So Cheryl Cole 39 said she's too old to have another biological baby

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Cheryl Cole just said at 39 she's too old to have another biological baby. What's your thoughts?
I'm genuinely curious as someone who's nearly 38 I'm still trying for my first baby.
Can a healthy pregnancy be possible?
At 39 apparently half your eggs would be deemed chromosomally abnormal.
What's your experience on getting pregnant at this age?

I was going to basically say this.

Also, Cheryl has made a very mild comment in response to a question!

Had my two at 39 and 41, conceived each time the month I wanted ( for maximum mat leave). Both easy kids, now off to uni. Could not have done it earlier and love that they have kept us young.

That was my first thought too.

I had my first at 41 and second at 43. The midwives said the average age of mothers is increasing now. If your periods are still regular and there are no other issues, I don't see how 39 is 'too old'

‘When I was 35 we discussed having a 3rd child (me & DH, not me & Cheryl)’

I’ve had a hard, sad day - thank you @WestBridgewater for making me laugh! Xx

I was too old at 39, because i was a year or so post menopausal at that point. You dont know what she means by 'too old', she she just meaning or age or does she have information on her own fertility that means shes too old without going down the donor egg/surrogate root. Maybe she means she is isnt in a relationshio and thats the circumstance in which she wants to have a child so by time she meets someone and they decide too she ll be mid 40s.
You do you, she is talking about her own life.

She's not insulting others and she has a 6 year old. I have a 9 year old , 10 this year and very much can't be bothered going through it all again although biologically at 29 it's still very possible for me to get pregnant. Maybe she feels that time of her life is done.

Whenever anyone said ‘she must keep you young’ to my mum she’d growl back at them ‘she bloody doesn’t’. (She loved me wholeheartedly before anyone starts).

I think she was just sick of people who had no clue about anything trotting out this glib phrase. She was 43 when I was conceived and very physically ill and ‘elderly’ from my birth onwards and I think now she really shouldn’t have gone through with it.

@OhMyGoodnessyMe
I'm one of the ones who wouldn't want teenager in my 50's. It's not because I'm old before my time but because I want something different for my life. My parents moved abroad for 5 years and in that time travelled Europe when they were 56/57 and had the best time (they'd both taken early redundancy/retirement). Dh and I plan the do similar. By that time my dc will be nearly 30.

It is a choice we women make. I had mine when i was very young and i am so glad i did, having cared for an elderly parent in my late 40s early 50s, i know i couldn't have done it with children in tow.

I was 30 when I fell pregnant with my first. I’m now 38 and expecting another after 7 years of trying and multiple losses. I don’t think being pregnant at this age would have been my choice but I was prepared to try until 40. That said, a friend of mine was 44 when she had her first pregnancy. Twins!

Worded that badly. Obviously it WAS my choice! But I don’t suppose I would have had a child at this age had secondary infertility not changed things for me. Of course, I’m glad I’m having a successful pregnancy so far…with not long to go!

I'm 39 and I feel too old. I had mine when I was in my 20s (27 and 29) and now the thought of going back to the baby stage is hideous, and I feel like I wouldn't want a 10 year age gap and I'm just done with that stage of my life. So I feel like it's too old "for me" but obviously other people do it and love it.

So many posts on here (and other threads) from women saying they have no energy, are so tired and have aches and pains now they're in their 40s. Really???

40 is not old but (disabilities aside) some people really do seem old before their time. I'm not expecting to have any of these issues any time soon - am I the only one? 😯

My sister as had her second baby at 39 after a 17 year age gap hes 10 months old now but she finds it harder now than what she did with her first one .
She dont regret it but said she wish she had him earlier as she was just getting her own life back shes 40 soon and she said he will be a teen when im way in my 50s .

I think it entirely depends on the person and the circumstances.

As can be seen by many of the responses, typically, the posters saying "too old for them" have already had children.

If you've already had children by 38/39/40, it's likely that you may feel too old for them. However, if you haven't and want to, you won't or you're prepared to deal with all that comes with being an older mum.

Yes, there are statistics that show that the older you are, the harder it may prove to be to conceive and the higher risk the pregnancy is. However, those are just statistics. Important to bear in mind, but not get too bogged down with to the point of allowing it to paralyse you.

Speak with your healthcare provider, follow their advice and get yourself into as healthy a position as possible and just keep trying. Women are having children later and later, and so, our understanding of fertility at those later ages should grow.

There will be examples on each side of the aisle regarding this. Those who have struggled to conceive when they're older (and maybe faced other complications, and those who conceived with no issue and had perfectly healthy babies. Likewise, there will also be those who are in their 20s who struggle to conceive, have babies with chromosomal abnormalities or miscarry.

Age is just a single factor. And I'm also in your boat-I'm 35 and wanting to start TTC soon.

Expect what you want. Life might throw other plans your way

I'm 35 and feel too old to have another baby, largely because I had mine before I was 30, I'm just not at the stage of my life anymore, that ship has sailed and I don't think I'm as healthy now as I was 10 years ago. But that's me, I can't put a number on anyone else and that will be the same for her.

Whilst it might still be possible for her to have a baby maybe she feels too old? I know how that is. I just wouldn't have the patience now that I had 13 years ago when I had my dd. Physically, it was hard on me being pregnant and I couldn't imagine going through that all over again, then all the sleepless nights and juggling work and a baby. I'm the same age and I feel too old to have a baby.

Wasn’t she trying for years to have a baby? I’d also think she means her personally as she’s been through the mill. No doubt you’ll have people saying she’s lazy or the like but if you read the girls aloud book she always wanted children so I wouldn’t say it’s something she hasn’t thought about carefully. Everyone is so different though so nobody should take it as anything that would affect their own life

I got pregnant at 39 and had none of those issues. Was fit and healthy. Running 20 - 30 miles a week. Had tons of energy. But everything started to fall apart after the kids were born. It seemed pretty dramatic, which I suspect is to do with huge change of having kids more than it being so dramatic. But my similarly aged friends without kids also all found more and more problems as they hit 40, I think it just didn’t all hit quite so dramatically because they didn’t have the same change in routine.

My hearing and eyesight had probably been deteriorating for some time, but the change in routine made it more noticeable. The biggest thing for me that I noticed was that injuries started to take a lot longer to heal and I might not have really noticed that before but, again, the change in routine made deficiencies more noticeable and I didn’t have the same time to look after myself.

It’s not that you can’t be fit and healthy in your 40s and beyond, but it does seem that you can take that fitness much more for granted before 40. As you get older it takes more work and you don’t necessarily have as much capacity for that when you have kids.

@MakingMarlsAndOtherThings

I wouldn’t knock her for saying she feels she doesn’t want to do it again at 39. It’s perfectly reasonable for her to feel that way. It’s not a personal slight on anyone who decides to have a baby in their 40s.

I'm pregnant right now and I'm 43. It is higher risk but lots of people do it and have healthy babies. I read a book called "it starts with the egg" and followed the advice in there to try and increase my chances of conceiving with a "good" egg. I would recommend this book to anyone who is trying to conceive, but especially oldies like me where chromosomal abnormalities are more common.

Couldn't have worded it better myself.