So Cheryl Cole 39 said she's too old to have another biological baby

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Cheryl Cole just said at 39 she's too old to have another biological baby. What's your thoughts?
I'm genuinely curious as someone who's nearly 38 I'm still trying for my first baby.
Can a healthy pregnancy be possible?
At 39 apparently half your eggs would be deemed chromosomally abnormal.
What's your experience on getting pregnant at this age?

@Trixiefirecracker

I don’t know why everyone quick to defend Cole. I can’t forget her racial assault on that woman. She’s a nasty piece of work and talks a lot of bollocks.

She was still a teenager when this happened, she was sorry about it, she paid the price for it, and it was 2 decades ago. People REALLY need to let this go.

Dragging things up from peoples past (and a long time in the past,) to try to insult and hurt them now, is pathetic, desperate, and unclassy. It says far more about the person dragging up the thing the person did, than the person they're hurling stones at!

I was 37 when pregnant with dc2 and I know I couldn't go through it again (he's 18m now). I've had 2 children 9 years apart and my second pregnancy was so much harder than my first.

That's just me though, some women sail through it and, if it's your first, you've nothing to compare it to.

I just know that I couldn't put my body through pregnancy and birth again with my 18m old little hitler in tow.

I had my kids at 35 and 38. Both conceived immediately and both healthy.

However, I feel knackered. Personally I couldn't even consider having another. I already can't see myself having the energy needed in my 40s when my kids are young.

@Emmamoo89 that’s a massive mistake, beating the crap out of someone but I’m sure she’s very happy that you ‘like her’.

I'm 43 and pregnant with my first!

I'm 42 and pregnant and I agree with her 😆 it probably is a bit old! I already love my mini Mary though and definitely can't wait to see her. Surprise pregnancy!

I agree with her I think. As someone who had babies in my 30s and 40s I now wonder whether I was being selfish even though it’s just how life turned out for me. I’ve since developed health problems (minor currently but may not stay that way) and I feel guilty that I likely won’t be around for my kids as much as my parents who had me in their 20s. So difficult to decide when’s best though. Health is a lottery. You may be fine, you may not but the chance of health issues goes up the older you are. Maybe she’s had MC or health problems herself

I agree with her. I had one 24, 27, 32 and 34 and felt that was pushing it.

Cheryl Cole just said at 39 she's too old to have another biological baby.

The crucial word in that sentence is "she's". I felt the same, although tbf I had DD when I was 26 and felt that 30 would be my cut-off point. Just because some are happy to have children in their late 30's/forties, it's not everyone's choice because (shock), everyone is different.

I conceived my youngest at age 40, while on the pill and after my DH had a vasectomy. Perfectly smooth pregnancy, perfectly healthy baby.

The statistics show that fertility and quality of eggs declines with age. There will always be people at the extremes of those statistics though. 20 year olds can be infertile or have babies with chromosomal issues, and 50 year olds can have healthy babies just depends on who/when/how!

In 37 and feel that for me I'm too old. Absolutely could not be arsed with it tbh.

I agree, if you ‘can’t forget’ something (I don’t care what it was) that someone you don’t know said twenty years ago as a teenager and you continue to leap on mentions of that person on the internet so you can get angry about it over and over again there is something seriously wrong with you.

Seriously, @Trixiefirecracker, get some help with your mental health.

39 would have felt too old for me. I'm 51 and am relishing the freedom now that my DC are off and away. The youngest was a horrendous teenager and I would not want to be dealing with that into my 60s.

Its not really a case of feeling too old. For many people it just is too old.

Notice too, she’s already had children.

Women who haven’t had any kids but are keen, are far more likely to try at an older age than someone who has already got 2 or 3. It’s about feeling ‘done’ - that can be what people mean when they say ‘too old’.

Clearly there’s a biological age where it’s impossible. There’s also an age when it’s unlikely to result in a healthy baby. Some have different parameters about if they think it’s worth trying at those older ages and what decides is ‘too old’ won’t feel too old for another. Within a certain range, there is no categorical answer to what is ‘too old’ but personal judgement about yourself. Anyone though,mod any age really ought to be sure they understand their likely fertility based on age and implications. They then make their own personal decisions based on that and their own circumstance.

Op, lots of women do have first babies at 39 and lots have 2nd or subsequent babies at that age. Lots find it more difficult to cinceive than they would 10 years younger or have more miscarriages or issues….but you know that don’t you. It’s impossible to know how it will work out for you. All you can do is try if you want to.
Will you be more tired as a mother to a newborn than a 25 year old. Probably yes. Does that mean you’re too old? Not if you’re willing to be tired and do what it takes,

Loads of personal anecdotes on this thread. Some women find 39 is tooold for them. It’s pop on to say they had theirs at 39 or older. Shows there’s no right answer and people including Op must make own choice.

Absolutely!

What a hateful comment.

Are you that resentful of what pregnancy did to your body that you suspect others of trying to avoid the same?

Fertility has declined; higher risk pregnancies; older parents. You can, but it will be a lot harder in a lot of ways. It’s perfectly reasonable if some women decide it’s no longer an option for them.

For some people it just is, for me it would be and that’s not personal to you, it’s a decision you’ve obviously weighed up.

you are 6 years younger than my mother, I’m 32 and I have a 5yo and 3yo. I like that my mum is young and fit enough to enjoy taking them both on days out and having them for sleepovers etc when realistically she would be less able to do if I’d waited another 15 years to have my children.

On the contrary I think it says a lot more about the people who are fawning over her. Her career should have ended there. She was absolutely old enough to know what she was doing and racist abuse is not acceptable in any form.

My mum had me, totally naturally, at 41!

I'm the same age as Cheryl (Bar a few weeks). I'm too old to have a baby. Not physically too old- I'm fitter and healthier than I was 12 years ago when I had my dc. My eggs probably are too old though. But my experiences and outlook is that I'm too old to go back to sleepless nights and dirty nappies. My friends have babies and toddlers and I don't envy them one bit. I also wouldn't want to be raising teens in my late 50's. Everyone's different though and if I hadn't had my dc younger I might feel differently.

Bit nasty.

I had my last baby at 40. (First two I was 22 and 33).

All were conceived first month, I’ve been very lucky, although I had two MC in between.

I would love another but I am 43 next week and I have huge age gaps on purpose as I have horrendous pregnancies with HG that even the strongest anti sickness drugs only take the edge off.

If I was to have another it would be when dd was 6/7 and more self sufficient as pregnancy renders me ill, completely useless to anyone and in and out of hospital - I’d be 46/47 which is a no from me.

40 was my cut off.