is right for them at the age they feel ready for it ( unless they get pregnant by mistake).

Disagree all you like. It's well-established that younger women as a population are fitter, more energetic and have less complicated, less risky pregnancies and labours than older women.

Whats the bet she is pregnant before end of the year.

Got pregnant very easily at both 38 and 40

So much anecdata here! So what, I’ve had 13 miscarriages between 37 and 40 - and 4 rounds of IVF has made only a few dubious embryos - the only reason they can give me is my age!

My friend had her second set of twins at 47. Her first set were 17!

I had first child at 24 then triplets at 39

It's the norm these days but very much a personal thing. Medically you are considered a high risk pregnancy over the age of 35 and as a 'geriatric mother' but in a social / cultural sense, its normal.

I had mine at 36 & 39 and although it was never the right time for me personally before that, I do wonder if I'd have had more energy for it all (sleepless nights, toddler stage etc) if I'd had them younger...

Her choice totally, she already has a child, perhaps she would feel differently if she didn’t have him.

I had mine at 36 & 39 and although it was never the right time for me personally before that, I do wonder if I'd have had more energy for it all (sleepless nights, toddler stage etc) if I'd had them younger...

I had my first at 24. When I was in my 40s I babysat overnight and a few Sundays her baby, who became toddler. OMG it’s hard when your older, it saps it out if you

39 might seem too old for Cheryl because she’s from a chavvy background. Her childhood contemporaries are probably great-grandmothers by now 😂

Yikes what triggered you?!