Anyone else TTC after TFMR?

[Downtherabbithole83]

Anyone else on here in the same situation? Would be nice to chat to others who understand.

Oh ladies, some wonderful news on here! @MrsScotland, I'm delighted for you. Enjoy your beautiful baby. My update is I'm now 23 (24 on Thursday) weeks pregnant with my little boy. Cannot wait for him to arrive. It's a bittersweet time of year but I feel so lucky to have this miracle coming xx

@MrsScotland I’m so pleased you came on to give an update as I’d been thinking that your little one will have arrived and was hoping it had gone smoothly. Sorry to hear of the post-birth infections but glad you’re on the mend and happy.

I finished work for maternity leave on Friday. I have a scan tomorrow when they’ll decide if they want to induce me - they had said they wouldn’t want me to go over 39 weeks but Christmas seems to complicate that somewhat. Really hoping that I can avoid being induced!

Congratulations to all of you on the pregnancy journey. Remember to take it a week at a time and know that the anxiety does lessen. I have to say mine has ramped up a bit now I’m nearing the end but that is to be expected.

Good luck to those who may have joined recently and are navigating the difficult space of dealing with fresh grief and an overwhelming desire for a baby - it is such a hard mixture of emotions to manage x

Wow what wonderful updates to see on here! Mega congrats @MrsScotland - such lovely news (sorry to hear about the horrid recovery process). Congrats to others who are pregnant and to those who have had got test outcomes. Lovely lovely lovely ❤️

My update is that after 18 months of trying and multiple early losses, this one appears to have stuck properly! I am just over 26 weeks and all tests/scans so far have come back clear. Didn’t relax until after the 20 week scan (even though I sobbed and sobbed at the clear NIPT at 12 weeks).

Hope everyone has a wonderful Christmas and that these updates give hope to those of you who are still ttc xx

Ooooooooh @Rumbleinthecrumble that all sounds very exciting. Keep us updated!

Lovely to see all these wonderful updates and wishing those of you who are pregnant smooth pregnancies and deliveries and lots of luck to those of you who are still trying.

I feel it a real comfort knowing how close we are together, although I don’t know you personally, it is really nice. 🥰

Oh I can only imagine the emotions you would have felt at that time. I’m glad to hear it wasn’t anything harmful! 🫶🏽

I haven’t been 100% right since I had flu and Covid vaccines a week past Tuesday, but maybe feeling slightly on the mend now. Anything that hits me I have a little panic, but just taking each day as it comes. I hope you feel better soon!

I’ll be thinking about you on Thursday too. We’ve got this!! xx

@MrsScotland Incredible news!! Like the others, I am so sorry to read your recovery hasn’t been great, but glad things are improving. Huge congratulations! 🥰

@oneweecraw Lovely to hear things are moving along well for you. Time will fly in I bet!

@Rumbleinthecrumble I can imagine how real everything feels now that you are on maternity leave. I’ll be thinking about you over the next few weeks!

@Downtherabbithole83 So pleased to read everything is looking good for you! I think I’ll be the same with regards to nerves calming down etc after the 20 week mark, hopefully lol!

Wishing everyone a lovely Christmas, sending baby dust to those TTC and hugs to those grieving losses! ✨

Is anyone else at the beginning of this journey?

Can I ask those further along….how long did you wait to ttc? Did anyone have chromosone testing after the tfmr to see what was wrong?

I am having a tfmr tomorrow and desperate to try again, but DH wants to stop.

We started trying as soon as I stopped bleeding (took three whole weeks). Took us four months to concieve. We didn’t do any testing after because I just wanted to ignore what happened and I was told it was totally random. We tested Low risk this time so maybe it was, but I did take coq-10 for four months before this pregnancy which improves egg quality.

in hindsight, the anxiety of TTC and waiting for NIPT, I really wish I’d done as many tests as possible (no idea what’s available cuz like I said I wanted to be ignorant), but the longer it went on the more I wished for more data.

Wow. Huge congratulations to those who are progressing with their pregnancies and keeping everything crossed that it all goes well for each and every one of you. The anxiety must be huge after TFMR and each milestone must be such a relief.

I had my TFMR in June and we are just now beginning to try again. We’ve both needed some time to heal especially mentally. I still cry a lot. It still hurts deeply but I don’t think it will change in a hurry. Grief is such a rollercoaster and I don’t think we ever fully get off it.

I hope that we will manage to fall pregnant again soon with our rainbow baby. I know it’ll be a happy and scary experience but I think we’re ready for it.

@anicecuppateaa we did have testing. Our baby had HLHS. The tests did come back with a chromosomal abnormality and we had to go for blood tests to check that neither of us had chromosome problems. The test results (which took 3 months) showed no abnormalities with either of us. It was just a horrible unlucky experience. That’s filled us with some confidence that if we try again we’re in the same situation as every other couple and at no higher risk.

Thank you for sharing. I had my tfmr yesterday and the urgency to ttc has calmed slightly. DH said last night ‘let’s do our best to enjoy Christmas and take it from there, which was mentally enough for now.

Good luck with ttc, its such a scary journey but hopefully the test results bring you some comfort, and hopefully when you are pregnant the hospital can offer early and more frequent reassurance scans. We had a full micro array of genetic testing done before so I would be very surprised if this poor baby’s condition was inherited from us, but will wait and see.

Take some time to heal and grieve. I hope you’re doing as well as you can be physically. Mentally will definitely take time.

I thought I’d want to try again ASAP but my partner just wasn’t ready and I think I was kidding myself into thinking I was when I needed some time to come to terms with what had happened

@Fullofconfusion we lost our middle dc 3yrs ago to hlhs at 24wks. The heart was too broken to be fixed sadly, dc had all 3 aspects of hlhs 😞 it was the worst thing we have ever been through as a family. 10 months later I fell pregnant with our rainbow dc and now they are 19 months old and I thank my angel dc for sending us a rainbow baby to love. This board was so helpful when I was in the depths of loss and despair but I found comfort here ❤️

Thank you so much for sharing.

How lovely that you’ve got your rainbow baby. It gives hope to others, like me, who have gone through the heartbreak of TFMR

Your rainbow will come when you least expect it ❤️✨

Hey everyone, just wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar on their TTC journey after TFMR.
After my chemical in August, I started going to Accupunture as I read so many positives stories about it when TTC.
After my TFMR my cycles regulated really quickly, I was ovulating between days 13-15, periods were 3 days long, basically back to how it was pre-pregnancy.
Since going to acupuncture my ovulation has been between days 11-17, and my periods have been so weird. Starting with spotting which I’ve never had, bleeding properly for a day and a half, and then spotting for 3 days at the end ending with light pink spotting. Which all suggests low estrogen. I’m waiting for blood tests at the Dr.
Did anyone else have Accupunture and have similar experiences? Does anyone know after Accupunture if my hormones will balance back out to my normal or if this like a lasting effect?
Does anyone have any tips on balancing out hormones?
Already taking a prenatal, coq10 and omega 3.
So upset and frustrated with myself that I’ve done something that’s messed up my cycle and will no doubt be effecting our chances of getting pregnant again!

Hi everyone, it's been a while since I posted on this thread. I originally found it the month after we lost our daughter in 2022 at 25 weeks. I know how much reading success stories really helped me so I wanted to come on and update!

We welcomed our little boy at the end of last year and are so thankful to have him. After our TFMR in 2022 I had two miscarriages in 2023 and underwent further testing which was inconclusive. I then fell pregnant with our son and was prescribed progesterone for the first 16 weeks, it could have been a coincidence but with the medication he was the first pregnancy to stick since our TFMR. The hospital were amazing during the pregnancy and we had an early anatomy scan at 16 weeks as well as weekly monitoring and fortnightly scans. I would advise anyone in future pregnancies to ask the hospital for as much support as they can give, our bereavement midwife was also amazing with this.

I had an elective c-section to mentally help me know a date that he would arrive and this is where it all went to pot again! During the c-section I unfortunately suffered a stroke and was very unwell for several weeks, accumulating in burr hole surgery on my skull to relieve the pressure of the blood on my brain. When I think about it the whole thing is almost unbelievable. I don't want to scare anyone with this, apparently it is very very rare (no records in any hospital in the uk in the last 10 years!) and we are still waiting for answers from the hospital as to why this truly happened.

My son has been happy and healthy throughout though and this has been, and always will be, the main thing for me 💙

Oh my goodness @whippeywhippet you've had quite a journey! How are you doing now? How lovely that you have your little rainbow. I hope that you’re doing well too.

@jt130593 I’m sorry, I have no experience of acupuncture. My periods were all over the place before I fell pregnant with my TFMR baby. Since then however they’ve been like clockwork which is a totally new experience. i hope you get some answers from the doctor.

I’ve been really down this month. December was hard. I think it’s such a family based time of year around Christmas that it just hit home harder than I was expecting. My partner struggled too and we had a a few heart to hearts. Someone at work asked me if I would have another baby the other day and it totally threw me. It’s hard but going through a loss just changes you completely and your way of looking at things

Oh my goodness @whippeywhippet you have been through so much. Glad your precious baby is ok and you are coming through it.

To everyone else, I have been there and I’m thinking of you 💙

@whippeywhippet I’m so sorry you had such a traumatic experience but happy your son is doing well.

My baby arrived safely just after Christmas. Good luck to those of you on the TTC journey and best wishes to those who are navigating pregnancy after a TFMR x

I don’t have helpful advice unfortunately but I am one of the huge advocates for acupuncture, but only if they are specialising in IVF and fertility. Sorry if you’re already doing the following but thought I’d share my thoughts :

There are people who do it who just do normal acupuncture and don’t actually read your tongue or use needles where they should be to help heal what is needed.

for example. After hyperemesis my digestive system was totally off - so my acupuncturist helped with this. My feet were cold and warm feet = warm womb so they helped with that. Also going at the correct time in your cycle (one week before ovulation and one week after) this is what influences ovulation and then implantation.

Another possibility could be that acupuncture is working on your cycle and it needs to go a bit haywire before a factory reset? Let me know how you get on because I really believe acupuncture is why I got pregnant after TFMR x

@CSSL7 thank you. The person I went to did specialise in fertility/women’s health. She checked my tongue every session, and explained where she was putting the needles and why, and this differed each session I had dependent on the discussions we had. Went at the right time of my cycle. I really don’t think it’s a case of her being a bad practitioner or anything like that.
She did say that it could throw things off slightly before it got better, but then when I explained the severity of my headaches to her she said that she would never expect for it to get worse to that extent. It’s been 4 months of 2 sessions per month and it’s showing no signs of regulating my ovulation or my bleeding again so I think it’s just maybe not for me.
My cycles were really good prior to going, my hormone levels were perfect as I had them checked after my chemical so maybe I just didn’t need that kind of interference with my hormones.
Now I’ve just got to pray that they go back to how they were prior so we can try again!

That is just so annoying :( I’m sorry :(

We’ve had another spanner thrown in the works.
My partner is epileptic and we asked his consultant 4 times if any of the medications he was on could potentially impact his fertility/any baby we conceive and were told no it was fine.
He got a phone call yesterday to say that actually it can affect fertility, and there’s also some new research that shows that babies born to a father who has taken this medication in the 3 months leading up to conception have a higher risk of having neurodevelopmental disorders.
So he’s now got to change his medication, slowly titrate down on that tablet. And then be 3 months free of that medication before we can try again.
Even though I know it’s the best thing to do, I can’t help but just feel really deflated that we’re now going to have to wait months before we can even try again 😔

Hey, I hope everyone is as ok as they can be.

I am now 8 months post TFMR and can't believe I am still not pregnant. Having surgery next week to fix my isthmocele (c section defect) which was discovered after my TFMR because I started to get spotting for a few days after my period. Depending on how the surgery goes I will be unable to TTC for 3 to 6 months which is a bit of a blow.
@jt130593 all though I can't TTC again for a few months for different reasons I completely feel you. It's such a blow during an already hard time x