TTC after miscarriage thread 13 💕🌈✨💛

[FfayeN]

Ready for when we tip over the last one. Lucky 13 🍀

@ChloeN this was the test when the level was 114 on 9th. The negative test was on 18th

@mummatara oh really I’m so clueless I thought 90 would be high 🤦🏻‍♀️ I think it defo looks darker, and seems weird your hcg has hardly dropped in 2 weeks? How confusing I hope you’re feeling okay!! Xxxx

@ChloeN I'm ok just frustrated because everything to do with pregnancy just has no quick answers 🙄 I'll get my answers on Thursday at least it's not too long to wait xxx

@mummatara sorry if you’ve already said but have you been scanned to check everything come away? Could that cause rising numbers if it hadn’t? Xx

@ChloeN not had a scan yet hospital will see what the hcg is doing in 48 hours before they decide next steps. I think it can cause rising numbers so if it rises a small amount that could be a possibility. I haven't had any of the symptoms of RPOC it's just going to be one of those annoying waiting things unfortunately ☹️

@mummatara as if it hadn’t been a long enough wait 😖😖 it’s just awful, all you want your body to do is reset and start again!

@ChloeN it's so hard the waiting 😂 on one hand I'm like if it's just residual then bad body but if it's a new pregnancy then good body 😂

@mummatara im hoping it’s a good body for you 🤣

@mummatara Everything crossed for you! How long ago was your mc? I think you wrote earlier you had surgical management?

@ChloeN 🤣 it better or it's going on santas naughty list 😂

@Lialii thank you. MC was 3 weeks ago yes I had surgical management after natural didn't work properly 🙄 I think a new one is a slim chance but it's been very odd in what my tests have been doing if they hadnt got faint and then that one negative and started getting darker again I wouldn't even question it as just being residual after my previous MC it took me 6 weeks to get a negative

9 DPO today and my FRER’s arrived from Amazon. I feel slightly off today, no energy and maybe a little nauseous but I don’t want to test today as today would have been my due date for the baby we lost in April 😔 Although a positive would be a lovely thing to happen today, I don’t think I could handle seeing a BFN so will hold off. Anyone else due to test in next couple of days?

@emhope sending lots of love and luck for you x

@emhope I have everything crossed for when you do test, sorry to hear today was your due date too 😔 xx

@mummatara did you get your bloods done again? Xx

@ChloeN I did have to ring about 9 for the results hopefully they will be in by then as they say 4-6 hours. I'm not sure I can stay awake until 11 😂 I'll let you know what they are though my IC this morning looked fainter than 2 days ago so I think I know the answer already

@mummatara oh no😔least it’s not long till you get your results, the waiting must be torture😖xxx

@ChloeN finally got through after 30 mins of ringing and it's dropped to 84 🙄 so it's dropped by a measly 6. I think can safely say not a new pregnancy but they do want me in for another blood test on Saturday

@mummatara oh bloody hell🙄 is this epu, yours is open so late I think mine only used to be open 9-4🤣 how longs it been in total now? Feels like forever to me so can’t imagine how long it feels for you!

@ChloeN yes the EPU they are open 24/7 at my hosp thankfully! Haha it feels like forever because we first found out at a private scan on 8th sept 😳 but I didn't get the surgery until 3 weeks ago so it's really only been 3 weeks since the actual MC and here's me thinking opting for natural management would be a quicker hcg resolution than the 6 weeks my previous one took 😂

Hey ladies, very tentatively joining as I'm not sure I can cope with TTC again. I've got 2 healthy children, but have then had 2 second trimester losses this year. The only things they did differently with the last one was giving me a reassurance scan at 7 weeks and started aspirin at 8 weeks - any ideas if they'll do anything different if I do get pregnant again? I won't be having a debrief for another 2-3 months to ask anyone really.
Also, any experience on ovulation after a miscarriage? I had a flashing smiley for 8 days last week and no peak it just went to low last Friday - but I had EWCM on Monday and Wednesday and ovulation pains on Friday. Not temping so no way of knowing if I did actually ovulate. I wish I could just switch my brain off and just have a baby after I get pregnant like everyone else!
@mummatara did they say what your options are beyond another blood test at the weekend?

@MrsC2018 welcome to the thread. I am so sorry for the ordeal you've been through and can't even imagine how anxious you are about TTC again. Is there any explanation for your losses? Do they do any testing as they were second trimester? I would feel sure they would be referring you after what you've been through depending on what could have caused it. Bless you 😔 xx

My ovulation after miscarriage did have a long build up compared to a normal quick rise. About 3 weeks post procedure, AF arriving just under 2 weeks later. It was going back to a normal quick rise for me after about 4 months.

Feel free to settle in here, air your worries and concerns, we are all lovely I assure you and there is nothing we don't discuss here. It's a safe space 😘 xxx

@mummatara sorry it wasn’t a new one ♥️ There’s always that little bit of hope isn’t there!

@MrsC2018 so sorry for what you’re going through but as @FfayeN put so well, welcome and sending love xxx

@MrsC2018 so sorry for your losses ❤️ i temp and didn't ovulate at all after my first MC until the cycle after I had a period and that cycle I had flashing smiley for 9 days before I got a peak. This MC I had O pains a very positive opk 13 days after surgery but no temp rise and I'm just over 3 weeks post surgery so I think probably I'll follow like I did last time and won't O until after a period. She said to me that they will see what the next one is but I imagine if it's still another small drop they will scan for RPOC that's what they did previously. She did say to me that it might be a new pregnancy still but with a drop after 48 hours I find that highly unlikely 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Babydustmamma thanks lovely there is always a smidge of hope but I think I knew my guy was telling me no so I didn't get too hopeful. I would have been more shocked if it had gone up I think 🙊

@FfayeN thanks for the welcome, your words are so kind. No reason was found for the first loss, and the second one was found 5 weeks ago tomorrow so no answers yet. Frustratingly, we were told it was very unlikely to happen again (both losses at 16 weeks) but I've since found out that once you have a loss after 12 weeks then you're more likely to have another. So I don't know what to think now really.
@mummatara thanks for the ovulation advice, I think I knew really that I didn't ovulate but was still hopeful I'm in with a chance this month. Hope's a bastard getting in the way of rational thought all the time - hope you don't have RPOC, can't believe you found out on the 8th sept. This has been an absolute ordeal for you. Think on reflection I've been lucky with my losses, it was all shockingly quick - with both, babies were out within 2 days and first period with the first was 5 weeks. Think this one will be next week so 6 weeks, but I did have RPOC with this one that passed 6 days after the baby so all seems like it's the same.
Is temping easy enough? Wonder if I should temp as well as OPK - how do you manage the constant thoughts about TTC? I worry that temping just makes it carry on all month 🙈

@mummatara bloody hell that is literally an eternity I don’t know how you’ve done it 😢

@MrsC2018 so sorry for you losses, that’s absolutely awful I think you’re so strong💕💕 I tried to ask epu about ovulation after mc and they basically shut me down and told me it was impossible before a period which is obviously not true🙄 I got ewcm too but not as much as normal so I don’t know whether I ovulated or not but it was reassuring to know my body was trying to get back to normal!