TWW starting 31.07.22 - Company Needed

[TheCakeIsALie18]

Hey all!

I'm on several other threads that I'm keeping up with but some of them are a tad long now, so I thought I'd start a new one for people to join.

Ovulation day for me today (30.07.22) so TWW starts officially tomorrow. AF due on the 12th. I have tests in the house, but my goal this month is to keep my mind busy and avoid symptom spotting! I don't plan on testing if I can help it. Want to avoid the disappointment if I can.

We are TTC #1 and we are in cycle 4 now. I had a chemical mid June when we weren't officially TTC but when it happened we realised now was the time to actively try. We wanted it so badly.

So that's a little about me and I would love some company in a slightly smaller thread.

Much love xoxox

@ttcfirstbaby90 Welcome! We are very similar, I'm also 31 and trying for my first. This is my second cycle trying so have my fingers crossed for you for 3rd cycle lucky!

@SLK1990 It's so exciting isn't it. I would have tried in my early 20s if I had the right bloke but took me until 26 to find the right bloke. Albeit he's not very positive about trying which I find upsetting but he's trying so I tell myself he's just a bit scared about it all.
What day are you on? I lose track of who's on what?
I've been quiet strong willed with not testing until I'm due af. I was like the hulk on Tuesday so I knew it was coming yesterday.😂 Feeling a bit more relaxed today. Gonna give smep a go.

@ttcfirstbaby90 Hey! I'm not too far off you and @SLK1990 - I'm 32 and also trying for our first. I'd say I'd been ready for a while but, as is often the case with us, I was waiting a while for DH to catch up and let me know he was ready.

@JoanHants one of my friend (quietly) went down the IVF route. But I think they started quickly once things weren't happening (and had the money to). But it sounds like you're taking a very steady one step at a time approach which sounds very healthy when there are a lot of hoops to go through.

Hello! My app shows I am 5dpo. However, i am wondering when O actually happens for gradual onset LH surge. does it always happen a day after peak? was not able to find much info on this specifically. If so this would mean i could be 6dpo and not 5dpo.

Overall I am doing Ok-ish. have been obsessing a little more on some days than others. So far i have noticed cramps in what i think is my ovary area alternatively on either side but more so on one side. looking this up online did nothing to reassure me. I also feel 'heavy' in my lower belly like i am bloated but I am not. Don't know how else to describe it. i also had one night of insomnia but that happens to me from time to time..not so early though usually a day or 2 before AF or after they start. I had injured my back the day after O which is complicating things a bit. I don't if what i am feeling is a cramp in my uterus or just muscle spasm of some sort..so I have given up. I am still temping but I feel i might go crazy if i keep tracking things. so i might give things a break for the next week or so and tey not to test before 12dpo. What do you guys do about exercise in the tww? i was scared to go to the gym. Not so concerned about movement but overheating which i hear is also bad.

@eleveneleven11 yeah man! its so hard! its my very first cycle and i feel like i am loosing it already..my cycles been somewhat irregular most of my teens and 20s ranging from 31-45days with occasionally skipping a few cycles. over the years i realized this was due to gaining weight and not eating properly. Since I turned 31 and after having a health scare but also becoming generally more responsible with food lol i am more regular with 32 day cycle on average maybe missing or delaying 1-2 periods a year. supplements have also helped a lot i feel.

@Hannargh Awh that's ace. It does seem like a good age to be fair. Same happened with me and my partner. I told him on the first date I wanted kids. So I've waited patiently with some slight nagging here or there haha. We agreed last year we would try from June this year. We wanted to try avoid a Christmas or a summer baby and I argued we should at least start in February. 😂 but he didn't listen and here we are on track for a potential peak summer baby not stopping now though. I just like him pick a day and he randomly said should we do it and I was like "ahh go on then" 😂

I would like to know the answer to this too. I find it all so confusing hah.

@pugsB I'm also not sure - I walk a lot anyway but feel like I'm much more likely to go running or cycling in the tww because I need to keep busy (or feel like I'm doing something positive for anything that could be coming). I guess the standard message is do whatever is normal for you/what your body would be used to?

@Nypie @SLK1990 fingers crossed for your testing!
@Hannargh good that you have distractions till next week! i am at 5dpo and i think i am going crazy. And here i was thinking i am so chill right after O!
@JoanHants sorry to hear about your long wait so far! Hoping this is your month 🤞🏼🤞🏼
@ttcfirstbaby90 i hear you! i wish i knew how totally up to chance it could be. only had a vague idea that as you age its harder to get pregnant. i wish there was a scenario in our mid 20s or heck even in late college in which we are educated on how its really going to be so we can plan our next decade accordingly!

@Hannargh makes sense. my injured back meant i was just not doing much past 4 days and maybe that has contributed to me over-analysing few times. I am thinking of changing up my everyday route so i can walk more and maybe buying new gymwear that keeps me cooler. Oo this could be fun potentially!

@Hannargh @eleveneleven11 @SLK1990 @pugsB hey loveliess, nothing on the test absolutely zilch. Ahhh it sucks. I have to remind myself of how good my life is was feeling teary about it last night. Gonna have a girls night tomorrow going to get fully dolled and have the cocktails. 🤞🤞🤞🤞 for everyone else I'm sure there will be atleast 3 with bfps

@JoanHants👋👋👋 how do you stay relaxed?? Sorry to hear your journey hasnt been straightforward hoping this month is yours!

Hey @ttcfirstbaby90 glad you are out of lurk mode! Hope af fudged of for you soon!

@ttcfirstbaby90 this was also the first thread I felt ready to jump in on. I've still got about 6 tabs open on my phone that I check up on. I put my potential ttc obsession into keeping an eye on other peoples' lives (ssh don't tell anyone).

@Nypie ahh that's really frustrating, especially when you start checking early. I hope you have a brilliant weekend, with plenty of cocktails and good company to take your mind off things. Lots of good things to look forward to. And you could still get your bfp this month!

Good morning everyone!

Its Friday! Yay!

@Nypie sorry to hear about your disappointment, but remember, things will happen at the right time! You will get your bfp! Enjoy your weekend with your friends and try not to think about it too much.

I was reading through the last posts and its so comforting to see that Im not the only 30+ ttc here! Im 32 and its nice to see other girls in the same age group, I must often remind myself that I am not old 😣 it must be the long years of ttc and most of my friends already having 1 or 2 babies that is making me think like this!!

Anyway, its day 5po for me and I have slight dip in my bt this morning after constant rise in the last 3-4 days. Apart from that I don`t have other symptoms, by now my boobs normally get heavy and sore but still nothing this month. Anyone else experiencing symptoms?

Positive affirmations and baby dust to everyone! 😊

@JoanHants I agree it's nice to see we're all in our 30s. It's strange that a lot of girls I went to school all have children now. Except my group of friends there must have been at least 8 of us and not one of us has had a child yet. Also I dunno what's going on but I can only see people welcoming you to the thread and not your first message.

@Nypie so sorry, there's still time though isn't there? Keeping my fingers crossed.

Good morning everyone else. CD3 I have a banging headache this morning my opks arrived yesterday I'm sort of looking forward to testing but a bit of a wait yet so need to keep busy and we're going on a camping holiday for 2 weeks when I should have my peak so that's annoying. Determined to test every morning though. OH asked if I was testing yesterday I was like don't be daft that's not how it works. AF is still here. 😂 I got in to binge watching one born every minute and he's asked some funny questions already that make me dread him being my birthing partner.

happy friday everyone!

@JoanHants lovely to have you with us! sending you lots of good vibes, sorry to hear it's not been easy for you :( sounds like you're handling it like a total trooper though. you majorly deserve your BFP!!! x

@Hannargh thanks for the info on B6! tempted to add it to my cocktail of supplements.. anything to feel like i have some control over this TTC malarky! x

@ttcfirstbaby90 hello! thanks for joining us. totally share your frustration over having unrealistic expectations about getting pregnant. at school they teach you if you have sex once without protection then you'll be pregnant haha. when we started trying in june i was aware from friends about the reality and the statistics but i was still convinced id be pregnant within 3 months. DH was convinced it would happen immediately lol. x

@pugsB how are you feeling today? I've had the 3rd night in a row where I've woken up in the night and struggled to get back to sleep. also been getting up to pee. i sleep through the night 90% of the time so a bit unusual for me but i did drink a lot of water before bed last night sooooo not that strange lol. I've also had some pain in my left side and again, google just stressed me out when i looked into it. exercise-wise, i do spin classes 2-3 times a week and I've been continuing those as usual. i didn't know that overheating was meant to be bad! i'll keep that in mind. alsoooo what supplements do you take out of interest? x

@Nypie ahhhh man sorry to hear about your BFN :( when is AF due again?? you're not out until she arrives! great plan on getting out and enjoying yourself tonight - a silver lining for sure. hope you're feeling ok. remember that it's ok to feel crappy about it and be disappointed!

@Nypie sorry to hear about your BFN! Girls night sounds good, enjoy your cocktails while you can!

BFN for me this morning 😕but sort of expected as I'm only 10dpo so trying to stay positive!

@ttcfirstbaby90
Took me until 26 too 😂we just got married in June so agreed to start once we had been on honeymoon and enjoyed a last holiday! I feel like men are sometimes a bit slower to get excited about it all until they see the actual positive test. I'm on 10dpo today and tested this morning with a bfn as expected! I'm thinking of trying smep next cycle too, haven't told my husband this yet 😂

@SLK1990 I really hope you still get a bfp, but I do think it's interesting to see if smep works or whether it's just a coincidence but I suppose you'd never know. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I'm not telling OH we're doing smep. He'll just dtd when I say haha. He hates talking about it all, hence me joining in. I don't have any friends as I'm a bit of a hermit 😂. At least any close friends. Last cycle I told him we have to dtd every other day not every day and he was so disappointed and said it makes no sense. Tried explaining it but he wasn't getting it.

@Hannargh @JoanHants @ttcfirstbaby90 @eleveneleven11 @SLK1990 thank you so much for the support! Love this little group. I got dolled out I went out I drank everything...great night. In need of a little hand hold today, yesterday was having some minor cramps and heartburn which is quite strange for me so bought some clear blues...why did I not get FRERS!? I don't want to get my hopes up by I see something within the time frame with colour in person I think I may have implanted late 11 to 12dpo possibly, I'm 13 to 14 dpo now. I know all I can do is wait now and even if something is there I'm not very hopeful it will last but need to share

Hi all! its seems mumsnet posts din't show up on time for me and often out of order wrt the time they are posted. 🤔🤔

@Nypie I think i see a vvfl in the 2nd picture on the clear blue test! hope you are able to take a frer soon 🤞🏼🤞🏼. i know its going to be hard but try to stay strong till then. like an idiot i took a cheapie test 6dpo and of course all my hopes went crashing as it was a blank as it should have been. How long is your LP? At your dpo there is a decent percentage of women that have a weak pregnancy test so there is hope yet!

@eleveneleven11 I read the overheating thing once and it just stuck with me coz i tend to actually overheat a lot (lol..the tiniest amount of activity will make me sweat). it may not be a major thing and just me being paranoid. And oh i take a few supplements actually, they are supposed to be particularly good for pcos: i have a vit D deficiency so i take that and vit b complex, fish oil, Coq10, as well as cal+mag+zinc about a 3rd of the dose. i also intermittently take berberine, turmeric, ovasitol ( only started last month) garlic and vit C. I take a few days off each week from all, give or take. i had started vitex sometime back but that triggered chest pain or maybe it was a co-incidence. i am just scared to restart it now..

Didn't realize many of us are in our 30s --@ttcfirstbaby90 @SLK1990 @Hannargh @JoanHants (others?). From some profile names i could have guessed but didn't know there were so many others. i am 34 (and 5 months) and this is my first month ttc! I might be the odd one out, i suppose as my DH was ready before me! he is a few years older so i tease him that is priorities are different. honestly i always thought i would have kids by 30 and when we married i was 27 but as the time came i wasn't in the right frame of mind and had just changed careers so didn't feel stable enough. I am still not 100% were i wanted to be before having children but decided to just go for it.

@pugsB thank you babe, its so hard my emotions are all over the place but I'm feeling a bit calmer about it. I've now seen equal amout of positive and negative stories from people on the web with simmilar situations so waiting game now! My lp is 15 days Af due on Monday. I'm also in the 30s club!

Sorry you got a BFN, super super early though all to play for ;)

Sorry @SLK1990 it sucks but still time!

Fingers crossed for all you ladies. This is how the test looked to me after a few mins. Now it is a very clear blue line, but the brand is famous for that when left too long! Gonna try and attempt relaxing!

@pugsB Yeah I think there's never the perfect time that we all hope for and there just comes a point where you just think ah what the hell let's see what happens. My OH is 18 months younger than me and to be honest I think I'm more excited to see him as a dad than me as a mum because I know he'll be a great dad if it happens for us that is. 🤞🏻I know what you mean about having kids by 30 though. I definitely thought I'd have my life completely together at my age, but life really isn't that straight forward. 😂

@Nypie I feel like I can certainly see a faint line. Just relax and maybe try another on Monday. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Thanks 🥰@ttcfirstbaby90 hoping its not a cruel joke going to try and get an early night! My dp is 2 years younger he's gonna be so great he could play for hours and he's such a constant. They'll be very lucky!

I thought I'd be married with 4 kids living in a mansion with an amazing job at 30 I literally dont have any of those things 😂😂. We'll get our bubbas no doubt.

@Nypie I can see it in your first post! First pic of the CB test I can see the line! Fingers crossed it'll be even clearer next time you test! And that chart is looking pretty nice too... so glad you had a fun evening out. Hopefully your last reason to drink for 9 months?? Is AF due on 2 days for you? Xx